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Your goal shouldn't be to cheer her up. She is most likely grieving a life that she thought she had and feeling like it's very unfair that it was taken from her. Your goal should be to be there with her in it. I highly (and frequently ) recommend the book, "There is no good card for this" for specific information on how to show loved ones compassion in the face of grief and loss.

I highly recommend this book (for you OP and other friends of your friend): "There is no good card for this"

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062469991/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_Y7YKCb82AFVCW

I learned from personal experience that life does not prepare us well on how to react in situations where someone we care for goes through something horrible. This book is written by very compassionate and empathetic authors and almost exactly adresses your question. There are so many wrong things to say and this book will help avoid that.

In such a situation I would even consider getting multiple copies and handing them out to the people closest to your friend. I cannot recommend it enough.

i can recommend a great book to you, which i never do because book recommendations usually land no where. but truly, please look into this book. it is called "there is no good card for this: what to say and do when life is scary, awful and unfair to the people you love" and it is less than 300 pages, adorable on a coffee table when you're done with it, plus it is illustrated brilliantly and usefully.

Everyone else has made great suggestions, so I just wanted to add I read a book that is perfect for these situations called There is No Good Card for This. It talks about how to be a good friend to loved ones who are grieving incredible losses, like your friend. It starts with a break down of how to say the right thing and what is supportive vs not supportive, and then has a whole section on concrete, actionable items that you can do to help your friend through this. Good luck with your friend

Tell her that you are always available to listen to her and offer to help in any way feasible. People grieve in their own way and different paces.

Listening and letting them tell you about their situation and needs is best.

This book outlines some ideas on how to deal with these sorts of awkward life situations.

https://www.amazon.com/There-No-Good-Card-This/dp/0062469991

 

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Ooo, this book helped me navigate through this.

Here ya go. I think this might be the "card" for you