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Fellow teetotaler here. I too get annoyed with the "pipe and ale" trying-to-be-Chesterton Catholics, but I think we can still get this analogy. It's fine.
I do think more Catholics and more Americans in general should probably honestly assess whether they're a little too dependent on this substance, though.
Me, too! Please feel free to message me anytime. You will find it hard to believe in yourself because the shame will want to set in. Give yourself empathy by telling yourself that it makes perfect sense that you got sucked into this progressive thing and didn't notice its progress! That's its sneaky power!
Also, you might get yourself a couple of books or audio books that are recommend all the time.This Naked Mind, which I haven't read yet (there's also a podcast) , and Alcohol Explained, which I have, and it's by far the least judgmental, most fact-based, most educational thing I've ever read about alcohol--and the added benefit is that you will realize you aren't the only one suffering this way, and IT MAKES PERFECT SENSE and you don't deserve to feel shame--plus self-shaming is the quickest way to fall off the wagon.
You'll suffer some, but don't make it worse by in any way telling yourself you deserve it. You really do got this. :)
Parts of the book really go in to how society views drinking, normalizes certain behaviors, etc. Highly recommended.
Amazon link to the book, as well.
I'm in the same boat, also 31 and on day 11. Welcome and good luck.
This book was super helpful to me - https://www.amazon.com/This-Naked-Mind-Rediscover-Happiness/dp/0996715002/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1471480429&sr=8-1&keywords=naked+mind+alcohol
Someone on this sub recommended it.
The book, "This Naked Mind", and SD literally saved my life without having to go to any meetings. Sure, I'm only 23 days into my sobriety, but it's the longest I've gone for 10 years. We can do this together.
I'm also reading, This Naked Mind . It's on Amazon Prime Unlimited Kindle. I scanned the book a couple of months ago and now I'm going back to re-read it from start to finish and see if I can glean more. I was just reading about the subconscious yesterday.
Don't beat yourself up. The fact that you say you want to be a non drinker means you're definitely in the right mindset. I think it's a known fact it can sometimes take a few attempts for folks to get going on their journey. Have you tried reading any books on the subject? I highly recommend This Naked Mind and The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober. Good luck.
Hey man, I'm almost a year here without a drink. It's definitely better to be thinking about this stuff than not thinking about this stuff.
>I may be heading down the same path.
I don't know you at all, but if I could go back in time to when I was having those exact same thoughts, I'd make myself read a book called This Naked Mind. You can buy it on Amazon or get the PDF for free. Good luck to you man.
And I love this sketch. I used to watch it all the time my first few weeks in, this and Craig Ferguson. Great stuff.
Pretty fucking chipper actually! I've been off the beer for a few weeks now and feel like I'm un-burying my head from the sand.
If you're thinking of cutting back or whatever, I highly recommend reading this book:
This Naked Mind (amazon)
Or here (Google play store)
Our society revolves around drinking (just look at the rest of this thread), and this book has really helped me take a step back and get a good overview of it all. Even if you don't drink, it's still an interesting read.
This Naked Mind on audible.ca or audible.com - you can get a free trial and get the book for free if you like. That's how I did it was via audible anyways. here's by text: GoodReads|Amazon
Early on the physical symptoms are just killer. I had sleep disruptions for a long time too. It's really worth it in the long haul
This book is a game changer
I'm also finding Annie Grace's book 'A Naked Mind' to be extremely insightful.
Goodreads / Amazon / Free
It did get 5 stars too! I'm just now reading people's comments.
I dumped the alcohol in my house and told my girlfriend about my plan (we've been together for years, we may as well be married). I've gone to my doctor and have a follow up appointment in about a month. I will tell my close friends that I no longer drink. I'm currently reading "This Naked Mind" (https://www.amazon.com/This-Naked-Mind-Rediscover-Happiness/dp/0996715002/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1469891518&sr=8-1&keywords=this+naked+mind), which seems good so far.
I'll hang out here and on IRC regularly and will explore options for counseling and meditation. I think it's important not to do too much too fast. I still smoke cigarettes; that's an addiction I'll deal with later. I'm not going to join a gym or try to run a half marathon anytime soon.
I know the first few days and weeks will be hard. I'm prepared for that, but I'm not fighting against anything. I've made my decision, so there's no point in thinking about alcohol, or whether I can moderate or whether one drink will make me feel better. It's pointless. Maybe I could moderate and maybe I couldn't. I'm not going to try. I don't drink anymore.
In the very short term I will avoid places where alcohol is readily available but I'm not going to live my life in fear. Once I have more experience as a non-drinker, I will have strengthened my ability to be comfortable around alcohol without being concerned about drinking it. I will probably be less interested in going to bars, but there are plenty of other great things I can do with my time now, and if I do go out with friends after a few months of not drinking, no one is going to hold a gun to my head.
But, there's no point in thinking too far into the future right now. The most important thing is that I don't drink anymore, that I'm not ashamed to tell people that, and that I don't feel remorse or guilt. I've made a decision; now, it's time to get on with the business of living my life. Sobriety is not a goal for me now. It's a reality.
This Naked Mind: Control Alcohol: Find Freedom, Rediscover Happiness & Change Your Life (Volume 1) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0996715002/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_twyvxbMM5MXNT
Welcome back here's what I'm using.
This Naked Mind: Control Alcohol: Find Freedom, Rediscover Happiness & Change Your Life (Volume 1) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0996715002/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_VGxvxbF1BKSA1
The go to solution for those that don't mesh well with the AA approach.
This Naked Mind: Control Alcohol: Find Freedom, Rediscover Happiness & Change Your Life (Volume 1) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0996715002/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_HOzsxb3ABYBB4
When you are hanging out your arse tomorrow, have a read of this book OP - https://www.amazon.co.uk/This-Naked-Mind-Discover-Happiness/dp/0996715002