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A couple months ago, I was at a jewelry for personal matters, when the jeweler told me that they offer a simple men's ring for signing up to a rewards program. There were no downsides to signing up so I did, and I got that ring for free. I have no idea what it is made of; it's a featureless grey band, like this $10 ring on Amazon, except mine is shiny and reflective.
I brought the ring home, gave it to my husband like "Hey, look what I got :D" without mentioning how I got it or the fact it was free. Hubby was over the moon and has been wearing the ring constantly ever since (he's not a jewelry person, his only other accessory is his wedding ring).
At first, I genuinely didn't realize he believes the ring to be an expensive precious ring I bought as a surprise gift for him, but I figured it out over time. Just last weekend, he was talking with his sister, showing off the ring and telling her how thoughtful and generous I was for buying it - and the sister said she guessed it was white gold. I felt deep shame at that moment, especially as I evaded the conversation when the two of them turned to me to ask me to confirm it's a white gold ring.
I didn't think anything of it at first, like handing a McDonald's toy that I don't want to my husband, only for him to act like it's a wonderful treasure I got him. Now I feel that "coming clean" would be really shameful and it's way too late for that, so I find myself trying to avoid the topic and hope he doesn't realize what's up. Does that make me an asshole? What should I do?
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