Ah, okay! Glad to hear your counselor knows. In that case, since you are working through that process and seeking more, I really can only recommend books. If any of this contradicts what your counselor is saying, I would discard everything that I am telling you and go with what he or she says.
I would suggest you read this book - it's on sale for $2 right now and has helped individuals working through this process.
https://www.amazon.com/Unfaithful-Hope-Healing-After-Infidelity-ebook/dp/B007FQOEU4/
I'm sorry, I have no personal experience or personal wisdom to share. I can only say that I feel your pain and I can't imagine how hard this is. This is the best that I can personally do but I do believe it will contribute to your healing.