Here you go: Unmasking Autism. The first few chapters of this book run through a lot of peer-reviewed research. Highly suggest, and much more helpful than trying to learn as much from a reddit thread.
This is very common amongst autistic people. I recommend reading this book which will explain more: https://www.amazon.com/Unmasking-Autism-Discovering-Faces-Neurodiversity/dp/0593235231
This book has been insightful for me as a male also diagnosed in middle age: https://www.amazon.com/Unmasking-Autism-Discovering-Faces-Neurodiversity/dp/0593235231?ref_=d6k_applink_bb_dls&dplnkId=bab36389-9c3a-40e9-b585-51af8b787ee7
His name is Ivar Lovass.
I ran across this interview with Devon Price, writer of Unmasking Autism.
In it he says
>The entire psychiatric paradigm for identifying Autism is to view it as a pervasive defect. ABA therapy was founded by Ivar Lovaas, the same person who created anti-gay conversion therapy, and both therapies were designed with the same goal in mind: to help kids who were different appear more “normal.” [That] is still the predominant approach today, the only one health insurance will pay for in the United States. So to argue in favor of unmasking is quite radical, even though it’s really just advocating that people be allowed to be themselves.