According to the many people I have talked to who live and work in the Middle East it’s more along the line of “these things are good and are keeping us holy. If we had peace and stability it would lead to disobedience against Allah so we don’t want that.” Your response that everyone wants the same thing makes a big assumption. The truth is that people don’t approach life the same way across the globe and we can’t just expect that exposure to a different way will open their eyes or something. We can see this in Muslims moving into western countries where the women have rights and life is different and their response is to set up areas where they can live the same way they did in the countries they left and advocate for policies like the ones they escaped from. And the women are just as big advocates for this as the men. If you want a small insight you can read Wholly Different.
Wholly Different: Why I Chose Biblical Values Over Islamic Values https://www.amazon.com/dp/1621575780/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_1NPX6DKVFR95R15D5VW9