This has nothing to do with talks or doctrine or anything like that
Your wife is just not listening to what you are telling her on how you feel
I’d suggest you two read or listen to
https://www.amazon.com/Why-Marriages-Succeed-Fail-Yours-ebook/dp/B008TRUAJ2/ref=nodl_
Learn to communicate.
https://www.amazon.com/Why-Marriages-Succeed-Fail-Yours-ebook/dp/B008TRUAJ2/ref=nodl_