I saw your OP and you are getting some honest and useful feedback here.
I just wanted to recommend that you read Why Men Love Bitches this will definitely help you in your dating life (especially if you like the guy a little bit too much).
She's not my cup of tea, but people have written entire books on this: https://www.amazon.com/Why-Men-Love-Bitches-Dreamgirl-ebook/dp/B001CN48VQ#:~:text=Sherry%20Argov's%20Why%20Men%20Love,woman%22%20who%20routinely%20sacrifices%20herself.
But women sure don't mind trying to police men over who they're attracted to.