You need to put yourself into situations where you make male friends. They will see the beauty in you once they get to know you. What hobbies or interests do you have? Are there groups where you can do or discuss them? I don't know where you are, but meetup.com might be a decent place to start finding people with common interests.
100% stop giving her money, now.
Here are more tips but you have to decide what is necessary.
Block her number for awhile and give yourself space. She isn't a relationship worth having. She just tears you down. I know "it's family," but sometimes, that isn't enough. She isn't making ANY sort of effort to repair or GIVE into your relationship. She is just taking. (I have no idea why you pay for things for her...)
I would cut it off for 1-6 months and see how it goes.
Let other people deal with her, if she hasn't driven them away, already.
She will never learn anything if people keep helping her, despite the 1-way relationship.
Read up on Boundaries. It's the best lesson I have ever learned regarding relationships.
Advice on Reddit is not a substitute for advice from a lawyer. Canada has the same legal principle of in loco parentis as is found in the US. This means that a school official is expected to take on the role of parent for students at the school, and so a teacher or principal is not the same as a police officer. They do represent the state, but not in the same legal capacity.
I recommend that you read chapter two of this book: Making Sense of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms: A Handbook for Administrators and Teachers. The reality is that this is an area of legal gray area for your principal. Your principal has a duty to protect the female student in question from harassment. You have your rights that must be respected, but it is not as cut-and-dry as other responders are making it seem.
The key quote is on the bottom of page 9. Basically, if your principal has a good reason to suspect that you have engaged in "illegal and inappropriate activities" related to school, especially if another student has been harmed or put in danger, she can search the phone (and may even have a legal obligation to do so). If you feel the search was not legal, you can seek legal recourse under Section 8 of the Charter.
Have you tried one or more of these? They look like a giant wasp nest and they work for some people. Best of luck.
Wasp deterrent - fake nest
Buy yourself a white noise machine. I bought one when I was living in Brooklyn. I was sick of being woken up by car alarms and random yelling. Blankets the whole room in a soothing "hum".
I really don't understand why people are playing this down. By all indications it seems like this woman gave children sleeping pills because she didn't want to deal with a common slumber party.
I understand that a first step should be taken and that there's a small chance that nothing happened. But it also seems that if someone is capable of giving children sleeping pills for their own convenience, they are also capable of squirming out of a polite conversation about it.
I would frankly think real hard about reporting it to the police first, and just let them know that you're going to talk to her. I would also be thinking about the larger implications. If this woman did this it's unlikely that this is the only occurrence. If it comes to that it may be necessary to let the news know so people know not to trust her with children and that she may have done this to other children in the past.
I mean even if it's a melatonin gummy...
... it's still inappropriate to give someone else's child sleeping medication of any form.
Double standards suck. I don’t agree with this, but honestly I don’t think it’s a battle you will win. In addition to asking them to all wear pants then, here is my helpful advice:
Based on your other comments, let’s try to find you an affordable and comfy bra. I’m a D cup and just had a baby so it took me forever but I found these that I LOVE and suggest you try them out. Or you can buy some camis with built in bras?
Warner's Women's Easy Does It No Bulge Wire-Free Bra https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N5O3R7O/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_4931H9SARKYE0B6E8TBC?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
For one, use an actual subscription-based service; free VPNs all sell your data. Make sure that they let you use OpenVPN is the main thing.
If they require that you install their own software to set it up, that's a red flag. That being said, some of the first-party applications that VPN services use are worthwhile; especially for mobile users.
I use Private Internet Access personally.
If you want to dig into every aspect of it, check out this site which compares a whole lot of VPN services.
There is a child's book that talks about it called "sam's birthmark" that was created for this purpose. https://www.amazon.com/Sams-Birthmark-Martha-Griffin/dp/0692019200
Another book with a facial birthmark that is NOT specifically about the birthmark. https://www.amazon.com/Dinosaur-Farm-Birthmark-Story-about/dp/1722919841/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_t_1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=ZHGT7CER6KX4E7W1101H
If OP has an iPhone, then by default the device's hard drive is encrypted. If they also have a lock, then that lock is also used to derive additional information to further encrypt files on their device.
Page 9 of iOS security docs
Harem Pants and Kurta Pyjama(Indian Clothing-See link) are your best choices. A friend of mine has it and she is taking some physiotherapy so she wears these a lot.
Cotton Kurta Pyajama
Get a white noise machine. They're around $30.
Put it right up against the wall. Then move as far away as reasonable to have your therapy. They may hear you, but unless you're quite loud the white noise will make it practically impossible to make out what you're saying.
While I don't exactly fit your specifications as a source of advice, I have moved between climate zones before and I would say that you might do well to leave Florida. Before you make that decision, do two things --
Hope this is useful.
Well, first off, don't commit suicide. This sounds corny, but just believe in yourself and try new things! Firstly, don't be ashamed to look for some low-effort job, like working at a fast-food chain like McDonald, and search for skills! There's definitely something you're good at. From your overly harsh description of yourself, I'd suggest you try out coding. There's some good tutorial sites out there (try Sololearn), and work on that during your free time when you're not at your job that I know you can hold down if you really try. Remember that there's more in you than you can think, and you can always turn things around!
P.S. Call your parents. They'll help, no matter how much you might think they don't like you.
Here are my 5 best ways to beat anxiety and depression.
1.) Get this book. It's a classic self-help book that's scientifically proven to beat depression. It's the #1 self-help book recommended by doctors in the United States. You can get it for free at your local library
2.) Meditate. Download the free "Insight Timer" meditation app or do YouTube ocean sounds while wearing headphones. It rewires your brain after 6 weeks.
3.) Live in the present moment. When your mind wanders on anxious thoughts, bring it back to the present moment. Over and over again.
4.) Pray and practice a religion. This will benefit you greatly. Start going to religious services.
5.) Exercise 5 days a week. Try to exercise for at least 30 minutes at a time. Something where you build up a sweat.
Good luck and keep in touch.
Thanks for the kind words! https://www.amazon.com/Rhansym-Crosses-Rainbow-Bridge-Buckles/dp/1543949495/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1543702191&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=rhansym+crosses+the+rainbow+bridge
Living an average life is a whole lot better than being dead. If you were dead, you wouldn't be able to do any of the things you enjoy. You'd just be dead.
Jesus Christ. Who are you, Winston Smith? Let go of that fatalist attitude. It won't get you anywhere, except more depressed. Regardless of when you die, there's nothing you can do about time passed, so where's the sense in fretting over it? In addition to the advice I posted separately, I recommend reading some literature on changing your mindset. "Feeling Good" by David Burns is a good one. It costs $6 on amazon.
> I have learned one thing I’m not going till it’s actually time for me to go.
You have amazing perspective! I have had enough proof of that in my life to convince me of that. Death is just as much a part of life as birth. I was fortunate enough to serve as a friend's death doula and her death from terminal cancer went very much like a labor and delivery, but in reverse. It was THE most beautiful experience of my life, which is why I am now choosing to serve as a death doula for others.
I hope you both won't mind if I suggest the Pulitzer prize winning book by Ernest Becker called Denial of Death:
"Winner of the Pulitzer prize in 1974 and the culmination of a life's work, The Denial of Death is Ernest Becker's brilliant and impassioned answer to the "why" of human existence. In bold contrast to the predominant Freudian school of thought, Becker tackles the problem of the vital lie -- man's refusal to acknowledge his own mortality. In doing so, he sheds new light on the nature of humanity and issues a call to life and its living that still resonates more than twenty years after its writing."
Wishing you both godspeed when your time comes!
In support of this comment, let me say this:
You adopted this animal. You agreed to take care of it and protect it and give it a good home. YOU took on that responsibility. These fuckers are now threatening this animal that. Even if you are not the person who takes charge normally, you have to pretend to be for this creature that is in your protection.
1) If your door locks...LOCK IT
2) If your door doesn't lock, buy a lock and bolt it on:
If you have money, just get a cheap night vision security cam and point it out your window. Next time it happens, snap a photo and go to the police. Who knows, you might even recognize the person.
Check out the podcast Reply All. They have a recurring feature, "Super Tech Support", where they investigate weird tech issues like the one you described. This is the kind of thing that there's a good chance they'd like to explore and get to the bottom of. You can send them a message here: [email protected]
Well if youre willing to spend ~~$1000.00~~ $250.00 you can order it from China
But I agree with everyone else, this is a stupid idea
Edit: fucked up the math its either 100$ or 250$ depending on the deal you get from the shipper
10000pcs per box * 10 boxes per carton * 10 cartons(to get 1m) * either 10$ or 25$ each
I am so sorry that they've treated you this way.
I think you would need an arbitrator, a middle person to be there to guide the discussion. I would talk to your school guidance counselor/teachers/principles and see if they can help this process or recommend a family therapist here. I would consider child protective services as well, they have a goal of giving families more resources so they can stay together, they know how important someone's culture is and should be able to lead your parents out of ignorance. Their goal is reunification if they do find your parents unfit, they will do their best to help prepare them to be better parents.
Your parents are in the wrong here, and rather than you seeking their acceptance I would shift that mindset to wonder how you are going to accept them (Because what they are doing is shameful, and I'd be ashamed to have them as parents)
They can change. They need to do the work to change and apologize for the damage they have done.
You can learn spanish online https://www.duolingo.com/ :) I hope you find ways to see movies that represent you, and hangout with not just white people! yikes!
Don't choose a free one - they probably make money from selling your browsing habits.
Look at their country of operation and see if they are not in some 14 eyes country.
Make sure there aren't any incidents with logs.
There could be more considerations like price or years active but I think this is a good starting point. I went with NordVPN and I gotta say they seem quite good, works well for my needs.
Sync is great. Try it. It's pretty great. It's the only Reddit app I've ever used, and it's the only app I've ever felt the need to use. Give it a shot.
I'm very sorry for your loss. Knowing that this could happen when she moved away (which I'm sure must have occurred to both of you) doesn't make it any easier to deal with the fact that it did happen.
If she's just headed off to school and you'd been going out for three years, this started when she was about 15? It's no one's fault. Sometimes being apart makes the heart grow fonder, and sometimes being apart means "out of sight, out of mind". She may have just come to realize that she was going days without thinking about you, and her classes and other demands on her attention are all she is able to deal with.
Maintaining a successful long distance relationship takes a lot of commitment and effort.
Her breaking up with you now, rather than in person over the holidays actually was doing you a favor. This gives you a chance to process this without her being around.
It is what it is. Don't beg her to come back. If you still love her, wish her the best and tell her you believe in her and are sure she'll do well.
Personally, I would recommend you unfriend her on social media. As she moves on with her life, you don't want to see pictures of her out with other people.
This wikihow article offers three perspectives on getting over a first love.
When the people of the very country you're trying to imitate are laughing at you; that kind of answers your question, right?
I'm Irish and I think this is the most ridiculous thing I've read in a long time. /u/pythagorasJones is 100% correct in everything he said. You'd do well to listen.
You're American first. Embrace that. You guys are in the middle of building a heritage that will be yours for generations to come. You don't need to regress to your quasi-Irish roots and start speaking like us. We don't even understand ourselves half the time!
If you really want to connect with your roots there's a cooler (less racist) way of doing it. Learn Irish. Its a cool but different language like few others in the world. When you visit again and you're walking around the west of Ireland you'll be able to converse and learn from the most Irish of us all.
Duolingo have a free course that's very popular. Start there and you'll see it's the better option.
I use this one and it works really well. I've never had a problem hearing the other party I am talking to.
Tip from me: make a couple of test calls using speakerphone, ear buds with mic, and regular call, and flipping between three to make sure all of those record the other person. I've had a few apps that didn't record with earbuds for example. One app I had did great with mic but not on a regular call (no speakerphone, no earbud with mic' just phone to ear).
Oh that's just so creepy! Thank God you are safe. The Gift Of Fear - Gavin de Becker Please read this amazing book. I think you will gain some peace of mind from it.
A month!? Damn. That's rough. I had to wait a week and it felt like hell. I had to sit through my birthday party pretending to by happy while waiting for those damn results...
And you know what? I'm happy now. I made it. I'm a-okay, 2 years after getting that positive diagnosis.
Right now you need support, which is tough because most people don't speak openly about this stuff in public. But the internet is a damn good start. If you're the tumblr type, there is an amazing community. Hold on tight. Shoot me a message if you need help or a shoulder to cry on, whether that's now or later.
here it is on amazon
Not a hair stylist, but I had the same issues with my hair & scalp for ages. They're all common symptoms of dry scalp and certain shampoo ingredients irritate & dry scalp further.
After discovering r/curlyhair I switched to less harsh hair products and only wash about once per week. The best dry scalp shampoo/conditioner combo I've found so far is this one, I haven't had any itchy scalp since using it and definitely recommend trying it out. I also apply leave-in conditioners after every wash.
Ofc. if nothing else helps, it's best to seek out a dermatologist or trichologist
Any VPN that allows you to select your location you connect to. Note your internet speed will decrease while using a VPN. A few suggestions are:
And any free ones you may come across.
Good luck my friend!
Its very not wrong.
Get yourself some motivational gear while youre at it.
The best revenge is massive success. - Frank Sinatra quotes fridge magnet, White https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01MAXIWW0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_mMkNCbY06V48G
Honestly dude, I think the key is in discipline and habits. There's not really a secret "how" aside from doing it. It's huge that you recognized that you are not in a good place and you're trying to fight it. A lot of people don't get that far. Or rather they hit a dead zone and let it eat them. I think that no zero days post he referenced above is amazing and that advice will help you. I'm not sure if you like reading, but I hit a shitty bump in my life awhile back and I recognized that and found a book called "The Power of Habits." I forget who it is by though, I'll edit it when I find out.
But I agree with everyone else, start with the exercise and the diet. And that doesn't mean to tackle it full on, (but you can if you want) it just means no more zero days. Run half a mile. Can't do that? Walk half a mile. Half a mile is easy? Run a full mile. Once you reach a comfort zone, stay there for a week and then add some distance. What matters most is that you do it (or part of it) and make a habit of it. New and good habits have a tendency to spill over into other areas of your life and trigger other heathy habits.
For example, I didn't do anything this summer except work a shitty part time job, smoke weed, and play video games. I felt stagnant and shitty about myself, so I started by making my bed everyday when I got up. It's insignificant in the big picture but after a couple weeks, i would make it without thinking. Soon after that, I was feeling good that I successfully created a good habit for myself and it gave me the motivation to start running a little 5 days a week. That habit stuck too. I tried more after that, and some didn't stick because I didn't follow through. No zero days is what matters most.
Hope this helps and fire me a PM if you ever wanna talk. This is by no means professional advice but simply what worked for me.
Delete it, its a new scam email going around. They got your password from a password dump. You can check what sites got breached at https://haveibeenpwned.com/. Turn on 2FA for your email accounts and get a password manager where you give every account a unique password no matter how unimportant it is.
Please follow this link to see your options (Obamacare or Cobra)
Phone them and see if they can get it approved fast enough for this lifesaving surgery. Don't be meek and just apply through the normal channels (this could take a month or so). It sounds like your mother needs surgery within a few days, so you need to stress to the insurance people that it is an emergency
Write down on a piece of paper instances where you overreacted.
Write down why it was bad (ie: Loss of time, caused you stress, etc.)
Write down why you reacted that way. Usually it is based on some kind of fear. (fear of being late, fear of being made a fool, etc.)
Then brainstorm and write down in retrospect how you can react better in such situations. This might require doing some search up on the internet about people who were in similar situations and studying how other people reacted.
Writing it down and making it concrete can help you in the long run.
Often times overreaction comes from not being able to think quickly about an alternative route when something unexpected happens. It also comes from a certain amount of perfectionism and not allowing yourself to be sometimes imperfect.
Some other great advice on the matter:
I'm not sure how reliable this is but Stat Counter lets you track traffic on your blogs. I would track your fb, and Tumblr etc. it shows location and time of views if they aren't on a hidden thing ( I am not very tech savvy). This person, if they're stalking you then they're probably looking through those accounts.
Longtime nurse here. If all you're using was the shower nozzle, I doubt you ruptured your eardrum. More likely, your ear canal is completely occluded by wax. If you have someone to help you, there are home otoscopes available at drugstores:
If your helper looks in your unaffect ear first, they will know what they're supposed to see.
Tor is like going through 30 random VPNs in a row.
Because they’re all random and don’t log you can’t be tracked easily as your encrypted traffic bounces back and forth between them.
A VPN along with tor is just undoing all that work because you go through 30 random VPNs and then your VPN account.
Traffic from the VPN and through the VPN can be associated with you so you just slowed down your traffic immensely at no gain.
Also VPN’s are mostly snake oil when it comes to their privacy promises.
NordVPN was recently compromised and there’s no guarantees that you’re getting what you pay for in terms of security, you will get an extra hop so if you just want to watch Netflix out of your region then they’re a good option, but you should be sceptical of any further claims you can’t verify.
Please don’t use TOR for watching Netflix.
It’s all paid for by donated gear/bandwidth and so would be very slow and takes resources away from people who might need it for the reasons it was intended, like allowing people in repressive countries access to information and facilitating illegal activities like drug trade.
(mild sarcasm on the last bit)
You can donate to tor as a middle node or as an exit node, which is quite risky as all the child pornography traffic will be going through your computer.
Interestingly, I have just finished reading about the impact of arousal on our self image in the book, 'Predictably Irrational'. We are essentially 2 people in one, Jeckyl and Hyde. Who we are when we are feeling emotionally neutral and in a non-aroused, rational state, is completely different to when our 'animal' brain takes over. We make choices we didn't think we would because we overestimate our self control. It's happened. The fact that you feel bad shows you are a very decent person who did a dumb thing. My late grandmother, God bless her soul, used to say that a standing cock has no conscience. Crude, but somewhat true. Don't turn this incident into a disaster. You may lose a friend, which is a shame, but you'll get other friends. There's a reason he broke up with this girl with questionable morals and self esteem. Things never go as badly as you think. You did a dumb thing that you would never have ordinarily done. Don't let this define you. Life goes on. Learn from it and move on.
You're socially awkward and hate confrontation and (based on this post) also overthinking it a bit. This suggests that you haven't actually talked to the cleaning lady about your dissatisfaction, right? It'd be preferable to improve the service than to go through the trouble of firing and hiring another person. Her service model might be that unless she's specifically authorized to, she won't move things out of the way. (Other clients might get mad if she does the things you wish she'd do.)
Framing makes a big difference between confrontation and conversation. So you can try something like, "Hey Ms. Cleaner, this is great - could I ask you to mop the bathroom floor too? And do feel free to move things around if they're in your way."
One possibility, btw, is that you're leaving too much clutter around, and you're being unreasonable in expecting the cleaner to move it for her job. That's why there are guidelines for clearing up your place before the cleaners arrive. Everyone has a better experience.
If that isn't your problem and you'd rather not talk to the cleaner directly, you can say to your friend, "Hey Friend, I notice your bathrooms are usually cleaner than mine. Ms. Cleaner doesn't usually mop my bathroom floors or move things to sweep around them. Did you talk to her about this at some point?" and go from there.
If your friend's house is not actually cleaner than yours, and you suspect she's just satisfied with the same shitty service, you can switch cleaners and just tell your friend you went with someone else, if the subject even comes up. The connection you fear -- the implication that your friend's house is dirty -- is unlikely, and if it comes up, feel free to just say "This other person fit my needs/style a little more closely." You don't have to complain about the quality of the service or anything like that.
20 years ago I taught myself code with no internet, no teacher. Just a computer and a library card. Just roll up your sleeves and get stuck in. Be prepared to fail many times before you get good. Never give up!
Any old laptop will do.
Yeah, if you're a supervisor to people who are a decade older than you don't even try to touch that. The age difference means nothing until you add that–I feel quite confident many of these people probably highly resent you for having that position of authority and would not be good friends, and trying to be their friend would mess with the workplace dynamic. Join meetup.com and look for local groups that share an interest you have. Basically adult friends come from shared interests which bring you to the same place. I mean, teenager friends come from everyone being jammed into school together, it's the same kind of principle except you're not all being forced to be there.
I would let your friend have the day to grieve and in a couple days see if he wants to play a game together if you guys both like video games or even watch a movie or show together. You can use https://www.netflixparty.com/ to sync your shows. It sucks and he will probably be grieving for a while. Just be there for him and invite him to do things virtually once in a while. You sound like a good friend.
Your parents sound like idiots. Don't pirate. Seriously. Its way riskier than it used to be, and there are better ways that are legal.
Get Spotify. It's not the same as owning albums, obviously, and if you don't have 10$ a month (and a credit/debit card) then the adds are annoying, but at least the people on it get paid something. You can do that until you get a job of your own and can get the albums you want.
I don’t think this is very abnormal these days. It’s just a product of our media and social media algorithms that promote hate and discourage debate and discourse. So it’s definitely easy to fall into a trap. Maybe ask him to cut down the amount of time he spends on these platforms and limit time reading the news and maybe ask him to spend a bit of time doing positive things he enjoys. Here’s a link about confirmation bias that he could benefit from too.
I've deleted my commend because my head was up my ass. I'm going to rewrite it.
If they're in the same country as you they could arrest the person for threatening people, that's against the law.
So I said you'll get googles oriognal address if you traced their IP. That may not be the case depending on how the send it, may even be spoofed which is a whole other thing.
Log into your gmail account and follow these instructions. This gives you the origonal email data. A lot of that is a foreign language to me and I do this for a living. But some of it might be intelligible. Copy the contents and put it in here which will break it down into a more easy to read format. See what you see there. But you're not going to get their house number or anything. Might just say an actual address it was sent from or a rough location (city/country).
But honestly, you aren't going to be able to do more than the police. If they're from another country the police more than like won't or can't do anything. But what are you going to do, argue with them? Send them threatening emails? They won't care.
Meetup.com assuming you are in a big city, they pretty much all have groups for 20 somethings wanting to socialise. They have forums so if there was a club you were especially interested in you could just share about that and see if anyone else interested. But also there's nothing wrong with going alone I've done it many times in the past, I was always worried people would think I was a loser with no friends but tbh once your there you realise people are too busy having fun etc (plus my friends might just be elsewhere)
And on the safety aspect don't take drinks off strangers - make sure you see the bar tender serve it to you, don't leave a drink unattended and make sure you know how you are getting home at the end of the night
Me too! Here is another one that took me a while, “You can only love someone else, as much as you love yourself. You can only know someone else, as much as you know yourself. Fill your own cup so full with love, self-care, and personal responsibility, that it overflows. Then your cup will always be full and never empty. This is how to best serve others, by first truly taking care of yourself.”
Also, I really like this book!
Hahaha this reminded me of this old thing my mom used to have for our cats. It’s motion activated canned air and it is the funniest thing I have ever seen. You just stick it on your counter facing the part where your cats would jump up and then when they do, it’ll just spray a quick, loud burst of air that sounds like a hiss. Your cats will indubitably flip their shit and get off the counter.
Oh man, thanks for the memories. Here it is on Amazon.
I didn't ask you if you found them creepy. If you do, that's fine.
What I asked you is, since you claim to be able to spot the legal definition of child porn in imagery, would you have correctly known that these do not meet the definition if some of these had shown up in your search results earlier instead of the one that did?
Because let's face it, you wouldn't have. If you'd seen a Sturges image, you would've made this same post about it being legally considered "child porn", and guess what, you would've been wrong.
That's because you don't know the definition, despite all your chest puffing and posturing that you do. Internalize that fact.
And no, it's not considered child porn today either. You think Amazon makes a habit out of selling books of child porn? Courts ruled on his work and declared it legal. And no, it's not from the 60's...his most recent published work is 2014.
I had this exact same issue, and the only good way I found to resolve it was to buy automatic feeders. We have three cats, so I got two of these from Amazon. They're programmable, so the food comes out automatically at whatever time you set it for. It only took a day or two for the cats to realize the feeder was the one giving them their food, not me, and they haven't bothered me for food in the morning since!
Lovely that you’re trying to help them! Look up ‘bee house’ on amazon and there’s loads you can buy. Example:
Wild on Wildlife Esschert Design Wood Bee House - Natural https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B000AMWT34/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_30MUCbEP18GHF
Woodside Wooden Insect & Bee House Natural Wood Bug Hotel Shelter Garden Nest Box https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B01FMGTGKQ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_U1MUCbDZHDKW8
And if it’s cold you could maybe pad the outside with an old blanket or material?
Ofc here you go: https://www.amazon.com/Behave-Biology-Humans-Best-Worst/dp/1594205078
It’s a big fucking book, but so so worth it to understand why we do, think and act the way we do.
There’s a summaryBehave (a summary) I found too if you want to read that first to get a sense of the book
Go to Khan Academy and take some courses in personal finance and taxes. Read "Investing for Dummies" and then "The Intelligent Investor"
As far as bank accounts, open a bank account that doesn't charge you a fee for using it. Don't use Bank of America. USAA is pretty decent for starters. You don't have to be in the military to use their banking and it's no-fee.
You are staying at her family's place because you are homeless.
So you are a guest. I would just hide the switch and don't play with it at all. Find other ways to occupy your time. See if you can teach yourself a new skill to try to make more money.
Have you ever heard of Oblique Strategies. It's a magic 8-ball style game designed give advices for breaking creative blocks.
Here's an online version of it;
What sort of work does the father do? Perhaps you could politely and calmly ask him to be quiet and secretly film him (you don't need any special equipment, start filming on your mobile then put it in your breast pocket so the end with the camera is poking out the top as seen in this technical drawing. Please note all apparatus is required unless otherwise stated) as he rages and threatens you. Then either send it to the police depending on if you think they'd do anything or threaten to send it to his workplace.
If you don't think this will work let me know and give me more info, it'll be good practice for when I take over the world.
I would recommend going to http://www.codecademy.com/
It teaches you a bunch of different programming languages. If you want to learn how to make websites, learn HTML. I would suggest starting with Python. It's a great language because its simple, and yet so powerful.
I get good results despite not having skill by using a "trimmer comb" - tjhey look like this https://www.flipkart.com/professional-trimmer-comb-dual-side-cutting-slim-haircuts-blade-hair-razor-scissor/p/itmev64tffjgaghh
This gives me feathered layers, where scissors would risk cutting sharp lines and make a helmet or a clear cut that makes imperfections stand out. I just "brush" away lock by lock cutting diagonally in different lengths until my hair is short enough for my taste. The locks will all be slightly different lengths but any imperfections will be hidden by the feathery, fluffy look the hair gets.
How did you meet him? If you met him on a forum, trading community, etc. you won't be able to turn to them to get your money but you can still make sure he's flagged as a scammer by contacting the admins. Furthermore, if you feel it's worth your time, you could report him to the USPS. Assuming you sent the cards through them he has committed mail fraud.
If you met him on ebay or basically did an actual sale (not an agreement, but an actual purchase sort of situation through a site) you may have more options available for pursuing the matter. How exactly did this transaction start/take place?
When you say he sent you a screenshot of him paying am I to take that to mean you never got an email (from PayPal, NOT from him) saying you'd received funds, nor did the transaction ever appear in your PayPal transaction history? As in, the money was never actually sent? (As opposed to being sent but somehow refunded.) If the money appeared but was somehow refunded you may want to look into if it's eligible for Seller Protection through PayPal. It's a long shot, most places err on the side of buyers when it comes to online disputes, but you could give it a shot if your transaction was eligible.
But yeah, odds are you're SOL as far as getting your money or cards back. Sounds like you already knew this so I'm not sure why you didn't do so but remember, when dealing with PayPal only ship anything after you have received payment that is visible on your account and for added protection only deal with accounts that are PayPal verified.
Just listen to the music, man. Find a band you like, add their station on Pandora, and you'll get a shit ton of other bands of the same style.
While working is the best time to listen to music as it makes it less boring. You don't HAVE to pay attention to the lyrics of the song, and there doesn't HAVE to be any meaning behind a song. There's a ton of genres that are purley instrumental
As redditors have advised - Blame it on a virus, you noticed pop ups, computer slowing down, started noticing random files and folders being created.
Secondly, I advise installing Veracrypt - It's an encrypted container that has the option of setting up an hidden volume.
For example - If you are forced to open your shipping container, your secrets are exposed (normal Veracrypt volume).
However, you plan for the above, and you create a secret hidden area inside that shipping container that is physically impossible of exposing unless you want it exposed (hidden volume container).
So someone opens your shipping container and finds everyday items, nothing special...But you know there are little secrets hidden inside that oh-so-innocent volume.
Message me if you need more info.
Or come clean and have the adult conversation with your parents...Easier said that done.
Take it to a vet. Most vets will check to see if he's microchipped for free (and tell you the breed).
Do you guys have nextdoor.com ? It's like facebook for neighborhoods, it's how the dogs and kitties get found where I live.
If no one shows up after a while, you either take him to a no kill shelter or keep him!
You can get these neat under the desk "bicycles" like this one.
This could get your heart rate up and burn some energy discreetly.
This is actually concerning.
First, take your car to a mechanic and have them do a sweep to see if there's a tracking device on it or anything out of the ordinary, the police could probably do it too, but sometimes they want a reason. It shouldn't cost anything just for them to check.
Second, change your locks and get locks for your windows asap. It's relatively cheap if you do it yourself and there are tutorials all over YouTube. If you rent, ask your landlord first.
Third, you NEED some kind of alert system. Cat, dog, bird, booby trap, just SOMETHING. Something like this is relatively cheap and loud enough to wake you at night if something opens.
Fourth, get pepperspray and learn how to use it. Theres also some mild self defense techniques on YouTube. Look them up and study them, practice softly on your bf or take out a pillow or two. You don't have to be able to afford martial arts lessons to know how to defend yourself.
Fifth, make friends with your neighbors. They can keep an eye out while you are away, and maybe someone will see the guy maybe they already have! Always have your phone camera handy in case a stranger confronts you like that again. Maybe set up one of the cameras to catch license plates in your driveway from your house somehow.
I have more tips and I will reply with more when I get home from work.
I don't think it is that big of a deal anymore. I wouldn't worry too much. You can always cover it with wrist sleeves. Post a link to one on Amazon.
I recommend you buy some window film. They have this kind that makes your window look blurry so you can't see through it, but you still get some natural light. If I'm not mistaken you can even cut it to fit the triangle shapes of your windows.
Edit: here's a link to some on Amazon. Easy application and can be removed if you find something better in the future.
Bloss Glass Frosted Paper Self-Adhesive Window Film Shower Waterproof Window Covering(17.7" Wide by 78.7" Long) Privacy Windows Sticker Home Decor, 1 Roll https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01DKW1RZG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_jEF2BbBP29PWY
You can get a white noise generator and they won't be able to understand what is being said. It shouldn't interfere with the zoom either. The most effective thing is sound masking but that is much more expensive. There are white/brown noise machines for very reasonable prices on Amazon. From what I've read, it would be best to put the device as close to the people who might be listening as possible. Maybe against the wall? Here's a link to just one of the hundreds of products on Amazon:
Did you set it up correctly? Sounds like smth is not right. Personally I'be been using NordVPN's P2P servers and set up a socks5 proxy over my torrent client too (), you can do smth similar,
There are a few things you need to do if you want to torrent:
- Run VPN's auto-connect on startup.
Never run the torrent client on startup, run it manually later on when the VPN is already connected
Enable a killswitch (kills your Internet if your VPN accidentally disconnects so you're not exposed)
Check whether your IP is not leaking
An actual answer would be Private Internet Access, currently one of the, if not the, top rated VPN providers. They never log, are extremely well known, always side with the user (i.e., a company/government asks for a user's data, they will never give it up, mostly because they don't have it. You can search for a few cases for proof or I'll link some.) They also have hundreds of servers throughout dozens of countries, are extremely up to date with data policy, lots of options of VPN type, works on nearly all devices you can name, and more. I personally use them, and until I hear otherwise, I will stay.
EDIT: they are also the ones who put the giant ad in the papers about fighting for Internet freedom in the US.
Buy and read Feeling Good by Dr. David Burns.
It provides a straightforward and scientifically accepted (Stanford University) self-help method known as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).
As detailed in the introduction, the clinical trials of the efficacy of the book itself vs the book and meds vs meds alone show equal results between the book and meds, but much longer lasting benefits from the book.
Just do it. It's $5. Throw it away if it doesn't work.
You start with things you know you don't know.
When I was like, 16 I couldn't talk to girls and I had no friends, so I literally googled "how to make friends" and I read a self help book called How To Win Friends and Influence People that taught me that skill. When I was 19 I was overwhelmed with the fact that I didn't really know anything about politics, so I just googled "what is communism" and started reading Wikipedia articles over the next few months.
You just start seeking out shit you don't know, and you happen upon happy little things you didn't even know you didn't know, and eventually you aren't a dumbass anymore, and then a few years after that you start becoming a cool interesting person. Listen to music that you literally have never heard of, ask people for music recommendations and Actually Listen To Them, broaden your horizons.
If you want a quick fix? Start listening to podcasts by cool educated people whom you see things in that you want to see in yourself, start piecing together aspects of their personalities and banks of knowledge together that you like, and there. You're not stupid anymore (but you gotta keep going and keep learning).
I would read, "The Millionaire Next Door".
What I found was that most self made millionaires get there by living below their means. They know how to budget, and they don't spend their money on silly things which many consider to be "status symbols".
They also make their money work for them. They invest it as opposed to tying it up on car payments, huge mortgages, and things like this. They also don't let their money sit in the bank collecting close to nothing in interest.
A big thing I took away from the book---> The biggest financial decision you'll make in your life is deciding who you will marry. If you're smart with your money but your significant other spends everything then you will never become a millionaire. Makes sense to me.
Some people with ASD turn out to be very good with computer programming. Since that are not distracted by mundane things like neurotypicals.
Here is a free site for learning computer programming skills.
Change your password for other stuff.
It's likely someone who got your password from a site that was hacked or something and tried it on your gmail. Do a virus scan and be vigilante about spam. You're good otherwise.
scroll down. Basically:
- call 911
- if the person is unconscious do CPR
- if there's a defib device around use it. you don't need training for these, they have voice instructions.
Mostly because it gives a bit of an acronym that's easy to remember, there's always the FORD method.
If you have the time I would look into classes at your local community college. There are also some nice supplemental resources like Duolingo that you may find helpful along your language learning journey.
So the problem is that you’re turning off the alarm before you’re fully awake, you could put the alarm clock across the room so you’d have to wake up to turn it off, that would make it less of an automatic reaction since you’d have to get up and walk.
There are also some good apps that won’t stop the alarm until you solve some kind of puzzle or scan a bar code or something, those are definitely going to work, there are tons of apps like that, check this article for example: https://lifehacker.com/this-evil-alarm-clock-app-is-the-only-reason-i-m-awake-1793682623
If you do decide to go all the way, and if you're not ready to be a dad just yet, make absolutely certain you use protection.
I know it may sound stupid, but make sure you are losing your virginity to someone that you won't regret later. You'll always remember the details of that moment, and you don't want to look back and have any regrets. I know being 17 and a virgin is incredibly frustrating, but just don't do anything out of desperation.
I have a 14 & 13yo myself, so giving details of what you should physically do past making out, just feels weird and wrong. So I'll just give you a couple links you might find helpful.
Good luck. 😁
Learn to speak anothing language with Duolingo or learn to write computer programs with a number of online tutorials. Pick up 3D printing and 3D drafting, you can get started for about $150. if you have a lot more money look at paramotoring.
The point has been made that a company web site can get hacked and the hackers can get any email address and password you used on the site. These are typically sold on the darknet, and may not surface for a long time after the hack.
Here's how to tell if your information has been comprised by a hack. Go to the Have I been pwned web site and enter your email. They will let you know when your email address and password has been comprised on any site.
There are similar sites discussed and linked by Forbes, a reliable source. Find out if your information is out there from past or future hacks.
Also, use the free Lastpass password manager to store your passwords and generate different and secure ones for the sites where you register.
All I have for you is a recommendation for a book. If you have an Amazon account, you can get your first 2 eBooks free when you sign up for Audible. Download Mothers Who Can't Love by Susan Forward. I've been listening to it while I drive/walk/clean for the last few days, and it's given me a lot of perspective on dealing with my mother, who sounds A LOT like yours. Good luck!
You could ask in /r/autodetailing. I would try a magic eraser to break down the grime. Then undiluted simple green to remove the broken down grime. Finally either white vinegar or invisible glass to get rid of the streaks.
Many colleges have health centers that provide low cost or no cost services. Check with them on what options are available. Some local county clinics also provide a similar benefits. Use https://www.healthcare.gov/ in November to apply for healthcare for 2016. If you need healthcare before January 1st then you should be covered under COBRA. If you only work part time and your father doesn't put you on your taxes then you should be eligible for subsidies towards the plan of your choice. For the lower end plans this would make it "free" for you.
When on employee sponsored health care you can get cheaper coverage for additional people like children. Since he's no longer employed it may not be affordable for him to pay for your healthcare. If he's actually a farmer then his pay might be more seasonal. Also, farmers don't really get paid much in general.
You could go to someone who specializes in digestive disorders, possibly a naturopath also with knowledge of nutrition and alternative testing. As a different poster suggested you might have IBS, and if you notice things worsen with certain foods I'd definitely suggest allergy and sensitivity testing. Please don't let others push you around on this, but listen where things sound reasonable and consider them accordingly (the anxiety thing - anxiety can trigger existing digestive disorders, I happen to have both but digestive disorder is not caused by the anxiety). Here's some suggestions for the suspicion you have (testing-wise, I wouldn't recommend taking dietary advice without more tests and knowledge of the situation, I say this as someone with a pretty specific diet to my own situation): https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/gastroparesis/diagnosis-treatment/drc-2035579 (I'm not sure why the link isn't working, you might have to go through the main page to 'diagnosis & treatment' https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/gastroparesis/symptoms-causes/syc-20355787 / otherwise Google it with MayoClinic). I really hope you feel better, I struggle with a digestive disorder I'm working on and I 100% understand. I'm so sorry and I really hope you feel better, do your best. Make sure you keep eating.
Have you been offered a stool softener and anything for the acid reflux? They might help make things more bearable. There are other options as well, such as over the counter heartburn/acid reflux medications (personally don't work well at all for me) or laxatives considered gentle, but for me, wow they are not. I don't remember fully since it's been a while since I got medication for my reflux, but I think most you can only take for a certain amount of time before you should take a break to avoid complications. Priobotics as the other poster suggested are options (really don't work for me, can't have) or digestive enzymes (also not for me :s).
Honestly? You can’t change your sexual or romantic orientation. They can change but you cannot change them.
If you could change your sexual or romantic orientation then at least half of all aces and aros would be allosexual or alloromantic (not asexual/aromantic).
You can choose to be abstinent and relationship free but you cannot choose to be asexual and aromantic.
(I know you didn’t mean it that way but frankly it’s insulting and exhausting when people say they want to become asexual or aromantic because it’s “better” when we are barely seen as human.)
Your problem is a problem of finding someone who is in the same place as you, who wants what you want, and who has the same drive as you. This is not a gendered problem, it happens with everyone.
How do you find it? Meet more people, go on dates - lots of them! Don't get into long-term relationships until you've really been able to ask questions that will give you insight into if this person is a good fit for you. Think of the dates like interviews of really getting to know this woman, what she wants, what she is working towards.
You are 22 so it is going to be harder to find someone who is pulling a decent salary, and is ready to start a family. Not impossible, but you may have to think about your age-range and increase it a little to meet someone who is ready.
Try Meetup.com or something where you will meet loads of people all partaking in something that interests you.
Here's a link to a list of some apps that will block certain sites such as Youtube that you're spending the majority of your time on, if this is something you want to try out!
You could also try setting a certain amount of time each day to use these apps (with a time limit) alternatively, for yourself later on down the road once you feel that your self control has gotten better. I am personally trying this out right now, basically just scheduling one hour of the day where I can be lazy and browse sites like Reddit or Youtube until said hour is up. That way, you don't feel as if you're missing out on as much in contrast to going cold turkey for example.
I find that having a consistent night routine (at the same time each day) helps as well. I believe it's recommended to unplug from devices at least 1 hour before bed, so if you wanted to fall asleep by 11:30pm for example, you could unplug at 10, have an hour long night routine, then be in bed by 11, allowing yourself half an hour in bed to fall asleep so you're not stressing to fall asleep immediately after getting into bed. Of course, depending on how much time you have and what you're incorporating into your night routine, you'll have to adjust accordingly to your own schedule. Hope this helps!
Hacking is often portrayed as a cool stunt where you do the clickety clack on the keyboard, put on some shades, and boom hack into the FBI or something. In actuality, its usually just finding a vulnerability in someones "defenses" and exploiting it for your own purposes. Real life hackers sometimes don't even use a computer but rather aim for the people using the computer. Even if someone has an "unhackable" system, its worthless if you can trick some guy into giving you the password.
If you just want to impress your friends, and they know literally nothing about hacking, you could just learn to manipulate command prompt. Something I did back in highschool when I was an edgelord was open CMD, use color0a to change the font to green, use title hack_root or some other edgy title for more effect, then do something like dir /s to make text scroll really fast. For 10/10 memes I would also add in /p to make it so when I pressed a key more text would scroll.
If you actually want to make a career out of it, and trust me you certainly can, I would suggest heading over to a cite like https://www.cybrary.it/ to begin to learn cyber security.
Fixing this could take some work. First, I would suggest going to the instructor and telling her exactly how you're feeling about the class. Tell her what happened last semester (you can leave out the depression if it's uncomfortable) and tell her you're feeling really behind and embarrassed in class. See if she's willing to help you a bit more and/or if she knows of any free help through the university. There should be some kind of tutoring offered that shouldn't cost you extra.
As for an online resource, Duolingo is a great resource for learning a lot of different languages. It's completely free, and it's set up the same way that any class you would take would be, so you're learning in a way that is similar to classroom-style learning. It has exercises in vocabulary recognition, pronunciation, sentence building, etc. It's really a great resource and they have apps for Android and iOS. And they make it fun. It's like a game where you gain experience points and level up and stuff to keep it interesting. I've used it for Spanish, French, and Italian.
You should be fine trying to program. If you don't know how to code, codecademy is a great website. I'd start with Python, it's really fun and hilarious if you have ever seen the Monty Python movies.
I'm sorry you're going through this.
(I'm not trying to talk about myself but this might help)
I'm 24 and have been feeling like this for a few years. I can't make friends, don't really talk to anyone. I'm the same as you described, I feel like i'm really nice, I buy things and take people out. I make things for people.
As I got older I realized, I dont think it's me, I think it's the people around me. I live in an area where the people aren't really like me. I never fit in anywhere. Recently I went on a trip and met other people that were more like me. It was way easier to make friends, people wanted to talk to me. I also know I'm pretty shy but it hasnt ever been hard to make friends up until recently(when I stopped drinking and smoking) . Maybe you just need to find *your* people. Have you thought about moving somewhere else or at least taking a trip?I've also had luck on meetup.com
Good luck and I'm sorry you feel this way. Don't let it get you down too much, and if you feel like a psychiatrist might help you, then go for it!
In the meantime maybe reach out and find some friends online? (:
There are some great air purifiers on Amazon that you can plug in that will help a lot.
I really like this one: https://www.amazon.com/LEVOIT-Purifier-Home-Allergies-Pets/dp/B07VVK39F7/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=air&qid=1626521127&sr=8-3#
You may also want to look into getting charcoal bags to put in the closet and your drawers for extra, localized smell removal help. Plastic airtight bins are likely better than the bags you are using.
I like the idea someone gave about going over and sleeping on his side of the bed if there is free space there. OR perhaps you could switch sides and have him start out on the side he ends up on to see if that helps? Or you might try a toddler bed rail to keep him in place. would take up less of the bed than a pillow. Maybe one with a sail to go under him as an anchor, and then set it to divide the bed in the range near his mid-back and butt area?
You can practice mindfulness meditation. The more you practice it, the better you will get at noticing the moments as they pass, and eventually not even "noticing" them so much as living in them fully. It takes time to get there, but the basic techniques are simple enough for anyone to learn. There are lots of guides out there to get started — this is a good one.