I wish I mentioned this earlier, but maybe this book might help? My husband and I are reading through it to better understand my narcissistic parents, his emotionally distant parents, and how we both can cope with the situations we’ve been given. I cannot guarantee it will change everything, but it might offer some insight ❤️ https://www.amazon.com/Adult-Children-Emotionally-Immature-Parents/dp/1626251703/ref=mp_s_a_1_2_sspa?adgrpid=56079387356&gclid=Cj0KCQjwguGYBhDRARIsAHgRm4-THUsrG4gfRRsgJIAIAIS2xKpBvCZBRHY6QolMnOIoEeUNPYhXknUaAvQUEALw_wcB&hvadid=617005252020...
If she wants to recycle left overs have her make a compost pile
IM4000 Dual Chamber Tumbling Composter (Black) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B009378AG2/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_XFETJJYF512H9GB9F9JH
This is on Amazon and works really well (follow the directions though...like don't pour luquids in it. You can put it outside and it will help with the bugs.