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I use this one, it gives off three rather gentle beeps when it's done, plus it has a super useful visual aid for how much time is left: Secura 7.5-Inch Oversize Visual Countdown Timer

(I hope Amazon links are okay)

Boosted! I have different "projects" that each have to-do list type tasks. It really helps break very large items into really small, doable tasks. Best thing is for me, that it tracks how long each task takes. Procrastinating on a big task was a really bad habit of mine and I would be too anxious to start. Now, I write out the simplest items for it and cross them off. It helps me stay productive when I can time a task and see that it really didn't take as long as I thought.

By far, my favorite to-do list app I've ever used. It's very clean and simple.

Android app link (sorry I think it is only for android - based on their website)

I use these ones https://www.amazon.co.uk/Reusable-Silicone-Waterproof-Cancelling-Airplanes/dp/B07X26Z1L2/ref=pd_aw_lpo_1?pd_rd_i=B07X26Z1L2&psc=1 or similar types and they work well for me. You need to warm them up in your fingers and mould them properly, which may take some trial/error, but once you’ve got the right fit, they are really good.

Hi! I bought a book recently with lots of helpful tips and practices (that are actually actionable) on executive dysfunction

It’s called Brain Hacks by Lara Honos-Webb (I hate to support Amazon, but I’ll attach the link below)

Brain Hacks book

You should look into therapy. Confidence is essentially not comparing yourself to others.. that’s mostly it. I’m confident and it’s not that I feel I’m better than others, but I know I’ll give it my best shot and if it ain’t good enough so be it. I know I’ll learn from it. I know I’m stubborn enough to keep trying if I think it’s worth it. It’s thinking “ok, you’ve dealt with bigger shit, so in the big scheme of thing this ain’t much. Let’s see what happens”.

I don’t care if I’m not as good as many others. I care that I’m better then I was a month ago because I put in the effort. If others think I’m totally rubbish at it, again so be it. I’m enjoying the process of learning. If they can teach me, even better. Maybe I can teach them something else.

You’ve got to embrace failure, make it your friend, because it’s through failure that one learns. First time it’s a wild guess, second time it’s more of an educated guess, till you finally got it. It may take many many tries and that’s the whole point, it’s the process that one has to embrace, not necessarily the outcome.

I’m badly dyspraxic - basically I’ve got the grace and coordination of a giraffe on acid wearing skates. At 46, stiff as granite, I decided to teach myself yoga, when the simple act of walking often results in injury. I built pillow forts around me when I was learning certain poses because I faceplanted and fell more times than I actually stood. Who cares.. I had a laugh. Now I can do stuff like this https://www.yogateket.com/blog/parsva-bakasana-side-crow-crane-pose

It’s easy not to fail if you never try anything but that’s also the guaranteed way to fail because you never try anything. This is a good book on the subject https://www.amazon.co.uk/Self-Compassion-Kristin-Neff/dp/1444738178 but therapy may be the best option, if self help hasn’t worked. I hope you’ll find a way through and some peace. :)

This is great https://www.amazon.co.uk/Nerdy-Shy-Socially-Inappropriate-Asperger/dp/1849057575/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?dchild=1&qid=1599565281&refinements=p_27%3ACynthia+Kim&s=books&sr=1-1

Or https://www.amazon.co.uk/Pretending-Normal-Living-Aspergers-Syndrome/dp/1849057559/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=liane+willey&qid=1599565465&s=books&sr=1-1

Radical acceptance is based a lot in DBT, but there’s other methods that use the idea. I’ve been doing workbook exercises these past few weeks and it helps a lot, most of it is focusing on positive coping statements and accepting things as they are, while also giving yourself ways to move through and cope with hard stuff.

Heres a link with some more info about it, if you want, and this is the workbook I’ve been using if you want to check it out

I have just a simple creative kit, I got it this year for my birthday! I’m super excited about it, I like building little coffee shops and flower beds.

I do cross stitch, but I also like embroidering my own patches and florals occasionally. I have a bunch of vintage patterns and books that have been passed down, so I’m slowly working my way through them.

What do you like to make and embroider?

I don't have a ring designed for stimming, but I wear a ring on my index finger that I constantly fidget with. Typically, I use my thumb to rotate the ring around my finger continually. It's great and very subtle. I imagine anything with a decoration large enough to be easily moved with the thumb would work. Mine is something super cheap I picked up from H&M years ago for 5 bucks.

For meetings, I copy down items from the meeting agenda repetitively. I don't actually need the notes, but I find writing the same things over and over helps keep me focused and 'looks' professional. Chewing gum helps me with stimming when I can't be constantly tapping my foot.

Less subtle than the ring or gum, but I also have a few of these fidgets that I use when I am at my desk.