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I bought it on Amazon. It's a very nice hardcover book.

It has sections personal info, medical info, important contacts, what do so at the time of passing, dependants, pets, property, financial info, bisoness info, social media info, last messages, etc. It doesn't replace a will or any legal document, but it is handy.

Edit: https://www.amazon.com/Important-Information-Belongings-Business-Affairs/dp/1441317996/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8

As always, Louise brings such beautiful insight. Wow.

I want to repeat something she mentioned: "Taking care of yourself is important...there is comfort in seeing those you love taken care of." Showing your father that his beloved child is going to be okay can be such an amazing gift. This isn't about putting on a brave face and faking it, but instead it is about honoring his love for you by pouring some of your love for him back into yourself. This is the circular relationship of a parent and child.

You mentioned that you are an atheist and I, too, am a non-believer. That said, I have found some incredible insight into creating my own ceremonies and customs to honor important life milestones through a book written by a woman who left an Evangelical church to pursue her own spiritual path. I found plenty that spoke to me from a place of unknowing: "Relig-ish" by Rachelle Mee-Chapman. It's available in eBook if you don't want to wait for delivery.

Amazon Link: https://www.amazon.com/Relig-ish-Soulful-Living-Spiritual-But-Not-Religious-World-ebook/dp/B01J46T3OY/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1517434858&sr=1-1

I think that what you are doing right now - being open to your father and his process, acting as a witness (even a fallible, unpracticed, amateur one) and meditating on this journey - is a beautiful act, a ceremony, and a tribute to the life your father has built. I'm a mom, and I would be honored to have my child support me the way you are supporting him. <3

Love, strength and clarity to you in this time of transition.

-- sometimes, it is not what we do but who we are that counts the most --

She talks all about how she would get the family's approval after they viewed the prepared body usually the night before the service, then she would go back to the mortuary around 4am to rig up all her equipment actually HANGING ABOVE the coffins, and she would work with the undertaker to pose them (she says she never personally touched her subjects) for a few hours to create these portraits. She was really self reflective about her entry to this culture that was so removed from her, and how she moved through that space. Really, the whole thing was so moving. Get the book!! It's $4 from Powells via Amazon right now: https://www.amazon.com/Elizabeth-Heyert-Travelers/dp/3908247934/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1524154296&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=the+travelers+elizabeth+heyert

Hi friend, First off, I'm sorry to hear about what you and your friend are going through. The loss of our chosen family can hit hard in so many ways, and I'm so glad your friend has someone like you to stand together during the end of life process. I am a queer trans person who has also studied death doula practices, and so much of this story resonates for me, and warms my heart for the way you're approaching this.

And, I think I have a solution for you, because I used to work at a gourmet cheese shop! The cheese slicing tools we used allow you to remove the wire whenever it got dull or broke and, depending on the length of your friend's beard, would almost certainly be able to accommodate using a bear hair instead.

Finally, a trans friend of mine told me something that really changed my spiritual connection to death, so I wanted to share it. He said, "As trans people, we know that physical transition is sacred. Death is just another one of these transitions."

Good luck and love to you and your friend. My heart is with you!

If you're referring to the book she mentioned in the "Apache Death Cave" video, it was Ghostland: An American History in Haunted Places by Colin Dickey. https://www.amazon.com/Ghostland-American-History-Haunted-Places-ebook/dp/B01BD1SUA6

I haven't read it but I'll check it out!

Amazon link for anyone else interested

I just posted about one I just read!! Amazing book. Confessions of a Funeral Director

After reading Caitlin Daoughty's book I read this one:

http://www.amazon.com/Staring-Sun-Overcoming-Terror-Death/dp/0470401818

Highly recommended. I still get sucked into fears sometimes but it has some good philosophy that you can let sink in to deal.

I have an entire BOOK for you. It's called Walking the Twilight Path.

http://www.amazon.com/Walking-Twilight-Path-Gothic-Book/dp/0738713236

The whole book is a good read for coming to terms with death and understanding the process to make it less frightening. The meditations are of a more pagan style, but overall it might be a good jumping off point for you!