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Arden Leigh is a try-hard. I'm sorry, even in the MPUA world, we have guys that try too hard and come across as attempting to fix nothing. What I mean by that is they're figuratively trying to solve their problems by chewing bubblegum, and that's not very effective.

You know what will work 100x better (guaranteed) than trying to be a vibrato in daily conversation? Hit the gym.

Working out has literally been proven to be effective at increasing self esteem, motivation, reducing anxiety, among other physical and mental benefits, and also increases confidence. When you're confident, you automatically will adjust your voice to be stronger, your posture will fix itself, your cadence and speech patterns will be more effective at transmitting an idea, among other countless benefits.

Arden Leigh more than likely has no problem picking up men because she's attractive and a borderline nude model. You're going to tell me that a girl that wears shirts that scribe shit like "Sex Geek" on them is not enough to get her a guy? Honestly, I think she's a hack. The strength in your voice comes from confidence, and sure it can come from practice, but having a strong voice with no confidence is like putting a $5000 set of Vossen wheels on a 1995 Honda Civic. It's not going to carry you very far.

Sorry, I've been in pick up a long time, and this is the most arbitrary nonsense I've ever read. No introduction or voice of your own either, you just rehash what Arden says and it's like gospel.

Go read Models by Mark Manson. That will do more for you, man or woman, than training your voice will.

There is no friend zone. Cliche as it is, but you just have to put yourself out there. I know exactly how it feels to have insecurities you thought you mastered flare up when you're around someone that you're catching feelings for.

Ultimately, what helps me most is forcing myself to just be in the moment. To accept I'm imperfect. What really helped was reading Models by Mark Manson; it's geared toward men but a lot of the concepts apply to both genders. Highly recommend giving it a read.

One passage in particular stood out:

Take a moment to consider: that before meeting a woman, instead of wondering if she will like you, you could wonder if you could like her. That instead of wondering how you could impress her, you could wonder if she could impress you. That instead of sitting there silently wondering what to say next to make her like you, you could silently wonder what she could say next to make you like her.

Also, childish as it this, this quote keeps me light in the heart in these moments: https://i.pinimg.com/originals/e4/2c/1c/e42c1cea1f5e16a5f732d60e67f8d3c9.jpg

It sounds like y'all are in different countries. Depending on how long you're going to be apart, it may be best to put it on hold (if you're not moving back soon). If you are you have a way easy out: just invite him out to celebrate your homecoming, or if he's adventurous, invite him to travel to you.

Finally, would highly recommend therapy just to work through the root issues of your insecurities. I'm a big proponent of it (lord knows therapy helped me a lot).

Also fwiw, I swam through college and absolutely love women with swimmers bods. +intelligence? Hubba hubba.

(Apologies if everything above seems a nonsensical rant; it's 2am and I can't fall asleep).

>What are your thoughts on pick up artist celebrities like Neil Strauss, Mystery, Julien Blanc, etc?

You should probably read Models by Mark Manson. I think it's good to read The Game, just to understand a lot of the history and background on this stuff -- it is definitely not a How To. Read the Robert Greene books just because they're so damn interesting.

The only old school celeb I'd listed to is Wayne Elise, "Juggler." He's the one really normal person from all that mess.

>What do you think about PUA field reports, the HB rating system, etc?

FRs, when done right (meaning they're not a brag report) are very useful to the person writing it. It's a chance not just to write about what happened, but to try to figure out why. To reflect on details that you maybe didn't catch on right then. Also, the post mortem analysis is useful for reinforcing lessons.

As for the HB rating system, no one really cares about it any more.

>Do you ever go over to /r/seduction? Do you post?

I'm a moderator there.

The Art of Seduction, How To Win Friends and Influence People, and How to Get People to Like You in 90 Seconds or less are for both sexes and highly effective. I haven't read the Game, but I have a little knowledge of The Rules. The Rules is for women, and is pretty much the female equivalent of the game, but I really think you should start with the The Art of Seduction. I can direct you to a free copy if you pm me. BTW I'm female too. I think the fPUA and the PUA are great. Both subreddits are mostly positive and supportive, but just as much bad advise gets thrown around as good advice. Reading The Art of Seduction has really helped me discern the good from the bad. I think seduction isn't nearly as much about the differences between men and women as many make it out to be, because many of the same tactics work for both sexes in slightly different ways.

It sounds like you have the right attitudes about dictating your self-improvement and it seems your immediate goal is to learn about specific strategy for organizing your emotional energy. You can mitigate a lot of the anxiety you're experiencing by internalizing the logic illustrated in the principles of seduction.

Check out /r/fPUA, /r/seduction, /r/askseddit. For each one, read everything in the sidebars including linked materials, then sort the posts by top of all time, and read the first few pages.

There are books and Youtube channels and blogs people sometimes recommend and there are a few classics like How To Win Friends and Influence People. Generally, you can glean a working knowledge of everything by reading the aforementioned subreddit content and participating in discussions. One of the best ways to master something is to assess yourself by teaching it to someone else.

You need to focus on your inner game first. Game comes from the heart, not from the mind. If you have faith in yourself as a person, you can do stellar. If you doubt yourself this much, you may just crash and burn.

For the future, read Models by Mark Manson. It's recommended literature in the male PUA world, but for you it might help a ton. It focuses in bettering your own perceptions of you such that it indirectly affects other people's perceptions of you as well. That would be my primary focus.

But anyway, dressing sexy doesn't take a bunch of revealing clothing. It takes a solid outfit. Hell, you could wear nice jeans, a great blouse and a peacoat, and that is incredibly sexy if done right. Or you could wear a tight dress, whatever suits your style. Being confident just means having faith that you're the best option in the room for anyone to choose from. If you don't at least believe that much, then you need to start to because that's the only way pick up really works.

> question for any successful female PUA artists here: how do I start!

Do I have to be female to answer? Because I'm not. But I do have an answer.

> As much as I found The Game interesting, the tactics aren't so useful in reverse, is there an equivalent book for women?

Not precisely equivalent, but "It's Your Move" is meant for women.

This sounds shitty, but you're always going to have creepers. My girlfriend got offered a large sum of money to leave me and go out with some dude. It was pretty ridiculous. You need to learn to block them out, they'll always exist. Don't let them get to you.

For men you like, work on yourself. Hit the gym, dress well, read Models by Mark Manson or some equivalent book that teaches you about self confidence and inner game, and learn to flirt. Touch when you're attracted to someone, or ask people out yourself. Waiting for men to ask you out and not taking the initiative to do it when they don't is a safe way to fail at dating and pick up. If I had waited for girls to hit on me instead of me asking them out, I'd probably still be a virgin.

I haven't finished this book yet, but so far, it looks really good:

https://www.amazon.com/Get-Guy-Learn-Secrets-Deserve/dp/0062241753/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1474257235&sr=8-1&keywords=get+the+guy

Give it a try.

Edit: Also, I shot you a PM