I've been looking for exactly what you describe, because most mac apps that offer to find duplicates can only find exact duplicates of the file (by hash) or in some cases similar images. Everything that promised the functionality of finding similar videos turned out to be doing the exact same as duplicate file finders, so the same video in different resolutions wouldn't be recognized.
There's two workarounds and I hope it's okay I share them here, even though it has nothing directly to do with Hermit Crab…
A) get an app that creates video thumbnails and set the individual images to a decent resolution (like 480p). It'll create a jpg with 4x8 (or whatever you set it to) thumbnails with the same filename as your video. Run those thumbnails through an app like Gemini (since you're not deleting any files directly, this even works in the free/trial version). It will identify them as similar images, you can check if they're the same video, search for that filename and delete the lower or higher resolution one. There's still some work involved, but it works pretty reliably.
B) There's an open source Windows application that does exactly what you're describing. Video Duplicate Finder (github). It searches through your videos, tells you the resolution, filesize, bitrate and percentage of it being the same file. You can even adjust the threshold, so videos with a match lower than X% don't even show. Unfortunately, it's windows (or Linux) only, since I have Boot Camp anyways it's not a huge problem for me, because it's not a process that I'm doing daily or even weekly. It's pretty fast and fairly reliable in its results.