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The safest choice would be to use empty gelatin capsules. I don't know exactly the risks of xylitol, but it doesn't seem like the ideal way to go. Maybe someone else knows!

I would say no, not 100% on this so anyone feel free to correct me. There are rises and falls in pleasure before orgasm, it sounds like you start to feel good, then dip, if you keep going I suspect it'll happen at least once more before orgasm. My suggestion would be to get a vibrator that is really good, like this https://www.amazon.com/Hitachi-Magic-Wand-Original/dp/B00XM1PKY0 even after you feel like you don't want to touch yourself anymore, as long as it doesn't cause pain keep going. Have fun 👍

If she has a delicate vagina you want to try this lube. This is a probiotic edible lube. It’s free of parabens, glycerin, flavorings and is designed for women with delicate vaginas.

There are many types of lube, what are you allergic to exactly?

Women can take up to 30 min to become completely aroused, you need to really lean into foreplay and being pleasured before even considering penetration. Having at least one orgasm before penetration will do a lot to help you not tear. This is because the vagina relaxes, lengthens and the cervix pulls up to accommodate penetration when a woman is fully aroused.

You can practice stretching exercises on your own. Starting with a girth your comfortable with and moving up in size a quarter of an inch until you can comfortably accept his girth. This can take months to achieve depending on the woman. You may be able to find a graduated dilator set or you may have to find each dildo individually and make a set yourselves. You can learn how to stretch your vagina here. Always best to consult with your gynecologist before beginning stretching exercises.

Use extra virgin coconuts oil(NOT refined) this will do more than other kinds of lube to help with micro tearing. It’s soothing and healing effects will help irritated tissue. Some women can get a PH imbalance from coconut oil so if you have trouble with that you can also try this lube which is a lube for women with sensitive vaginas. I recommend you try the oil first though.

If you have a USA 110-120v style plig and can stand the cord a "Magic Wand Original" from Vibratex/Hitachi is a solid choice:

https://www.amazon.com/Original-Magic-Wand-Essentials-Massager/dp/B01DCHMIF2

Not sure how dirable they are long term, but a Rose Toy is effective for clit stimulation, cheap, quiet, small, waterproof, and does not look like a vibrator at a casual glance.

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Great step by step guide here.

Silicone lube can be irritating to some women’s tissue so be aware of that. Water based lube is generally your best bet for vaginal sex, a great lube you can check out here, there are two formulas, don’t use the one with oil if you’re using condoms.

If you’re having issues with sensitive vaginal flora you may want to consider this lube is amazing. Choose the water based version, as it is safe with condoms, but this stuff is great for not interfere with your natural PH and has the added benefit of being edible!

Have used in this exact application. Pump makes convenient if you have belt holder that's used for massage oil. Absorption rate is pretty darn near best I found for both applications as it it's a good balance between absorption rate on the skin but doesn't have to be reapplied over and over if using internally, not to mention it's all natural.

Majestic Pure Fractionated... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00PMR3QF2?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

You’re average in girth, regular condoms will fit you fine. I recommend crown. They are the very best. No gross smell, feels almost like nothing, strong and cheaper than what you’d find in the drugstore.

You’re actually average in width and would wear a regular sized condom. No worries about BJ’s and sex! Your girth is 46 mm and a magnum is 56 mm for perspective.

I recommend you check out the brand Crown Condoms, they should fit you nicely and they’re the best condoms I’ve ever used. No gross latex smell, feels almost like nothing and very strong. Doesn’t hurt that they’re cheaper than the drugstore!

I recommend the brand My Size. They are largest condoms I’m aware of, you sound like you’d best fit with either their 64 or 69 condoms, more likely their size 69 though.

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this one worked quite well for me but everyone us different

If you want to try wearing stockings made for thicker legs without losing a good fit with a smaller upper body I suggest you check out these cut things.

You can also buy garters in the correct size that are neutral in design and can be used with any set of stockings. Then buy plus sized stockings to wear with it.

I personally like a little cutting in of the bands but too much and it looks like they need to wear a larger size. As someone with a small waist and thick thighs and large butt I understand where you’re coming from. Finding things that fit everywhere in “sets” never works for me. I have to buy individual items and match them myself. I also own a lot of those garter/stocking pieces I shared a link of! So cute and fits great.

Lingerie sets never work for me either, if I’m in love with a piece I’ll buy two one in small and one in large and use the pieces where they fit right from both sizes. I also love Baby dolls, they work well with my body type.

Honesty may just be the best policy. You can begin the conversation with something like,”This may be a bit awkward for all of us but due to my circumstances we need to talk about something. I’m an adult and I have needs, like anyone else. We need to find a way for me to have more privacy, safely.”

I’m not sure exactly what you can and can’t do since you’re able to masturbate. But an idea I have, and perhaps it would need some adjustments to make it work for you, is a lock on your door that can be controlled with a remote of some kind. With a fail safe on the other side. This could be combined with cameras that can also be controlled by both yourself and others outside your room.

Something like this lock system where you multiple ways in which it can be locked and unlocked.

You could use a camera system like this camera.

These are just examples and perhaps there’s equipment that’s a much better fit for your situation.

But with a little honesty and equipment upgrades you could definitely have more independence and privacy without forfeiting your safety.

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I use this stuff. I've seen some people don't like it very much because it messed with them, but for me it's perfectly fine and is honestly some of the best lube I've ever used. It's also safe to use with I believe any toy.

Sperm does not survive outside the body for long, and once a wet wipe touches it, they’re going to die.

However to be clear, you don’t need to wipe anything away. Placing a condom on as is would be fine, the wipe would purely be for extra precaution.

In case you don’t know, when you take a combination pill as prescribed you don’t ovulate. This means there is no egg to fertilize even if the condom were to break.

Your pregnancy paranoia is not uncommon! Don’t feel alone. I’m sure you’re in therapy but a lot of times people don’t think to bring this particular struggle up with their therapists. Medication has been known to do wonders for eliminating the fear altogether and allowing for a normal sex life. I also recommend an anxiety journal to use when the invasive, repetitive thought cycle begins. It helps break off the beaten path as it were and redirects your thought process in a healthier direction. Check out one like this, they are extremely helpful tools when the anxiety begins taking over.

One of the more powerful reasons anxiety gets so strong is we create “pathways” in our mind, if you can imagine taking a wheelbarrow out of the shed and walking it to the same garden everyday and back. You would eventually create a very deep groove, eventually it would be so deep it’d be near impossible to get the wheelbarrow wheels out of the rut. When we run through the same thoughts and fears over and over and over we get stuck in these deep grooves of irrational fear. It takes conscious and consistent effort when we fall into these “pathways” to change our way of thinking. Over time we can eliminate or at the very least minimize the depth of these “pathways” to begin healing our minds and over coming our obsessive thoughts.

Good luck with your new job!

If nothing else is working I suggest you try out numbing lube. Use it on yourself and then put on a condom so you don’t numb your partner. If you’re average size check out Crown Condoms. Of all the brands I’ve tried this one feels the closest to nothing at all, doesn’t have that gross condoms smell and is cheaper than the drugstore condoms.

You could even let your partner lube and cove you to make it sexier and more appealing.

If you’re still struggling after that I suggest making an appointment with your doctor. They may be able to help you further or explain what’s keeping you from gaining control.

You’re probably fine unless you know you have a sensitive vagina. Until you try it however there’s no way to know. You can try a small test spot before pouring it on.

This is a good article on lubes. My personal favorite is Organic Glide it’s one of the very best for not interfering with a woman’s natural PH.

This is a link to a comment with tips on performing BJ’s for your girlfriend.

Do you masturbate often and/or with a very firm grip?

A large part of what you’re experiencing is nerves, going into Valentine’s Day with the mentality that “you’ve got to perform” is going to guarantee you don’t.

Give yourself time to build up to sex more slowly, more foreplay and less focus on the “goal”. Putting pressure on yourself or experiencing pressure from outside sources to stay hard will make it more difficult to do that. Basically the more you think about it the more difficult it will be to achieve.

Just try to enjoy the intimacy and closeness with your gf, focus on foreplay and none penetrative sex until you feel ready to have sex. You should also be bringing a lot more condoms, never go into a sexual situation with just one.

I recommend you check these condoms out. Best I’ve ever used. Thin, durable and has no gross condom smell. These are for average sized so if you’re smaller or larger than that I can recommend different ones. But a quality condom will help tremendously as well.

Is your gf on BC? Condoms are a great barrier but things can do wrong with them and it’s best to have a more secure form of BC to fall back on if they should fail.

Read these two great articles here and here.

Check out Organic Glide choose the oil formula. See if that works out for you! You can also try Extra-virgin olive oil or extra-virgin coconut oil.

Measure your girth and check out this brand for a perfect fit. Also got tip, lube your penis before putting on the condom for a better experience.

Magnums aren’t longer, but they are wider. Regular condoms are generally 50-54mm and larger condoms start at 54mm. Measure your girth and check out this brand. They should have a size that works for you.

Your boyfriend suffers from a disorder called the Madonna-Whore Complex. You both need to look into couples counseling and he needs to find a therapist for himself.

Read up more here.

Check out this great book on the subject as well.

There is no scientific evidence to support the claim that semen is beneficial as a facial mask. However it does contain spermine, which is an antioxidant which can help reduce wrinkles, smooth the skin, prevent acne or spots and give you overall healthy-looking skin. If you choose to believe in the hype there is the grain of truth to it and you wouldn’t be the first to indulge!

Here is an article on the properties of semen and their potential benefits.

Check this out. This is a nifty little face mask machine which works by incorporating a liquid of your choice with collagen pills to make a fresh face mask. This would be the most effective way in which you could incorporate semen into a face mask. You would need the semen to be fresh and you can mix it with rose water (which is also beneficial to your skin) to achieve the amount of liquid needed for your mask machine.

You’re average sized so regular condoms will fit you fine. If you can order them online I recommend these! They don’t have the gross condoms smell, feel the closest to bare sex of any brand I’ve used and are cheaper than at the drugstore.

If you can’t make online orders I’d recommend these.

What have you been using and how was the fit not right?

I always recommend this brand. Cheaper than at the drugstore, doesn’t have the gross condoms smell and feels the closest to nothing out of all the brands I’ve tried.

Try this one out! There’s water based which is fine to use with condoms and a natural formula which is oil based. It’s made especially for women with delicate PH and it’s edible!

That’s a common side effect of an increase in estrogen. Do you take the pill to alleviate unpleasant symptoms or protection or both?

If it’s more for protection there are other forms to choose from that won’t effect your lubrication production.

Read up on your options here.

If you’re taking a specific pill to alleviate unpleasant symptoms due to another medical condition then I would suggest you try out this lube. It’s gentle on your PH and edible! Great stuff.

When you do get a chance, I’d go back to see your gynecologist and discuss this with them.

A regular sized condom will work fine for you.

I recommend getting them on Amazon instead of the drugstore as it’s significantly cheaper. Check out Crown condoms, they don’t have the usual gross condom smell and as far as sensation they feel the closest to nothing of all the brands I’ve ever tried. I hate condoms but I can use these when I need to.

Check them out here.

And if you happen to be looking for a great lube go all skin types, especially sensitive ones check this brand out.

My pleasure! They make spandex and full body pieces too!

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Do a bottom half rinse off right before, to ensure all is as squeaky clean as it can be. That’s dick, balls and asshole.

Try adding food into the mix. You could use chocolate syrup or whip cream to make it more of a naughty dessert and encourage the licking/sucking. I suggest a sugar free version to avoid infections and if you want to engage in PIV afterwards, be sure to wash the penis and surrounding area. Yeast eats sugar and getting some in the vagina would invite the mother of all yeast infections.

Try going bald. The lack of hair means no pubes in the way or getting a gag reflex from the feeling of hair in her mouth.

Try Fresh Balls. It’s basically a deodorant for your balls. It works great and smells even better. Just don’t lick balls after it’s been applied. Here.

Offer to cum somewhere else and not in her mouth.

Try engaging in the shower, the cleanest place you can be.

If she’s 100% against it, one would need to respect her boundary and drop it. If it’s something the man can’t live without, they would need to consider wether or not this relationship is sustainable and fulfilling for them.

If she is open to finding a way to enjoy it a couple tips to try could be..

Adding food into the mix. You could use chocolate syrup or while cream to make it more of a naughty dessert and encourage licking/slurping. I suggest you find a sugar free version to avoid infections and if one chooses to engage in PIV afterwards, be sure to wash the penis and surrounding area. Yeast eats sugar and getting some in the vagina would invite the mother of all yeast infections.

Try engaging in the shower. All that water should ensure that everything is squeaky clean and any mess can disappear as soon as it appears.

Try going bald. The lack of hair means no pubes in the way and getting that gag reflex from the feeling of hair in her mouth.

Try Fresh Balls. It’s basically a deodorant for your balls. It works great and smells even better. Just don’t lick balls after it’s been applied. Here.

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this beast is 5 inches, if that’s too small i saw some six inch ones. btw i’m actually really glad you brought up that the widespread BBC this is a racist stereotype. now i’m not one to scream racism or anything, but if everybody expected me to have a large penis because of my skin color, even being average would make me feel like a disappointment. for that matter i can’t even imagine being below average. not into white guilt but i genuinely feel bad about that. sorry black people.

Insists? Can you explain ?

If it’s not your thing might be time to move on. You gotta be into this for you too.

• it’s not a vagina, extttttra gentle
• no numbing lubes or flavored or “warming” ones . Basic KY is great.

https://www.amazon.com/K-Y-UltraGel-Personal-Lubricant-Vibrators/dp/B001E96MB2/ref=mp_s_a_1_12?dchild=1&keywords=KY&qid=1606551526&sr=8-12

• What ever accessories that normally work for you should be the choice in terms of condoms.
• don’t let extra lube push you past comfort
• pressure and stretching normal
• blood, burning are bad
• shallow penetration initially might be ideal
• just add a little extra lube as you build up
• Go slow , the game is half of it.
• Angles are huge. You stay in control. You’re risking injury.
• toys and fingers are where it’s at to build up
• solo practice ASAP , can’t stress this enough
• for your solo time don’t put anything that worn come back out !
• It’s not gonna be great the first half dozen times but the 7th+ you’ll find the angles, pace and depth etc
• communicate before something hurts
• make sure your masterbation skills are on point while bent over etc
• hygiene
• porn is fake, keep it chill.
• reciprocate , most guys won’t ask for it but they probably won’t turn stuff down either. This also helps him improve
• don’t trust a fart for a few days

Check everyone’s expectation and keep it fun and safe.

Um its a bootyhole, its gonna be shitty, thats what it for lol. So yes, thats normal.

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And only use a little bit of soap and water, nothing with harsh chemicals. That should help wash things out.

OBGYN only sees the female reproductive organs, so it would be your primary care doctor if you’re really worried.

The Hitachi magic wand is AMAZING! But, it's important to take breaks as it's super powerful. On for 5-10 mins, off for 5-10 mins... Etc. https://www.amazon.com/Original-Magic-IntiMD-Trigger-Attachment/dp/B07M7FY91Q/ref=sr_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=the+magic+wand&qid=1601395067&sr=8-5