In the world of compact Amazon vibrators this apparently is the king of them all:
Satisfyer Pro 2 Air-Pulse Clitoris Stimulator - Non-Contact Clitoral Sucking Pressure-Wave Technology, Waterproof, Rechargeable (Rose Gold) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B071CPR2V4/ I have so many already that I haven’t tested it myself but it’s in my future list of purchases…
Package it discrete cause it's Amazon, I have owned 3 and still the best I've tried. If you pull one side out of the shell it's super quiet to use and doesn't make the sucking sound most of this kind do. (One side is a mouth with fo-teeth and a tongue and the other is the Pussy)
ZEMALIA Male Masturbators Cup,... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B073GZFDDL?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
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It's going to be fun to use. It's firmer compared to the BD one, but not in a bad way. The textures are really nice too.
You are very welcome :) Hopefully this helps! And if we ever try that other toy you mentioned, I'll try to remember to post about it. Also! Ask her/tell her to talk to her doctor about dialators. If she thinks she can commit to it, they might be a good investment as well. My doctor suggested I get them and while I let myself procrastinate/get distracted and not use them, it wasn't so tough once you do actually use them. The ones I bought are expensive but if she isn't allergic to silicone, I would get them. Any water-based lube will help too!
PV is hard for me too, with vaginismus and eczema. I use this alot and it helps. They also have a clit/nipple suckered as well. We haven't gotten one yet, but we have the one in this link, with the tongue, and we live it.
This is a great toy !!
vibe2o Diablo Strong Dual Motor Prostate Massager for Men 10 Speed Anal Sex Toy Personal G-Spot Vibrator for Women Rechargeable Waterproof Silicone Butt Plug for Men & Women w/Free Lube Launcher https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N312HN6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_XH1AEEGFH35X4N9J9V2P
anal toys? You can learn a lot about prostate play on that sub reddit. And let me tell you, your prostate (being the equivalent to a womans g spot) can be VERY pleasurable when massaged. It's not near the same sensations as peen thrusting, but it's an entirely different feel and orgasm. And some guys get some VERY intense body/mind orgasms from that. If you're open to anal toys I'd suggest a prostate massager toy. Something like an anal hook (my fav) or this (not my fav but still nice):
I have three similar toys from a manufacturer on amazon called Sex Factory. link. I am honestly impressed with quality and they feel great. I recommend them.
I bought two sets off amazon that are identical. One metal, one silicon. The silicon is way more enjoyable. The metal is ok but the larger sizes hurt but feel great in silicon.
3 Pcs 3 Size Silicone Jeweled... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01DVWU3U0?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Here is one on amazon that is very reasonably priced and has good reviews. Adorime Silicone Clitoris Vagina Stimulator Massager