You can't change that icon (or any live update icon like Calendar) via just the normal copy/paste method as when you click on the app, the icon changes to using an internal icon set which is stored within the app itself. There are a few .icns files that need to be changed. (You can find these files by right clicking the Calendar app, clicking "Show Package Contents" and then navigating the contents of the app.
According to this post here, you need to replace possibly 3 files...
Calendar.app->Contents->Resources->App.icns
Calendar.app->Contents->Resources->App-empty.icns
Calendar.app->Contents->Resources->iCalDockTilePlugIn.docktileplugin->Contents->Resources->App-empty.icns
You'll also need to change the icon via the copy/paste method as well so when the app is not running, it displays the icon you want as well.
I've had to do this for a number of apps which have icons which get updated in real time, such as torrent clients (Transmission).
I use the app img2icns for converting my image files to .icns files. (the free version will convert fine, no need for the paid version)
You need to change the .png file to a .icn file. This means that OSX sees the icon as an actual icon instead of the .png preview icon.
Edit: Just looked at img2icnsapp in more depth and I would recommend using that because it provides more customisation. :)
Why ask that and wait instead of just converting them yourself? A toddler can figure out how to do that. I'm not gonna share them without OP's permission, so do as I did and just use an app (this one is free: image2icon) or any of the hundreds of online converters (just search png to icns)
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I don't have a mac so my knowledge stops here, but it appears you may need a specific icon format for Mac icons.
You might want to download img2icons (the free one works) just drag any image you want to make into an icon and convert to a folder format and then drag them into candybar.