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Your acceptance of others should come naturally as you begin to accept yourself completely. YMMV, but once you can recognize and lower the standards you place on yourself, you should feel the same way towards others.
That being said there are a few things you can do like a Gratitude Journal where you would literally write down 3-5 things you appreciate every day with pen and paper. They should be different on a day-to-day basis, but you can also do it on Google Keep or apps like this.
I usually turn to Metta Meditation when I'm feeling particularly judgmental of others, as well as regular Mindfulness meditation to keep myself focused in the present. It might also help to unplug from social media like Facebook for a while as it creates a tendency to compare your life to others and bolster ones ego.
As an INFJ, it's natural to expect a lot from your partner, especially emotionally; if you can recognize that pull within yourself to need more and stay grounded then it should eventually pass. Good luck!
The inspiration for this app came from a positive psychology course I took a few years ago at college. One of the biggest recurrent findings in positive psych is that being grateful makes a significant difference in people's happiness. And one of the best ways to be grateful is to keep a gratitude journal!
Android version: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.moodtools.happy.gratitudejournal
i like this one because it's really quick to use (https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.moodtools.happy.gratitudejournal). free.
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also found this one which you might prefer? as it lets you add a passcode (https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.northstar.gratitude). free with IAPs.