> I tell this to everyone… don’t make the job define who you are....
Those entire last few paragraphs ring true. I recommend for anyone in this field who might search and come across this later(and have been recommended by several others, both instructors and friends in the field) Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement: A Guide for Officers and Their Families by Kevin Gilmartin.
It has a lot of similar points to this about "don't let the job take over your life" and to take care of yourself.