dance parties are fun and karaoke too!! I bought this wireless karaoke mic and my family are begging me to stfu.
this onethis one on Amazon
My son is an ESFP. I can see this type of pain in him when he doesn't have enough opportunity to get out with his friends or experience new things. Meetup.com is a godsend, for both his development and my sanity. As an INTP I used it to explore my interests and ended up finding some of the greatest friends I've ever had. Friends isn't even the right term, they have become what I consider to be my real family. The beauty is that you don't have to rush into relationships (my pitfall when I used to let myself get so lonely I'd take whatever came along lol) as you can get to know people slowly and organically through the process of performing fun, healthy, inspiring activities together.
I really don't think it's a good idea to try to learn to enjoy your own company for any extended period of time as an ESFP. Your strength, and my son's lie in your transcendent abilities in relational activity and to deny yourself and others of that would just be a type of "little death" that neither you, nor the world, deserve. If there isn't anything that interests you in your area, start your own Meetup!
Hey.... do you want to crush your STEM enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentations of their women? Tell them your party hardy ways keeps you productive by motivating you to procrastinate less and get things done faster (which is probably true, right? Just like I've heard having kids does the same). But also get this textbook so you can, just like pretty much every hugely successful person in existence, work hard and work smart.
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Ever heard of the "10,000-hour rule"? Well first of all that's kind of half bullshit because most people don't know where that idea came from so they don't understand the nuances behind it. Secondly, it came from that textbook. People literally studied world-class experts and figured out what made them so special and wrote a textbook about it.
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Also Dr. Phil has a new podcast which is surprisingly good (for someone who might seem like the irl version of Frasier Crane) and focuses on successful people; worth checking out to listen to when driving, trying to fall asleep, etc.
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PS: if the medical field interests you at all, in theory your Se-dom trait would make it easy for you to become a competent surgeon and according to mbti stereotypes you might enjoy it too.