Don't try to overpower yourself--learn to work together. Be a boss you'd want to work for. What makes you feel "well-paid"?
A year or so ago, I learned that I hated myself, and would have left my self a long time ago if I could have. I never celebrated successes, always put the desires of others before my own, almost never stood up for myself. I owed myself a huge apology for being a horrible boss for twenty five years, and I needed to ask myself for forgiveness, reintroduced me to myself and spent some time getting to know who I was.
We're on much better terms. It's not perfect, like any relationship, but we work together a lot better, now.
I highly recommend reading "12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos" (https://www.amazon.com/12-Rules-Life-Antidote-Chaos/dp/0345816021/ref=nodl_), Chapters 1 and 2 in particular.