i was thinking more like one of thoseitty bitty swiss army knives
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but lets go with dagger, that sounds better
We have a tool like on oversized bottle opener, hook it on the lid and lift so it dents the lid enough to equalise the pressure.
https://www.xe.com/currencyconverter/convert/?Amount=22&From=USD&To=AUD
Anyways. If prices in NZ are estimated $495k and AUS $488k then that’s far above the national average of $288k (USD) even here in the United States.
It’s not a competition mate, I am just trying to help you realize that people living beyond their means aren’t “victims”
If you need to adjust your living standards based on your occupation or the location you live, you adjust.
None of the brother's advice is bad per se. Sounds like he's being VERY pushy about it though, and somewhat bragging.
Not a good way to get his point across, or have it accepted in any way. Sadly, some people aren't very good at couching such in a loving way.
Still, it sounds like it's coming from a place of concern, and it seems like big sis understands that, else she would have cut him off already.
I've dealt with this kind of pressure before. Well meaning, but slightly manipulative and pushy. I'd suggest a really good book for OP. Helped me enormously to keep contact with certain family, but instantly ground out any of their more manipulation tactics:
When I Say No, I Feel Guilty - by Manual J. Smith
Full of real-world examples and solid methods for dealing with pushyness. Very assertive, with no aggressiveness.
Ok, the methods CAN be used for manipulation as well, but like any tool, it's the person using it that is responsible to use them morally.
Wish you all the best OP. Hope you can have a quality relationship with your family, and train them to treat you well.
I've been in this situation. What I've done was give a grace period (which you've done) and offered to continue helping if they can't find someone else, but at a rate that covers fuel both ways each time and a meal. But you can't tell them that metric because they'll try to gip you. This was before uber was a thing. I've used taximeter (https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.planetcoops.android.taximeter) before, on one way set at a rate doubled so it covers both ways in case they want to divert. If they can't understand compensation then my support is a no, they can get a cab.
Otherwise if I'm not interested, I would've done it exactly the same as you did.
it does not directly solve the problem but i use this app. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.fortmobile.parkingmobility at least i have done something.
i used it within the first 24 hrs of downloading the app...and have used it many times since....if your disabled you see this a lot.....a whole lot.