As a CG artist who works from home, I do indeed factor in electrical costs with my contracts, andthese little badboys work wonders for keeping track of your electrical usage.
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checkout a book "Surrounded by Bad Bosses " https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08FZ8P7TY/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
it goes pretty deep into that phenomenon
The Discord server is probably the best to get support from other C-PTSD people you haven’t met yet. The community are very open, and the moderators are pretty aggressive at correcting unhelpful behavior. https://discordservers.com/server/253630004645199873
Slack is a nice option if you have a support circle that needs more contact than e-mail, and wants to keep the membership of the group under strict control. https://slack.com/
There’s a lot of overlap between a narcissist and a plain old bully. My nboss is comparatively low in the narcissistic traits but ticks every box for workplace bullying. Two books are helping me right now:
https://www.amazon.com/When-You-Work-Bully-Assessing/dp/0971953880
And https://www.amazon.com/Bully-Work-What-Reclaim-Dignity/dp/1402224265 Maybe they would be helpful to you too. (I borrowed them from the library)
According to Greg and Ruth Namie it's a matter of boundaries. You need to bark back when they first test your boundaries, so they back down and turn to someone else.
This book is the only one that i've found helpful on the subject (and I own like 40) https://www.amazon.fr/Bully-Work-What-Reclaim-Dignity/dp/1402224265
they have a website too now : https://workplacebullying.org/