>I haven’t lost anyone close, but whenever I’ve thought of losing my mom, I can't wrap my head around how one continues to live without their mother.
At some point, we will all lose our parents. Suicidal ideation is very common in these situations. Grief can express itself in a myriad number of ways and most people have never had to confront it until it hits them right in the face.
It's important that you actually connect with her physically. No texts or tweets. Stop by, take her to dinner, shopping, ask her for some help, spend an evening with her, make a casserole and bring it over, taker her to her doctor's appointments, etc.
Grief is pretty much a solitary experience and physical isolation makes it worse.
I also recommend this book Its OK That You're Not Ok by Megan Devine.
Grief doesn't have a timeline and yes, grief can manifest itself physically as well as emotionally. It is the most powerful of negative emotions.
I recommend reading It's OK That You Are Not OK. Its one of the best that I have read.
- a nurse
Sorry for your loss. I highly recommend reading "Its OK That You Are Not OK by Megan Devine. I have read several books on grief and the bereavement process and this is one of the best.
- a nurse.
I wholeheartedly recommend a book called Its OK That You Are Not OK by Megan Devine. I have recommended it many times over the past 2 years.
- a nurse
Broken sleep, following a loss is not uncommon. It's your body reacting to the loss. It should get better in time, but grief has a habit of not following a set schedule. If you have time, I recommend a book called Its OK That You Are Not OK by Megan Devine.
I experienced insomnia and broken sleep for a few months after my sister died. I am so sorry for your loss.
- a nurse.
I am an outlier; a nurse and an Atheist. I see death every day, but its different when its "one of your own". As an observer and one who has attended religious ceremonies, my opinion is that this does seem to give some comfort but grief never really goes away.
Read "It's OK That You Are Not OK by Megan Devine. It's excellent.
There are grief support groups or at least there were prior to the Pandemic. I attended one 20 years ago after my mother died.
For me, it was enlightening to know that I really had no reason to complain as there were people there whose grief was far greater than mine. Some people had lost their toddlers to cancer, some had lost teenage children in car accidents or even homicide and there were people there who had lost their spouses, after 50 years of marriage. The grief was palpable.
Still, there is a healing quality when you are in the physical presence of others who share your burden, even if you say nothing but listen. If there is a support group in your area, I do recommend you give it a go.
Until then, I recommend It's OK That You're Not OK by Megan Devine. I am a nurse and death has been all too common, these past two years.
I like: It's OK That You Are Not OK by Megan Devine and I Wasn't Ready To Say Goodbye by Noel.
I am a nurse and we have lost so many over these past 2 years.