In Stephen Kings book "On Writing" he says that after you finish your first draft you should put it away and not think about it for six months. Then when you come back to it is not as fresh on your mind and feels different.
this is an awesome blurb on how to start a story from margaret atwood: https://www.masterclass.com/classes/margaret-atwood-teaches-creative-writing/chapters/story-and-plot
the master class is pricey but really great.
I'm not entirely sure if this is a common thing or not, but you know how when you get into writing an essay, you get into 'writing essay' mode and if anyone starts talking to you after you've spent an hour or two on it, you find yourself coming off somewhat pedantic in the way you speak?
It's a cultivated thing that education systems teach you over time & for which you practice a lot for, you know?
I think 'finding' & developing your narrative writing style can be similar to this. You have to cultivate it over time with lots of reading and lots of practice. Eventually, while you write, you'll find yourself veering away from 'definitely,' 'awesome,' etc. if it just doesn't match with your developed narrative style.
In the meantime though, you can use this word frequency counter, although it includes counting articles & pronouns so that's not that helpful...
I think the Hemingway app (listed under 'Productivity' in the header) gives you some fun feedback even if you don't want to follow it in some instances.
Carrier Pilot by Len Deighton -- life aboard HMS Illustrious in WW2, in the Pacific Theater
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01MQGD6AF
Hellcat Tales by Robert Gadbois -- discusses his training and his posting, as well as his participation starting in 1942 and his transfer from dive bomber to fighter
https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/hellcat-tales-robert-gabby-gadbois/1112408513
im currently using a program i found from the internet, it has very simple features which makes it less distractive while im writing.
here's the link: https://www.calmlywriter.com/online/
there is a google extension for it too :)
This book. You can get it used cheaper, but it has rescued my cluelessness many times. You can look up possible body language cues, thoughts, and visceral responses for many emotions.
https://www.amazon.com/Emotion-Thesaurus-Writers-Character-Expression/dp/1475004958
Thank you so much!!! Here is Grim Ambition on Amazon which is $15 for paperback and for a little while, .99 on Kindle. :D I really appreciate it!!! If you do read it, I'd love to hear your thoughts. :)