My husband is pretty helpful - but I do have to be very direct and specific if I want something done and within a certain time frame sometimes. I'm actually thinking about trying out this app called Our Home. I feel kind of lame for using it but I think it will come in handy with baby-related stuff and helping both of us remember things (like when it's garbage day or when one of us has to pick up or drop our kid off from daycare) :) http://ourhomeapp.com/
I read the conversation and did some thinking myself. I have the same problem, I never seem to get anything done at home because:
I do like a clean house AND I like seeing progress/metrics/points/whatever, so I did another search for a gamified housekeeping app and I found one! ourhomeapp.com I'm hoping that this will make me want to get more productive instead of spending time on Reddit.
I'm giving it a spin for a couple of weeks. :)
I really like the app OurHome, which suggests chores based on room, you can assign chores to other members (I have chore assignments for my dog, like her pills), give points and rewards, and has a grocery list function. Plus it's free as far as I'm aware.
Personally I really enjoyed dedicating some time to watching stuff together through a website like Rabb.it. You could watch cartoons or movies together, and it can be really bonding.
As far as rules and rewards go I'd suggest looking into an app like ourhome or choremonster, they let you set chores or activities that reward points, you can set up a rewards page on ourhome that lets them cash in points for a reward. You could customise them to whatever you want. Actual rules and such really depend on the little tbh, and it's something you learn to develop together over time as you realise what they want you to have control over and what they don't etc, what makes you both comfy etc etc.
Check out the OurHome app ( http://ourhomeapp.com ) on your app store. It has chore sharing with a point system that go toward rewards of your choice. I just started implementing this in my house (Family of 4 adults, 2 tweens, and toddler.) It also has a grocery list feature! If he has trouble quantifying the impact work you do vs work he does it might help.
One thing my mom started doing in her relationship was bullet journaling her daily tasks, the time it took to do them, and her mood after. This also helped het figure out the most stressful chores each had, and they even traded a few chores. It also helped open up communication for some other problems in their marriage. (4 kids when she started doing this, 5 now, 4 dogs)
This is what we use, and I think it covers all your requests. I know it's available on both os, you can create rooms by using "categories" (which you can also use as a filter to see tasks for one category at a time), it shows timestamps of completed tasks, and you can set them recur in various ways. You can also assign points to each task and set up a reward shop. There's also a grocery list, but we use another app for that instead.
I am not yet a parent, our little boy will be born the end of the summer. Here is a tool that we definitely are going to use as he grows up, it's called ourhome. http://ourhomeapp.com/ it's a home chore and reward management system. For the kids can check off if they completed their chores and they can accrue points that they can use towards redeeming set Rewards