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Me replying 14 years later: UnFuck Your Habitat Yes yes yes I know it's supposedly for cleaning & decluttering (which, ok, I need help with too), but I use the timer for helping me concentrate (it's default is 20/10). Also you can set your personal "To Un-Fork List" to just about anything you want (so I put all sorts of things I need to get done in there so I can get stars in the achievement section xD).
My favourite part? The "Random Unforking Motivation" button you can press that will yell things at you like "WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? GO NOW. RIGHT FORKING NOW". You can then click "I'm motivated" which takes you to your list or "Stop Yelling at me" which just turns it off (which I find hilarious b/c you clicked the button to make it yell at you in the first place).
Obviously this is not for everyone, but I'm the kind of person who made that "motivation" my lock screen b/c the yelling at me does work. ymmv, but it's definitely my fave.
If we're talking apps about organization, I have to mention Unfuck Your Habitat. (Link to Google Play store because that's what I use. No affiliation.) "Being an adult" to me also includes getting your home in order.
Best I can do, since I don't have an android, is to link to the ones that do have android versions or upcoming betas. Most of the rest of this thread is android though, so I hope you find good stuff there!
Ones I couldn't find: Procraster, balanced, grades, grid diary, all-in fitness, breathful, mindsnacks, hiragana pixel party, storm, kuvva, cute or not, flic, applichord, practice+, fixum, and lost yeti. That still leaves 21 apps on the list that ARE on android, and now you have all the links :) Hope you can find something you like!
> is this normal for a hoarder to have lovely areas in the home?
Yes, I think so. Most hoarders aren't like the ones you see on the TV shows--they represent the worst of the illness. A hoarder may have a couple of rooms that are just fine.
The issue is when the remaining rooms are cluttered to where they can't be used for their purpose. Example: your clutter crowds you out of your own bedroom, so you're sleeping on the couch and using the living room as a makeshift bedroom. Or the kitchen is so cluttered that you can't cook or even store food in it, so you eat take out all the time.
If helps, you might take a look at these Clutter Scales to get a sense of where you're at.
> Next question: Do i have to see a therapist? I'm a good reader and a good student, so can i teach myself to change and do the purging of stuff on my own?
From the sound of your post, you have:
People with hoarding disorder not only lack at least two of those things, but their thinking would be highly disordered to the point where they wouldn't even be able to perceive how bad their hoard is.
Based on that, I think you'd be a very strong candidate for doing it on your own. And I doubt seriously that you're a hoarder in the medical sense. I think you may just struggle with chronic disorganization.
I suggest that you:
Check out the following web sites:
You can also use phone apps to encourage you to tidy up:
You start small.
The secret to cleaning up is getting started. The secret to getting started is to break up your cleaning tasks into small manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one.
So firstly, set a small goal for yourself--one small goal per day. Perhaps something along the lines of:
You can find helpful small goals geared towards the chronically disorganized all over the Web. I particularly recommend:
The idea with "starting small" that completing a series of smaller organizing tasks allows you to feel a sense of accomplishment without becoming demotivated or exhausted. Try to begin with a visible area, a place where you'll see results quickly.
I personally find that when de-cluttering, it helps me to set a short time frame. Many folks here like the 20/10 unf*cking approach from UfYH, or the 15 minute Clutter Sweeps from About.com. The short time frame gives me the comfort of knowing that it will be over soon!
If the idea of cleaning out a big space or a timed de-cluttering is still too demotivating, focus on my first suggestion of just getting rid of three things a day. Three things may not seem like much, but remember that the goal is to re-train your brain so that it's not so demotivating or stress-inducing when you part with something. Big clean-ups mean lots of stress. But a small clean-up of three things? You're more likely to go, "Yeah, I just toss this."
As you work towards getting rid of your trash, be patient with the process and with yourself. After all, you didn't get into this mess overnight, and you're not going to get out of it overnight. As you get rid of things in layers over time, your motivation will increase as you see slow-but-sure progress.
> his response is "well I would clean if I noticed it needed cleaning" so I end up being the only person who cleans anything because I "notice it faster" (total BS).
Okay, I'm a mod over at /r/hoarding, and I have a little info that might help you. Please note that I'm not calling your husband or you a hoarder!
There is actually such a thing as "clutter blindness".
In its most malignant form, clutter blindness is a symptom of compulsive hoarding disorder. It's the reason why, on the TV shows, hoarders are always looking at their nearly-destroyed home and saying things like, "Oh, I can clean this up in a weekend" or "I really don't see what the problem is--it's not that bad". They're so deep into their delusion that they literally can't perceive exactly how bad their mess has gotten.
But in it's more common form, it means that a person has a higher tolerance for messiness than the other people in his life (usually the people living with him). If the clutter blind person was raised in a home with more clutter kept in it on a regular basis (as I was), or was never taught to house-clean, or even comes from another culture with a different housekeeping standard, he could have a different tolerance for clutter.
It sounds like your husband has--for whatever reason--developed a tolerance for clutter and mess that's a lot higher than yours. That's why he says "I would clean if I noticed it needed cleaning". He's probably seeing the mess, but it doesn't compute in his brain as a "mess" (i.e. clutter that needs to be address ASAP). As far as he's concerned, the clutter simply doesn't need cleaning yet. It may be that once he starts to be inconvenienced by the clutter (the piles get too many or too high, or he can't sit in his favorite chair because of the stuff in it, etc.), then he'll clean.
So how do you shake off clutter blindness? I can only tell you what's been shown to work for some compulsive hoarders:
The idea of the above two methods is to basically do a mindhack--hack the clutter blind person's mind so that he comprehends just how bad his mess looks to other people. Then you use that realization to motivate action.
In the end, though, once the clutter blind person starts to genuinely comprehend his mess, he has to train himself to look around his space and hone in on one out-of-place item at a time. That is: look around, find one thing that's out of place, and put it where it belongs over and over again. This might be tedious, depending on that tolerance, but it's the only way to break the habit.
Something else that might help: there are phone apps for dividing up housework. Perhaps it would be helpful for you and your husband to download them to divvy up chores.
Didn't mean for this to be so long. I hope you don't think me rude for making suggestions!
OP, you might want to check out:
Unfuck Your Habitat. The app is named Unfilth Your Habitat to get around the naming rules on the app stores:
Not quite a to do list, but I like Unfuck Your Habitat https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.ufyh.ufyh
Welcome to the sub! To me, you don't sound like a hoarder, but you do sound like you might have a hoarding tendency or two.
I second the poster that recommended that you check out /r/declutter. I also think you might be helped by having a cleaning schedule once you settle into your new place.
First, here's a simple housecleaning schedule to get you started.
There are also phone apps designed to remind you to do your chores regularly. Here's what I've found:
Welcome to our sub! Just so you know, AD(H)D can absolutely be a factor in causing hoarding behaviors. Research shows that hoarders tend to have higher rates of ADHD (inattentive type).
I suggest that you take a look at these resources:
Also, ADDitude Magazine has some helpful articles geared towards folks with AD(H)D:
And see also:
ADHD Podcast: ADHD Support Talk Radio - Clutter, Hoarding and Adult ADD / ADHD
/r/ADHD is a support sub for people living with A(D)HD and may be able to offer advice on decluttering.
Some folks with A(D)HD have found that using phone apps to tidy and stay organized helps, so you might try these:
As a general rule, you want to <strong>START SMALL</strong>. You didn't get into this mess overnight, and you won't get out of it overnight. Rome wasn't built in a day. This is a marathon, not a sprint. Etc., etc.--my point is, it's admirable if you want to sail in and tackle it all at once, but that's a very, very tough thing to do, and not a recommended strategy.
Big successes are built on top of little ones, so focus on the things you can do in under a few minutes. You'll notice that most of the tools listed above have you doing 10, 15, or 20 minute tasks. That's because bite-sized tasks are what help you feel a sense of accomplishment, which in turns helps you stay motivated.
Personally, I'm a fan of the 40 Bags in 40 Days De-Cluttering Challenge. 40 Bags in 40 Days is a forty-day period where you declutter one area a day. It's an easy goal that's also easy to remember. The official challenge runs annually and coincides with the 40 days of Lent, but some people find it useful to schedule the challenges for themselves during other times of the year. See this post to learn more.
> I am scared that I won't have the motivation to keep cleaning once I get back into my home. Like legit terrified.
I don't know what your timeframe for moving is, but how about you do the 40 Bags in 40 Day De-Cluttering Challenge? Or a version of it--maybe you do 30 Bags in 30 Days, or 40 bags in 20 Day.
Do you have a smart phone? There are smartphone apps to remind you to clean:
Found it! It's 99¢
Unfuck Your Habitat helped me a lot. It allows you a specified time for each room with breaks and everything. Sorry I'm not good at explaining but it's free on iOS and Android. If anything take a gander at their website. It's full of great advice.
Their website http://www.unfuckyourhabitat.com/
Android https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.ufyh.ufyh&hl=en
iOS https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/unfilth-your-habitat/id542909191?mt=8
Yep. IPhone and website, too.