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This could be a few things, ranging from kinda serious to no big deal. Mind you I am guessing here based on very little information and IANAD, so definitely get checked by and confirmation from a doctor, whatever you do. With that said, it could be due to dehydration, low iron anemia, a heart arrythmia, high or low blood pressure, low blood sugar or the most likely culprit orthostatic or postural hypotension. From the Mayo site, they define it as : "Orthostatic hypotension — also called postural hypotension — is a form of low blood pressure that happens when you stand up from sitting or lying down. Orthostatic hypotension can make you feel dizzy or lightheaded, and maybe even faint."

If it is ongoing or severe, it could be a signal for another more serious health problem, so definitely get it checked out just to be safe. Here is the Mayo site with more info. Seems to match the symptoms you cited.

Not sure about most people, but I think it is a very common thing. I went through a similar thing. I actually didn't start to "figure out" life until my 30's. I'd say it is common because young people are trained to follow their parents' and / or society's expectations instead of understanding their own personal needs, goals, or outlook on life. I needed to do some living and soul searching - sometimes that is hard to do when you have the juggernaut of a career or family carrying you forward. Edit: To expand on this a little bit - you could find it helpful to visit a counselor or life coach to help you sort through your feelings. Don't be afraid. I also recommend some quiet time each day to think over what you really want in life, perhaps write down your frustrations and desires. I personally have found some Buddhist writings helpful, not that I'm actually a Buddhist. One good book, if you're interested, is Thich Nhat Hanh, Peace is Every Step.

I feel a lot like you do and was planning to study philosophy, thinking it might help. Thanks for saving me the trouble.

You might try reading Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl, if you haven't already. It helped me for a little while.

There's a great app called Happy Couples that you and your significant other can "play" -- it's basically a multiple choice series of 5 questions per day on responsibilities, information, sex, etc.

Really good for seeing how well you know each other, and finding out things you wouldn't normally think to ask.

Yes. "The Feeling Good Handbook" by Dr. George Burns. It's an at-home primer on cognitive behavioral therapy that's a heck of a lot cheaper (and easier to schedule) than in person counseling. It's not preachy, melodramatic, or condescending, and gives you exercises you can do immediately to deal with depression, anxiety, and panic attacks. It's also great for dealing with confidence issues and imposter syndrome.

I happened upon a copy of this book when I was in a depressive doom spiral (thanks to an abusive relationship) and it gave me the tools I needed to get my head straightened out so I could start taking care of myself again.

The Bogleheads Guide to Investing. It's not a get-rich quick book by any stretch, but it empowers the reader to make their own educated financial decisions. I read it three years ago and completely turned around my financial life, which made a huge difference in the rest of my life.

I really like Awaken The Giant Within by Anthony Robbins. It helped me with goals and focus. If you have a commute, you can listen to him on YouTube, in addition to reading the book. The One Thing by Gary Keller is really good as well. And there's always the classic How To Win Friends and Influence People. It was written in 1936, but the core principles are timeless and very helpful. I listen to the audio book a couple of times a year. I also really like The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen Covey and How Successful People Think by John Maxwell. Pretty much anything by John Maxwell is great, actually.

Huh. You can actually buy something like that on Amazon. $15 for a book of blank pages.

I might get this, though.

>I also moved to a new state a few months ago, so that’s another challenge. How do you make friends in your 40’s when you are kid-less and don’t drink booze?

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I"m in the same boat..please let me know if you figure it out! I joined a gym where people seem friendly and I'm trying meetup.com, but nothing is really clicking so far.

Oldest: Tiny (tip of your pinky) ancient Roman coin.

Oldest in modern times: an 89 year old The Pop Up Mickey Mouse book. All of the pop-ups are in excellent condition. (This has not been "well loved" by a child but rather probably sat unused on a shelf.)

Oldest that I'm the original owner: stuffed turtle that I was given on my first Christmas in 1979. He was always my favorite stuffed animal and has been "well loved". I actually found a new old stock one on ebay a year ago. The difference between mine and the new one is pretty drastic.

I don't know how to write this without sounding like a weirdo, so I'll just write it:

I started having back pain as a young adult. Doctors couldn't find anything and no medical or alternative treatment helped. I'd spend weeks in excruciating pain and no one could help me.

Then someone gave me this book. And I swear: by the time I finished reading it, I was healed. This is the book. It works like magic. I still get back pains, but not as frequently and definitely not as bad. Stretching, strengthening the core muscles and taking OTC pain medications are all I need now.

I'm working my way through this list with audiobooks (honestly if I had to make even more time to read them I'd never get to them): http://www.artofmanliness.com/2016/11/28/100-books-every-man-read/ It's almost been a year and I'm about 20 books in.

I'm currently on Hemmingway's The Sun Also Rises. After some heavy listening with 75 hours of Edmund Morris' Theodore Roosevelt trilogy, the Hemmingway is a delight.

Reading about Roosevelt, who was the president when he turned 42, made me feel like a slacker. The first book, The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt, was exhausting.

A Couple:

The Spirit of Kaizen by Robert Maurer

The War of Art by Steven Pressfield

Not as influential as those two but, more recently read The Nerdist Way by Chris Hardwick. It was a good read with some helpful nuggets of wisdom.

I should have included more info as well: Originally produced under the title, Ambition to Meaning. In this compelling film, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer explores the spiritual journey from ambition to meaning. The powerful shift from the ego constructs we are taught early in life by parents and society - which promote an emphasis on achievement and accumulation - are shown in contrast to a life of meaning, focused on serving and giving back. Through the intertwined stories of an overachieving businessman, a mother of two seeking her own expression in the world, and a director trying to make a name for himself, this entertaining film not only inspires, but also teaches us how to create a life of meaning and purpose. http://www.amazon.com/The-Shift-Dr-Wayne-Dyer/dp/1401926347