My go-to is this bad boy and the pair of earbuds that came with my s10. I work in a big ol' cubicle farm and this combo will block out all of my coworkers and let me focus without hurting my ears.
Hey, I have been in a very similar situation in my life. You're doing great and I'm proud of you for continuing to fight.
Something that I've begun to use recently is a magnetic calendar to plan my day. I don't have the time of day marked, but it's divided into three sections per day (morning, midday, evening) where I add tasks. I make sure to place a fun task after a boring task to motivate me.
Another thing that's helped me is this time tool. "In five minutes I have to get up and do X"
Sometimes when I dont start a task when I should it's because I actually dont know how to start the task. For example: I need to take a shower. I have to sort out the order in my head in order to execute the task; it'll go something like: "get out of bed, put a robe on, go to the bathroom, turn shower on, remove robe, get into the shower, shampoo, conditioner" etc.
I hope this helps. If it doesn't, I really hope you find strategies that work for you :)
Get yourself fun stuff!! I hate keeping track of a calendar, so I buy the cutest one I can find (with and ADHD-friendly layout) and pens that are pretty + satisfying to write with, suddenly I’m looking forward to writing that appointment down instead of dreading it.
In your case, I’d recommend a flavor of toothpaste you truly enjoy (try something fruity or bubblegum, if you hate mint— most kids’ toothpastes still have plenty of fluoride so look in the kids section!) and a toothbrush that feels good in your hand and mouth. I love this Colgate toothbrush, it’s so plush and never hurts my mouth:
Also, writing encouraging reminders on your mirror sounds silly but it’s great! Good luck.
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.doubleblacksoftware.caloriecounter
I really enjoy this one. No need for accounts or long steps. Just type the food and amount of calories once, it saves, then you can just click it later if you eat the same food again
If you want to get real fancy, buy something like this: https://smile.amazon.com/Apple-Peeler-Corer-Cucina-Pro/dp/B0000DZ16W/ref=sr\_1\_1\_sspa?crid=1IVAMGYVGSSOG&keywords=spiral+apple+slicer+and+corer&qid=1666133905&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIzLjQ1IiwicXNhIjoiMi44MyIsInFzcCI6IjIuNTQifQ%3D%3D&sprefi...
Haven't finished it, but it's quite good
I understand you. I think we are all super thankful for Reddit. I feel like finally I have found people who don't just understand me but have the exact same thoughts and emotions
Ugh so I bought this book which was recommended by many: https://www.amazon.com/You-Mean-Lazy-Stupid-Crazy/dp/0743264487?language=en_US&currency=USD
but I never read it. People said it’s good, but consider buying only when you know you will read it💀
Haha, classic
fwiw, The book is worth a look. The first sections are mostly him justifying the rationale behind the methodology.
One take-away I can give you is this; Make sure your to-do lists contain only crystal clear and explicit actions. Never write something like "bank", or "anne's birthday". You need to write exactly which action you need to take to move towards any desired outcome.
Ideally, you'll have a projects list somewhere where you've clarified what that outcome is. e.g., "bank" isn't an outcome.
Sub-divide your to-do (next actions) list into contexts (either with tags or with separate sub-lists) that allow you to see the thing you need to do when it's actually possible or relevant. For example, some common contexts would be
For a more complete summary of the methodology, I can recommend these two: * GTD in 15 minutes – A Pragmatic Guide to Getting Things Done * GTD in Todoist
I do a few things.
I started putting a pop socket on my phone, and the ..socket for it on my wall(like the pop socket holder thing the tab on the back of the phone clips into) with the charger. So the phone is AWAY from the bed in a specific spot I have to walk to
I set the phone up with a paired smartwatch (I use a cheap Amazfit one) and a sleep tracking app,(https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.urbandroid.sleep) so it wakes me up between sleep cycles with a bit that buzzes on my arm, and then buzzed every 10 minutes till I go to work, so I keep track of time.
I use an ereader at night, not a tablet, so I'm not looking at a moving screen, which makes it easier to fall asleep
Get a pair of headband headphones, like these ones. Lightweight and comfy to sleep with. Because it has its own volume, play/pause, and skip controls, you have no real need to keep your phone with you in the bed. Turn on your favorite podcast with a sleep timer at night, and your alarm will play from the headphones as well. Since this keeps your phone away from your bed, you have to get up to turn it off in the morning.
Next, your phone may have a setting to "hide" apps without uninstalling. Most ADHDers have an "out of sight, out of mind" problem so hiding time-sucking apps drastically reduced my usage even though I still occasionally opened them up. It had the added effect of reducing clutter on my screen so I was able to more easily find and focus on important stuff like my calendar, reminders, and to-do list. Both of these things feed into each other IME.
Next, BABY STEPS. Don't try to put your phone on the other side of the room just because you got your headphones, and don't try to just uninstall the time-sucking apps willy-nilly. Keep your phone on your nightstand next to the bed, to start with, and use the option to hide apps like I mentioned.
There are lockable medication bags you can get online- Amazon has tons of options! You may be able to use a lockable money pouch or a “stash bag” like this too- they seem to be cheaper if price is a concern.
My headphones are near identical to this set, and if what I've found is correct then this set is well worth the money. I wouldn't recommend sleeping on your side with these, but it won't wake you up with a jolt of pain if you roll around a bit. Big cups, soft foam, flat profile, it's a good set for sleeping with.
I developed actual bruxism while on Vyvanse. I cracked teeth. That, combined with intense dry mouth and poor symptom management, led me to switch back to Dexedrine ER.
I still deal with muscle tension, just not located in the jaw. Magnesium at night helps, but really "mindfulness" around my body helped more. (I know that's annoying, just what worked for me.) I use an open-source, free app on my work computer (Stretchly)--it goes off every 30 minutes and reminds me to look away from the screen, drop my shoulders, relax my jaw, etc.
If self help doesn't...well...help, you might consider talking to your doctor about switching meds. Sometimes the side effects aren't worth it. (Sometimes they are--everyone's body reacts differently!)
I bought a cheapo pair ($30) of over ear headphones a few months ago. Had an inpatient surgery and needed to be able to drown out the hospital noises. They actually worked quite well and are comfortable.
The Greek mythology told by Stephen Fry.
I've read the book, not listened to it, but Fry is an amazing writer and narator, so this should be great.
https://www.amazon.com/Mythos-Stephen-Fry-audiobook/dp/B07WKRP2F2
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B079P7BFYL/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_fabt1_P4hRFbD2VY3PE, also seen at Costco in my area. Soy and Lactose free! I recommend making your own, tbh I just mix it in water. Different powder, but same concept.
Fatty and protein rich soup: Take an amount of meat, preferably ones labeled "for stew". Beef for stew, pork for stew, whatever. Throw in hella canned or pre-soaked beans. Chop up some taters, carrots, celery, whatever firm when raw veg you like and boil them in the stew. Cook 2-4 hours or up to 8, but be careful not to let it boil down too much. You can always add back in water. My preferred way is to use an instant pot or a crockpot, less mussing around.
Easy to cook filling food that isn't bland: One protein, one starch, one veg. I take a serving of Protein, cooking it in a pan with salt, pepper, and whatever spices I'm down with that day. Rosemary for pork, thyme for chicken, idk about beef I don't eat it anymore. Take your starch and either warm it up in the oven (bread, potato) or boil it (noodles). Take a bag of frozen vegetables and cook it in the pan you used to cook your meat at a high temp while the meat rests and cools a little. If noodles are your starch, add sauce if desired. If it's rice, you're done. If you did potatoes or bread, butter and serve.
Experiment with spices. I freaking love ground mustard and paprika.