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The two BIGGEST things that have helped me (aside from being with friends all day) are reading books, and working out. Working out is an excellent way to channel negative energy and thoughts into positive outcomes. I've never been in better shape. Reading books is also a great way to keep your mind off of things. Read whatever you find interesting. Personally I don't read a lot of fiction books, I like reading financial books and self-improvement books. I recommend "The Power of Habit". Great read. My relationship lasted 3 years, and it's been 3 months since the break up. I'm like...95% over her. Of course I still think about her like 10-20 times a day. But the feeling of sadness and depression associated with those memories of her have now become feelings of happiness and I think about how proud I am of myself for coming so far.

I am sorry that you are experiencing this right now.

Over the past few months, I went through a breakup with my fiance, while wrapping up undergrad, transitioning into grad school, preparing for the LSAT, and grieving the death of my grandfather. This also meant that we needed to move (we lived together for two years). All of this in tandem with Covid-19, made me feel like the world was OVER. I personally believe in souls, and the worst of it was when I felt like mine was sobbing through me. Some days it still does. I am still learning that you have to learn to live with the past, and as unfortunate as the experience was - you cannot refute its impact. Some days are better than others. The hopelessness will creep up - but it can (when you garner the ability) subside. I highly recommend the headspace app (embedded in the word, with a free year subscription - I hope it helps). More specifically, their 'acceptance' guided meditation practices. I repeat, some days are terrible (mentally, physically, and emotionally). Some days are beautiful. The healing process is not linear, in my experience. Therapy has also been a catalyst for my process. If you want to talk or someone to listen- please do not hesitate, AT ALL. Give yourself space to properly mourn. Everything you feel is valid. This process is equally as emotional as it is physiological. Lastly, I am proud of you for being present. Choosing to both breathe and see your days through.

This sounds like it was a really difficult loss for you and has put you right back to square one. It also sounds like this took you by total surprise and left you alone, sad, and scared. It is so scary to feel like we have lost someone so important to us, especially when we see them with another person! I have been there and thankfully I was able to learn some tools and strategies to help me and I offer support to people just like you to who want to heal. I offer free 15 minute Break-up Breakthrough Call at this link: https://calendly.com/lauragannon90/healing-advice. Set up a call when you feel ready!

This sounds really difficult for you. It sounds like this guy gave you a lot of wounds that have not seemed to even scab. I am sure being alone in lockdown makes this even harder for you! I am curious how he responded to you calling him out? Even so, it sounds like whatever he was saying to you before his apology was really traumatic. I dated someone similar in the past and it was very hard to heal. I have been there and thankfully I was able to learn some tools and strategies to help me and I offer support to people just like you to who want to heal. I offer free 15 minute Break-up Breakthrough Call at this link: https://calendly.com/lauragannon90/healing-advice. Set up a call when you feel ready!

This sounds like you had a big loss. It's so hard when someone who was so important to us does suddenly become a stranger. I felt that same way when I went through my own break-up. I remember even during it it was like he suddenly changed in that moment and it was scary. It was really hard to get back up again. I have been there and thankfully I was able to learn some tools and strategies to help me and I offer support to people just like you to who want to heal. I offer free 15 minute Break-up Breakthrough Call at this link: https://calendly.com/lauragannon90/healing-advice. Set up a call when you feel ready!

This sounds like it was a really hard break-up and there are parts of you that still have not healed. It's natural to feel some guilt after a life event like this and even worse when there are outside factors causing it. I have been there and thankfully I was able to learn some tools and strategies to help me and I offer support to people just like you to who want to heal. I offer free 15 minute Break-up Breakthrough Call at this link: https://calendly.com/lauragannon90/healing-advice. Set up a call when you feel ready!

Sleeping has been one of my weak-points too; since the breakup I've only been able to fall asleep when I'm exhausted. So most of the time I don't get to bed around 1 or 2am, which is a problem when I have to be up a 6am for class. It's a shitty cycle because then I'm tired and sad all day. If I try to go to bed early, my mind wanders and the next thing I know I'm crying.

Luckily I haven't had reoccurring dreams, but I've had a few dreams. In them she's been cold and distant. So I know how you feel. I'm sorry that you're in this situation. Just know you're not alone. Dreams are your subconscious at work. You can't control them, but try not to read too much into them. I've had some nasty ones similar to what you described. I know it's hard, but those are the toxic thoughts you want to get away from.

If you're interested in self-help books, I highly recommend this one. It's been a great source of comfort for me. It's worth a shot, and you can get a used copy for a few bucks.

If you need someone to talk to feel free to PM me. Most likely we're experiencing a lot of the same emotions.