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I can back you up 100% as the stalker who I encountered has a completely reputable surface life. His public image was his greatest weapon in not only protecting himself, but in getting people to not believe me. And when someone doesn't believe a stalking victim, it's one of the worst things that can happen to them.

This was a book that helped me learn a lot about the different kinds of stalkers.

The Psychology of Stalking by J. Reid Meloy

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.jgg.torchvault&hl=en_GB&gl=US

Something like this? If she's getting to see the stalkers phone close enough to make it the detail them it is someone she knows well enough. What else can you tell us about what is going on?

Your ex may have installed stalkerware on your phone or computer...

Stalkerware and spyware apps can send information about your logins, can access your camera, mic or location, record your screen movements etc, back to the person who is stalking you. The traced app is free and you can download it from the Google Play Store: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=app.traced. It looks at a range of markers to detect whether an app is behaving suspiciously in the background, and alerts you in real time if something unexpected happens.

Full disclosure - I work at traced :) We’ve released our Android app and will be launching an iOS version at the end of this month (fingers crossed!). While we detect all kinds of suspicious apps, we’re seeing a lot of stalkerware, and in fact, the more data about dodgy apps we can get, the better our systems learn to spot other suspicious behaviour.

I wish you the best of luck, and if you want more information, we’ll be pleased to help in any way we can.

Apparently, there is a free to try for a week app called Trapcall that can identify unknown numbers, though the reviews for it are pretty bad. Hopefully, it's just one of those annoying telemarketer robocalls.

Here's the link, for what it's worth: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.teltechcorp.trapcall&hl=en_US

Since this guy seems to like texts you might consider a text blocking app like this one. There’s others you can try if this one doesn’t work for you.

You can also try options 2-4 here.

I have never been stalked, personally, but I can recommend a great book to you called "The Gift of Fear." There's a lot of information in it on how to deal with a stalker. And not responding or reacting to their shenanigans is one of the suggestions, I believe. I included a link below, I hope that doesn't violate any rules for this sub.

https://www.amazon.com/Gift-Fear-Survival-Signals-Violence/dp/0440226198

When they know they aren’t going to be significant to their target in any important way, they aren’t going to just make themselves known or make direct contact early on. Deep down a lot of stalkers, including mine, know they’ll ultimately be rejected and a stalker can’t take rejection. They aren’t actually good at relationships; this includes those who seem on the surface to have good in-depth relationships, lack the depth it seems they have just looking from the outside. They can’t really relate to anyone. They build their target up and in a way ‘consume’ them which makes them feel like they’re having a close relationship with them when none actually exists except in their heads and fantasies. Speaking specifically on the love types of stalkers.

I could go on, but if you’re really interested in this subject, and having read a lot of source material on it; I recommend The Psychology of Stalking: Clinical and Forensic Perspectives https://www.amazon.com/dp/0124905617/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_RWX4JWMZP4HS173SGF7G?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1 - maybe cheaper on eBay.

IDK the answer to this. My only thought is to look up treatments for OCD behaviors.

People are a function of patterns of behavior. They repeat it over and over. 80-90% of your day is the same thing you did the day before. Try to figure out how to change your patterns (i.e. Power of Habit, etc.)

Husband is suspect. Check your computer(s) and phone for spyware. Check your vehicle for GPS trackers and microphones, etc.

I was talking about this book here before, and figured I should actually read it to find out what it’s about specifically. If you’re able to order it without your husband knowing, I recommend it. It can go through what can be used to stalk you electronically and helpful info on each.

STALKING THE STALKER: Fighting Back with High-tech Gadgets and Low-tech Know-how https://www.amazon.com/dp/0595383327/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_fabt1_CZySFbV6E62XT

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I’d recommend a scholarly book before an article to explain the reasons. For what OP has explained, it seems to be a love type which has the motivations I mentioned.

The Psychology of Stalking:... https://www.amazon.com/dp/0124905617?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

This book is one of the best, and thoroughly explains stalking and stalkers based on legitimate studies. This isn’t the only book I’ve read, but it is the top one I’d recommend to people being stalked.

Can you buy a door stopper for security? Something like this:

Master Lock 265D Door Security Bar, Adjustable from 27-1/2 in. to 44-1/2 in, White, Pack of 1 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0002YUX8I/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_tWzADbBZEBWJS

This person is obviously trying to unravel you. One of the best books I ever read is called The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker. I don’t know where you live or if you can buy from Amazon but it’s a great resource.

nice doesn't work with stalkers. read https://www.amazon.com/Gift-Fear-Gavin-Becker/dp/0440226198 this book. if you have zero interest in the guy and if you find his attentions creepy the best option is to thoroughly ignore him. any attention or response you give, just fuels his hope and the stalking may escalate.