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>Like I said I generally feel a lack of happiness about gender but not "bad" about it.

This is kind of what dysphoria felt like for me. I imagine not every cis person takes every last opportunity to look at themselves in the mirror and say "Damn, gurl!" to themselves, but... in my case, it was more about how my baseline was just a general apathy about my features to sadness or active distaste for some of my other body parts.

Looking through your post history, I think you might relate to a book I recently read: "Yes, You Are Trans Enough"

The author, Mia, is a trans woman who spent a lot of years not feeling explicitly bad about her body parts; or actively engaging in hobbies that didn't align with her AGAB. She also reports that she kind of was waiting for someone else to bestow the label "trans" upon her, feeling that because her experience was not like the experiences of other trans people around her, it was not a label that would be appropriate for her to take for herself.

Spoiler: She is trans enough, and you are too.

I'd say look at shape ware and pads. Lots of women use these sorts of things so they are easy to find: https://www.amazon.ca/POP-CLOSETS-Shapewear-Panties-Enhancer/dp/B08HYY9L1C/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=hip+pads+shapewear&qid=1625243814&sprefix=hip+pads&sr=8-3

Oh, and high heels do wonders for the calves and butt

Thanks for responding. It's encouraging to know that shaving will get easier.

But unfortunately I think it's mainly my voice that will kill me. I'm like… the bassest of the basses. I used to do Christopher Lee and Darth Vader impressions for friends, and stuff. And obviously I can't afford to hire, like, a specialized voice trainer.

>Judging by the sound of a $200 office visit I'd guess you don't have insurance. Good news! You have FOUR days left to sign up for the ACA: https://www.healthcare.gov/, which may be free for you (depending on your income), depending on what the orange man decides.

I technically went in for that visit before Obamacare even existed. I now have Medicaid with my father, but I think I lose it once I turn 26 in april. Also, who knows if Medicaid would pay for HRT and other stuff in a conservative state like North Dakota. Probably not.

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I met my wife on match.com in 2004, after I'd already transitioned. We''re married now, but we've been together since we met. Wouldn't trade her for the world.

Keep in mind the kind of people you want to attract. If you put yourself out there as the person to described above you are likely to attract the kind of person who's going to impress you with their sense of confidence and then walk of all you. Sure tindr makes it all about physical attraction. So how do you target that person on tindr so they read your picture like a killer thousand word profile?

Context - consider it.

You deserve everything the world has to offer. Don't wrap yourself in a bag full of labels that make it too heavy for anyone to pick up. If you act damaged, you'll attract damaged. Booo.

Chin up, you'll be great.

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I found these really nice. They are soft and stretchy and if you take the foam shields out they stealth under a shirt really easy. Cheap too.

https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/B0829TTX3S/ref=ppx\_yo\_dt\_b\_search\_asin\_image?ie=UTF8&psc=1

https://www.amazon.com/When-Egg-Cracked-Transgender-Story-ebook/dp/B08H53FF88/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=When+the+egg+cracked&qid=1599091436&refinements=p_n_publication_date%3A1250228011&rnid=1250225011&s=books&sr=1-1

I think that should be for the US store 😊

Gen X trans woman here.

Contrary to what our parents would tell us, it is certainly possible for a transgender person to 'know' when they're young. I did, I'm sure many others have too.

"The Opposition" will often lean hard on the strawman argument that 'what if your kid thinks they're a dinosaur?'.. and here's the counter argument.. good parents let their children play, and make beleive, and can find ways to work around such fancies. "Even dinosaurs need to eat! Look at these prehistoric leafy plants!" etc.

While the metaphor is indeed a construct, I think there's a message there, which is simply just lean in on support. Your child, at 7.. that's what, first or second grade already? Is old enough to know what boys and girls are socially, and can understand things like boys grow up to be men and daddies and husbands and such.

There's a great book out there called "I Am Jazz" and if you look on the 'also reccommended' offerings on that Amazon page, you'll see a lot of other good books out there for parents of trans and questioning kids, and with language suitable for those kids as well.

Just another point, you made this comment: >Today she told me she feels like a boy but wants to be a girl.

It's conceivable that your child is currently wrestling with the dichotomy between social, familial, and potentially religious expectations, bodily realities, and their personal sense of identity.

But I can tell you what all the books are going to boil down to here.

Be patient, Be Loving, Be an adult advocate for your child's wishes. Be willing to turn on a dime for them, and most of all Be THERE when the tears inevitably come, from wherever they come.

Rather than trying to divine what your child means.. ask them.

Here, try this. It's intended for those who struggle with self harm, but it's useful for anyone who struggles with destructive thoughts - which is something you do and something I used to do.

[Note: clinical terms incoming]

Okay, so for the full-tuck (what you're talking about), after getting the testes back up into the inguinal canals, I generally pull the now-basically-empty scrotum back until it's taut, then do the same with the penis. Then I use a gaff to hold the whole mess in place. Generally stays put pretty well.

I gave my mom this book

Mom I Need to be a Girl https://www.amazon.com/Mom-I-Need-be-Girl/dp/1419684388

It's a bit dated but it helped my mom a lot because since the book is written from a Mom perspective, seeing her MTF daughter grow-up

I recommend reading this book. It's encouraged me to start facing who I am sooner rather than later. I'm 29 now and I have a long way to go, but start soon. I haven't started therapy or anything, yet, but I am going to. You should too.