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You have the Sexuality of MtF Transssexuals paper, that uses the same AGP questionnaire in MtF and cisgender females. In a 0-9 scale, MtF score a 7.5 average while cisgender females score 5.07 on average.

There was another survey from an Spanish team I can't find now. It used the same questionnaire in MtF and cisgender females. MtF reported as AGP around 90% while cisgender females did around 50%.

Here you have an analysis of the result of the Slater Codex survey about gender. The sample here were people who voluntarily decided to participate. That can create a sample bias, so the result is to be taken with a grain of salt. However, it's the same result again: cisgender females have a significant level of AGP, not as high as MtF, but clearly significant.

Testosterone changes you more than surgery.

The only reason to take testosterone is to obtain male secondary sex characteristics.

If you started T only wanting very specific changes and not others, you're probably going to have a bad time. You have to accept all of them. You can't pick and chose what changes you get or when. They are all on the table. You could end up bald with forest on your back.

I never wanted back hair, but that's what my genetics gave me.

Neither the hairy guy, nor bald guy, nor hairless guy decided one day they wanted that trait, but it's what they got. Just got to embrace it as part of being a man.

Testosterone is what makes men look, smell, and sound like men.

You're prob not going to look like the famous person you wish you looked like or that other trans guy on social media.

If you are not ok with looking like these guys, don't take T.

https://www.shutterstock.com/search/average+man

Someday you will be that middle aged man with thinning hair and out of date clothes.

https://www.amazon.com/Minding-Emotions-Mentalization-Psychotherapy-Psychoanalysis/dp/1462534996

Although this is generally for psych students, it's quite readable for any person who's curious -- Jurist uses a lot of examples in art, theatre, film, and literature to ground his points.

For a good understanding of trans identity start with some Judith Butler and then move on to Julia Serano. For a broader understanding of gender... I dunno The Feminist Mystique changed the world a lot.

I used these ones. I didn't use the entire insert though. I'm already 5'8", so it wasn't really needed, but it helped to make me feel better. They're very comfortable, surprisingly. They've had the added bonus of helping my knee issues 😂

Do you have an AM/PM pill organizer? Having one of those helped me a lot when I was taking oral HRT in regards to knowing when I've missed a dose and need to make up for it.

Eh, you just need get the right kind of epilator. This one in particular by Braun will work, trust me. https://www.amazon.com/Braun-Epilator-Removal-Silk-Epil-Sensosmart/dp/B07C2S3DMC. I have it but I just hate the pain.

And I feel but waxing doesn't last me a month unfortunately. They last me about 2-3 weeks b4 hair starts growing in again tbh. We grow hair faster than cis women. Although you might be fine with a slight stubble. Most cis women do not get their legs completely smooth on a regular basis.

This book has helped me a lot with voice. I also take lessons through the author's studio, but the book alone is still very good. And yeah, 4 months into lessons, I still struggle with consistently using my trained voice with others. And for the first month or two it was just horrible. My sympathies.

It does sound like you've been extremely busy in early transition. I've done a lot of the same things, and still have a bunch to do. It can be all-consuming for a bit, as I noted.

>There are spurts of time where I am focused in my own life, but I always get drawn back into how manly I look

I'm still there sometimes. I'm 15 months in and 42 years old. I got very lucky, physically, but still have small boobs and hips, and pre-op, and sometimes it can be hard to appreciate how far I've come. I first saw her in the mirror at 4 months, and it wasn't until about 10 months that it started getting more consistent. We're our own worst judges though - virtually everyone around me told me that I passed after about 5-6 months, and strangers definitely treated me that way.

You're in college? Do you have friends and others for support? I realize that things are much different than usual currently due to Covid, and if anything that makes early transition more difficult. I struggled for a while when lockdown hit, because I wasn't receiving daily gender affirmation from strangers.

I meant "insert specific population" but yes we agree, i am personally trying to be environmentaly conscious, i live vegetarian and mostly vegan for 15 years now and always try to minimise my environmental impact since before it was cool, lol.

You seem to have a very different experience with the transcommunity than i do.

I am mostly active ln r/asktransgender and i see a lot of kind words and people being very supportive.

In my local trans community i met so many nice people of different ages and perspectives, that are really good to talk to.

I have a lot of criticism for the status quo like you, but most individual people are very nice when you get through to them, past their fears and insecurities.

You seem to have a bit of a shitty time and i hope it get's better for you.

Here is a scientific and thoroughly researched book that might help a bit, based on very recent scientific findings from the last decade, always critically reflecting their findings.

https://www.amazon.de/Humankind-Hopeful-History-Rutger-Bregman/dp/1408898934

Have a good day.

here's the amazon link!