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You’re incredibly bright for recognizing this in your mother. My parents also enjoy antagonizing/manipulating me and I believe it contributed heavily to me developing an anxiety disorder. It took me a very long time - with the help of a great therapist - to recognize who they really were.

Given what you’re describing, I would highly recommend reading this book ... https://www.amazon.com/Brain-Talk-Mapping-Science-Everyone/dp/154837153X/ref=nodl_

I know this might not be much but I am proud that you are still pursuing what you believe to be right. This situation shows you are strong.

Do you have any friends that live on their own? In the situation you are in, you could easily apply to FAFSA and improve both your and their quality of life.

Face this as well. Many people with degrees are underemployed. The reason it is important to put your all into something is that it creates a passion since it is getting harder to find experience in the job or direction you want to go.

If you need money soon, check at your high school if it offers A+ certification though stressful (and sometimes you find yourself in the ridiculous situation like someone using a disk drive as a cupholder) would potentially give you the ability to move out as IT support. You could use this free resource: https://www.cybrary.it/

I am not sure what you should do otherwise. Maybe military? It has always been a route out of poverty and the minimum is a high school diploma. These are only ideas. I am not sure how your parents would react to you applying for the FAFSA. You could say you need the information for a job or something along the lines of the limited scope they accept. That is the reason I see IT or military as a way out for you. Hope this helps.

Get this book, on kindle if you don’t want her to see it. And do everything possible to get on your feet so you can leave. I’d also recommend the raisedbynarcissists subreddit.

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That's a really tough situation to be in and I can relate because my dad was an alcoholic and my older siblings weren't always the nicest. You definitely deserve better than how you are being treated. It's really important to have boundaries in place with toxic people and to determine whether or not you want to continue being in the company of such bad behaviour. What might be helpful is to write down how you feel which will help you better communicate with them if and when you do decide to take the call. Another thing I've learned is that "we teach people how they treat us" so until we can learn to stand up for ourselves, unfortunately people will continue to try to walk all over us. For me personally, moving out and interstate was the best decision I ever made. I was able to be free from the negative environment I was brought up in and really grow into my own person. I now am very selective of who I give myself time to and that's part of self preservation. One other thing you might useful is the book "The Art of Dealing with Toxic People", I've found it helpful with with different scenarios dealing with toxic people, I'll post the link here - https://www.amazon.com/Art-Dealing-Toxic-People-environment-ebook/dp/B0B3HJSN6T/ref=sr_1_1?crid=F1AARV2G2TV8&keywords=alexis+fenton&qid=1655462423&sprefix=alexis+fenton%2Caps%2C794&sr=8-1

I hope you can have some time for some self-care and reach out to people that are supportive of you.

Depending on which way the door swings you may be able to find a solution without drilling holes into the door or frame.

Something like this or other options. I just searched “no hole door lock” on Amazon.

No… no. Normal for me is daily.

That’s a weird restriction and I find it odd that you’re not being allowed to shower the desired amount.

I hope you are in a position to start living on your own, but in the meantime, look up dry shower wipes and a can of dry shampoo. You can get these for times when you feel icky and aren’t allowed to shower. Can be easily hidden.

What I consider normal: - Shower daily (get pits, butt, and privates) - Wash Hair every other day (needed frequency depends on hair) - deodorant daily - brush teeth 2 - 3 times a day - change shirt and underwear daily - jeans/shorts/pants max two wears - change sheets and pillow case weekly, two week max

Dirty clothes and sheets can contribute to you feeling or smelling icky. Dirty pillowcases hold onto the oil from your hair and skin and can make you break out.

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I hope you get a job soon and move out. But meanwhile, you could earn some money by developing apps and/or games, and I'll be more than happy to tell you how. 1- Learn scratch, you could either download their program or go to the online editor at https://scratch.mit.edu/ 2- After you're quite familiar with the concepts, and your creativity is boosted, you need to learn a programming language, a real one. I recommend that you learn Dart since you could use it to develop apps 3- After you've learnt Dart, and have done many projects, the next step is to learn Flutter. It is not necessary to master Dart, but it's important to do so for flutter. 4- After you've mastered flutter (or at least can develop the apps you'd like), you can come up with an idea, and develop an app. The best thing when using flutter is that the apps you develop are compatible with both Android and IOS.

Note1: to earn money, you need in-app purchases in your app, or put ads Note2: use Android Studio when developing flutter apps. When you're learning, use the online editor at https://flutter.dev/

I hope this helps you earn some money, and who knows it could even turn out to be a full-time job if things go the right way and you'll be earning lots and lots of money. But be patient as it might take from 1 month upto maybe 3 if you wanna develop the required skills to develop great apps.

Good luck ;-)

Searched "temporary lock" on Amazon and found "Door Knob Lock Out Device". Gonna look into something like this for myself as well since my particular situation isn't amenable to changing the current door knob for a keyed entry doorknob. An actual keyed doorknob will be much less expensive (around $10 at Walmart) and can be changed with a screwdriver or two if he has that option. I would suggest doing some research on these models (or if he's really bold, switch the lock from the sister's room to his room. Should only take a few minutes).