ProTip for taking a dildo eventually, use a lube launcher to squirt lube inside while smothering lube outside like normal. Sometimes when going deeper you have enough at the entrance but not inside and this helps s lot.
Have fun!
sounds like you started out with something that was too big. I'd recommend looking for something narrow and made of a silicone. something like this looks like it'd be a good start. if that would still be too thick for you then I would recommend perhaps doing a DIY toy of a size that you know you can handle.
Clean yourself up, get a bottle of nice lube, this thing, then slowly start with the wider end and don't stop until it starts feeling good (or you feel sharp pain, which means you overdid it and should stop for the next 3-ish days). It's also a good idea to get yourself very aroused using your penis first and then focusing only on your butt.
If you're hitting the prostate right then it should feel like you're going to pee. If you start moving the toy more intensly then that "feeling" will instead become real pee coming out so you have to clench your butt muscles while going faster and harder. This has the added benefit of making it feel better, so you should honestly keep flexing and unflexing the muscles all the time even if you don't need to keep them flexed at all times.
You can try listening to a metronome audio like this on youtube to keep rythm for the strokes.
Take a shit before using them. If you plan on doing anything anal, try to eat more fiber in your diet(vegetables, fruits),.Lube is important, use a water based one, otherwise it can ruin your toys over time. Getting a water resistant vibrator/plug is great for a bath time with candles, a bath bomb, and erotic fiction. One of those can be found here https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B077PSKZ3P/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00__o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1 It is of good quality for it's price and a great starter considering it is about the size of your ring finger. I hope this helps, love ~♡❧
It normally gives a bit of pain when going in but once it is in it can be great. This is the one i use. You just do the standard masturbation and it moves the butt plug giving both stimulations at once.
My wife (cis) uses this one on me (trans woman)
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07PRC98SP/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1
We like it a lot. It has great vibrations and she has no issues getting it to stay in. It even comes with a remote to make adjusting the vibrations while in use easier. Our only complaint is that it could be a *bit* longer just to accommodate more positions easily. But that would also be solved by one or both of us losing weight, so that isn't really the product's fault.
In my experience most sex toys meant for insertion will have both binary genders in the title, so if you have a non-binary identity, you’re out of luck with amazon, as unfortunately, putting as many gendered terms in the title as possible is how people search and find the product.
That being said, I find that CalExotics brand products are pretty good at gender neutral marketing, and I personally appreciate a few of their products. Example
The book/zine Fucking Trans Women is like ten years old but has some good stuff in it. Something I really liked was that the author shows a diagram of different genital nerves and basically points out that stimulating any of them can feel good, however you do it.
Also (I can't remember if this is in that book or not), you can indirectly stimulate the prostate from the outside by putting pressure on the perineum.
I was hoping BD was on Amazon too. I haven’t found any fantasy erotica that hits me just right but those look like so much fun. I went with a Hush because it can be controlled via app.
Sort by most expensive and filter out anything below 4 stars. It clears a lot of questionable merchandise. The manufacturer I found uses binary “his or her” language, so not perfect but better. My Amazon GC was $100, so I wanted to get something good. My advice is save for the Bad Dragon and buy direct or search for queer owned online shops. It’s better to keep money within community when ever possible.
I haven't tried them before but maybe something like this could work given you find one with a small enough base? https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01KA1R29A/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_7UXKFbDD9AXHV
I have the same problem tbh, I want to try a like automatic stroker or a stronger anal vibe but it's broke bitch hours lmaooo
good ol amazon. This is the one I got and that I don't recommend. And as I said beware of not trans friendly language if that's a trigger for you.
I got these tanktop/camisoles from Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07BHHRTYH They also have a camisole version too, in the same material. They're 95% Modal/5% Spandex and super soft/stretchy.
I got a DC power supply to make all of my battery-powered toys into plug-in toys, with infinitely variable speed between 0-30V and 0-10A. 300W is way more than any sex toy would use. Some basic understanding of electricity is required, and sometimes soldering. Most battery powered toys are designed to run at 1.5V-6V maximum, and would actually be damaged (possibly causing injury) if given too much power, so this is a use-at-your-own-risk solution.
I just realized how appropriate it would be to make artwork of a trans woman hacking her sex toys for better performance. I'm not an artist, unfortunately. I first did this in my egg phase, and didn't really think of it as a sign of things to come.
The Endless Fun from satisfier, looks like a weird wishbone /wand, but it's my favorite, the tips vibrate and can wrap around to the sensitive underside of the shaft (frenulum area)
Have you looked into a hitachi magic wand? They're pretty amazing and no worrying about batteries. This is the one I have!
Original Magic Wand by Vibratex with IntiMD Trigger Pin Point Attachment
by Oui Lab
Learn more: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07M7FY91Q/ref=cm\_sw\_em\_r\_mt\_dp\_SQM39D2GX77CTCQE0Z2R
Me too. I can suggest you an app i'm using, it's very useful, here's the link. If the link don't work the name of the app is "Voice Tools: Pitch, Tone, & Volume"
follow directions it better to go under time then to go over. You can always try again the next day.
If your paranoid you can immediacy stop the reaction with neutralizing shampoo.
https://www.amazon.com/Skin-Im-Jenny-Wood-ebook/dp/B079YL94YW/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8This is a story that I just came across. Its very sweet and believable. And sexy/hot too.
Cis M here, BUY THE FUCKING WAND OMG JUST DO IT RIGHT NOW AND NEVER LOOK BACK I HATE MYSELF FOR WAITING SO LONG TO GET IT!
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Ummm... so yeah, I like it. Vibratex is the brand you want to get, they license the original Hitatchi Magic Wand now, they are the "real" magic wands. Get the original corded version. The Wireless and "Plus" versions supposedly can overheat after 15-20 minutes and shutdown. This is the link: https://www.amazon.com/Original-Magic-IntiMD-Trigger-Attachment/dp/B07M7FY91Q/ref=sxts_sxwds-bia-wc-p13n1_0?cv_ct_cx=vibratex+wand&dchild=1&keywords=vibratex+wand&pd_rd_i=B07M7FY91Q&pd_rd_r=5f0788e2-cded-4a50-888c-0e38f2f0dc6f&pd_rd_w=oRBPd&pd_rd_wg=uiR6b&pf_rd_p=1835a2a9-7ed8-48dc-ad07-fcd7527bd2bc&pf_rd_r=7FKYP639GP36EPTGS2R7&psc=1&qid=1607905416&sr=1-1-80ba0e26-a1cd-4e7b-87a0-a2ffae3a273c
Seriously, i have never cum "hands free" before (i mean, beyond holding the wand). Play around with it, see where it makes you feel good. Seriously, I love this so much I bought 2 for my friends. Also, as far as ive read, most of the attachments, including the penis one that goes over the shaft all seem to be kinda poor quality, so i would suggest skipping them. Also, the head of the wand is PVC or some porous plastic, and isnt super comfortable IMO, so I recommend putting a condom or a comfy thick sock on the head and then go to town.
This one...
FYJENNICC Lightweight Premium Chastity Device Medical Grade Resin Male Briefs V3 Transparent (Standard) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07QWZMZ7W
Never thought about the ice thing, I’ll give it a go. Ty
I bought ones similar to these https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Toys-Online-Store-Suction/dp/B012X36DNO They pull the nipple out from the surrounding tissue more and can give you more skin to clamp onto. Though depending on your hormones, they also might make you lactate and the clamps will still slip off from the moisture.
I can imagine. I'm so sorry. Do you enjoy it once you do get in the mood?
I did read through the zine Fucking Trans Women and it was decent. Napkin is also a good read.
Do you currently have an endo? I'm assuming not due to the financial reasons you mentioned? Having a bit higher T than you did previously - but still in the cis female range - might help. So if you were on an AA, then when you restart HRT, maybe lower the AA dose, or stop it entirely? Dr. Powers also reports some success with giving his transfeminine clients topical T for use on their genitals.
I hope that your partner is patient and understanding with you through this. A partner who makes it a big deal will just stress you out, and often makes the issue worse.
*Hugs*
I see, so it gets a little bit easier every time... I still don't like the idea of trying again though... I mean it's the next day and my ass still hurts, not so much that I can't ignore it though.
Do you think it would be better to get a smaller vibrator instead of the glass thing that I have now?
For reference this is what went inside me last night: Prisms Devi Glass Anal Plug https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B008V6R2WE/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_xhLsDbDHP9BTZ