So this is a conflict management style: compromising.
When you choose to compromise when managing conflict, you aim to partially satisfy people on both sides of the argument. You act as the mediator between each party.
Issues can be resolved a lot quicker than with a collaborative conflict management style. A positive side effect you will see is that those involved will leave understanding more about the other person’s perspective and opinions. When you use this style to manage conflict, you will be seen as a hands-on and solution-oriented conflict facilitator.
However, nobody will leave completely content with the solution. One side might feel they've compromised too much and be unwilling to engage this type of conflict management in the future.
Try to work towards to collaboration. It is a true win/win.
Collaborating is a combination of being assertive and cooperative. Embracing this style means you love a "win-win" situation. You will work with others to find a solution that fully satisfies everyone and minimize negative feelings.
With this style, all parties will contribute to a solution. Collaboration often leads to long-term solutions because there's group buy-in.
All taken from: https://matterapp.com/blog/5-conflict-management-styles-to-improve-your-productivity
If it becomes too much, I suggest couples counselling or parting ways. Hopefully these are last ditch efforts, but you can’t “force” someone to work with you.
I think you should read up on AQ https://www.fwd.com.hk/en/live/articles/all/iq-eq-and-aq/ and https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20191106-is-aq-more-important-than-intelligence or https://matterapp.com/blog/adaptability-quotient-for-beginners-why-aq-iq-and-eq-all-matter-in-todays-economy-2/amp/
It’s most work stuff but it applies in general. Resilience and adaptability are important. The desire to keep striving for a better life, combined with action, needs to be there. Figure out what’s blocking you, be it addictions/cognitive distortions or mental issues, and work your way through each one. No one can give you the drive and determination: a good therapist can suggest the how, meds could help giving you a boost, but the will.. that has to come from you.