This is the glass dildo that I have. It isn’t huge so it’s not as bad as some inflexible toys. Because I agree, some of the stiffer toys can be more difficult. I was surprised how much I liked this one, but again it might not be for everyone.
My gf and I use this.
It's thicker than regular water based lube, but also not as thick as more gel style. It's also very affordable. Never had any issues with it.
It's pretty easy. About 3/4 teaspoon of salt goes into 1 cup of hot water, before you whisk in about 1 teaspoon of xanthan gum powder and beat out the lumps. Change the formula to whatever thickness you like. Make as much as you need.
Xanthan gum can usually be found pretty easy in the organic section of your grocery store. People use it as a gluten-free thickener, although it goes into industrial recipes like ice cream and the like for texture. So it's totally edible as well as being something you can safely pump up your butt.
Oh, that reminds me. You need some kind of pump or bulb style enema, because this is too thick to work by gravity. I use one like this: https://www.amazon.ca/Vaginal-Douche-Cleaner-Cleaning-Cleansing/dp/B09DTYVVCL/ref=sr_1_12?keywords=douche+bottle+with+pump+nozzle&qid=1666239338&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIwLjAwIiwicXNhIjoiMC4wMCIsInFzcCI6IjAuMDAifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=pump+douche%2Caps%2C147&sr=8-12
Honestly my favorites for this type of use are XXL anal plugs that are generally marketed to men. Look on Amazon for a style you like then buy a similar/better quality from a reputable maker/seller. I have one that's super soft inside me, but very filling. It's comfy enough to wear just because, but not too easy to dislodge on accident. The guy I do butt stuff with says he loves how tight my ass is with it in, but the toy isn't super noticable like harder rubbers/steel/glass can be. This is pretty close to the one I have.
https://www.amazon.com/FST-Oversize-Silicone-Prostate-Beginner/dp/B08JV9WB8Q
I bought my wife some cute backless panties. Thdy mostly cover the cunt and def leave the back open.
It has a string down the back, like a g-string, but i cut that out leaving her ass wide open. This is whst i bought https://www.amazon.com/Mapal%C3%A9-Underwear-Lingerie-Panties-Boyhort/dp/B075WYFP2F/ref=pd_bap_m_csi_vtp_0?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=TyeBV&content-id=amzn1.sym.4c99941c-a830-4c94-9173-2b91165ee967&pf_rd_p=4c99941c-a830-4c94-9173-2b91165ee...
I have a Brondell Swash bidet, a toilet seat replacement that warms the water and sprays it directly at the butthole. It was pricey though.
For camping trips I take along this little portable squeeze bottle bidet:
https://www.amazon.com/Brondell-GS-70-Portable-Convenient-Capacity/dp/B008CSDKSQ?th=1
Please read this book. https://www.amazon.com/Anal-Pleasure-Health-Morin-Ph-D-ebook/dp/B005HZ6FES
I wanted to do anal. So, I studied a lot about anal sex. But unfortunately I couldn't find a partner. This book should help you. Have fun.
As an addendum, read a book about anal health!
https://www.amazon.com/Anal-Pleasure-Health-Guide-Women/dp/B007IOPKQ0
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I've realized so much over the past few years that soooo many of our questions about sex in general actually have really well articulated answers in already written books. It's just a journey to get recommendations and then actually read and discuss them with anyone.
Tantus makes an extremely comfortable butt plug highly recommended. Amazon link but currently out of stock.. Look up on their website they have smaller models with that shape handle.
I have found that the below works great and is very affordable:
If you have burning or irritation, you might have a fissure or hemorrhoids. The one I mentioned is water based so it can be used for toys as well.
Something like these are good to start and are apparently comfortable to wear https://www.amazon.com/AKStore-Jewelry-Stainless-Fantasy-Restraints/dp/B01JILCV6M/ref=zg_bs_17891899011_19?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=ZF12PCG3Q6E331AVAYCE
Put a pump over it? Just enough suction to keep it in place.
https://www.amazon.com/Fetish-Fantasy-PD3221-20-Pussy-Pump/dp/B007F6AL1K
I can see why that one would hurt. It's just not a good design. It's narrow and long, so it can feel like it's poking her. Our inside isn't a one straight line.
Try this one, it's more ergonomic, and the tilt can help stimulate her A or G spot. Have the tilted side towards her pussy. Women don't have prostates, but there's still a lot of sensation near the uterine area. Don't go for steel or glass stuff for newbies, soft is more comfortable especially when you warm it up in hot water.
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This is the best I have found and very reasonably priced:
https://www.amazon.com/LubeLife-Anal-Lubricant-Silicone-Waterproof/dp/B075SMY97R/ref=redir_mobile_desktop?ie=UTF8&aaxitk=1r6Ct0hHrsskPoQ9za-ijg&hsa_cr_id=9995932460201&ref_=sbx_be_s_sparkle_mcd_asin_1
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B006G2S17A/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_EFNBFbMP0ZYPF
This is it!!! There are a couple recipes out there where you can put a little bit of coconut oil in there and lavender this is the best for back door play.
UPDATE: 4 out of 5 stars!
The fabric is soft and the right amount of sheer. They're definitely wearable with the right clothing. I could do w/o the ruffles and bow. So I don't think these ones specifically could be worn with leggings or other thin fabrics. But a jean skirt or something with a little more weight would be fine. (I'm getting a skirt like this to wear with them, if we can ever go out on date nights again) I did mostly get these to wear for bed time, though, so my husband can have easier access while I'm asleep on nights I feel like wearing underwear.
If you have a bubble-butt like me, then you might want to order a size up. I went with a large. One pair fits slightly better than the other; they're both the same size on the tag, though. Like, one has the tiniest bit more stretch than the other. the straps that go over your cheeks might not lay flat w/o help.
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I'm on the hunt for more and overall will probably buy the rest of the colors eventually or ones like these!
I'm really excited to show these off to the husband tonight!
Oh, Yeah! Sorry, I've been really scatterbrained the last couple days. I should have mentioned this when I first mentioned the oil.... I wound up filling up one of those bbq squeeze bottles with a little salad oil funnel. (Like these, but I got a single one from Walmart https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01HAWNA5M/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_CoJfFbYT89Y9B) The husband Loves being able to squirt the oil all over me.
Enjoy. Of course there is organic too if you’re into that. I prefer it lose over the capsules, I feel it works better.
Yerba Prima Psyllium Whole Husks, Colon Cleanser 12 oz ( Pack of 2) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01ATPBE6O/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_LIVdDb4KMYBTY