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I'm not sure about your amygdala specifically but what you're experiencing is elevated stress responses and moving away from that requires rewiring your brain. This is NOT easy and definitely takes time and practice.

I would recommend checking out

<em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

I can relate, and I think you have emotions that you need to process - on your own, with compassion, without analyzing them. Constructive Wallowing is an amazing resource for this. She breaks it down into a no-nonsense guide, even while having a great sense of humor. The reason writing hasn't worked for you (or me), in my opinion is because it's too much mental activity. You need to get away from that and dive into the feelings. The meat of her method is the TRUTH template: Tell yourself the situation (in one sentence), Realize what you're feeling (using feeling words), Uncover self-criticism (look for "should" language), Try to understand yourself (Why might a good person feel this way? E.g. "no wonder I'm mad"), Have the feeling (and let it matter to you. Be kind). I 100% advise anyone thinking this is helpful to support her and buy her book, besides the fact that there's a ton more information in there.

Great job getting sober- and yes IT WILL get easier. BUT for now it will be very hard to get to a point where you can manage the flashbacks better. I HIGHLY recommend Walker's book .

You can use it to help guide your therapy and supplement. Even good therapist may be lacking in experience with CPTSD / trauma and flashbacks so any supplements you can get can really go the distance.

This and MORE resources are pinned on the sub. - <em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

I see those are. Definitely emotional flashbacks. I definitely think that you could benefit from checking out this book.

<em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

I would highly recommend this book. It's very interesting and provides many practical techniques from a multi faceted approach to heal. Another interesting thing I learned from this book is that Emotional Neglect alone can lead to CPTSD.

• <em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

Absolutely that's part of the healing process. I would highly suggest you check out <em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

You can nurture your inner child even as you evolve and become responsible in your healing. I would suggest you read <em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

Hello! I haven't read this one myself yet, but in one of my mental health groups someone recommended The Mindful Self-compassion Workbook to help with self-esteem

Pretty good, I haven’t given it much more time yet but I did the second exercise and found it was goos as well.

I would say you will get better results from it if you are already in therapy with a trauma informed therapist where you can go over things together or reach out to then if you are having difficulty with what it brings up or if you have been. In therapy and are already aware of how to work through this on your own.

I got this to supplement therapy.

The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1623158249/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_31TVQNA1VJNE6H2GST77

I will give more updates once I have gone through more of it.

Sadly, I've been in this state since my d-day almost 2 years ago. It is extremely unsettling not knowing who you are? What parts of "you" are actually "you" is hard to identify. I ended up living other people's lives. I spent a lot of time with my friend Dave and his family. I spent a lot of time with my brother and his family. I lived other people's lives, so not only do I not know who I am, I didn't even live my own life!

Apparently, the solution is to face your own fears. By facing your fears, you get to know who you are. This is easier said than done in my opinion. But I am a different person to who I was a year ago. So maybe I'm facing my own fears? I'm not sure? If you are a guy, one book that is quite helpful is authored by Karen Brody. She talks about the 7 masculine archetypes and what is essentially a blueprint of what it means to be a man. In the chapters covering the Dark Knight archetype, she discusses the importance of facing your fears. Karen Brody says that going to strip clubs, drinking, fast cars and other things are not freedom. Freedom is not something you “do”! Freedom “are the choices you make”! This made a lot of sense in the way she described it and deconstructed it. At one point she uses the concept of a prison and that you can still “do” things, but “doing” still keeps you inside the walls. And that “making choices” allows you to climb the walls. And its “choices” that enable you to face your fears and traverse the edges of “the dark knight”. Thus, a dark knight doesn’t “do”, he doesn’t bread crumb inside the prison walls. He makes choices to face the things he’s scared of, but does them anyway.

Karen Brody's book is terribly titled. Its called "Open Her", but that has nothing to do with the content of her book in my opinion:

https://www.amazon.com/Open-Her-Activate-Masculine-Powers/dp/B079C83K4F/ref=sr\_1\_1

I think r/Cptsd might help you as well.... <em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

Another great read is <em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

Not. Sure about workbooks (yet) but a must read is

<em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

I am so proud that you're working on giving your child these things you never had. And so sorry that taking care of yourself is hard and even a source of guilt /anxiety.

I hope you can work towards self love and care. Have you checked out these tittles?

• <em>Six Pillars Of Self Esteem</em> by Nathaniel Branden >The book demonstrates compellingly why self-esteem is basic to psychological health, achievement, personal happiness, and positive relationships.  Branden introduces the six pillars—six action-based practices for daily living that provide the foundation for self-esteem—and explores the central importance of self-esteem in five areas: the workplace, parenting, education, psychotherapy, and the culture at large.   <em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

This is the general blurb about it -but what really stands out to me is the way he stresses the multi faceted approach to healing- from emotional to physical, from somatic to logical... and even nutrition...

• <em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

That's where you need to start accepting that feeling upset and having feelings about stuff is normal. It doesn't make you weak or bad. Feeling upset isn't a flaw.

<em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

This is very good question. It's the difference between angry and assertive. I think "Boundaries " book may be a good thing to check out as well as the In Love While Parenting App....

• In Love While Parenting App

This amazing little app is available for free on Apple and Google. While it is aimed at people who are parenting and in a relationship the facts and guides it shares are extremely useful in helping you build stronger relationships and emotional bonds with those around you. It has short videos and is easy to use just a few minutes a day.

And

<em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

Absolutely. It's a lot of growing pains because we have such a backlog but you can do this. So glad you are optimistic ❤️ that gives me hope!

I think you should check out :

<em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

The next step can be

<em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

Sounds so rough. I'm sorry that you're going through all that.

You've been doing so great at identifying your feelings and even though that's only part of it... It is an important part.

I would highly recommend checking out :

<em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

Thank you for sharing and yes procrastination is definitely a symptom. If yore not up for reading I'd suggest you listen to an audio book

This one has been amazing!

<em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

That's great that you've read it! How often have you practiced identifying those emotions? Every day is recommended.

The In Love While Parenting App has a great feature to help remind you to identify your feelings.

Also If running on empty resonated with you but there's deeper issues at hand... This book may offer you what you need!

<em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

Rainn.org has local resources available.

But as for your own reading...

• Love Is Respect

Learn what healthy relationships look like.

<em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

Absolutely, but surviving is the bare minimum, and if you survive there's always up, there's always better. If you don't survive then there's nothing left.

I would suggest checking out this book.

<em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

I see, well it seems like it's tangled... I don't know if I have anything specific for cyber abuse but maybe this can be helpful?

<em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering.