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Maybe try carpooling? You share the overall cost with the driver/passengers. Apparently Waze has a function that you can match up with carpoolers going the same direction in a Tinder style format

https://www.waze.com/carpool/

There are also many other carpool apps, though I haven’t tried any. Just trying to find ways to save money, and if you can find like 2 or 3 others heading to Georgia, you can split it 3 or 4 ways. Also, you should check various different Greyhound and train starting locations as it might be cheaper to just carpool to that location then directly to to Georgia from there, or you can just carpool multiple “legs” of your journey

https://www.carpoolworld.com/carpool_.html

Hey there anon!!

I think I can relate to you on some level in the sense that sometimes I'm just sitting casually chatting, nothing wrong there, but all of a sudden someone says something that usually I wouldn't give a shit about, but this time for no reason that hits a nerve and my head just goes jdfhufiuifufuyoo. Now, I'll be thinking of the most random things that that person had said to me in the past and getting more and more angry/sad, then I'll start thinking about all the *bad* & *unfair* things that happened to me past week, past month so on and just loose all hope, start unfriending people and then just sleep and wait for my stupid brain to cool down which takes hours sometimes even days. After which I am left with no one to talk to cuz I unfriended most and the remaining would want me to tell them why I did that and I can't really explain to them why I did what I did so I just start avoiding talking to them too.

So, yeah, I can't exactly offer you advice on the topic but we can definitely talk about stuff, maybe even support each other during the moody outbursts. You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours. 😅

I am very sorry to hear you are feeling awful at the moment.

You have done nothing wrong.

You will always be kind, caring and very intelligent.

Nothing will change that.

Your command of English is outstanding.

A difficult, rare skill that is very impressive.

I only have admiration for the amazing person you are.

You have obviously identified things in your life you are not happy with.

To give you a greater understanding of modern dating, you might like to read this book.

Maybe a library or bookshop has a copy, so you can see if you are interested in reading it.

https://www.amazon.com/Dataclysm-Identity-What-Online-Offline-Selves/dp/0385347391

You have done the right thing by not going with people who don't value you.

Always and forever, stay away from narcissists.

They destroy everything eventually.

Find friends and find possible matches with people who value the things you do.

I wish you all the best and be extremely careful regarding personal safety.

Persistence is key. Try not to give up even though things don't initially work out.

You will succeed eventually.

I'm a male & completely disgusted by those types, too. I'm sorry women have to build up a tough exterior to deal with such needless crap. I was raised by a single mother and grew up respecting women for all they did & had to go through to survive (let alone thrive) in a male-dominated society. The fact my father was somewhat abusive probably also pushed me towards being more sympathetic towards women & is why - when they made us kids choose which parent to live with when they split - I chose my mother.

I'm sorry you have to deal with these assholes, but please recognize that you're in as place wide open to to public and therefore you can't just blame "this place" (not sure if you mean this sub specifically, or Reddit in general). Ignorant & insensitive types are everywhere in the world. They truly are not worth letting yourself get worked up about because when you think about it they are pathetic examples of masculinity, and somewhere deep down even they likely know it.

Reddit has report and block features for a reason. I'm not sure if bother with the reporting because if Reddit bans them then they can just make another account and you have no idea it's them again. Just blocking them seems more effective to me.

You might also consider using another Reddit client that has additional features. I use Sync on my phone and they have a "tag user" feature that puts the text you enter in parenthesis next to their username everywhere they pop up - it's handy for marking assholes as such.

I hope you're okay, and please try to remember not to let the assholes speak for all of us. Every single person is unique and should be treated as such (even if a significant portion of them are just some variety of asshole).

Currently listening to a howling wind background noise. The sound of wind really calms me down. Click on INTRO at the bottom for other sounds: "Sound Therapy" has Cat Purr!

Hey, I don’t know if this will help, but I read this amazing book that helped me in the process of repairing my relationship to food and my body. Here’s the book:

Intuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Anti-Diet Approach https://www.amazon.com/dp/1250255198/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_ETNTB77CYEZM8YHNDTES

The authors are nutritionists that specialize in eating disorders. The gist is like… recover the joy of eating and undo the fear. I hear your pain- no one should have to live like this. :( you deserve to feel good as you are, feel good in your body, and enjoy life. My heart breaks that our society and culture had engraved such a toxic message into you, and so deeply. You’re going through a lot right now, but you WILL be okay. You aren’t going to feel this way forever, and you’re already in the process of learning and growing new ways of thinking & feeling. Just hang in there alright? You’re doing great.

Are you able to go to a support group or a therapist? I'm very sorry you had to go through all that.

I haven't been through your situation but if you need someone to talk to I am here.

https://www.7cups.com/

This is a great website to go to. You can talk to someone who has been through what you have been through.

Hey anon! I know how you feel, freelancing is one hell of a bumpy ride. There's be times when you'll go without any gigs for weeks and there'll be times when you'' have so many that you'll end up declining some. Been doing this for 6 years now, the bumpy parts are less now, but they're still here and I think that's what keeps things interesting.

Just stick to it, the overall experience is worth it and always save for the rainy days, sometimes when the jobs come in you'll get carried away, don't get carried away with the money 😅

Have a great day.

Thanks for pointing out this general concern. I noticed that https://www.confidist.com has the correct security settings applied but my other subdomains are not using the correct / valid cert. I have a wild card configured however something must need changing. I'll be looking into this ASAP.

I definitely don't think it's pathetic. Most of my post history has to do with my own mental health. I've had this DBT workbook recommended to me before if you'd ever like to check it out. No pressure, though. Just something you can go back to if you ever want to.

I totally understand. It's an extremely painful thing. Letting that pain out is definitely a good thing, please try to be gentle and kind to yourself while you do. I'm really glad that people are supporting you in the comments. You deserve it from yourself too, whenever you're able to give it.

You have a couple practical options. The most immediate is something like this:

https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B00009LI4K/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1

These work INCREDIBLY well.

The 2nd option, if you plan on living there a long time, is to install throughout the apartment or in 1 or 2 key rooms, soundproof drywall on the ceiling called 'Quietrock'. THIS WORKS INCREDIBLY WELL! Especially if you install 2 layers, you wont hear a thing, or almost nothing. I installed this on 1 wall I share with someone and it cut all sounds transfer through the wall. And my friend put this on her ceiling with the same results.

You can loop in the building owner to see if they will help cover the cost, just a few hundred dollars, or hire a drywall installer and just do it yourself. Take the power into your own hands with this solution, your peace will return.

https://www.amazon.com/Stayed-Alive-Brain-Trying-Revised/dp/0062936387/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1LSGIC916MLD7&dchild=1&keywords=how+to+stay+alive+when+my+brain+was+trying&qid=1608006626&sprefix=how+to+stay+alive+when+m%2Caps%2C-1&sr=8-1

Read this book. Please.

You lead with your heart. That’s not a bad characteristic.

I strongly recommend that you read a book called “Attached”. It’s about our various attachments styles...the people that do - and don’t - make good partners for us.

I have my guess about her “style” and yours, but I’ll leave that for you to learn about.

https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=attached+book&qid=1597107952&sprefix=attached&sr=8-3