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As someone who struggled with heavy depression for 10+ years I would like to say this: Please see a therapist, even if you do so in secret. I finally broke down one day and realized that I needed help. It's a slow road, but I've gotten on some medication and it helps out so much. If you think "I don't want to be medicated because I don't want to change who I am" or something, please consider it. I was the same way. I denied meds for a long time. Once I got on them things improved for me. My relationship with my wife improved in ways I never thought possible. I actually enjoy things in my life now. And I am still very much the same person I was before.
Please, put in the effort for at least one or two sessions. Just knowing that there is a neutral party you can talk to can sometimes be enough.
You can also try these websites completely free. They may be of some help: MoodGYM 7 Cups of Tea
Best of luck in your illness. I hope it gets better.
Its really ironic this post is in this sub, because this is feel good slacktivism. The Get motivated thing to do is reach out to someone and offer your hand, or, to go up to someone you trust and ask them for help. And if you don't have any, there's me or https://www.7cups.com/ or http://blahtherapy.com/, though I haven't listened over at the latter. There's also subreddits though i don't have experience with them.
Therapists available to talk to on phone ASAP: www.talkspace.com
7 Cups of Tea: similar to above, for if you just want to talk to somebody
Stop by the New Orleans Healing Center (2372 St. Claude Ave.) go upstairs to the second floor upper, suite 220. Affordable Healing Arts has a number of practitioners (myself included) who might be able to help, including therapists. We can't guarantee somebody will be available to talk when you arrive, but I'll at least be around til around 4.
If you Need help you can find a Hotline here: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html If you are thinking of Suicide right now you can also call your local emergency number, such as 911 in the US or 112 in the EU. If you are not suicidal but would still like to talk to someone you can take a look here: https://www.7cups.com/
You should check out 7 Cups of Tea! It’s an emotional support site for people who need someone to talk to. You can volunteer as a “listener.” You don’t need any credentials; the site will walk you through a quick and easy training course on how to effectively support people. The site will connect you to people who need someone to talk to, and you can chat with them in a messenger format.
While this won’t get you a degree or certification, it will give you valuable experience and let you test the waters, so to speak. It might be a good place to start.
> so I am just at a loss at how to help him
I'm very sorry to say, sadly, you can't.
He knows what the next step is, to seek counseling. He's chosen not to take that step.
You can't help those who don't want to be helped.
He has, effectively, chosen to end the relationship you used to have.
Your choices now, I'm sad to say, are A) accept the new relationship he's now offering, or B) mourn the ending of your relationship and move on.
I'm not religious myself, however I do find the serenity prayer fitting:
> Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
> Courage to change the things I can,
> And wisdom to know the difference.
If some support or counseling would be helpful, I can recommend https://www.7cups.com/ to you.
I know you say you will. And I know how easy it is to say you'll do something, and then not follow through. Hell, I do it all the time.
But please, reach out to them. I don't know you, I don't know your situation, but reading your story.... man, it hit me in the chest.
My wife and I helped one of her friends out of a bad situation and long story short, her friend's ex ended up in jail. When he got out after 90 days, we were both kind of nervous that he'd come after us, which he never did. I can't even fathom how you must feel after reading that letter.
I know I'm a random internet stranger, and I know chances are you won't -- but feel free to reach out if you need to talk to someone.
https://www.7cups.com/ is also a good place to turn if you just need someone to talk to, when you feel like there's no one TO talk to.
I know, I am not OP, but I was just doing one training on anxiety, there is one for depression as well here: https://www.7cups.com/listener/training.php
They have few lessons with exercises and some questions in the end.
You maybe have to register, but its for free. Hope its what you are looking for.
Check out Medicaid! I was a suicidal shut-in for years because I could never afford therapy or medication. Then I got Medicaid and now I have a therapist, and it's STUNNING how much it helps. There's also a clinic in many towns where you can go for free walk-in therapy, you just usually have to set aside a day for it because you'll be waiting a long time. There are many, many options for low- or no-cost help. Google in your area!
Also don't worry about freezing up with your therapist. It's their whole job to help you with that. It may take some doing, but you can find someone who will actively work with you to help you open up.
If nothing else, try 7 Cups of Tea! Free online therapy from other people. I've had some really helpful, enlightening conversations there.
Please don’t. Please call someone who can help. If you are worried about a hotline showing up in your phone history, go to a store, buy a prepaid phone, and call a suicide hotline. Or go to a online forum like https://www.7cups.com/depression-help-online/
Please.
Please do seek therapy, and I mean this in the most genuine, loving, sympathetic way possible. In every major city there are programs available for free or low cost counseling. Just google for "YOURCITY free counseling". Or if you don't want to go somewhere in person, there are online tools to connect you to someone trained to talk things over such as https://www.7cups.com or https://www.iprevail.com .
Just talking to somebody can do wonders. I hope you find the help you need and maybe decide to return one day, but I'm sorry, this sub cannot be your therapist.
Hej kompis! Väldigt tråkigt att höra att du mår mycket dåligt just nu. Du kan prova att prata av dig på https://www.7cups.com/ Om du känner dig stark nog att prata i telefon kan du ringa en jourhavande medmänniska på 08-702 16 80, (21-06) Hoppas din situation löser sig, var stark. Jag tror på dig :)
OK, time to explore other avenues and time for you to take control of your mental health.
There is an online free counselling website: https://www.7cups.com/. I've heard good things about it. This may be a good starting place.
Some schools have counselors available; not sure if that applies to your location.
Ask for the insurance card and make your own appointment or let your mom know you would like to start calling counselors for their availability based off of the insurance coverage you have. Most insurances have their lists online and you could start there. This might be the option that would get you started, by the way.
A lot of therapists work on a sliding scale if there is no insurance coverage.
The key here is to start the groundwork on finding a therapist. I don't know your age but if your mom said she'd see what she can do, if you start researching for one, all she has to do is approve it.
Barring the above, your county (if you're in the States) has a public health department with people who can help.
If the above doesn't work, do you have a trusted adult who can listen and help you unpack all that?
So sorry OP. Please don't self medicate with alcohol. That can lead to even more problems. I understand the powerful need to get a break from the chronic adrenaline and anxiety but this one solution is loaded with other problems.
Please reach out: RAINN | The nation's largest anti-sexual violence organization
7 cups of tea is a good place to talk to somebody that will listen to you.
It's not strictly for suicide prevention but just a place to talk to a stranger that will listen and often help. I can't count the number of times it has helped me and it would be great if it helps someone else.
That's not how to go about it at all.
Say like:
Hi. I'm xxxx, I'm from xxx, and I'm needing someone to talk to because xxxx. Not just spamming the word please.
If you just want someone to talk to
https://www.7cups.com may be a good start.
Or if you just want someone to talk to, you can tryout this 7cups an online sites which provides free support to people experiencing emotional distress by connecting them with trained listeners.
Hey, OP here. Saw your post through the sea of notifications I am getting and thought I would step in. I really think you should see someone, if you think it is affecting you. I know how you feel, I really, really do. And it can be really shitty.
However if you can't/won't see someone, like a doctor or therapist, try Seven Cups of Tea. It basically a place where you just get people to listen to you. No pressure of when, or why. I used to be a moderator/listener there [stopped because of my own pressures and stuff] but it really does help.
It can be very confronting finding a therapist or anything else like that, but if you need to take the first step in just letting it all out, I strongly recommend Seven cups.
But I want you to know that no matter what you go through, or how you feel, you matter. Please look after yourself, you truly do mean a lot to this world.
OP, I'm extremely sorry that I can't help you with this situation as my advice is unqualified and might make things worse, but you should try and get some support and a listener on 7 Cups of Tea. It's an online thing where you can talk to a slightly more qualified listener.
Best of luck OP
Edit: why the fuck am I downvoted for offering help?
Thank you for sharing. This reminds me of the instructions of putting on your oxygen mask before helping the others around you.
Here is a free service, I haven't used it but stumbled upon it a few years ago. Hope it helps.
I'm really sorry, that is crap that that happened.
If you want to talk and bounce thoughts off someone, maybe these places would help? http://samaritansnyc.org/calling-the-hotline/ (Sounds like they're there even if you just want to shoot the breeze, or maybe they could guide you somewhere else.)
I really suggest the website 7 cups of tea they even have an app you can download. It's basically just a bunch of volunteers you can talk to about anything. It's anonymous and a great way to talk about things to get it off your chest. I used to use it a lot! Then I even started to volunteer which was really rewarding.
Amethyst Schaber's "Ask An Autistic" series on YouTube is great. They are brilliant at explaining very difficult to explain autistic experiences in an easy to understand way. I know the app and website 7cups has online counseling. I haven't tried it before, so I'm unsure if it's what you're looking for.
I've had to deal with educating my mother about autism and it's absolutely exhausting. It hurt me deeply when she tried to question a label that has helped me realize I'm not broken, I'm just different, like a lot of other people. When neurotypical people try to act as the gatekeepers for who can or can't be on the spectrum, it's pretentious and just plain rude. It's cruel for him to force you into a corner like this and expect you to pretend you aren't facing any challenges, especially in situations where you might need support or accommodations.
It sounds like the most difficult, but the most important thing is making him realize the gravity of the situation. I wonder if reading him some of the comments from this post would help him sober up and realize how hurtful his behavior is, not just to you, but to other autistic women who have been hurt by his brand of denial before.
I'm sorry you have this stain on an otherwise positive relationship. I wish I had better advice. I hope all goes well.
> It's just one step away from slitting my wrists. > No big loss either way.
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Please speak to someone if you're considering self harm. 26 is still reasonably young, you can and will bounce back from this.
I've never tried it, but I've seen you can get free online therapy from mental health charities like this one, or this one. Might be worth a shot!
Oh and I've also found this website to be very helpful (recommended by my therapist). They have all different tools for people to use to help overcome their problems (including depression). You might need to google each one to find out more about how to use it (and why it works).
That's a pretty messed up situation. Do you think you can tell your parents or your mom about the anxiety and that it keeps you from focusing on school? Maybe they can help paying for it, they should have an interest in your emotional well-being as well. 7cups.com has free, as well as affordable, professional licensed support.
Okay, ADAA has a list of support groups you could search up here: https://adaa.org/supportgroups
https://www.7cups.com might also be helpful.
You could also check if you have an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) that might cover it?
I've also seen suggested that you have nothing to lose by emailing a few expensive therapists and asking them if they offer a sliding scale fee based on income or do pro-bono work. It never hurts to ask.
Just want to drop a comment saying you're not alone. Please hang in there. Can you visit a food pantry in the meantime? I am shocked and disgusted that they are letting everything expire in December, but I feel so totally helpless. If you just need someone to talk to or listen this is a link to free therapy a friend recently shared with me - https://www.7cups.com/
- 5 things you can see
- 4 things you can touch
- 3 things you can hear
- 2 things you can smell
- 1 thing you can taste
I feel like the mods should have some sort of stickied thread in addition to the sidebar that's more noticeable for someone who might currently be having an episode. Glad to hear you're okay friend :)
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I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a rough time - sounds extremely difficult.
The idea that you can only choose between conservative Christian theology and atheism is a false choice. There are lots of other possible religious and spiritual paradigms out there, and I personally still believe in an afterlife even though I have left my old Christian faith. Christians want you to think those are the only two options because it serves their goals and keeps people stuck.
I would also highly recommend EFT tapping, as it's a technique that has helped me a lot with my anxiety and health issues. I can't promise it will solve all your problems or be an overnight fix, but it's one of the best self-help tools I've found. It's also often recommended for people dealing with trauma. 'The Tapping Solution' book by Nick Ortner is also good and relatively cheap as an ebook.
I hope you can find the help you need somehow, and don't forgot to reach out and call free mental health support lines if you ever need it. This website is also a good place if you need free chat support: https://www.7cups.com. You might also want to check out the Exvangelical group on Facebook, as there are lots of people there who can relate to your struggles.
I think this has more to do with your anxiety rather than MBTI! First of all, sorry about what happened with your therapist. I can definitely recommend CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), it really helped me and it does engage your Ti in a way that is not destructive or negative. CBT makes you think logically about things that normally you wouldn't be able to. It brings you back to the present, in a way. You can get self help books and there are tons of resources online. These guides are also really good https://www.7cups.com/supportGuides/selfHelpGuides.php :)
Best of luck for your interview!
You might want to try posting again at a different time when another mod might be monitoring the sub. Sometimes mods make judgment calls and while this mod didn't allow it another mod might. I don't personally see how such a question could be considered "medical advice" but apparently that mod did. You could also try asking over on /r/AskWomenOver30, assuming that they don't have the same mod on staff that took down your post over on /r/AskWomen.
A couple of other subs that you might try are /r/askwomenadvice or /r/TwoXChromosomes. Also, if your friend needs someone to talk to she could try 7 Cups of Tea.
I just wanted to add that I've had a little trouble in the past, not wanting to be a burden or be too emotional or whatever. Someone mentioned to me a really great resource called 7cups where you can chat online with what they call a listener, which is sort of like someone with a little training (not like a full on councilor) that is just there to talk to you. I found it really helpful, got some things off my chest and got to do it in a way where I didn't feel completely socially awkward.
There's probably a ton of other similar sites out there. I hope you're doing ok.
I hated myself a lot when I was a teenager (still do sometimes but that's probably the manic depression). it's a rough experience. there are no platitudes I can give you that will make you feel better, but I can tell you following with absolute certainty.
firstly: it will typically get better, just empirically. looking at the number of people who have a rough adolescence (even by the standards of adolescence), the overwhelming majority get better.
secondly: there are places where you can talk to people. idk where you live, and what kind of services are available, but 7cupsoftea can be a good start if you are ever feeling shitty and want to vent. Maybe have a look to see if there is an adolecent/lgbt/womens' counselling or emotional support service in your area?
thirdly: you have a degree of influence over your moods and how you feel about yourself. It takes work, and often guidence, but there are things you can do to help. Mindfulness tactics are a good start, (but mark, a start, they are not a whole resolution). Things like CBT or RAT can also be very effective. In my experience, they work best when it starts out as sort of counselling, and then segways into a more CBT style, after the relationship has been built.
and finally: there is one thing that might make you feel a fair bit better. is there anyone you know who you feel you could tell that you're bi, or anything else that you're feeling? a friend or teacher? if not having told anyone merits a mention in things that make you feel that there's something wring with you, it's likely part of why you feel bad?
maybe telling someone can take a bit of the pressure off?
and if you ever want a chat, you can pm me. look after yourself
That sound super difficult, and I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a tough time. Thinking of you, and hope things start to improve for you soon. Lots of hugs!
Also, if you need extra support, 7 Cups of Tea offers text-based help for free.
Okay, well, you need therapy and not reddit. I understand your anxiety. It's not going to get better without help. Perhaps try one of the online chat therapists until you are in a better place and can start doing phone sessions and ultimately work up to in-person sessions. This is definitely bigger than what we can help you with.
I don't know how reliable and/or good any of these are, but a cursory google search reveals these sites, which might be helpful:
https://www.7cups.com/
https://www.talkspace.com/
Alternatively, you're 19. Are you in school? Many universities offer these services for free! You. Can. Do. This.
If you have wifi, I found comfort through the site, 7 Cups. It helped me a lot when I was at my lowest, drinking too much and needing somebody, ANYBODY, to talk to. It's online chatting and there are trained listeners and counselors, etc.
Sometimes you get someone who isn't exactly helpful, but you can just go to the next available listener/counselor. It's amazing how much it can help to just have a friendly person to discuss your feelings with. I was on there probably almost every night for about 4-5 months before I finally went and found myself a therapist.
It's not a service meant to cure whatever ails you, but just a place to find a comforting shoulder and to know you aren't alone. It's anonymous and safe. I hope you will check it out. It saved my life when I felt I had no one else.
Edit: added link.
This is not okay.
This is not okay.
"Also my breasts have always been a bit of a touchy (lol) subject with us. Like he always wants to squeeze them and will do it randomly and sometimes pretty roughly and I usually hate it and it upsets him a lot that I don't enjoy him touching me there even when I'm not pregnant or nursing. So it almost felt like that was an extra "fuck you" to me to hit me in the boob when he could have just as easily hit me in my arm or something."
I don't care if your in love, married or soul bonded. Only you have the right to touch your body without permssion. You are not an object he bought or won that he can treat as he wishes. Someone who respected you wouldn't treat you like that.
Please reach out to some of the resources others have linked in this thread. There are studies that show we are likely to date people like our parents as we unconsciously model our desired partner traits off the parental relationship we saw first-hand. Would you want your kids to be saying someone like him? What would you tell your kids if they came to you telling you the one they were seeing acts like this? Get help for them if you can't do it for you.
One additonal resource no one has linked yet, https://www.7cups.com/ has free online listeners if you want someone to talk to.
In my experience, the suicide hotline is there to:
calm you down
get your name and address
call the local police
I'm sure they would talk to you if you called, but there are also a lot of other places for supportive talks.
/r/mmfb (make me feel better) is good if you just need to talk about an experience or are feeling down.
/r/needafriend is more for longterm friendships, but their sidebar has a ton of related subs.
I've used https://blahtherapy.com which is online chat, /r/mmfb recommends https://www.7cups.com/ but I don't have experience with them.
If you need to talk now calling one of the hotlines is probably the best, but there are also a lot of other options.
hang in there bro, you can get outta it. Don't need to live like this forever and all. give these folks a shot, talking can help and all that - https://www.7cups.com/
also summers coming so it's almost wheelie season, we're all gonna make it
There is some good advice here. In the short term, you can try https://www.7cups.com/ when you need someone to talk to. It's a free online chat system with trained listeners and online therapists.
Good on you for asking for help -- it is so important and it will get you far if you keep doing it! I've spent a lot of years navigating PTSD...please PM me if you're not finding the help you need and I'll help you.
Nemoj ganjati sreću jer nema šanse da ćeš biti sretan svaki dan (kao što si se uvjerio, ja se nadam), ali uvijek imaj barem malo nade svaki dan: da će ti biti bolje, da ćeš se oporaviti itd. Dvije najvažnije vrline u ovom slučaju su ti upornost i strpljenje, tj. ne valja biti pasivan i misliti da ćeš se popraviti u mjesec dana. I pokušaj u svaki dan ući s pozitivnim mentalitetom (ovo će biti teško, ali razgovor o problemima u ovakvim stvarima jako pomaže za pozitivan mentalitet).
Zbog svega ovoga, a pogotovo za ovo zadnje, preporučam da pogledaš 7cups.com, jer besplatno možeš pričati s ljudima specifično o ovim stvarima i možeš raditi svaki dan po jednu aktivnost na tom sajtu, bilo da je to treniranje zahvalnosti, disanja, meditacija itd. Također, ako već nisi, kupi bilježnicu ili na kompjuter možeš napisati tri stvari koje si dobro napravio poslije svakog dana (možeš više, ali ne smiješ manje i pridržavaj se toga svaki dan).
Ukratko: strpljenje, upornost i nada
"Even though I am non-violent and (I believe) empathetic by nature, I have visions of violence against them when I see their behavior on videos. I know that's wrong would never do that. But now sometimes I wonder."
Good on you for reaching out. This board is a lifesaver. These out-of-character thoughts ^^^ sound really distressing. If my partner (normally a very gentle person) let me know they felt this way, I'd want to be sure they got checked out: she could never hurt a fly but those thoughts would be hurting her. Do you have access to therapy? If not, there are some free counseling services, like this one: https://www.7cups.com/. I can't vouch for them but it might be a place to start.
Damn, these kinds of cravings are far outside of my level of experience. I'm here if you need some support or anything, but if you are having suicidal thoughts, (and again, grain of salt due to not having much experience in this realm) you may want to try weaning off slowly by gradually reducing nicotine intake day by day until you get to 0.
I have seen this work for some bad cravings but also consider the site,
www.7cups.com if you want to chat with random people who care. This could help with the mental side of nicotine withdrawals if you don't want to get into therapy or counseling or want a free resource, but definitely feel free to reach out here if you think I could help somehow as well.
You've got this. If you doubt yourself, just remember: internet strangers believe in you :)
that sounds really tough, i'm so sorry to hear that <3 taking a break from social media sounds like a great idea, as well as keeping a diary! honestly i need this reminder a lot, so i'll pass it onto you: you deserve love and support! if you need to lean on your bf for support you're not fishing for sympathy. if that's too tough right now, i'd suggest online resources like this one, or maybe even seeking professional help. you got this! i'm rooting for you :)
not specific to indians but if you want you can volunteer to talk (via text) on 7cups where people talk anonymously about serios issues and mental health
It's actually surprisingly difficult to overdose on insulin. His most likely outcome if he overdoses is that he'll go into a coma, survive, and sustain long-term brain damage and degrade his quality of life tremendously.
I strongly recommend calling a suicide hotline for your local area and asking them what resources are available to your brother. Let him know that he's loved, and be pro-active in checking up on him. A therapist is only helpful if he wants to see one, and there are lots of reasons why he might not want to - it's costly, it's a long process, and it requires you to be very open and honest and expose your deepest feelings which is hugely intimidating and makes you very vulnerable. It's something he needs to feel ready for.
Tell him that it's okay to feel bad about his situation. It's normal, most people would. Remind him of the things he can do, such as looking for a job, or talking to people online who aren't therapists but who offer support for people who struggle. Sometimes all it takes is being around people who've been there.
Edit: Besides suicide hotlines, there are lots of (online) chats such as 7Cup that are also there for non-crisis situations. The support network is quite large, so if you have some time you can Google mental health support sites like this. Offer them to your brother on his own terms. Tell him they're options, and you know of people who were helped by these, and that he loses nothing from giving it a shot if he wants to.
Let him feel in control over this, if you get pushy he's going to reject it. He's probably already feeling like dying is the only thing he can control, so giving him more things to hold on to is good!
> Maybe I just seek some motivation to not commit suicide.
As someone who tried to commit suicide please don't. Check out r/suicidewatch instead they can be very helpful. If you don't like reddit you can go to https://www.7cups.com they also help with this type of stuff.
I don't know what else to say, and I am bad at emotional support, but I am pretty confident your fellow INTJs will be helpful.
No no, you explained it fine. I just forgot.
I can't really give any brick-and-mortar recommendations without knowing where she lives, but I can give some online resources.
7 Cups of Tea is a pretty good site. It consists of two things, listeners, which are people like you and me who are just average people who are there to listen to people. They're not trained professionals, but if she need someone to listen to her, then they're there for her, plus they're free. She can also pay some money to have a therapist listen to her, a trained professional.
She can also have a trained professional listen to her through this site.
Plus they have an app.
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Hej!
Trist att höra med flickvännen, du reagerar som en människa i alla fall, det är ett bra första steg.
Om du vill ha en bra sida online där man pratar med folk över hela världen så skulle jag rekommendera denna: https://www.7cups.com/
Här har jag varit ett par gånger vid svåra perioder i livet, och det brukar hjälpa för stunden, framförallt gäller det att hålla sig upptagen med något och inte tänka för mycket.
Hoppas det löser sig!
A site like this may be useful if you can't afford getting professional help. Also here are some tips from psych central for those who can't afford therapy.
You may not have friends now, but it's never too late to make some. Do you have a job? If you don't it'll help you in moving out of there (money). It'll get you away from the house a bit. It might even help you make friends.
You don't get to make that distinction. I do because I experience it. Asexuality does not just mean that you have no sexuality or sex drive - to have a "fully functional" sex drive you must also experience sexual attraction. Without it you do not have sex, or do not enjoy the sex you have. Libido has nothing to do with it. You can be horny all the time and jack off constantly but if you never or hardly ever want to be sexual with another person you are on the asexual spectrum because your sexuality is "compromised".
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gray_asexuality
Life can fucking suck sometimes, and it tends to throw everything at you at once as well.
We all need a hand occasionally.
If you need more support, I strongly recommend https://www.7cups.com/ - live chat support with people who know how hard life can be. You can search through the Listeners to find someone you think might match you, and just talk. It can really help.
Wishing you all the best <3
That's not something I can answer for you. As someone with OCD, I think the idea of TOCD is just bullshit some guy online came up with and tried to get to catch on.
Ask yourself the following questions:
If you could push a button and wake up as a girl – female body and all, with your whole life changed to suit that – would you?
Do you feel jealous when you see an attractive girl, in a "god I wish I was her" way?
As a kid, did you have frequent thoughts of wishing you were born a girl?
Does societal pressure to be masculine make you uncomfortable?
If you answered yes to all of those, I'd say the odds are pretty likely you're a girl. (Again, gender is fluid and you don't have to be one of two things!) Consider asking yourself why it is that you hate trans women right now. "Because people see them as freaks" is not an answer. Do some soul-searching as to where those feelings originated from. If you're down to give therapy a try, 7cups is free and online with the ability to find a trans counselor to talk to.
While I don't know your complete situation, no, I don't think it's selfish of you. I've been where you are, and I understand your position. Sadly, all I can tell you is that while it stings, the most mutually beneficial thing here is to give each other some space. He might just not be able to handle a relationship right now. If you're too forward with him about this or push too hard on keeping things "as they were" when he clearly wants change, yeah, that might be selfish - so do the right thing.
It can be hard for somebody who's mentally ill to do what's best for themselves. It's likely not a superficial thing, I would take this seriously and just be patient with him. Make sure he gets some professional help if he isn't already seeing somebody.
And watch out for yourself, too. Don't blame yourself, blame the chemical inbalances. Go to /r/trueoffmychest or /r/unsentletters if you need a place on reddit to talk or vent, or try out somewhere like 7cups.
Sad bih ti dao jedan široki post o tome kako se nositi sa takvim problemima, ali ne da mi se sad. Za slijedeći put ću pripremiti nešto takvo za copy-paste.
Ukratko, kupi si bilježnicu i u njoj svaki dan zapisuj 3 stvari za što/koga si zahvalan i poslije toga 3 stvari koje si dobro napravio (npr. oprao sam suđe, prošetao sam se, spremio sam krevet; nešto skroz jednostavno). Također preporučam ovu stranicu da onako probaš.
I've heard good things about 7Cups. It might not be a perfect substitute for proper therapy, but it's there, it's free, and even just being able to vent and talk to a human without consequence can be a huge help.
You care enough to pop up in nearly every thread and lay a steaming pile of shit in it.
And you certainly care a lot about making sure everyone is as miserable as you are with a game they enjoy. This forced empathy isn't healthy and only suits to make you a more undesirable person. If you are truly having problems in your life that are fueling this apathy, I encourage you to seek help from a limitless amount of counseling services available to you.
Aside from people here, if you need super immediate help, there's the suicide crisis line (800-273-8255).
If it isn't that bad, and you just need to talk to someone anonymously, check out https://www.7cups.com/.
If you're up to talking to someone face-to-face, Orthodox and Catholic priests are generally open to meeting and talking and offering guidance. I can only speak from experience, but every OCA priest I've talked to has been very loving and not judgemental at all.
I'm sorry I do not live in Serbia.
This probably isn't the best suggestion (sorry) but if you need to talk to someone and can't find a doctor out there in the meantime, you could try https://www.7cups.com/
It's an online therapy site where people sign up to be listeners, and people sign up to talk. The listeners vary from just regular people to people with actual training in certain areas.
It won't replace a doctor, but it could be a start for you to talk with someone in private and have them give you some space to get it out. I hope you're able to find some help for yourself!
https://www.7cups.com/listener/training/
7 Cups is a place where you can connect to people who can listen to your problems. You can also become one of the listeners if you do the training.
You can just do the training and not be a listener, just use it for you real life, the training covers all of the topics.
Please, talk to a therapist. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and you need to talk about your problems to someone that will listen, and knows what to do. A therapist, a counselor at your school, even sites like this will do the trick. Please, don't do it.
A lot of women experience increased arousal during ovulation. This is totally normal. I'd suggest masturbation to take the edge off.
You may want to schedule some time with a therapist to discuss the other feelings you're having. You can talk to someone online at 7 cups if seeing someone is too daunting right now.
Addendum: If there aren't people (friends/family) for you to go to for support, there are different options available on the internet. I like the 7 Cups of Tea community (https://www.7cups.com/). it is a community that has options for both direct (one on one) and group support via internet chat. And it is FREE!!. I have found it helpful. There are also other types of groups, as well as self harm crisis lines that can be called
I am sorry about this, it sounds very upsetting and frustrating to not be able to remember things that matter to you. Do you feel you forget thing while telling or you feel same while writing? I do have good memory so i doubt if it relates with social anxiety but may it some sort of condition or something to do with your life. Usually people dont remember old things unless people remind so have you felt if someone try to remind you something does it refresh your memories? It okay we can learn to live in the moment and if you have time remembering stuff you can keep some sort of digital journal and having keywords to refresh your memories. I am 27 and neither have relationship so i understand loneliness. Anyway if you feel like talking in a safe space i am listener on 7cups here my profile
https://www.7cups.com/@YouLifeMatter Let take one day at a time.
The words suicide or "kill myself" and other forms of ending your life don't work in this subreddit. It makes people not want to help you.
That's because some people like to troll with suicidal posts to evoke emotions in others and some people with suicidal tendencies are abusive. They basically start threatening to kill themselves, unless their advisor tells them exactly what they want to hear.
Most people here know that (specifically the good advice givers that have been here for a long time) and will avoid answering these posts.
If you feel suicidal, then go to /r/SuicideWatch and post there instead. People there are experienced in dealing with suicidal feelings, in /r/advice, we are not very good at that. /r/SuicideWatch is also much more closely moderated, so it's also less likely someone will intentionally try to upset you.
If you actually want advice, then remove this post and write a post that doesn't involve a threat to end your life and repost it in /r/advice and keep your suicidal thoughts out of your responses as much as possible, or else you'll again be pointed to /r/SuicideWatch.
Or why not do both? go to /r/SuicideWatch for your suicidal feelings and post on /r/Advice to see if someone can help you improve your situation.
Free support options:
- /r/KindVoice will match you up with a volunteer that will listen to you.
- 7 Cups of Tea has both a free trained volunteer service as well as $150 monthly licensed therapist option
- If you want immediate, free help from a trained human being, text HOME to 741741 (Crisis Text Line)
I'm sure you can, either talk to a body dysmorphia hotline ( Body dysmorphic disorder Hotlines and Resources | 7 Cups Wiki ) or talk to a therapist for advice. You sound really troubled because of how badly people have talked about you, and I hope you believe me, I'm sure you look fine. But please use some of those things I talked about. They can really help. I just talked to a suicide hotline myself and they're very helpful. Anyway, please be ok, and I hope things get better. Have a good day OP.
Sorry, but I'm worried about you. A 25 year old is too old for a 19 year old, and he displays other red flags such as silencing you and not listening to you. Save yourself the years of trouble and leave him behind now. Please take care of yourself. <3
The words suicide or "kill myself" and other forms of ending your life don't work in this subreddit. It makes people not want to help you.
That's because some people like to troll with suicidal posts to evoke emotions in others and some people with suicidal tendencies are abusive. They basically start threatening to kill themselves, unless their advisor tells them exactly what they want to hear.
Most people here know that (specifically the good advice givers that have been here for a long time) and will avoid answering these posts.
If you feel suicidal, then go to /r/SuicideWatch and post there instead. People there are experienced in dealing with suicidal feelings, in /r/advice, we are not very good at that. /r/SuicideWatch is also much more closely moderated, so it's also less likely someone will intentionally try to upset you.
If you actually want advice, then remove this post and write a post that doesn't involve a threat to end your life and repost it in /r/advice and keep your suicidal thoughts out of your responses as much as possible, or else you'll again be pointed to /r/SuicideWatch.
Or why not do both? go to /r/SuicideWatch for your suicidal feelings and post on /r/Advice to see if someone can help you improve your situation.
Free support options:
- /r/KindVoice will match you up with a volunteer that will listen to you.
- 7 Cups of Tea has both a free trained volunteer service as well as $150 monthly licensed therapist option
- If you want immediate, free help from a trained human being, text HOME to 741741 (Crisis Text Line)
>I'm scared to be vulnerable and I have good reasons for it.
I'm not disputing that at all. I share the sentiment to be honest. To offer a glimpse into my experience, I also had a therapist that I stopped seeing because of similar reasons.
The thing is, you sound like you are in a bit of a crisis right now, and something should be done to give you some comfort. IMO, you should talk it out but I could be wrong. As an alternative to the options I mentioned earlier, you could try www.7cups.com its a site where you can talk about your problems completely anonymously to trained volunteers for free. That might give you a chance to voice your fears and calm your mind. I hope you find your way
Damn, sounds like a lot. Try Seven Cups of Tea if you need semi-professional help by someone you can talk to (it's for free and online, so you don't have to talk to anyone directly). As for how to survive with mental illness, it will get better over time. Please don't beat yourself up other it and try to reduce inputs that might hurt you unnecessarily (Twitter, Tiktok, Reddit, etc.).
Maybe try meditation or yoga, it helped me calm down a lot and focus a lot. What might also help is going more outside on some walks alone, if you feel comfortable doing that. Listen to music that you enjoy while doing it. Also, maybe don't use a smartphone (get a flipphone, or something like that) or block your screen time with some apps.
If you are severely mentally ill and think like you can't take it anymore, reach out to a suicide hotline, if you can. They might give you some emergency help.
Do you have a good relationship with your dad or can you talk to somebody else about yourn issues?
I read this 3 years ago when I first discovered the alters, and it gave me some ideas:
https://www.7cups.com/wiki/journalling-for-those-with-dissociative-identity-disorder/
I don't know if you know about 7 cups of tea.
It's a website where you can talk (for free!) to "professionally trained listeners" (basically cool people), anonymously if you want to.
It's based around the fact that therapy should be more accessible and a bunch of the listeners I talked to did at some point go through depression themselves, and do provide some insight.
I recommend archiving. Take all the things he gave you/things that remind him of you, put them in a box, and put in somewhere you won't see it unless you want to. Delete or achieve (if the feature exists) social posts. If you can't bring yourself to delete photos, cloud them so they're not on your device.
And get ready for a big storm. For the first while, your brain will take everything you see and spin it back to him. It's going to hurt. Cry when you need to cry. It really is a chemical, biological release. Reach out to friends and family, particularly people who will let you ramble until you're blue in the face. Check out 7 Cups of Tea to find someone to listen for free or use Relationship Hero for paid, professional help.
I highly recommend going no contact.
And little by little, you'll get there. I'm only three days in myself, but I've gotten so much good advice from the people around me, including family, friends, and Reddit.
I'm on the other end, but your situation is hauntingly familiar. Part of why I did what I did, staying together but feeling and acting a bit off, was trying to find something to fix. I want so badly for there to be a problem that I can blame it on so that we can work it out and be happy again.
But, after months of thinking to myself and conversations with him, I know that's not the case. I would give anything to have those feelings back and end the nightmare, but I just can't. I can't will it, no matter how badly I want to.
I don't really have any advice, but I will say that she cares about you. It's just not the type that makes these things work out.
All we can do is batten down the hatches and endure the storm. Someday, it'll feel like a past life. In the meantime, use a support system. There's Relationship Hero, though it's a bit costly. You can also use 7 Cups of Tea for free.
I'm so, so sorry. I wish you the best of luck.
In terms of your issue with sexuality and emotion, do some research about the asexuality spectrum. I find myself identifying a lot with demisexuality, meaning you don't get aroused or attracted to someone unless you've built a strong, emotional bond. You'd think that's just normal, but that would poke a lot of holes in the logic of romance movies and dating apps.
As for everything else, I'm so sorry. It sucks. It's gonna suck for a while. Someday it won't, but it does right now. If you need someone to talk to besides this sub, check out 7 Cups of Tea for free or Relationship Hero for paid, more pro kind of help.
Good luck.
Hi there! It sounds like you are in a lot of pain. It can feel horrible feeling like you are abnormal. I can relate to wishing we could have all of those things. If you would like to talk more in depth, feel free to visit 7 cups a free, anonymous emotional support site where you can seek support by connecting one-one with a trained active listener, through the forums, or chatrooms. I hope you can find the support you deserve. You are enough, and even though I might not know you, I care about you.
Seems like your parents aren't listening to you. Considering you've already tried a bunch, I would say bypass them and talk to someone else that will actually listen to you and be able to help you. School nurse could be a good start. Unfortunately some parents just don't understand how to parent
Check this site out: https://www.7cups.com/
I think if there's a chance of being suicidal, you shouldn't put that pressure on yourself. It's quite manipulative and is a technique sociopaths/psychopaths use on their victims leading to Stockholm Syndrome. I'm not saying it's 100% that but it's similar. If you are concern maybe say something along the line of, "hey, I don't think I'm best person to help guide you through this especially if you're on the edge because it also puts me on the edge of feeling responsible for you. I care about you but I don't know how to handle this and it makes me anxious but here are some resources.." "I'm here for you to cheer you on and talk about your progress but I'm not comfortable being the only person talking to you about this." If your school has virtual counseling go for that because they can be more involved and direct or even 7 cups.
It was very much the same for me, I used to wake up my mum in the middle of the night crying my eyes out because I wanted so badly to be a 'good person' in a world that felt so, so overwhelmingly bad.
Ive had cognitive therapy too, it gives you some good strategies but for me I need more stability. Once the sessions end I slowly decline. It sounds like you may feel the same.
I totally understand the money concern, even though in my country there are some free resources, it breaks my heart knowing it just isn't the same in America. I have some friends there, and know everything tends to come with a high price tag so I get the worry.
I haven't used this in a few years, but it is free and it may help take the edge off until you can get the money together for a professional.
Just make sure that you bear in mind that even professionals don't always have the right skill set for your particular concerns, and may not be helpful. There no shame in talking to a few different people until you find someone who gets you and what you need.
Sometimes therapy feels uncomfortable because you're getting somewhere, and it's worth sticking out but it sometimes feels uncomfortable because that professional isn't right for you. Learning the difference has been life changing. So just keep a check on your feelings when you're chatting, make sure it all feels how you think it should.
I hope your medication is helping a little, I was never able to feel better on it but a lot of people can do. I'm also sorry your parents don't want to help, that's a real shame.
If there is anything I can do to help, let me know. Feeling alone is often the worst part of being so aware of everything and the pain of it.
It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot right now. It seems to me that you are spending so much energy trying to manage and shut down those persistent thoughts of anxiety that it’s leaving you exhausted. I can see why you are so frustrated with it all.
If you need someone to vent to you can try this mental health non profit 7 Cups https://www.7cups.com/19941802 I also came across a self-help guide there Acceptance and Commitment Therapy which involves managing some of the things you’re talking about. It’s about managing chronic pain (physical or mental) and while there is also a guide for anxiety that might be helpful, I think the ACT guide might help as well and be different than the standard anxiety reduction techniques you’ve come across 😊
- /r/KindVoice will match you up with a volunteer that will listen to you.
- 7 Cups of Tea has both a free trained volunteer service as well as $150 monthly licensed therapist option
- If you are in a crisis and want free help from a live, trained Crisis Counselor, text HOME to 741741
There are several active subreddits, where you can post any additional questions you have:
- /r/depression/ (the biggest)
- /r/depression_help/ (the most helpful, also has a discord)
- /r/depressed/ (read the top pinned at some point)
- 7 Cups of Tea has both a free trained volunteer service as well as $150 monthly licensed therapist option
- If you are in a crisis and want free help from a live, trained Crisis Counselor, text HOME to 741741
There are several active subreddits, where you can post any additional questions you have:
- /r/depression/ (the biggest)
- /r/depression_help/ (the most helpful, also has a discord)
- /r/depressed/ (read the top pinned at some point)
yup! i don't really get migraines that often, but i've had some in the past and just in general i tend to dissociate, which sort of feels like what you're describing, at least to me. i don't quite know what's happening and everything is just existing around me and i don't really know what is and what isn't. emotions feel just out of reach and i just feel like i'm looking at the world through a camera lens, like i'm just not really there.
this is just to say that i can relate to what you're feeling though- you should still probably talk to your PCP (besides, migraines are brutal, and 8 hours with aftereffects is intense.) if you think it's starting to affect your mental health, seeking out professional help is also really important too. of course, covid exists and if it's not feasible that's okay too. here's a free resource i personally like, although there are plenty more out there. take care, though, and be safe!
- Phone Apps: Two popular free apps commonly used that help fighting depressions, are Wysa and MoodTools. These will track your mood, give you advice or even listen to your problems. The most popular meditation app is: Calm - Meditate, Sleep, Relax
Free support options:
- /r/KindVoice will match you up with a volunteer that will listen to you.
- 7 Cups of Tea has both a free trained volunteer service as well as $150 monthly licensed therapist option
- If you are in a crisis and want free help from a live, trained Crisis Counselor, text HOME to 741741
There are several active subreddits, where you can post any additional questions you have:
- /r/depression/ (the biggest)
- /r/depression_help/ (the most helpful, also has a discord)
- /r/depressed/ (read the top pinned at some point)
1) obligatory virtual hug *hugs*
2) yeah, quarantine is really lonely. can you try calling a friend?
3) if you need to vent, there's a whole reddit community of listeners, as well as a huge amount of resources online. here's one, for example :)
4) cut yourself some slack. you'll be okay and you're strong enough to last through quarantine. today is a bad day, but there will be better days. take care <3
If you need some help now, This is site that provides free 24/7 chat, but don't share your personal information (name, address, school name, etc.) Since, there is also no laws/agreement to protect your privacy like an actual therapist does.
I had to learn how to overcome the same things to become an active listener. I tried being a listener on 7 cups and took the free online class, and I actually learned a lot from it. I had to get off after a while because some people are really, really, toxic.
Here are some things I learned:
Are you a visual person? When they talk, imagine the things that they are saying. Put yourself in their shoes.
I use to do this thing where I would always give personal anecdotes to let someone know how I understood, and how I was with them. Be careful not to completely change the subject when you're doing this, because even though you don't have ill intentions, it will make them feel like you are trying to one-up them or you don't find them interesting. And if you do get off topic, remind them what began the tangent (so you were saying ..., then what?), and go on from there.
Ask questions. Clarify if you didn't hear them correctly. Similarly, when they're trying to open up to you, target the emotion first. "Oh, so because of x and y, you must be feeling z. Is that right?"
It takes a lot of practice, but you have time. It's helped me become a lot more active in people's lives and a much better friend.
Any chance you can "meet" with friends via discord?
Also, https://moodgym.com.au/ offers free cognitive behavioral therapy for anxiety and depression (not sure what mental health issues you're dealing with), https://www.7cups.com/ is a free resource for getting support/talking to people, and I might be able to direct you to other resources if you specify what particular treatments/assistance would be most helpful for you.
If possible (and I know it may not be possible), look into using other strategies for dealing with anxiety/stress, such as exercise and meditation (headspace has free resources). You may also want to research harm reduction strategies.
Sure, there's a great website called 7 Cups. They have trained listeners who talk to people about what's on their mind. Now, it's not actually talk, it's typed chat format. Give it a try, it's private and free.
I already finished CAS, but there's a lot of online 'service' websites you could try. A past student at our school used a website that was dedicated to volunteers narrating books to increase access to the books and I have no idea what the website was called but I'm sure you could find it with some internet digging. There's also a website called 7 cups which is like a therapy website and one of the free services is a 24/7 chat where you're just matched up with 'listeners' to kind of talk about your problems. That sounds like super sketchy but it's actually a really professional and pretty well-known website in terms of the online mental health community. You can offer to volunteer as a listener and that could basically be a huge part of your service component. Don't know ways to fill the action and creativity one, but I'm sure with some digging you could probably find some way to fulfill it during quarantine. I mean you could make posters for creativity about handwashing techniques or proper coughing etiquette and stick it around your community?? I'm just making stuff up at this point but a lot of CAS is just bsing through, so hopefully some of this helped! Good luck :)
Edit: Link to the 7 cups website - https://www.7cups.com/
I'm sorry that you're feeling so stressed. Cancer is always something that will often make people feel that way and it's perfectly valid for you to be worried.
For me, talking to a friend comes easily as I have a very close friend I'm used to telling my troubles to, but I'm sure it's not that easy for you. If you have someone like that to talk to, I think you should really go ahead, I usually find that it clears my head up a whole lot. If you don't have someone to talk to you can try some coping mechanisms. I normally chew a lot of gum, but I've heard excising can help a lot with most people as well as help them sleep.
If you need really need to discuss, don't forget there are listeners online you can text/talk to! https://www.7cups.com/ Don't feel ashamed of talking to them! (I've never used this before, but you might want to check it out.
7 cups of tea has free services. they are low quality, but you get what you pay for.
they also have an app i think but i can't vouch for it's quality either. i think they have low cost paid services too. the free chats can have long wait times.
NTA- some families are toxic. Save yourself and enjoy your family. Here’s some links to cutting ties with toxic families- some give advice on cutting out the whole family, some focus more of cutting out specific toxic members. Hope these help: I like this one the best- https://wehavekids.com/family-relationships/Strained-Family-Relationships-When-You-Should-Cut-The-Ties-and-Say-Goodbye
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imperfect/2019/10/its-okay-to-cut-ties-with-toxic-family-members/
Whoa whoa whoa.
I don't know if your insurance would cover an online therapist at 7Cups, but even if it doesn't, they do have free counselors (not licensed but trained, IIRC) you could talk to.
Spend your energy on healing yourself. I don't think you can or even should repair the relationship with him. Write a letter and burn it. Buy some cheap ass knick knacks from goodwill and smash them. Get some modeling clay and punch shapes into it. Find an outlet for your emotions, don't try to force them down.
7 cups of tea https://www.7cups.com/about/ is a fantastic free online listening service. They aren't therapists but they can help you keep going. You don't have to be in a crisis to talk with them.
If you are in the US you can text 741741 to text with the Crisis Line at any time. https://www.crisistextline.org/ will have numbers for UK and Canada as well.
You are not alone. You matter.
Try 7 Cups, they’re more about just listening.
The suicide hotline has its place, but I’ve heard/read many times that they haven’t helped or put people on hold or just tell them to go to the ER.