Obligatory link to the pdf because it's important enough to read that it should be freely accessible.
He is way out of line and frankly I’m afraid for you. Does your bedroom door have a lock on it? You can get a travel lock like this which can’t be picked and doesn’t require any installation.
Honestly I’d try to move out of there as soon as possible.
What's really scary is according to the family's attorney the family warned police weeks ago about Elliot's behavior.
EDIT: From an NPR article: "Shifman said that his parents were concerned a few weeks ago after watching a few YouTube videos "regarding suicide and the killing of people." Shifman said Rodger had "multiple therapists" and a social worker was concerned enough last week that she called police.
Authorities, however, interviewed him and concluded he was a "perfectly polite, kind and wonderful human."'
I'm sorry, but in the past where things like this have happened, and we're all "Oh why didn't this person or that person do something/say something" and here everyone involved knows something is up, why was nothing done?!?!?
EDIT 2: Thanks for your responses guys. I guess it's just frustrating after a big event like this. You feel so helpless. And the fact that so many men have this mentality on Reddit and the internet in general scares me.
Here is the pdf, every woman needs to read it.
Don't know if this has been posted, but this isn't help with the abortion, just for next time:
Amazon sells Plan B for about $10, rather than the $49.99 price tag you'll find at actual stores. Ladies and gentlemen, no reason to not keep a handful in the house for those "just in case" scenarios!
Best of luck with your situation, I wish I could have been more assistance, but I'm gonna go skim the comments and save what I can so I can be helpful the next time this question is posited! Most importantly of all, don't let anyone take your choices away from you. It's your body, your life, your ability to choose. You do you!
Further interesting info from another npr report:
“One of the striking aspects of Tahirih's further research, including a 2011 study on forced marriage in the U.S., is that there is no single profile of the girls and women involved. They came from families of Muslim, Christian, Hindu, Buddhist and other faiths, from immigrant families from many countries and from non-immigrant communities, too. If there is a common denominator, it's this, says Smoot: "Whenever you have a community that is closed, where it's difficult to reach outside it, where there are great stakes to oppose community norms, that contributes to child marriage happening."
I like the point the article is making more than the product it is selling. Although plenty of workwear items regularly cost that much, I prefer to shop the (much) cheaper sales racks/stores. For example, you can get 3/4 length leggings and full length leggings with 2 large pockets & 1 zipper pocket for under $20 on Amazon.
BEFORE googling: go to a grocery store and buy (with cash) a credit gift card. Then go online a buy yourself a cheap VPN (virtual private network) like NordVPN or ExpressVPN.
If you need help with some of the technical stuff ( downloading it, making sure its on and working correctly, etc.) PM me.
to piggyback off u/zelliez - amazon sells the test strips they use in clinics for ultra cheap and in bulk. You can get them bundled with ovulation tests too, if that's something you need
If you have an android phone OP use Call Recorder Pro. I've used that for 3 years, you can even automatically back up the recordings to Google drive. I'll buy it for you if you want
A study found that 6% of drivers deliberately aim for animals in the road.
You might wonder, "what does this have to do with toilets?"
Those same psychopaths use toilets, and they comprise 6% of the population.
I'd like to believe the mess is accidental, but after reading that article I sometimes wonder.
I’m glad you’re okay and was able to get away. I can’t believe the door didn’t lock from the inside! Make sure to contact Airbnb about that as well as give a bad rating explaining why. That is a very dangerous set up for anyone staying there. This is good to travel with: https://www.amazon.com/Addalock-Portable-Travel-AirBNB-Lockdown/dp/B00186URTY
Don't forget that even if you don't need an IUD, you can order Plan B or generic levonorgestrel online TODAY in case it's taken off the market. If you can afford it--just do it now, for your own peace of mind. It shouldn't expire for 3-4 years, so it will see you through this administration.
I'm not even sexually active, but if I (or any of my friends) ever got raped, there's no way I'd want to be without it. Just think of it as a small form of "Trump administration insurance".
You are the change we all need . Also; you can find em on amazon for $10 a pop. Here is the link. Let’s stock up.
My Way Emergency Contraceptive 1 Tablet Compare to Plan B One-Step by Busuna https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00NKMY5E2/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_c_api_i_2FCaDbGVE31H7
I use ExpressVPN which allows me to to use it on up to 5 devices. You have to choose a VPN location inside the US because they block outside of country requests, but anywhere inside the US and you can do it no problem.
Short answer: because lack of paternity leave means that Mum's become the parenting expert in the first month of a baby's life, and then once forced to own parenting as a task, they continue to build expertise through greater practice.
I read this book 5 years ago, and it's why I took 6 months off work when my child was born. So that my wife and I collectively built parenting experience.
This is hard, miscarriages are one of the big taboos of our society (covered really well in this TED talk).
It's not your fault. As a geneticist I know non-viable mutations (abnormalities) are very common in gametes (eggs or sperm). I haven't tried to be pregnant myself, but all of my very close friends and both my grandmothers had miscarriages along the way to making their families. I assume my other friends did as well, but we are not close enough to talk about such a taboo subject.
I hope there are women here who can break the silence and commiserate with you. It's so great that you are talking about it here, I think it will help both you and others.
Sending lots of good vibes.
Don’t even get me started if you have big boobs! Doesn’t sit properly at all and cuts into my neck and gives me a neck rash. I bought this . What a game changer.
Yes! Get all the American Girl books. There's a whole series on how a girl's body develops, how to deal with peer pressure, etc. Here's an Amazon link so you get an idea of what they're like. Start with this one, and get as many as you can where they are listed as "Customers who bought this also bought". I'm a female and have daughters, and I feel comfortable talking about this stuff, but it really helps if I forget to talk about something or if my kids forget what we've talked about.
p.s. You're an awesome person! Best wishes to you and your niece!
Grantly Dick-Read's work is still very popular in the natural childbirth movement. See his most popular book on Amazon:
>In an age where birth has often been overtaken by obstetrics, Dr Dick-Read's philosophy is still as fresh and relevant as it was when he originally wrote this book. He unpicks every possible root cause of western woman's fear and anxiety in pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding and does so with overwhelming heart and empathy. Essential reading for all parents-to-be, childbirth educators, midwives and obstetricians!
Some choice quotes from Dr. Dick-R, courtesy of wikipedia:
>"Woman fails when she ceases to desire the children for which she was primarily made. Her true emancipation lies in freedom to fulfill her biological purposes,..."
> tribal women who died in childbirth did so "without any sadness...realizing if they were not competent to produce children for the spirits of their fathers and for the tribe, they had no place in the tribe."
Anyone who says labor pain is all in your head clearly has never been in labor.
"if you stepped in dog poop in your bare feet, would you blot it with paper towel, or would you wash it off with water?"
$35 is a great start, and when you're ready for snobbish luxury...
Do you have an Amazon wishlist? If not, make one. Put this on it:
Post a link to your wishlist here. I'm assuming by using an Amazon wishlist I'll be able to buy the xbox and have it sent to you without you having to reveal your address.
Please do this. I'm serious. I didn't have time to do Secret Santa this past year, but I did it the year before (https://www.redditgifts.com/gallery/gift/new-skill-learn-my-ss-and-it-looks-im-it/) and I might as well make up for not doing it this year.
Don't be shy or feel awkward about doing this.
Um as a father to a daughter, i use this http://www.ispyconnect.com/
at work just in case something goes down. (was suspected of someone stealing my meds). its easy. black out the LED that shows you are recording. Then report to mom or police.
Here’s one with a light: https://www.amazon.com/self-Defense-Flashlight-Screaming-Electronic-Decoration/dp/B08MQGSQCG/
Lots of different types, internal components are pretty cheap so worth looking at places like Aliexpress if you want to get a bunch, ie leave one in each coat pocket or something.
I hated that I'd been abused. For a long time it made me feel like I was unworthy of love and normal relationships. I realized over time (and am still having ah-ha moments) that while I can't exactly be grateful for the awful things that were done to me, I can be proud of the growth I've achieved during the process of healing, and grateful for what I've learned and what I've done with that knowledge.
I am so happy and proud for you.
As for your fears - your boyfriend wasn't with you for three years because he just wanted to see you naked. He loves you. Focus on how awesome building that trust is, and how far you've travelled.
Saw this today and thought it was amazing/interesting: https://getpocket.com/explore/item/how-to-grow-from-your-pain?utm_source=pocket-newtab
My UTI world was greatly improved by taking a scoop of D⎯mannose powder every day. Amazon sells it. Haven't had another UTI as long as I take the powder. I took a 2 week break from it while vacationing and got a UTI. Wheee!
I disagree. Her diary is valuable precisely because of the details of her personal life, which make up the majority of its contents, not the occasional insights about Nazi occupation. As I said to meewho:
> Anne did want her diary published and read--- not only did she say so in it, but she even went back and edited earlier entries so that they would read more clearly. Unless she specifically marked that section to be left out (which I doubt), then I see no reason to exclude it. What most people seem to forget is that the book is called "The Diary of a Young Girl", not "The Diary of Anne Frank". The reason it's so poignant is because most of it isn't about the war or the Holocaust, it's just the normal stuff teens write in their diaries. It shows that the victims of the Holocaust weren't unrelatable faceless numbers, they were 15 year old girls who wondered about their clitoris, moms who didn't get along with their rebellious teenage daughters, and horny boys who hooked up with the girl next door.
There's been at least one trans woman on Facebook who's posted a photo of herself topless every day while her body went through changes due to HRT, to see at what point her account got zucc'd due to female-presenting nip nops.
Also this swimsuit exists.
hmm weird, the actual data shows about a 10% difference not 19%. http://imgur.com/a/ZV5vu .
Most cases of identity theft arent targetted either. Just people buying bulk collections of leaked personal data and seeing if people have re-used the password for other sites. Remind people to periodically check their emails on https://haveibeenpwned.com/ and tell them they shouldn't reuse passwords that have been leaked.
Get a lock for her door.... Please.
Plus, maybe a small camera that records motion.
( http://www.dx.com/p/hd-720p-12mp-mini-camera-photograph-video-voice-record-motion-detection-webcam-131040 ) set it up... and see....
BETTER NEW VERSION HERE
You'd be surprised how many women have hats and/or big sunglasses in every photo (in my search results (the 40-somethings), I would estimate that 50% of all photos have sunglasses). There are plenty of profiles where in every photo she's wearing a mask, too!
It's like Match.com is sponsored by the witness-protection program.
Don't do anything investigatory. Nothing that could make someone accuse you of putting words in her mouth.
I would read a book like this with her (esp. the part about some secrets shouldn't be kept) and then brainstorm a list of trusted adults with her that she could tell if anyone ever violated her boundaries, and make sure she knows you are available. Teachers, Dad, school counselor, etc. Also mention that if a kid tells someone and the grownup doesn't do anything, or shuts her down, tell someone else. (Grownups sometimes don't know what to do, but most do, make it about a grownup making a mistake, in case she has told mom and mom rejected.) Don't push- she might need to work up courage or process new info if someone has been grooming her.
Dad could do this, too.
I heard there are free PDFs of this, so I did a search and found this:
A tip: I, too, loved pore strips, but the only thing keeping me from using them more often was the price. Then a while back I saw a comment on reddit that led me to investigate here.
Pros: cheaper, easy coverage of all face areas. Cons: takes longer to dry, mildly unpleasant smell, must work quickly to apply a not-too-thin layer (this comes with practice). Just thought I'd pass it along.
Just as an update: Facebook PR has not responded to me but the setting appears to have been changed. I just checked it and it now lists women just as "Female."
It's surprising that this was only changed now after I asked them about it, however. Violet Blue wrote about this publicly on ZDNet in January and no change was made until this morning.
Edit: As an aside, I do appreciate the hostile tone of the numerous private messages I have received. (One person even threatened to dig up and publish my address.) Reddit users generally seem to value reporters who make an effort to be fair and get all sides of the story unless it's related to women. Who knew asking Facebook for comment would work so many people into a froth?
Ahem. If I may.
https://protonvpn.com/ for all your VPN needs (and to prevent your home IP from being added to their blocked list eventually)
https://www.fakepersongenerator.com/ (select 'Texas' from the state drop-down .. . randomly generate everything else, or narrow it down by gender, city, etc if you like) - click generate . .. . and party on!
FOD the data!
Note that guy on Tik Tok had a far more automated way to do this (love that guy!), before they added Captcha and things to slow him down. This way is more manual BUT you can defeat their CAPTCHA and other Turing test stuff they might throw at the problem.
Tell your friends! Assuming they find some way to resurrect their dumb, privacy-violating website that is .. .
Good thinking! Glad you posted this. Sometimes people do this stuff without even considering the consequences.
Also, if I may, I'd like to suggest to anyone and everyone to read "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin De Becker. Truly the most important book I've ever read and I think it should be required reading for every high school in America. It gives clear & important information about a host of situations a person (but especially a woman) may find themselves in.
Are you familiar with the affordable care act?
But Oregon should have plenty of low-cost/income clinics.
Here is more information.
You might want to find a copy of The Feeling Good Handbook. It has a number of negative thinking distortions and how to replace them with more realistic/accurate thoughts. Might help.
Edit: Wow, thanks for the upvotes. I thought I would add some examples. The logic 'nice guy leaves -> unlovable' contains at least two distortions. The first is generalization; just because one particular guy doesn't love you doesn't mean you're unlovable. It just means that guy doesn't love you, nothing more. The second is negative fortune-telling; you're predicting a bad outcome right off the bat with absolutely no evidence. You might be better off consciously thinking "Huge numbers of people find love and happiness, even people who are way more fucked up than me, so odds are good that I will find happiness and love eventually even if it takes a few tries to find someone compatible" and "This relationship might last forever or it might not, but we can still make each other happy now and for the foreseeable future." The key is that by default, negative emotions tend to encourage negative thoughts; instead, you want to think realistic thoughts that allow positive emotions. It's much easier to change your thoughts than your emotions.
This prayer is in the art scroll siddur, which is the orthodox prayer book. It's one of the opening prayers. Mostly her Jewish traditions remove these.
Source:relevant user name
>Pick up the book "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin De Becker, if you haven't already.
pdf for anyone who needs it
The one I have is the Luxe 320 which has both nozzles and a hot water connection. Super easy to connect, and because I rent, I just have the plasticky hose coming underneath the door to the under the sink bit.
I absolutely respect the strong personal responsibility vibe in your comment, but wanted to say the buddy system
reduces the failure rate significantly. Condoms + VCF are over 96% effective. If you’re super careful add in the rhythm method and you’re close to 100%.
This is where I saw it first (along with maps depicting what the spread would be like in more recently history, given who was allowed to vote at various points): http://www.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeedpolitics/what-the-2012-election-would-have-looked-like-with
From the bottom: "Maps use the exit poll data available on CNN.com. 2012 presidential exit polls did not occur in AK, AR, DE, DC, GA, HI, ID, KY, LA, NE, ND, OK, RI, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, WV, WY. Data for those states without exit polls was extrapolated from regional demographic voting patterns."
Hardly scientific by any means, no. It also definitely doesn't say that "all" white guys voted Romney. Of course, given the way the systen works, not everyone has to vote for one person for that person to win. Per state, 51% will be enough for that state to go to one candidate, right?
But good on ya, Washington. Proud WSU grad here.
I still don't find it hard to believe that Romney was popular with at least 51% of white men in a large number of US states in 2012.
Hey, could you guys do an AMA?
I love the fact that you guys are normal female scientists; you might remember the fiasco when some one tried to do a females in science ad...and it turned out to be male service (high heels in lab, and it only got worse)
I think you guys could do an AMA about being actual ladies who do actual science, and yet lead normal lives. Anything you say would be better than that fiasco. Plus we want to know more about Curiosity! (tell the truth, where are you hiding all the martians? :D )
Photos and videos are actually flat; your mind figures out things like depth and texture using things like shadowing and the relative sizes of things.
So for example you look at this photo and you probably think Lapiņa looks unhealthily thin, because you can easily make out her collarbone, ribs and sternum; she looks pale, with near-white skin, her legs look small compared to the width of her hips, and her feet are at a funny angle.
On the other hand you look at this photo (NSFW lingerie catalogue photo) and her ribcage is less visible, her skin is skin-coloured, and her legs look a normal width. Looks healthy, right?
Basically it can be the same girl in both photos because in the latter photo a photographer has moved and diffused the lighting, posed her and set up his camera so the she looks healthy.
Those images are nowhere near the top results, these are.
NSFW, may include vagina diagram.
I know someone posted a door brace, but this one is a much more portable option that would still do the trick.
Yes, there are people that think this. There is another meme she shares where she says "men prefer virgins without debt". She doesn't believe women should be college educated because of debt (and that it teaches them things like feminism and self esteem?) so that they won't subjugate themselves to men in the "biblically" correct manner.
If you go read quiverful sites or ones of people defected- you can see that these are held beliefs. There are families that only send their boys to college or a trade and restrict their girls to babysitting, playing music, etc. There are also books now working on teaching women "biblical submission" with the notion that it spices up the marriage. I really dislike this avenue because its the idea that women should be dependent and managed by their husbands as though they were a children. Supposedly he is supposed to love this responsibility and you love the ignorance of a child and be sweet and fun (now that you have left your partner to handle/bungle things). To each their own, but I can't stand it and it seems terrible to subject children to those roles.
ProtonVPN is free. Also, if they're blocking by IP it's not hard to get another without VPN. Use wifi at different places, new IPs everywhere you go. Turn your phone off for maybe 10 min. There is a chance your IP will be released to another subscriber and you'll grab a new one.
If you're at home, you could turn off your cable modem or whatever you have. Though I've found that most ISPs will preserve your IP for quite a while.
Yes, Plan B is available from Amazon, and a European organization called Aid Access will send mifepristone and misoprostol to the Americas through the mail.
This phenomenon is discussed in a book on modern female sword-fighters
Here is the bit in the “prejudices” chapter:
> In training, most men feel compelled to train her, even if she is a more competent fighter.
> If every fighter can be ranked on a scale of 1-10, 1 being brand new and 10 an accomplished [high-stakes tournament] winner, seven or so is a knight, a number three male will still not feel comfortable teaching a number one male. It is not until they start to get to the number four stage that they might feel qualified to teach a number one male fighter. In short, [men] feel comfortable teaching two or three levels below their ability.
> In contrast, that same number three male will feel perfectly competent to teach a female ranked one to six. Even if she is clearly a better fighter, there is something in many men that refuses to see this and, with every good intention, he attempts to instruct her on the “right” way to do something.
> I’ve been fighting for over 25 years and I would be rich if I had a nickel for every time a new fighter tried teaching me a [basic beginner move] even today.
Read the book "Why Does He Do That" by Lundy Bancroft. It's enlightening. I'm so glad you left, you were being abused. Good luck on your next journey. Go heal. You deserve better! We're here for you.
There is a very well respected medical textbook called Cope’s Early Diagnosis of the Acute Abdomen and your doctor didn’t do one single thing right.
My favorite quote of her's: “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
I want to give a shout out to colored gemstones here! Rainbow sapphires, tanzanite, emeralds, citrine, etc are all stunning (IMHO!)
Costco's gemstone jewelry is very reasonably priced for the money and this Etsy jeweler has really unique engagement rings that won't break the bank (too much!)
Disclaimer: I bought mine from him and the wedding band from Costco. Very happy with both. I know we all have different preferences and whatnot but gemstone jewelry just makes me so happy!
You can also buy multi packs of tests from Amazon for cheap. Always useful for the paranoia. The exact same dollar store tests are like 89c at walmart.
Source "Phyllis Siegel, 76, left, and Connie Kopelov, 84, both of New York, embrace after becoming the first same-sex couple to get married at the Manhattan City Clerk's office."
The affordable care act requires insurance companies to coverage contraceptives as long as they are prescribed by a doctor and FDA approved. If your employer has a religious based exemption, you can still get the coverage. It just has to come directly from the insurance company.
There are plenty of guys who want to be with you no matter what you think of your size or looks. Trust me. My husband and I temporarily tried poly -- we realized it wasn't for us and quit -- and during that time it was not a problem for me to find partners.
I'm no longer the skinny, lithe girl I was pre-marriage, either -- I'm a good 55 lbs heavier than when I met my husband, and I have a jiggly belly with a flap-over (pannus) that covers my c-section scar. I have stretch marks up my inner thighs, across my belly, under my breasts, and behind my knees. My breasts are no longer quite as perky, and in general I'm not tight, sexy, and young, or even a MILF. I look (to me) like a mom, with a mom body and mom jeans and just not-sexy.
But apparently, I still look pretty good, because I was able to find numerous partners, to the point where I could be picky about who I slept with and I rejected a few guys.
If you were willing to look for partners, if you were willing to make this truly an open marriage, believe me -- your weight will not be an issue.
Now, that's all if you'd like to try making this truly open. I'd recommend you read The Ethical Slut (I have a copy, if you want, let me know your address and I can mail it to you). It's all about healthy communication and respectful, honest open relationships. Right now, what you're describing is not an "open" relationship. It is coercion and manipulation. Your husband is being unfair and not addressing your feelings, needs or concerns in this situation. Did he even posit other solutions, like investing in a RealDoll, or occasionally getting someone to watch the kids so you could travel with him, or having virtual sex with you via Skype? Was his first and only solution: I travel, therefore non-monogamous sex?
HIPAA doesn't protect you from having your information shared once identification information is stripped.
> In order to strip personally identifiable information (PII), HIPAA requires organizations to use a process called de-identification. De-identified information must have names, dates, numbers and other PHI listed above removed, along with any other information that might expose the patient’s identity. Once that information has been removed, the data can be used outside of treatment.
Unless you wrote something like "because 383 W Addison, Chicago is a shitty place to raise a child" your reason could likely be shared without your consent -- in isolation from other personal details.
I found that a structured mesh case will stop bra pads from slipping out, getting misshapen or throwing out the underwire to wreak havoc in the washing machine. Although generally I prefer cotton bras anyway.
Also that link goes to a mesh bag that looks like the one I bought from Daiso for a lot less money that works very well, but I can't seem to find a link to that one specifically.
Which is why PP needs our support, and it will only get exponentially worse if ACA is repealed.
Under the Affordable Care Act, preventative services such as IUD insertions, STD Testing, birth control pills, Vaccinations, screenings for diabetes/cancer/blood pressure, etc, mammograms, alcohol counseling, immunizations, everything aforementioned, and more should have been free.
However, PP may not have been in your network, or you may have gotten services that aren't covered, (thanks, GOP and hobby lobby!)
This is going to sound like a really weird recommendation, but my roommate works midnights sometimes and it really weirds me out to sleep in my apartment alone. We have a security system, but I also bought these. If you wedge them under an interior door that opens inward, it's REALLY hard to open it. You'd basically have to break the entire door. It's a small thing, but it makes me feel more safe when I have nights alone.
Anne did want her diary published and read--- not only did she say so in it, but she even went back and edited earlier entries so that they would read more clearly. Unless she specifically marked that section to be left out (which I doubt), then I see no reason to exclude it. What most people seem to forget is that the book is called "The Diary of a Young Girl", not "The Diary of Anne Frank". The reason it's so poignant is because most of it isn't about the war or the Holocaust, it's just the normal stuff teens write in their diaries. It shows that the victims of the Holocaust weren't unrelatable faceless numbers, they were 15 year old girls who wondered about their clitoris, moms who didn't get along with their rebellious teenage daughters, and horny boys who hooked up with the girl next door.
> I'm more concern about Viagra being covered by Insurance companies but not birth control
That is simply not true. The ACA mandates that insurers cover several forms of female birth control and other services/products related to female reproductive health. https://www.healthcare.gov/coverage/birth-control-benefits/
>Plans in the Health Insurance Marketplace must cover contraceptive methods and counseling for all women, as prescribed by a health care provider.
> Plans must cover these services without charging a copayment or coinsurance when provided by an in-network provider — even if you haven’t met your deductible.
> Plans aren’t required to cover drugs to induce abortions and services for male reproductive capacity, like vasectomies.
It is literally written into law that women's birth control and reproductive services are covered, not men's. I believe a big driver of the current discussion is that the new administration wants to roll back the ACA, which might entail eliminating the birth control aspect of it, so of course women are going to be worried. EDIT: And this renewed debate then ignites people who abhor birth control/government spending to start clamoring about affordable access to birth control, etc...
Oh god that’s awful. Keep notes and screenshots of all the accounts in case this escalates. Be ready to get the police involved. Buy one of those locks to double lock your door.
Yes! “The Gift of Fear” (book) talks about this.
Here is another article about voluntourism that I found a few months ago. I think it's a good read as well and it got me thinking when I first read it.
Edit: This is actually the article that /u/TomBadombadil references above.
If anyone wants to start volunteering, I would also suggest that people get involved with organizations within their own community and make it a prolonged experience.
along with this excellent advice and encouragement, myfitnesspal.com (and this easy to read explanation and guide to figuring out how many calories you'll want to eat) is a great (free!) and easy to use calorie counter. I think it's awesome that you want to better yourself.
I was raised by a single father. He liked to keep my hair long and braid it (I learned how to braid myself by practicing on string, it's probably easier than practicing on a wiggling little girl) or put barrettes in it. After a while, we got it cut into a cute bob, and then he would just brush it.
Funny single dad story that my father told me when I got older: My father worked at a grocery store as a bagger when I was a little girl. One day, he was bagging some kind of plant that required a netting be pulled up and over it. He made a comment that it was "just like putting on pantyhose," and then quickly had to explain to his co-workers that he was not, in fact, a crossdresser - but the single parent of a little girl.
I bought this Hibbent seat attachment from Amazon about 6 months ago and, like OP, it changed my wife and I's lives. We tried to tell our family but they scoff at the idea.
To answer your question, ours have 2 sprayers one for the butt and one designed to gently spray lady bits. Each sprayer extends from the seat when actived and retracts when turned off. They are both at an angle which reduces the amount of direct splash back. There is also a self cleaning mode you can activate. This, basically, turns on the sprayer without extending - cleaning the heads in place.
This particular bidet and many others are very sanitary, don't worry. Buy one, you'll love it!
EDIT: Fixed link to actual seat we bought. There is also a user review video on the page that shows how the bidet works (using saran wrap on the seat)
Dirty Hands and Vicious Deeds: The U.S. Government's Complicity In Crimes Against Humanity and Genocide is a book that does a great job expanding on some of the actions mentioned in these articles. It narrows in on seven different instances and backs them up with declassified documents, most procured via Freedom of Information Act requests.
So...you're going to wait for a second slap? To whom? I bet that one will be "justified", too.
His POV is that if he's under stress, and someone (smaller and weaker than he) disrespects him, he gets to hit them. He said that to you and you are ignoring it. He used different words, but the meaning is clear.
What if it takes three years for him to haul off and belt (one of you) again? What good is all that time together then?
The lack of contrition is scary. "Working on it"...on your kids? If it were me, I'd let him 'work on it' with someone else's kids.
Change often sucks. Big, unexpected change sucks worse.
Wasted time is regretted much later. Just in case: When Things Fall Apart - Heart Advice For Difficult Times.
"Change is the only constant in life, if we could only see it." - ibid
I wish you Peace.
This is terrible for a variety of reasons. This shouldn't have happened to you, you did not invite this, and the guilty party should be treated as such.
Pulling out is the second worst form of birth control after abortion, but provided the gentleman has peed since his last orgasm it works as well as condoms & rhythm method.
Pregnancy is only half the battle & pulling out will not protect either of you from STDs.
Unfortunately there is no way for you to trust a new partner has sufficient brain cells & will to actually pull out, but if he did you would not get pregnant.
Don't practice pull out. But if you do practice pull out, practice pulling out.
I kinda wish there was a yelp for dating where you could rate your partners. Obviously it would be prone to abuse, but Lies about wearing condom & Fingers butthole without warning should get you blueballed from sex for awhile. The sad thing is people who are willing to deceive, manipulate, & coerce have a much easier time dating & are overrepresented in between the sheets.
It's time to mark & punish terrible people for the terrible things they have done like a socially transmitted disease.
In case anyone has forgotten,plan b is $10 on Amazon & not inappropriate to keep in your first aid kit.
Gotta have a mattress protector.
They’re cheap, you wont notice them and they are fluid proof. my husband has nose bleeds and we have small kids, and the bright white mattress we bought years ago still looks new.
Oh my god!!! Such a thing exists!!!! I thought you were being a smartass. It's sadly a little less funny knowing it's a real thing
Stop using the word "free." I pay well over $400/month in insurance premiums. It's free in that there is no copay or deductible, as with the other preventative services below that you benefit from as well:
Abdominal aortic aneurysm one-time screening for men of specified ages who have ever smoked
Alcohol misuse screening and counseling
Aspirin use to prevent cardiovascular disease for men and women of certain ages
Blood pressure screening
Cholesterol screening for adults of certain ages or at higher risk
Colorectal cancer screening for adults over 50
Diabetes (Type 2) screening for adults with high blood pressure
Diet counseling for adults at higher risk for chronic disease
Hepatitis B screening for people at high risk, including people from countries with 2% or more Hepatitis B prevalence, and U.S.-born people not vaccinated as infants and with at least one parent born in a region with 8% or more Hepatitis B prevalence.
Hepatitis C screening for adults at increased risk, and one time for everyone born 1945 – 1965
HIV screening for everyone ages 15 to 65, and other ages at increased risk
Immunization vaccines for adults — doses, recommended ages, and recommended populations vary:
Human Papillomavirus (HPV)
Influenza (flu shot)
Lung cancer screening for adults 55 - 80 at high risk for lung cancer because they’re heavy smokers or have quit in the past 15 years
Obesity screening and counseling
Sexually transmitted infection (STI) prevention counseling for adults at higher risk
Syphilis screening for adults at higher risk
Tobacco Use screening for all adults and cessation interventions for tobacco users
I use a door bar which is super sturdy, it would prevent even an attempted kick-in. Wishing you safety and peace of mind
Master Lock 265D Door Security Bar, Pack of 1, White https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B0002YUX8I/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_3TDQQRWX74P4X8N6WQQ1
Uh no they don't. You can walk into a CVS right now and get a Caya over the counter, the only reason you need a prescription is so your health insurance pays for it instead of needing to pay $100 for it.
Edit: Here's the amazon link https://www.amazon.com/MedIntim-Caya-Diaphragm-Pack/dp/B01B50WWT0/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1498499774&sr=8-1&keywords=caya. No prescription needed
If you use things like mixing bowls and spoons and are done with them wash them while you are waiting for stuff to cook. It takes no time to wash stuff that just got dirty. Have a sink full of soap ran and rinse water before you even start cooking. It's always better this way anyways, stuff doesn't dry out and get stuck on the pans and bowls. If you spill something wipe it up. Don't wait until you are completely done to clean up because you will then eat and get lazy and leave it all there.
Me personally if I cook breakfast I transfer all the food to paper plates with paper towels lining them as it gets done. Soaks up some of the excess grease out of the food that bothers my stomach and frees up the cooking stuff to wash. Plus theres loads of eco safe paper plates now. This is just one type. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07FFC57FS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_mkKxFbBHD0RT6
DO IT. They're $8 on amazon
I sent some to Ohio's governor after he signed the heartbeat bill. There's talk of banning insurance companies from paying for abortions and birth control, so many more people in ohio will be receiving them
Do you have a foreman? Can you promote one of the men to foreman?
In "The Art of War" Sun Tzu promises an emperor that he can train any army. The emperor, feeling cheeky, asks him to train his 100 concubines. Sun Tzu agrees. He promotes two concubines to lieutenant and orders them to have their squads of 49 march in formation. The concubines giggle. He apologizes for not making himself clear and repeats the order. The concubines giggle. He apologizes for promoting the wrong lieutenants, beheads them, and promotes the next two. The remaining 96 concubines march in formation.
If you can give one of the men a slight pay raise and a fancier title, he can become your foreman. Please don't actually behead him, but you get the idea.
Just shows how much comprehensive Sex Ed is absolutely needed in the US and still seriously lacking.
I recently listened to a podcast about the AIDS epidemic under the Reagan administration and the very unlikely hero of the whole saga was a very conservative Catholic doctor (Charles Everett Koop, who should genuinely be known and recognized as that of a global hero honestly) who was appointed Surgeon General and basically flipped the bird to the entire Republican party by disregarding all of their awful conservative/religious based so-called moral beliefs and provided the entire US with comprehensive Sex Ed (including the dirty bits) for a time (until the Republicans managed to squash it several years later).
Despite his own personal moral objections to many aspects of sexuality, he did the right thing, and not just the right thing, but he above and beyond level of right. He personally disapproved of many things that are now seen as perfectly normal by the majority of us today, but never let it impact his care or duty as a doctor, as a human being. He recognized that human beings are just that and nothing short of genuine compassion and care, even if you disapprove of someone's behaviour, actions or preferences, is unacceptable.
This whole digression is to just remind ourselves just how much the lack of proper education hurts our society in so many ways and just how much as a whole we benefit from de-stigmatizing some aspects of it.
You can get omega supplements that are from algae instead of fish. https://www.amazon.com/Nordic-Naturals-Algae-Omega-Vegetarian/dp/B009KTUGSS
I purchased this one from Amazon 4 years ago and it's still going strong. It's doesn't need batteries and comes with a charging cord and a silk drawstring pouch to put it in. Has several different vibration levels and a ton of different types of vibrations. It is waterproof (I don't think it can be submerged completely in water, but I've used it in the shower many, many times with no issues). Also pretty cheap for a vibrator, in my opinion.
(I hope that link works, I'm on mobile so it keep just defaulting to my Amazon app, haha!)
I highly recommend Katy Bowman's work on Diastasis recti. It seems like she's the only one who actually knows what she's doing, what actually causes it, and dispels a lot of myths.
Just as an update to my comment from last night, Facebook PR has not responded to me but the setting appears to have been changed. I just checked it and it now lists women just as "Female."
It looks like Britney Spear's Curious, but it still has it's differences. Maybe it's a knock off bottle, but perhaps it smells the same?
EDIT: Looks like it is.. I googled Britney Spears Knockoff and this came up. (Be wary, site was ok for me but seems a little sketchy)
Not a summary, but I was curious to know more about the plot as well, and this Amazon link has a good product description and excerpts from the book if you scroll down.
Please please please read The Millionaire Next Door, and pay attention to the chapter on providing economic outpatient care to adult children. You've stepped into the role of parent, enabling your sister to make bad economic decisions, and it's become such a way of life for you that you can't step back and see that.
Specifically, in your comments, you've said you can't move out because it would be "cruel" and "she can't live more cheaply without adding a ton more stress." And yet in your post up top, you say "she has a habit of pushing "living within her means." And you acknowledge that they can reduce their lifestyle: "they couldn't really support themselves alone, not without a drastic drop in their quality of life. We're all thinking of this situation as temporary."
Here's the thing. Either the way they live is temporary or it's not. If you force them to live within their means, they will have a drop in lifestyle. THAT'S OKAY. If he gets a job, the lower standard of living will be temporary. If they need to apply for assistance, it will be a wakeup call that if they have a child without him working and with her at a lower paid job, it means they will be raising a child on public assistance. And that's a choice they have - not one you need to make for them.
But if you continue to finance their life, they will never make the hard choices - there is no "temporary" in that option. They will always use you as their cash cow. And you will never have the chance to live your own life because you will become not only their primary wage earner, but also their live-in on-demand nanny.
Tell them you are thinking of moving out so they have some time to find cheaper housing if they need to. Give them a timeline and follow through on that. It's freaking absurd that you are supporting not only your adult sister but also now her husband.
> I'm pretty sure most guys wouldn't give a damn about a dick pick club.
Male computer scientist here; I would mind.
My advise: never take intimate pictures in the first place, because there's just so much that can go wrong. They might not be an expert in keeping their computer safe. They might have a future acquaintaince that likes "playing games" and copies all photos while they're not looking. They might lose their laptop/smartphone. Or your friend borrows an infected USB stick from the neighbour that the unsuspecting neighbour's nephew has cleverly "prepared"; no antivirus will ever be able to detect such a thing.
You can't lose photos that weren't there to begin with. Computers are hard, even for experts, and once a photo is on the internet, it doesn't go away.
>The greatest indicated likelihood of being in an intact marriage of the highest quality is among those who married at ages 22–25.
So... at least there's that! 21 is almost 22, and you might very well be 22 by the time you actually get married.
SCIENCE IS ON YOUR SIDE.
Do you know what menstruation is? Here: https://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Menstruation
tl;dr: When a woman gets her period, she may bleed from her vagina for a certain number of days once a month. One of the reasons that the availability of fresh sanitary pads and tampons is important is because if you leave the menstrual fluids hanging around the urethra for too long, you're at risk for developing a urinary tract infection.
Get on Amazon and buy at least one Add A Lock. It’s a portable lock that keeps someone from opening your door even if they have the key. You can only use it when you’re in the room, not when you leave. But it sounds like this is what you need anyway. You deserve to feel safe in your own home OP, find a new place ASAP!
I would seek therapy first. It's expensive but it's worth it. You will be in a safe place to speak openly about what happened, how it made you feel, and how that impacts you today. It will help you start the healing process, which may take months, even years. Confrontation or confession may be part of the healing process, but you will know what to say and when to say it as a result of the therapy.
Also, a less expensive way to think about this is to buy and read "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl. It was written by a man who was held in concentration camps by the Nazi's during WWII. He describes the torture, both mental and physical, that he went through. Then he talks about how he survived and reveals a very important truth about life and how we deal with terrible things that happen to us.
Actually, Bereznak wrote (still writes? I didn't follow this that closely) for Gizmodo, not Jezebel. The article was crossposted to Jezebel, but their editors don't usually have much to do with that, in my understanding. But yeah, still Gawker Media and still par for the course with all of Nick Denton's blogs. There is not a culture of giving a fuck about people in that company.
Jezebel used to pretend that they gave a fuck about individuals with the no body-snarking policy and such, but when most of the original group of editors left, the spirit of those rules was totally gone.
(Not picking on you with the correction or anything--I've just heard a lot of people use that incident as a specific reason to hate Jezebel and/or all women-targeted blogs, and the fact that this occurred on a gadget blog seems to have slipped the collective mind. Jezebel sucks these days, but this isn't a problem exclusive to ladyblogs or necessarily an epidemic on the rest of them.)
If you're going to comment, why not at least read the article first? Cosby confessed.
>In Cosby’s deposition for the Constand case, revealed to the public just last week, the comedian admitted pursuing sex with young women with the aid of Quaaludes, which can render a person functionally immobile.
Edit: Someone asked me to link the full court documents. They deleted their comment, but here they are (start with "first Cosby unsealed doc").