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Yeah. I mean, there's nothing inherently wrong with needing attention sometimes. But at least do people the respect of asking for it in a straightforward way. And you need to be prepared to a) be declined for any or no reason, and b) give them full attention when they need it too. And if those conditions are unacceptable, then what you need is a therapist, not a friend.

Serious mental illness is the same as serious physical illness. A friend or family member can nurse you with chicken soup and cough syrup if you have a cold, and they'll be especially motivated to if they know you'll get them back someday when they have a cold. But they can't single-handedly treat you if you have cancer. When it's that bad, you need a doctor. Likewise, a friend can probably help cheer you up if you're having a bad day, or maybe even a bad month, but you can't expect them to fix your longterm suicidal depression. You need a professional.

It's just completely unreasonable to expect your friends to manage your precarious health when they both don't have the expertise, and they already have their own lives and their own problems to manage.

Thanks so much for the gold! I'm really glad that people are getting something out of this post. I'm going to take this opportunity to make a book recommendation, because it's full of the most amazing, no-bullshit life advice I've ever read. It's called 'How to Be a Person in the World' by Heather Havrilesky. It's a collection of her 'Ask Polly' advice columns. She's amazing, and her perspective has been changing my life lately.

For those that don’t know - Humans of New York is about a guy that goes around the city every day and finds one person to talk about their life. It’s almost always eye-opening, and an absolutely incredible Facebook page to follow.

He has also written a book, which can be found here for $16. https://www.amazon.com/Humans-New-York-Brandon-Stanton/dp/1250058902

I can’t express how incredible this page and book are. For what it’s worth, this redditor gives it a 10/10 and recommends it to EVERYONE!

Edit: For those of you without Facebook, here’s a website! http://www.humansofnewyork.com

Only the nicest guys blame the murder victim. That's how you can tell they're old timey gentlemen! It's straight out of Debrett's:

"If a young lady has been murdered by Chad, call her out for the dumb slut she is. Make sure you do it where everyone will see. Manners maketh man, after all!"

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Rechargeable batteries so unlike Mace you don't have to worry about it expiring..

I’m just curious what leads you to believe it’s a real Rolex Daytona and not something like this

Also, not to judge what people spend their money on, but wouldn’t someone who can buy a $25k watch have something on their floors besides that cheap beige low-pile carpet?

Heres a link to the saw https://www.neobits.com/infaco_kma3015_infaco_electrocoup_3015_maxi_head_p13745107.html?atc=gbp&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIqIjpnM-K4QIVkIuzCh1yzwLCEAQYAiABEgIACvD_BwE And here’s a link to a more affordable one https://www.amazon.com/BLACK-DECKER-LLP120B-Lithium-Alligator/dp/B00AZW9ZL8?ref_=fsclp_pl_dp_11

I'd encourage you to do more research. Most abusers are extremely charming and emotionally manipulative. Many abusers seem like genuinely great people to everyone around them because they're not just some general indiscriminate asshole, and they may treat everyone other than the victim very well. There's a book about exactly this, the author did a lot of investigation through interviews with both the abused and the abuser. Most of the abusers saw nothing wrong with their actions because they veiwed the victim as sub-human and belonging to them.

At the end of the day, it's a power thing and abusers use a wide variety of tactics to gain power of their abuser, ranging from physical abuse to often making the victim doubt their own mental facilities through creative methods.

Two of the most fascinating to me were the following.

One guy would hide things his wife needed, like keys when she was leaving, and then watch as she became increasingly frantic. Once she was in tears, turning the house upside down, tearing her hair out, he would leave the keys in an obvious place like a table and say something along the lines of, "look it's right there. I don't know why you can never find things, you're losing you mind"

Another guy dimmed the lights, Everytime his wife left the room and then would adamently deny it, and call her paranoid and imagining things.

Abusers will try to convince you their feelings are the problem. "I was mad, I was frustrated, I felt scared of losing you, I just love you so much". But everyone experiences those same emotions without abusing others.

An abuser does not have a problem with how they feel, they have a problem with how they think. They think they're entitled to attention, care-taking, interest, to a person giving up who she is to focus entirely on the abuser's needs. And when they don't get what they think they're entitled to, they feel entitled to call that person horrible things. They give themselves permission to express those feelings based on how they think.

Never be misled; if someone talks to you this way its not because "they were mad". It's because they think it's okay to express their anger in that toxic unfair way. Read more here if you need

Gonna be a cynic and call fake on this.

These people have clearly not spoken before and he asks her out on a date in the very first message. He then proceeds to fill in literally every nice guy checkbox there is. And the lack of a profile pic just tops the fakeness off. And yes, there are apps you can use to fake conversations on instagram.

There have been many posts exactly like this over the past couple of days.

oh jesus, he's one of those PLS RESPOND losers. I love/hate those.

this one is legit creepy though. he's outright stalking you. jesus christ. you need to get pepper gel. it's like pepper spray, but better. they sell it on amazon for like 5-10 bucks or something. saber is a good brand.

I've relied on that one for years and it's never let me down.

It's straight out of something like https://thispersondoesnotexist.com/. It looks like the profile pics of all those totally-real-Amazon-employees that showed up out of nowhere a few months ago and talked about how much free time they had to pee in things that weren't water bottles when there were talks of unions forming in the company.

Check out Medicaid! I was a suicidal shut-in for years because I could never afford therapy or medication. Then I got Medicaid and now I have a therapist, and it's STUNNING how much it helps. There's also a clinic in many towns where you can go for free walk-in therapy, you just usually have to set aside a day for it because you'll be waiting a long time. There are many, many options for low- or no-cost help. Google in your area!

Also don't worry about freezing up with your therapist. It's their whole job to help you with that. It may take some doing, but you can find someone who will actively work with you to help you open up.

If nothing else, try 7 Cups of Tea! Free online therapy from other people. I've had some really helpful, enlightening conversations there.

He just needs a copy of The Deeper Meaning of Liff to help him lighten up.

I wish I did - but doing a quick search I see there are more books like it on the market. I do recommend reading up on the topic. I promise you any person who comes on strong and seems to go above and beyond making life feel like a dream come true right off the bat is a red flag. Having been through a pretty rough journey with the Prince Charming of my youth - I feel bad for all the people tricked into marriage by these types that rapidly change once the ring is on... and it’s almost impossible to detect if you don’t know what to look for and educate yourself prior to dating.

https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x5t4klx

Apparently this guy is popular on social media. The video was taken on instagram live and you can see people loling as it happens, knowing that the guy taking it is a real SEAL. I guess he's a personal trainer or MMA something now, idk, but apparently he's legit.

Hey, man! I just found it, here it is if you're still interested in the comic:

It's a page from one of Junji Ito's work (fascinating author, has an amazing line of horror graphic novels under his name), Frankenstein

I found all of his other works, can't wait to read em all :D

Albert Einstein's demands to his wife:

>A. You will make sure:
>
>1. that my clothes and laundry are kept in good order;
2. that I will receive my three meals regularly in my room;
3. that my bedroom and study are kept neat, and especially that my desk is left for my use only.
>
>B. You will renounce all personal relations with me insofar as they are not completely necessary for social reasons. Specifically, You will forego:
>
>1. my sitting at home with you;
2. my going out or travelling with you.
>
>C. You will obey the following points in your relations with me:
>
>1. you will not expect any intimacy from me, nor will you reproach me in any way;
2. you will stop talking to me if I request it;
3. you will leave my bedroom or study immediately without protest if I request it.
>
>D. You will undertake not to belittle me in front of our children, either through words or behavior.

http://www.openculture.com/2013/12/albert-einstein-imposes-on-his-first-wife-a-cruel-list-of-marital-demands.html

You'd think a guy who's obsessed with telomeres would learn how to pronounce it.

Also, Jesus H. Christ. This dude should not be allowed in the general population.

If you ever need to cleanse your pallet I recommend Junji Ito's "Cat Diary: Yon & Mu." It's a story about him getting used to living with two cats his wife brought into the relationship after they moved in together. It's super cute and super relatable if you've ever owned a cat. He does insert some horror-like elements, but it's more in a funny way.

Also, him reacting to cat pictures makes for one of the most wholesome videos!

> conditioning fades over time if it's not reinforced.

This is true. However, the form of operant conditioning which varies the interval of reward is indeed the strongest form:

>There are several types of conditioning schedules. Continuous reinforcement schedules provide a reinforcement for every correct response, while intermittent reinforcement schedules reinforce some responses but not others. There are several variations of the intermittent reinforcement schedule; for example, a fixed-ratio schedule provides reinforcement only after a fixed number of correct responses, while a variable-ratio schedule provides reinforcement after a variable number of correct responses. In a slightly different approach, a fixed-interval schedule provides reinforcement for the first correct response after a specific time interval. With a variable-interval schedule, reinforcement is given after a variable amount of time. Conditioning that is based on intermittent reinforcement schedules will create more powerful results relative to fixed conditioning schedules; that is, behaviour produced by intermittent reinforcement schedules is much more difficult to unlearn or discard.

(Emphasis mine.) Source

And this addresses the issue of consistent vs. inconsistent reward:

>Partial (some of the time) vs. continuous (every response reinforced) schedules of reinforcement; The partial reinforcement effect: Partial reinforcement produces responses that are more resistant to extinction

(Again, emphasis mine.) Source

Anyway, all that said, I still am really skeptical of whether it applies to romantic relationships at all; the way it was written just pinged a distant college memory.

I haven't seen anyone else post anything about this, but in this situation you (OP) are legally allowed to have a preference based on sex. Craigslist actually has a good overview/breakdown of how the federal laws permit this in your situation.

Fuuuuuuuuu!! I want that reality! I'm in the range where bra makers generally don't make my size in the normal brands. A quick glance at Danskin on amazon suggests they're probably no different, but damn, grrl, a two pack for $10!

It's probably not a popular opinion, and some would consider me the jerk FAers hate so much, but I really just feel zero obligation to them. I was that guy as a teen. I scratched and clawed until I fixed it. I even dabbled in PUA back in it's early days. That didn't last long thankfully, as they are mostly gross individuals no better than TRPers. But, I never asked for help, and I never accepted my fate. I believe that's something they should do as well. Although I'm not opposed to dropping an occasional book title on /r/AskMen for them. I've recommended Models by Mark Manson so many times.

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We live in interesting times when there really is a product called Soylent, which is made by a euphoric Silicon Valley type that thinks eating food is for normies and is also trying to phase out water use (?) as well.

http://theverge.com/tldr/2014/10/27/7078837/the-creator-of-soylent-stopped-pooping-to-use-less-water

That's a somewhat simplistic explanation. Jealous can be used in ways that envious can't (e.g. fear of a loved one being taken from you) but it can also be used synonymously. See here for a good explanation from a good source. Saying jealousy is used incorrectly here is overly prescriptivist.

> firefox doesn't like the word transactional

http://www.dictionary.com/browse/transactional

>it's not possible for me to change to "meet reality" and get what i want. "not possible" as in, for me, highly unlikely, and not worth the sunk costs to embark on such an endeavor.

Well that's just too bad, I guess you won't get to have a LTR or sex then.

i love it, you can use it both on a phone/tablet but also on a computer. lots of really fun stickers and themes. unlike line, you don't have to pay for any of them. i like some of the features better, too.

https://telegram.org/

Yes. Also, I would suggest http://imgur.com/a/6AJWBHU this app for putting together shots. It isn't a collage app and it will take you longer, but the quality will be better than whatever you have done here. Just screenshot, crop the screen shot, and put the images together in this.

Edit: TIL the app store has a share button. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.zombodroid.imagecombinerfree if you have Android, that should take you there.

Christ I'm so glad that I never have to deal with shit like this. Every time I see a post like this I just want to bitchslap nice guys with a copy of Models by Mark Manson.

I mean, the slap might not work. But I'd leave a copy of the book resting on their unconscious face so they have a chance to realise how incredibly needy and narcissistic they're being.

You make a joke and touch her forearm. Maybe put your hand on her lower back while on a date to guide her through a crowd, or while standing next to her at a bar. Hold her hand while walking. If you're getting intimate, touch her thighs.

Read Models by Mark Manson, great book about improving your confidence and dating. You have to be confident to date. The term gets a lot of flack and I'll be downvoted for it for sure, but learning about flirting comes from game and seduction. Women and men both read about seduction at /r/seduction and /r/fpua for the women who want to learn about pick up. Flirting is a skill that's improved by practice. Read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. That taught me about making friends and communicating. Reading Models taught me how to be confident and talk to women. Practicing seduction techniques taught me how to flirt. Throw it all together and suddenly you can flirt and date.

> Of you go around referring to someone as "a Chinese" people are going to assume you're racist.

It is perfectly fine to say "a Chinese" or "a Japanese" or even "a Swiss." Here's a list of demonyms as taught in a grammar reference book if you need a source.

The reason why you think it is impolite is because of the sibilant final ending of -ese demonyms makes one think of an incorrectly used mass noun. Here's a presentation by a linguist on the subject that you might find interesting.

Only thing I could find in about 10 minutes of googling has both men and women just about equal.

Link to abstract: https://tinyurl.com/r2zofy9

OR a CDC study from 2008-ish, which said that from ages 15-24, 27% of men were virgins vs. 29% of women. From age 24-44, it was 97% and 98%, respectively. (Link, not the actual study just an article that mentions it but I only want to devote so much time to this: https://tinyurl.com/sc2nudk)

Hi, I am worried that you might get kidnapped , so here is a handheld alarm and a highly effective stun gun stay safe!

Can't he just swap out the the cabin filter and then run an odor remover/fragrance- like this one that I use- through the AC?

>You're not on a special client

but... I... am...? Play store link: Boost for reddit

I edited no comments, idk what u mean. I'm not even the original person.

>So yeah, you made a hasty edit to your original comment to not appear dumb and then you simply ~~MuricaFY!~~ argue you did not.

well again I'm not the original poster lol, but it wasn't edited, unlike yours. I can see how much time ago they edited it. specifically yours actually.

Why didnt you just screenshot it?, you can crop the image however you need too and its easier.

Android

You can also swipe your hand from left to right on the screen and do it.

Iphone

There is a book that has recently been released on kindle that depicts an incel really well. It’s called City Of Woke. Have a check out..

City Of Woke: The Six-Part Anthology https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0BG9194FP/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_tai_VY9H1NNN24TXDV9T55GY

Ignore this bitter person, they're almost completely wrong about everything and they've shown they don't understand people if they're going to talk about "flirting" the way they do. The only point I agree with them on is that the pick up artist community treats women like objects and that there are cheat codes.

There are plenty of bad books in this space, one I found to be helpful and not so misogynistic was

Models: Attract Women Through Honesty https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00C93Q5KK/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_84V7Z8TH6BGFTMMND1M7

As with everything, but moreso given this space and how flagrantly misogynistic it is, take it with a grain of salt. I read lots of those kinds of books in my younger years and none of them felt right to me because of how misogynistic they were, but this one clicked with me.

End-to-end encryption doesnt guarantee your message will actually disappear on the other end either.

"Tell me your cyber security 'research' consists of watching NordVPN ads without telling me your cyber security 'research' consists of watching NordVPN ads"

Sure! It's easy to set up, and it's free. The phone will ring and everything since it's an app. I made up a burner email and a burner number so that I'm a little harder to find for the average person.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.google.android.apps.googlevoice&hl=en_US&gl=US

That's the app you can use. I like it better than textree/textnow free numbers since the phone quality is a little bit better.

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Good luck, sib! Xx

OP in your place of residence, if pepper gel is legal order some https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004NKSPR8/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_455WT068CM8MAM0KCJPN. I'm a dude and I had to buy some because saying " these buses are always late" to a fellow commuter is apparently leading them on and gives them.right to follow me home and have my wife. Becareful out there.

No, it's the classic "I'm sick of every girl saying I'm gay," line. This literally is a thing that women will say to guys instead of no. "Just say no," was a thing for a reason, even if it was about drugs it can and should still be used when dealing with people. Giving excuses as to why is not as sufficient as being straightforward.

Basically [Don't give a f'ck](https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive/dp/B01I29Y344/ref=sr\_1\_1?crid=3TQAF7EMB52QM&keywords=subtle+art+of+not+giving+a+f&qid=1651168246&sprefix=subtl%2Caps%2C794&sr=8-1)

This essay is pretty accurate. There may be people here who don't agree with it, but it's basically spot on.

If you want to learn more, then check out this book.

https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy-ebook/dp/B004C438CW

Bring her the books The Gift of Fear and Nobody's Victim .

These will show her how to protect herself as well as what can happen if she becomes a victim. And please make sure she isn't talked into sending nudes.

You're a good sibling.

Fact Check ✅

Femmanazis use this fake messanger chat app to create these fake FB Chats to slander men & make them look bad. they edit out the small letter that say fake chat with a paint app like pics art. all of the screenshots on this sub reddit are legitimately fake.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.isocial.faketextmessagesnapchat

Fact Check ✅

Femmanazis use this fake messanger chat app to create these fake FB Chats to slander men & make them look bad. they edit out the small letter that say fake chat with a paint app like pics art. all of the screenshots on this sub reddit are legitimately fake.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.isocial.faketextmessagesnapchat

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