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Avan just released a book called Mixed Feelings

Liz is staring on CW's Dynasty which you can also watch on Netflix. She's also an incredible singer and you can listen to her on her YouTube Channel

Raviolis are made using a mold, layer one sheet of pasta dough, press, fill the middle, layer second sheet of dough and press. Boom! Ravioli!

The mold and press: https://www.amazon.com/Norpro-Ravioli-Maker-With-Press/dp/B000BBGV0G

You could download an app called fing to check if there are any spy cameras (hidden in clocks/smoke detectors etc). The app works by scanning and giving you a list of devices connected to your WiFi.

If you're really worried about it, you can buy an infrared camera detector such as this one https://www.amazon.com/Hidden-Camera-Detector-Brightest-Bathrooms/dp/B07TDNJJZ3 , but it probably not necessary.

https://www.amazon.com/Wrestling-God-Men-Homosexuality-Tradition/dp/0299190943

Here's the description of the book. It's a reflection on the jewish faith and same-sex love. I'm not jewish, but my best friend is, and she thought the passage was sweet so she sent me that image. Idk wether she has read the entire thing or if she found this bit online, though, so I can't really give you context for now

Here are the fairy lights I used to have that seem similar to these ones. They go from pink, purple, dark blue, and then a cute bonus light blue at the bottom. I had them for years but wasn't fond of the fact that they were battery powered.

I recently switched over to these and like them a lot better! They're longer, can dim, and are usb powered BUT the colors go pink, purple, light blue and then dark blue, which doesn't exactly line up with the bi pride flag. :/ Hope this helps!

Not OP but looks like it's on Amazon https://smile.amazon.com/Bisexual-Washable-Breathable-Reusable-Adjustable/dp/B08NGMW4C5/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=bisexual+mask&qid=1620592319&sr=8-3

All the links to the pictures of the sticker are flagged as non-secure for me, but they're by the same people that wrote this alt-right book.

And here is the Wikipedia synopsis of the movement:

The identitarian movement (otherwise known as Identitarianism) is a European and North American[2][3][4][5] white nationalist[5][6][7][8] movement originating in France. The identitarians began as a youth movement deriving from the French Nouvelle Droite (New Right) Génération Identitaire and the anti-Zionist and National Bolshevik Unité Radicale. Although initially the youth wing of the anti-immigration and nativist Bloc Identitaire, it has taken on its own identity and is largely classified as a separate entity altogether.[9]

The movement is a part of the counter-jihad movement,[10] with many in it believing in the white genocide conspiracy theory.[8][11] It also supports the concept of a "Europe of 100 flags".[12] The movement has also been described as being a part of the global alt-right.[13][14][15]

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.random.chat.app

No number required on an anonymous chat app. Here, you can download the app and verify it for yourself.

They assumed I was up for it because they asked if I was BI. by the way, I did put on my profile that I was interested in chatting with Men only, not men & women (because I feel like chatting with guys right now.)

Feel free to call bullshit, I don't understand why you felt the need to do a witch hunt to find where I originally posted this.

I deleted the post because I felt a post about Bisexuality would receive a bit of interrogation about my sexuality and I'm not up for it right now. I did however allow someone else to crosspost for me.

Solely giving you proof because you seem adamant to catch me in some sort of trickery.

Bi and recently came out as trans. Though you might not be trans, it's absolutely possible. It's good to spend some time thinking about it and explore different identities. Even if you are cis it's good to educate yourself about the stories of others and different identity possiblies. The book "You and Your Gender Identity" by Dara Hoffman-fox helped me out a bunch in figuring it out, though I definitely new before..

You are her underling and confronting her directly is not your job. This is what the President is FOR.

Compose and send a calm, thoughtful email to her/him stating the person is creating a hostile environment not in keeping with the clubs stated values and mission. Include research on biphobia and a screenshot of the conversation.

Ask him/her to speak to the person and explain these attitudes are not acceptable, and ask president follow up with you after doing so to let you know all is well.

(The email is not only to give prez something to refer to later to give courage, because this is gonna suck, but also to create a paper trail in case further follow up is needed).

You deserve protection from that kind of hostility.

Edit:

Heres your research article to include. Bit dated but perfect for your purposes.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/14071306_The_Prevalence_and_Nature_of_Biphobia_in_Heterosexual_Undergraduate_Students

Okay, so first, what you're looking for isn't monogamous, it's polyamorous or polyfidelitous. The people at /r/polyamory could be a good resource for you as well.

Before talking to her, or maybe as you are, I'd recommend reading The Ethical Slut. There's a lot of very important information about how to communicate and navigate the weird waters of non-monogamy. It's also a quick read.

Good luck, play safe.

I started wearing a bisexual pride pin in some places. It is a small reminder that I am glad to be me, and I've gotten some compliments on it. Not many Gay Men or Lesbians seem to know the bi colors, so it's been a pretty good conversation starter.

Exmormon and bisexual here. This bugs me to no end. If you know anything about what the current stance of the church is, it's one of barely tolerant to it's gay members.

In short, those who have "Same sex attraction" are encouraged to stay celibate for the rest of their life or just take it on the chin and marry someone of the opposite sex. The church only supports these options, as shown in their more recent policy changes, which they tried so hard to pass under the radar of the media..

Also, Mormon's believe that marriage is the only way to gain the highest level of salvation through the "new and everlasting covenant of eternal marriage". So, telling a gay, bi, or lesbian, mormon to stay celibate is like telling them they can't make it to the highest level of heaven. Due to this, some just choose to get married. It happens in greater numbers that you would think.

Edit for grammar.

First step was to design the shoes on the converse website. I did this because I wanted black rubber with white canvas, which isn't available on any other shoe. Then three weeks to ship.

I bought some simple dye on amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002AL9PEY/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_-dGHAbRD5SE15 Denim blue was the other color.

I loosely followed the dying instructions. My process was pour 75% of the blue in a bucket with hot water, plus salt and dish detergent. I set the front end of both shoes in and let sit for 15 minutes. Then I raised the water level for a few more minutes to make it fade.

Then I attempted to do the same with the pink, but I started the water too high so the shoes ended up being mostly pink and purple, with some blue at the front.

I wasn't happy with that so I took my remaining blue dye and used a plastic comb to splatter the blue on the back end.

I let that dry then I did the same with a mix of bleach and water, but on the whole shoe to make it even more splotchy.

I think the only thing left to do is to get some water proofing spray.

From Amazon for $9.99

Something like this will do the trick. Don't lose the keys and don't let someone else get their hands on the keys either. It's what I use. My parents aren't religious or anything but they don't need to see that stuff. If they ask what it's for, just say it's for things like personal documents and effects or something.

They are called VANS Ombre Authentic.

Available on Amazon here (although the blue looks slightly different on the picture): https://www.amazon.com/Vans-Unisex-Authentic-Hollyhock-Womens/dp/B00JXWQBOU

I think the demographics of reddit as a whole consists of mostly male users. According to this it's something like 70% (although I don't know how accurate those numbers are, tbh...). If it's true that there are more bi girls than guys in general, then the fact that this subreddit has less of a male presence than the entire site would make sense.

> over reported within the LGBTQ population

Where are you getting this crap?

Bisexual people make up the single largest group among LGBTs, yet all we ever hear about in the media is the "G" of "LGBT."

Hey man, I'm so sorry your ex-girlfriend treated you like this: it was deeply biphobic, and you deserve so much better than that. You deserve someone who will love you and embrace you for the polyamorous, bisexual man you are. I'm glad you had a lovely time at Pride; it's times like these that kind show you that you can thrive as the queer person you are.

What kind of help do you have for your depression? You deserve support and you don't have to go through this alone.

Also, come see us on r/BisexualMen; we are a supportive community for bi, pan, and polysexual men. We also have a SFW and a NSFW chatrooms that are pretty active.

You may also want to check out my (very NSFW) Sex Ed for Bi Guys series on Pillowfort. A lot of guys found it useful, and it's definitely not your typical high school sex ed! I also have a censored, SFW version on Tumblr, although it's missing a couple of the articles.

Finally, I'm in a polyamorous marriage with another guy. Hit me up if you want to talk about this or if you want some book recommendations.

Is any of that helpful? Take care!

On Amazon there's a seller who makes cool LGBT jewelry using elements of chainmail. It's called Tattooed and Chained Chainmaille, at https://www.amazon.com/pride-pendant-chainmail-bisexual-jewelry/dp/B015UF1JOK?ref=hnd_adp_ap_1

Take a visit to r/bipolar. Sure you’ll find people struggling to manage but you’ll also find people who are living reasonably consistent and stable lives. Also, I found the book The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide: What You and Your Family Need to Know (Amazon https://www.amazon.com/dp/1606235427/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_rE0zAbNDXFAG8) invaluable in undertanding and managing my bipolar disorder.

Given the bullying, I recommend you take a look at materials about healing from trauma and managing PTSD as well.

I won’t pretend that managing bipolar disorder and recovering from trauma is easy. It can be a lot of work and there will be setbacks but the payoff is worth it. The sooner you start on the path of recovery the sooner you’ll find some peace and happiness.

More than 5 people saw it, it seems. ;) Congrats on your first experience, and I'm glad you had a lovely time. I was also a nervous wreck on my first good time with a guy. But you'll get used to it.

You may want to check out my (very NSFW) [Sex Ed for Bi Guys](https://www.pillowfort.social/sexedforbiguys/tagged/sex%20ed%20for%20bi%20guys) series on Pillowfort. A lot of guys found it useful, and it's definitely not your typical high school sex ed! I also have a [censored, SFW version](https://sexedforbiguys.tumblr.com/tagged/sex-ed-for-bi-guys) on Tumblr, although it's missing a couple of the articles. The series could help steer you through future experiences.

Also, come see us on r/BisexualMen; we are a supportive community for bi, pan, and polysexual men. We also have a SFW and a NSFW chatrooms that are pretty active.

Once again, kudos on your first time with a guy. Is any of that helpful?

Hey Logan, welcome to r/bisexual! We've got lemon bars. ;) You should also check out /r/bibros and r/BisexualMen.

I'm glad that you're finally coming to terms with who you are and that you're getting close to being able to come out as bi. Who are people around you that you expect would be supportive?

Btw, as someone who prefers men and identified as gay for a while (in part because of pressure around me), I can relate a bit to your experience. Feel free to DM me or hit me up on chat.

Finally, you may want to check out my (very NSFW) Sex Ed for Bi Guys series on Pillowfort. A lot of guys found it useful, and it's definitely not your typical high school sex ed! I also have a censored, SFW version on Tumblr, although it's missing a couple of the articles. Is that helpful?

Best of luck to you!

Most cishet people probably wouldn’t even realize if they saw someone wearing bi-flag swag. Change your phone screen to something with the bi flag colors. Stack bracelets in the same color. Or, I have a Polaroid t shirt that’s in rainbow colors but isn’t an obvious “pride” shirt.

ETA Link to a sneaky t shirt

Mad Engine Men's Classic Polaroid Logo Vintage Style Rainbow T-Shirt https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B07GRKF5FD/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_JAPWT6Z6XN8MACZQ2SYJ

Thank you! I found them on Amazon. Sof Sole Flat Laces, Rainbow Pink/Purple/Blue, 45" They have held up for three months so far. I love them with the shoes, Van's I scored at a thrift shop for $3.00. I LOVE them.

Not sure if this shirt from Amazon is available in Germany or not, but I loved it! It's a cat wearing sunglasses, and the sunglass lenses are the bi pride flag colors. It's very subtle, but I love it!

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CKXPTL4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_r29NBbM8DHZ9P

Good luck in your searches!! :)

I know this isn't the best high quality image of the book cover but OH WELL. Here is a link to Amazon for anyone if they're interested in reading this fabulousness.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07J4LPZRN/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.random.chat.app

No number required on an anonymous chat app. Here, you can download the app and verify it for yourself.

They assumed I was up for it because they asked if I was BI. by the way, I did put on my profile that I was interested in chatting with Men only, not men & women (because I feel like chatting with guys right now.)

Feel free to call bullshit, I don't understand why you felt the need to do a witch hunt to find where I originally posted this.

I deleted the post because I felt a post about Bisexuality would receive a bit of interrogation about my sexuality and I'm not up for it right now. I did however allow someone else to crosspost for me.

Solely giving you proof because you seem adamant to catch me in some sort of trickery.

Im on mobile so apologies for not being able to link this better but its just from amazon! Im sure theres a million other places that sell it online as well https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0795ZXPVL/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_DKYMCbTBJVG0M

Lithe, muscled, male and female swimmer's bods doing (mostly) elegant and graceful movements in unison? Yes please.

A news report on Aleksandr.

>Russian synchronised swimming champion Aleksandr Maltsev is a two-time World Champion, a four-time European champion and the first man to represent Russia in mixed-gender synchronised swimming at the highest level - as men only became allowed to compete in 2015. However, Aleksandr is unfazed, and remains a vocal advocate of gender-equality in the sport - his aim being to get men to compete at the next Olympics as a part of the mixed duet.

This is my (very NSFW) Sex Ed for Bi Guys series on Pillowfort. A lot of guys found it useful, and it's definitely not your typical high school sex ed! I also have a censored, SFW version on Tumblr, although it's missing a couple of the articles (but not for long, I might finish updating things this evening).

I doubt there just one right way (after all, we know better than most that there's almost never just one way to go), so my advices are - be your own best friend, be friendly and kind but always know how to stand your ground, take care of yourself/people/things but don't take things too much to heart, and don't confine yourself in any way. let the world open your eyes to the people and things you can love and be drawn to. most of these you already know, some of them you don't - don't shy away from them. you'll be so glad you've looked into this one side of yourself. 💖

Okay guys, there's this survey I've made that I'm trying to use to break stereotypes. The survey simply asks for sexual orientation and a few meaningless questions along with it. I'd love it if you guys helped show to the world that no group can really got a mould. Link here: https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/GDCBVDX

EDIT: Every 50 I reach I'll update and show how diverse we really are!

I use uBlock (the two versions have roughly the same interface). Enable advanced settings, and under the My Rules tab I have the following:

* * 3p-frame block * * 3p-script block * youtube.com * noop * ytimg.com * noop

The last two lines enable youtube video on most sites.

This is pretty aggressive blocking by default, so you'll likely need to disable these rules for some sites as you visit them. I whitelist facebook content on facebook with:

www.facebook.com akamaihd.net * noop www.facebook.com facebook.com * noop www.facebook.com fbcdn.net * noop

I also have disqus blocked by default since it's almost as terrible.

* disqus.com * block

Ublock also has a quick guide for using their GUI to create these rules. https://github.com/gorhill/uBlock/wiki/Dynamic-filtering:-quick-guide

There's an Tumblr site called "Sex Ed for Bi Guys" that's very good reliable and accurate information. There's a sister site at https://www.pillowfort.social/Ragabash/tagged/sex%20ed%20for%20bi%20guys

Hey man, what a beautiful love story and coming out story. Thanks for sharing it with us! You were very brave to come out with her, and I'm so glad she's supportive of you - she sounds like a keeper! ;)

You may want to check out my (very NSFW) Sex Ed for Bi Guys series on Pillowfort. A lot of guys found it useful, and it is a good way of arming yourself with some knowledge. I also have a censored, SFW version on Tumblr, although it's missing a couple of the articles.

Also, come take a look at the sub's chatroom on r/BisexualMen. They're quite active and you'll find other guys with whom you can connect.

Is that helpful?

Hey, congrats! I'm glad the two of you had a great time.

Since you seem to be pretty new to all of this, you may want to check out my (very NSFW) Sex Ed for Bi Guys series on Pillowfort. A lot of guys found it useful, and it's definitely not your typical high school sex ed! I also have a censored, SFW version on Tumblr, although it's missing a couple of the articles.

Also, come see us on r/BisexualMen; we are a supportive community for bi, pan, and polysexual men. We also have a SFW and a NSFW chatrooms that are pretty active.

Is any of that helpful?

find a therapist who is well-versed in LGBTQIA+ issues, terms, and people. if possible, one who is queer themself and is experienced treating all sorts of people.

however, if that seems daunting to you, try out one of the resources listed here, such as 7 cups of tea (do this is as preparation, not replacement)

Here's a link to the book.

Here's a link to this post.

Liquid Motion and Sand Timers 3 Pcs Bundle, Fidget Sensory Toys, Calm Down and OT Tool Kit for Kids and Adults with Autism, ADD, and ADHD, Plastic and Glass Lava Lamp Bubble and Original Hourglass Set https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07XXX3Z41/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_74NAVMD59MENHAFYAV4K?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1 😊

Since this sub does not state a rule against links, here is the listing on amazon that I got it from: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07XVCP7F5/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o07_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Changing the colors is done through key commands and feels a little clunky because of it, but eventually I found a color set up that works for me. It has the clacky sound that I want from a keyboard and the RGB has a ripple effect upon every key press.

It may have been from Amazon, but it was definitely WORTH IT. Took a while though. The Flag Joint - Bisexual Pride 3x5ft Fly Free Flag - Poly https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07QB9BK5R/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_r0hgFbD0SPQEF

I apologise for not including a source/proof. But here it is! Did not know this Was such an unlikely story. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.random.chat.app

No number required on an anonymous chat app. Here, you can download the app and verify it for yourself. Only email required!

They assumed I was up for it because they asked if I was BI. by the way, I did put on my profile that I was interested in chatting with Men only, not men & women (because I feel like chatting with guys right now.)

I unfortunately did not screenshot the whole conversation because I didn't think I would have to prove my conversation was legitimate, haha.

I deleted the post on murderedbywords because I felt a post about Bisexuality would receive a bit of interrogation about my sexuality and I'm not up for it right now. I did however allow someone else to crosspost for me.

For many years, bi as been something of an umbrella term. When people identified as bisexual formed communities in the 1980s, we realized we were a pretty diverse lot who didn't all approach sexuality in the same way. So some book suggestions:

• Bi Any Other Name. One of the first anthologies written by bisexual people as opposed to about bisexual people.
• Getting Bi is another anthology I've read a bit about.

I saw some lesbians saying that they identified as bi because of compulsory heterosexuality. They all said the guys they liked needed to be of a very specific kind. Read the "Am I a Lesbian?" masterdoc. see if it helps you to figure yourself.

Edit: seems that the above link is broken. Try this other link

I read this recently and it references fictional character attraction. Based on this it shouldn’t count. I am new to all this and learning myself. Am I a Lesbian? Masterdoc

Nice , this was a good first giant-Babystep! If you want you could tell it your best friend or so. Thats what if done, most people are at least ok with it.

> I wouldn't call her love conditional, desiring the same sex or at least part of the same sex is a big bombshell to drop. Probably the biggest. She loves me for who I am

I think a more accurate word choice is "She loves me for who She thinks I am". After all, You're hiding a part of yourself.

Second. Transwomen in real life do not tend to be like those in erotic media. A good deal of them (if not most) experience dysphoria (the "this feels alien" distress) towards their genitals as much as the rest of their body so either they pine to get a Sex Reassignment Surgery or keep their penis (whether for economical or psychological reasons as the surgery is expensive, invasive and painful) but do not want to do anything to do with it and don't want other people to focus on it either. Furthermore, the amount of hormones they need to take causes the penis and testicles to shrink and basically become "useless" for sex (or at least, the kind of sex You're thinking about when imagining a transwoman). See this and visit /r/asktransgender if You have more questions.

Third. Since transwomen are essentially women, this wouldn't make You bi. Gay men who date/have sex/marry trans men are still gay so from your description, You're still straight. Unless You start to become attracted to men (no matter how fem, neutral or masc they are) or other genders, the bi label shouldn't apply to You.

Hope I could help.

I'd recommend using Leechblock. You can customize what sites are blocked out. You can even chose to block them out after you're on there a certain time (maybe after 10 minutes), on certain days, during certain hours (between midnight and 7am, for example), and a bunch of other customization options.

If you have a question or dilemma you need help with, please send your story to PinkNews so our wonderful LGBTQ agony aunts can help. Your questions can be totally anonymous - submit via https://curiouscat.me/AmyAshenden or email me at - thanks, Amy

How about something like a pie chart you can move the parts by pulling them.

http://www.fusioncharts.com/jquery-charts/?gclid=Cj0KEQjw98mvBRD-_ciSovKhq7gBEiQAEvsBZ9iZ0UO-22enSlfr1jpf8a102aKh8phFGeyaNeVEN34aAs6T8P8HAQ

Hey, having a tender spirit is fine - the world needs more souls like yours, not less. And it's okay to be indecisive in front of big decisions - you are far from being the only person who's like that.

There is a power dynamic that exists between men and women, and it's evident in heterosexual relationships. You don't get that gender power dynamic with another guy, and it makes it easier (other power dynamics can exist there though). I've also struggled a long time with being afraid of coming on too strong with women, because I didn't want to be "that guy" - I still do. But it's okay to think about women in a sexual way; and it's okay to express your interest as long as it's respectful, appropriate in context, and leaves the person room for a graceful exit (bonus points if you acknowledge that women do get a lot of unwanted attention). In the end, it's all about balance.

I'm 41, and I find that finding partners has only gotten easier with age. People know what they want better and they express it more readily. So take what your friends are saying with a grain of salt.

If you want, come see us on r/BisexualMen; we are a supportive community for bi, pan, and polysexual men (cis, trans, and nonbinary). We also have a SFW and a NSFW chatrooms that are pretty active. You might find some support there and make some online bi male friends.

Also, since you seem new-ish to doing things with men, you may want to check out my (very NSFW) Sex Ed for Bi Guys series on Pillowfort. A lot of guys found it useful, and it's definitely not your typical high school sex ed! I also have a censored, SFW version on Tumblr, although it's missing a couple of the articles.

I'm sorry you're struggling right now. Is any of that helpful?

Hey man, it's a real dilemma. I'm of the school of thought that it pays to advertise and weed out the biphobes, and I personally get involved only with queer women. But there's something to be said about waiting for someone to see you as a human being before you come out to them - that's often how people grow out of their prejudices. Mind you, unless you're from a small place where outing yourself on Tinder means committing to the move, you can try both approaches and see what works best for you.

Since you seem new-ish to the bi thing, you may want to check out my (very NSFW) Sex Ed for Bi Guys series on Pillowfort. A lot of guys found it useful, and it's definitely not your typical high school sex ed! I also have a censored, SFW version on Tumblr, although it's missing a couple of the articles.

Also, come see us on r/BisexualMen; we are a supportive community for bi, pan, and polysexual men. We also have a SFW and a NSFW chatrooms that are pretty active.

I hope you figure something that works for you. Is any of that helpful?

I found it immediately bi flag bandana

found on Amazon!

I bought this and it is now my favorite shirt https://www.amazon.com/Youll-Always-Bisexual-Bi-Pride/dp/B07KWR14TD/ref=mp_s_a_1_91?dchild=1&keywords=bisexual+stuff&qid=1610633863&sr=8-91 🙂

Exactly right. And if you are interested in getting more background on the details of intimacy before or while talking to a trans partner, there is literally a book about it.

Hiiii - happy to give some insight/advice/general info!

1. I don't like putting my finger inside.. well... anything and anyone (myself included) so I prefer to lead with smaller toys then work up to a bigger toy. I'm not sure about the idea of keeping your finger in there, that sounds like it would get uncomfortable for both of you.

2. If you're just beginning to experiment with strap-ons, an o-ring harness with an attached dildo is your best bet because it's WORK! I'm not surprised to hear that it's falling out of you. Double-ended things are notoriously challenging. You can always do kegels and similar exercises, practice wearing it on your own, too. It could always be about the size/shape/position, too, so you can experiment there for sure! Happy Rabbit is a good brand and I've been eyeing this one.

3. Communication is key! It's going to feel different for everyone and so talking to your partner about what HE likes and what he wants is where it's at. You may even want to start with a smaller strap-on, too, if y'all are just starting out - sometimes a large strap-on is just uncomfortable no matter what you really do with it. You could also try a position where he has a bit more control of the experience, such as him riding on top of you laying down.

4. I highly highly HIGHLY recommend the book Come As You Are - it changed the way I even think about the concept of a libido, and once I could do that, I felt myself enjoying intimacy and my sexuality more. Also, it may be worth reconnecting with what you like. Is there a difference between what you did when you first met, and what you're doing now? Time to revisit some old favorites perhaps.

I hope some of that helps! Feel free to DM me, too, happy to talk about all of this more!

Eerily similar situation in my family. My wife is in her mid-40s and is kind of agnostic; she doesn't call herself queer, while also rejecting straight identities. I'm out queer and bi as of six months ago.

Last week I learned our daughter came out on a social media platform, and also thinks of herself as pansexual. Her coming out so young honestly threw me for a loop too, I think mainly because it happened so close to when I came out.

After some fretting, I came to an obvious conclusion: she too deserves the dignity and recognition that I so recently asked for. And identifying as pan may turn into being gay, or more hetero-flexible. We are getting her a queer guidebook for Christmas (we settled on LGBTQ: The Survival Guide for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning Teens). But we aren't pressing her to take sides or further clarify her sexuality. I want her to have resources while also making her own decisions about who she is. Honestly, I'm more worried about her being teased once in-person schooling starts again than I am about her adopting a pan identity being a problem.

If it helps, I think being queer is just less unusual for our kid's generations. My daughter has a friend who also identifies as pan, and my wife and I have a lot of queer friends. I once asked her: what percentage of people do you think are queer? Her response: oh maybe 50%. Now must be a glorious time to grow up, compared to when we did!

I've never seen it on Netflix or Hulu. You may need to order or search the discount bins at supermarkets if you really want to see it. Here's an amazon link for $18.

First step was to design the shoes on the converse website. I did this because I wanted black rubber with white canvas, which isn't available on any other shoe. Then three weeks to ship.

I bought some simple dye on amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002AL9PEY/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_-dGHAbRD5SE15 Denim blue was the other color.

I loosely followed the dying instructions. My process was pour 75% of the blue in a bucket with hot water, plus salt and dish detergent. I set the front end of both shoes in and let sit for 15 minutes. Then I raised the water level for a few more minutes to make it fade.

Then I attempted to do the same with the pink, but I started the water too high so the shoes ended up being mostly pink and purple, with some blue at the front.

I wasn't happy with that so I took my remaining blue dye and used a plastic comb to splatter the blue on the back end.

let that dry then I did the same with a mix of bleach and water, but on the whole shoe to make it even more splotchy.

I think the only thing left to do is to get some water proofing spray.

I bought mine on Amazon for like 15 bucks, and wore it to my first ever Pride event last summer! Everyone loved it! I was having both gay and bi people come up to me and tell me how awesome it was! Highly recommended! 👍

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07QJX5R2Q/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_2Hh1CbAZP9FPN

Thanks! I got it on Amazon! https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B077BM67NM/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

You can buy some awesome looking beginners sets off Amazon. I got one that had three in them and it helped me a lot to learn about different stitches and how to use them!

This is the one I got but there a lot of others to choose from!

U/Fangirlhasnoreality - I just found them on Amazon for $16 and it did a 50% off coupon, so I seriously just bought some awesome Bi Pride shorts for 8 bucks!!! ����

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07D8L4YXZ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_rOyOBbJPMKC0V

Broken Beyond Repair by Emily Banting has a lesbian and a bi MC and a whole of host of wonderful LGBTQ characters. I really can’t recommend it enough. They are in their late 30s/early 50s and it’s a later in life coming out story with a celebrity ice queen.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09YP6QC1W/

My source is that I made it the f*ck up!

And for real, it's my reflection on "Will to change: On men, masculinity and love" by bell hooks.

Alright. That sounds like a good place to start then. It'll be hard to accept your bisexuality if you don't know much about trans people.

Trans Bodies, Trans Selves and r/asktransgender are great resources.

Since yall asking for em, here's where I bought em:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09XKBHM2M?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07SBTHH96?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details&customId=B0752XJYNL

You could give something like meetup.com a try. I took a look at the LGBTQ category in Berlin, and there's plenty of events and groups you could join! Scary at first, but most of the people who attend events through Meetup are in a similar position, just trying to meet new, like-minded folks.

https://www.amazon.com/Pipersong-Meditation-Support-Adjustable-Flexible/dp/B098M9RGHY/ref=pd_ybh_a_sccl_17/140-2486205-1397340?pd_rd_w=TJRyo&content-id=amzn1.sym.67f8cf21-ade4-4299-b433-69e404eeecf1&pf_rd_p=67f8cf21-ade4-4299-b433-69e404ee...

Hey there,

I did the same thing!

She agreed to open our relationship and we had seven more years to our 23 year marriage.

Good luck. It's a game-changer for sure. I understand the dry heaving.

I wrote a book about the experience of me coming out to her and our experiences opening our 15 year marriage.

Check out Confessions of a Bisexual Husband!

DM me if you want to discuss, either before or after.
Kind regards,

Mark

Wear a lesbian necklace. Guys won't even notice it, but queer girls certainly will.

Like this one https://www.amazon.com/Necklace-Accessories-Girlfriend-Birthday-Christmas/dp/B07T5RY76R/ref=mp_s_a_1_7?crid=3AZ7RJHXKF6G9&keywords=lesbian+necklace&qid=1663259784&sprefix=lesbian+necklace+%2Caps%2C233&sr=8-7

Dunno if this will help, but when I came out, my wife bought me a shirt with the NASA logo but with bi colors in the background (like this one, but not this one exactly: https://www.amazon.com/Bisexual-Flag-NASA-Space-T-Shirt/dp/B08WL3H26Z).

Someone who doesn't know what the bi flag looks like might just see it as a stylized NASA shirt.

https://www.amazon.com/Anley-Bisexual-Pride-inches-Handheld/dp/B07SR7HWN9/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=24H2OCWCDXP7U&keywords=mini+bisexual+pride+flag+on+stick&qid=1661137241&sprefix=mini+bisexual+pride+flag+on+stick%2Caps%2C143&sr=8-3 I found a pretty cheap link on amazon for bisexual flags!

https://www.amazon.com/WY-WENYUAN-Comfortable-Retractable-Journaling/dp/B09BZ2VJDT/ref=mp_s_a_1_17?crid=8LPH07OIJY42&keywords=pens+fine+point+smooth+writing+pens&qid=1660007391&sprefix=pens%2Caps%2C134&sr=8-17

I do have a lot of experience with this.

Having gone through it with my own wife, and then written a book about it, "Confessions of a Bisexual Husband," I have counselled many other men, women, others, and those with whom they have relationships, going through the same thing.

DM me for more info, or to set up a talk if you'd like, no charge.

Kind Regards,

properfckr

This is a good subtle bracelet I picked up a while back. Might need to reglue the braid into the clasp on arrival, but it's held up nicely.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09B4ZRLT8/ref=ppx\_yo\_dt\_b\_asin\_title\_o00\_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I like freedom rings, they were popular in the 90s. (I’m dating myself here…) For example: https://www.amazon.com/Necklace-Pride-Pendant-Transgender-Celebrate/dp/B00TSJUW5M?th=1 I have a set on a key ring on my backpack.

On the Amazon page, on one of the bullet points describing it:

>This bisexual flag design is ideal for any bi girl, bisexual girlfriend or any supporter of the lgbt community who wants to share bisexual vibes Lightweight, Classic fit, Double-needle sleeve and bottom hem

I'm probably looking too far into it, but what about for bi guys? I, as a guy, would love to wear this shirt if I could afford it.

I had some issues with this in the past, but I found that a healthy diet and a fiber supplement made it a problem of the past.

Check out Pure for men, it's specifically designed to make this easier

https://www.amazon.com/Pure-Men-Cleanliness-Supplement-Proprietary/dp/B07CYJ8ZXJ/ref=sr\_1\_1?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI3LC2mdOM-AIVAg2tBh3\_WgA4EAAYAiAAEgJOdvD\_BwE&hvadid=224113606681&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9031091&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvr...

I started wearing THIS

It’s subtle but people who know the colors, know what it means.

I have been really happy to wear a small heart pin with bi colors which is perfectly understated to the masses but noticable for those in the know or a great conversation starter. > Hey, I like your pin.

The Bisexual Resource Center also offers a glittery bee pin.

This is the one i got.

https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Workout-Bisexual-Sleeveless-Athletic/dp/B08G4XCQ6C/ref=mp_s_a_1_4?crid=1YSENADVRLA08&keywords=bi+pride+crop+top&qid=1652828351&sprefix=bi+pride+crop+top%2Caps%2C154&sr=8-4

>Not Pounded By The Physical Manifestation Of Bisexual Gatekeeping Because It's Super Gross And If You Do It You’re Not The Hero You Think You Are, You’re Actually Just A Jerk

November 2021, Tingle

Dark Spark Decals I'm A Natural 20 Bisexual D20 LGBT Pride Dice - 4 Inch Full Color Vinyl Decal for Indoor or Outdoor use, Cars, Laptops, Décor, Windows, and More https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07JH4Y993/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_VEBB5VKX58GYHTMSJAH1

Do it!

As someone who has played D and D for 20+ years:

1. Find a group of 3-4 other people who also want to learn, and get along.
2. Buy a 5th edition essential kit.
3. Read through it, but you do not need to know all the rules ahead of time. Fun is always more important than the exact rules!
4. Get some snacks and drinks and have a good time.

D and D is all about having fun with your friends.

Also:

Unconditional: A Guide to Loving and Supporting Your LGBTQ Child https://www.amazon.com/dp/1633535150/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_86BR1S8X75HYNPCAVXK6

This Is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids: A Question & Answer Guide to Everyday Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/1452127530/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_2Z71H636RFQY74VB3RHA?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

The Savvy Ally: A Guide for Becoming a Skilled LGBTQ+ Advocate https://www.amazon.com/dp/1538136775/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_2CJVSMCBSK8TEHGN51WR?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

Parenting Your LGBTQ+ Teen: A Guide to Supporting, Empowering, and Connecting with Your Child https://www.amazon.com/dp/1648767338/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_1YPBV5AB077364AGMV93?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

You can get a multi-pack on Amazon for cheap and try out different types and the sizes are relatively flexible. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07DVYZ1LM/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_Q359DRAGF44J2TXF3E5C?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1 Once you do something like that then you can get something more specific that you like.

May I recommend this book.

It's full of pictures of m/m couples from the 1850s - 1950s.

The couple who made the book have spent 20 years searching garage sales and what not looking for these photos.

The ones in the book are a small percentage of what they have - they only published the highest quality ones. It also only represents the m/m couples who would have had access to photography between 1850 and 1950 and have been willing to pose for a photo even though it was dangerous. And they're all American. And it only features men.

So percentage wise, this book contains a TINY percentage of the queer people who were around back then. And yet the book is massive and contains so.many.people.

I dont work with clients with OCD,but that doesn't mean I don't have the training to, as a clinical psychologist.

Treat this as chit chat and not advice as I'm not your psychologist.👍

Have you ever done or currently do Exposure and Response Prevention ?

If you have a good relationship with your psychologist or psychiatrist, speak to them about it

I'm sure you already know that behavior that engages with the obsession,like asking for reassurance about sexuality, avoidance, rumination– reinforces ocd behaviour

Obsessive compulsive disorders are a need to desperately to neutralise distress and uncertainty , sexual orientation Unfortunately comes with uncertainty.

Have you tried the app from NoCD?

It's got ERP apps to use

It available to both Droid and IPhone

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.treatmyocd.nocd

https://apps.apple.com/us/app/nocd-ocd-treatment-app/id1063365447?utm_source=newwebsite

you need to sit with this uncertainty , ERP can help you with that.

Bisexual ER nurse. Baby you gotta get yourself some anal safe toys. If you live with your parents and need plausible deniability, buy something like this. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00004OCNS/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_navT_g_B5GJDQ7BPA6QDJ98FZ1V

Laugh if you want, but I've helped pull so many goddamn things out of people's asses. We don't mind, we see butts all day, but I've had patients crying literally bury their faces in the sheets and cry from humiliation. Don't do that to yourself.

And as folks said earlier, there are no gay or straight body parts, no gay/straight sensations. So you've discovered you love the sensations that come from anal play. That's awesome! But that's all it means. What makes you bisexual is who you want back there giving you those sensations 😉

https://gumroad.com/abigatorart

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Heres the link if you want to read it. It's the one titled Pride. Let me know if you have any issues with it I'm trying out this platform for the first time.

> honestly, i cant believe your putting so much effort refuting my dissatisfaction in the operation of a company. i dont even know what your trying to prove anymore.

I'm not trying to refute your dissatisfaction. I'm trying to explain why sometimes taking user feedback doesn't make sense, both from a financial perspective and even from the perspective of providing a good service. It is quite plausible that if Google took user feedback more directly, their search engine would not be as good as it is right now.

> so tell me where are those competitors that i can jump to? the ones that offer a better service?

If an important part of "service" is "taking feedback from people", then try DuckDuckGo. They're much better at taking feedback from people. I hear the search engine isn't as good but, hey, if that's the tradeoff you're willing to make, then go ahead and make it.

If that's not a tradeoff you're willing to make, then accept that you don't actually consider the ability to give feedback to be very important.

I did this ~8 months ago and while the circumstances were not ideal, it ultimately was a good thing. I wish I’d found this resource before hand. Hopefully it will help you. https://www.pillowfort.social/posts/2160100

It sounds like you’re bi but with a heavily leaning preference toward women. It happens :) i have a heavy preference towards men but have been happily dating another woman for nearly 3 years. But it could be that you are truly a lesbian but dealing with something called “comphet” which is where lesbians & bi women believe they are straight and it confuses their feelings. Its very common :/ the “Am I a Lesbian?” Masterdoc could be useful for you:

https://www.docdroid.net/N46Ea3o/copy-of-am-i-a-lesbian-masterdoc-pdf

They are doing that because they aren't assholes. I read all of your replies and you learned nothing from the commenters. It is time you were show the door

u/Tequiero3000 and u/Whocares1846 okay so [this](https://www.amazon.com/Underwear-Breathable-Briefs-Through-Lingerie/dp/B07SLBG5BK/ref=sr\_1\_4?keywords=cockcon%2Bmens%2Bunderwear&qid=1643297963&sprefix=cockcon%2Caps%2C115&sr=8-4&th=1&psc=1) is not the exact brand I have been buying, but its very similar. And you can search for the brand if you like and it brings up a lot of other similars. But the brand I have been most pleased with is Cockcon. I think its a Chinese off brand. I have one similar to this in black and purple.