One of mine was wasting time on the internet and not in videogames, i know, both are a "waste" of time, but atleast on videogames i play like 1 or 2 hours and im done, so i used this little Chrome app, and its awesome https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/laankejkbhbdhmipfmgcngdelahlfoji
There are a number of really fun psych books (not sure if you meant heavy reading, these are pretty light) The Power of Habit - Charles Duhigg and The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat - Oliver Sacks.
I also will echo a bit of what /u/megret said: start checking in with yourself and paying more attention to how much you're enjoying the books you start to read here, and any other situation you find yourself in. After a long time of fitting yourself into someone else's life you sometimes forget how to do things that you actually want instead of agreeing to what other people want.
I've read "how to win friends." It's a great book, but also should be read more than once, just go over the principles he teaches every day/week/month. If you are good with reading INTO books, or maybe you like to ideals of warrior culture and its application, look into:
Other than that, just look for books that are similar to Dale Carnegies book, or find the other books by Carnegie(if there are others, I think there are). Oh, and general reading will help a ton too, read the classics, then move on to reading your genre specific and such. Here's a cool site someone put together, http://redditorschoice.com/
Studies like this show that if you can persuade yourself to work on the task for 'just a few minutes', chances are you'll see it through to completion.
It's due to the "Zeigarnik effect" - unfinished tasks stick in our mind and cause us anxiety. Once we've started on something we want to finish.
Guitar players- The website http://www.songsterr.com is great for teaching yourself songs. There is not as much stuff there as on ultimate-guitar, etc. but what is great about this site is that it plays through the song with the tabs and rhythm and it has multiple parts (lead/rhythm/bass) that you can select and hear played. There's a pro-account thing that allows you to print the tabs, slow it down, and mute/solo tracks. I think it is quite like GuitarPro, but free and no signing up.
TL;DR http://www.songsterr.com great for learning guitar, like GuitarPro, but free
As a researcher who studies habit strength, The Power of Habit is pretty weak. read my review, here
I would HIGHLY recommend "The Slight Edge", by Gary Olsen instead. Best book I've come across on effective habit change and paying attention to our behavior.
I see this post is a little old, but here it goes. Here are some of the books I really enjoyed during my personal growth:
Search Inside Yourself - Chade-Meng Tan, This is a book written by a Google engineer about mindfulness. It's quite awesome if you're like me and want mindfulness from a more scientific and analytical approach with studies and all that good stuff.
The Road Less Traveled - Scott M. Peck, I really enjoyed this one because of the examples he uses from his psychotherapy sessions with his clients to show how certain small changes in our life can make a huge effect.
Tao Te Ching - Lao Tzu, eastern philosophy text about Taoism lots of great treasures in this one.
Slaughterhouse-Five - Kurt Vonnegut, This is a great book that really demonstrates that things will always change and all you can really do is accept it and move on. "So it goes."
The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying - Sogyal Rinpoche, Very slow, very hard read. When I read this I could only go maybe 10 pages before taking a break. It's very dense with its information and the section on dying can be hard to read.
The Hobbit - J. R. R. Tolkien, amazing book, really demonstrates how a single person/action can make a big difference.
Sophie's World - Jostein Gaarder, intro book to philosophy written in a fictional world.
Not a book: Alan Watts lectures are great, they're all over youtube. He considers himself an entertainer instead of a guru.
Hope this helps!
>but don't force yourself to write something, or it will be contrived and rubbish. think quality instead of quantity.
Well, this is interesting advice. Seems to be the opposite of just about what every author/writer from I've read or talked to about writing have said, from Bird by Bird to Writing down the bones to 10 english classes...no offense, but for acquiring quality isn't that why we have editing? :)
I completely agree with studying the roots as a way of learning. I read a book that focuses on exactly that type of learning and found it rather fruitful [link for interested]: http://www.amazon.com/Word-Power-Made-Norman-Lewis/dp/067174190X/ref=pd_rhf_p_t_1
My posters also include words that relate to general knowledge or are references to something, like 'blue blood', 'Gish Gallop' and so forth. I usually find this kind of words particularly interesting and studying roots usually does not incorporate them into the learning process.