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You're being passive aggressive. Your boyfriend can't read your mind, and expecting him to is selfish and immature. Love takes charity, and forgiveness. If you want something from him you just need to sit him down and tell him how you feel.

Though if you have a history of being passive aggressive, he might not feel safe enough to be honest with you. I highly suggest you curb your behavior.

Here's a really good book that I think will strengthen the way you approach relationships: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands https://www.amazon.com/dp/0060520620/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_pS03Bb27EKRN3

My sister was never overweight but was on the higher end of the normal BMI range. She tried to conceive for SIX YEARS and wound up going through all those hormones studies and whatnot, and her husband had his sperm checked out. The labs were normal so she tried a holistic health approach and did the Whole30 diet. She wound up losing 10-15 pounds and conceived IMMEDIATELY afterward!

It's basically eliminating all processed foods and additives from your diet that can cause systemic inflammation, which could contribute to infertility, asthma, PCOS, mood disorders, joint pain, IBS, etc. The goal of whole30 is to reduce inflammation, not track calories or intake, but when you aren't eating processed foods like cheese, sugar, fast food, or bread, you are probably going to see some weight loss.

I bought the book and tried it out for myself. I saw massive improvements in the quality of my sleep, anxiety, and adult acne. Honestly changed my life.

Can I just say that shipping prices factor into my online purchasing decisions a ridiculous amount? I have a small but flexible spending "fun" budget and the ability to browse things online at work, so I impulse bought The Little Book Of Hygge yesterday without a second though (free shipping thanks amazon) and yet, despite the fact I've revisited the website probably 7 times in the last 4 days and absolutely am in love with these mittens (I have a pair in red that are the best winter accessory I own except they don't match anything I own dang it) from the style to the lining to the colors, the shipping is $12 and I just can't do it. I can't. Its too much. basically shipping costs have kept me from going over budget many a time. Its a love hate relationship I guess

I LOVE budgeting and personal finance! I don't know why it is such an appealing subject to me, but it is.

I started with Mint, because it's a good way to see where your money is going. I realized after a couple of weeks of using it that I was falling into that ubiquitous latte trap that all finance blogs yell about. So I made it a point to get my budget under control one aspect of a time. First my coffee out. Then dinners out. Then impulse buys. That way I didn't feel majorly deprived all at once.

I mostly use spreadsheets in excel, but I also have YNAB and it's really a great tool - there's a subreddit for it too! It a simple tool, but the premise is that you have to log in and plot your spending, thus being mindful of what you spend and make.

I like to read blogs like The Frugalwoods (crazy good story of escaping the rat race and marriage teamwork there!), Our Freaking Budget (a young, relatable couple that didn't make their way through $150k/year jobs and windfalls), and my personal favorite, Mr. Money Mustache. His older posts are brutally honest and leave no room for excuses. He abhors wastefulness and "complainy-pants". He a little extreme in that he doesn't believe in cars and thinks everyone should bike everywhere, but his message is good. Dave Ramsey's "Total Money Makeover" is another good source if you are overwhelmed with debt and truly don't know where to start.

In two years, I went from being in tons of student debt, to an $800 medical bill not being a problem. My husband is the spendier one, and some times he has to tell me to loosen up and enjoy the money I make, but we haven't had an emergency yet that we couldn't pay for. It's really, really fantastic to not have that undercurrent of, "are we going to make ends meet this month" in our relationship.

Sorry - I focused on some aspects that weren't the most red pill.

Some red pill reasons for more education:
College educated men and women are less likely to get divorced.
The MRS degree is a trope for a reason - you will almost never be able to meet so many hardworking and ambitious young men in the same place, of course avoiding hook up culture.

no. This habit is before sparkling water was sanctioned by RPWi. This is what I use. Just cuts to the heart of it.

I'm also not tired of your posts! Always inspiring to see people being intentional and doing the work.

I read a book called "Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall Rosenberg (PhD in Psychology). The first time I read it, I was angry and didn't get much out of it. The second time I read it, it really helped me and I'll probably re-read it again soon.

A friend recommended a short book called "How to Fight" by Thich Nhat Hanh. It's mindfulness based, sounds pretty good, I'll probably read it soon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1941529860/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_1Z0ZZBEC5XGF5S6FDFMJ

Cuisinart Mini-Prep Plus DLC-2A Food Processor (White) Amazon link #notspons I bought it in red at my local Khols.

It's not particularly powerful, but it gets the job done for chopping for salsas and purées too. It's not big enough for making pie crusts and would probably burn out if you're trying to make homemade peanut butter or something. But, it's a perfect size for making dips or sauces in reasonable amounts. I would imagine it will work great making baby food, but I haven't tried it yet.

I know other people have also said "checklists", but they really have been a game changer for us. I never used them much because I felt like I'm an adult and they're a little condescending, but recently I got a magnetic dry-erase weekly to-do list thing that goes on the fridge. My house has never been so clean! Mostly it's helped the kids to do their part, but it also has really helped me as well. The weekly one I have is similar to the one on this product page: https://www.amazon.com/Magnetic-Erase-Calendar-Bundle-Fridge/dp/B089QR3F27/

Sounds like you really need to prioritize your self. Do other moms get their kids out in the cold in your area? Maybe you could ask for advice? I found my kids do so much better when I get them outside even for a few minutes. Even for just a short walk.

Even if you just spend a few minutes a day doing something to feel refreshed - lighting a candle, putting on music, reading a book you love- those would all be great things for self care.

This is a book that really helped me when I was feeling similarly to you.
Replenish: Experience Radiant Calm and True Vitality in Your Everyday Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/0615855989/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_YAYCF3D56C69QBN0D650

I love my husband but I do know couples who stayed together for the kids. The kids were much better off for it, and in several cases the love between the couple returned.

Divorce is one of the most damaging things that can happen to a child. Even if you end up deciding to split after your children reach adulthood, the impact is much less severe than if you had broken up the family when they were still young.

I highly recommend every couple read the book Primal Loss before deciding to divorce. They need to have their eyes wide open about the fallout to make an informed decision about whether the costs of leaving will be worth it.

Primal Loss: The Now-Adult Children of Divorce Speak https://smile.amazon.com/dp/0997989319/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_1Z4CZ8M6JMF0KBB81Z4W

My goal is two-fold:

1. I want my house always to be "door bell ready" in case someone stops by. This means the downstairs looks and smells fresh and that the downstairs bathroom is clean.

2. I want the house clean and lovely by the time my husband comes home from work. This means no dishes, dirty laundry, clutter, no unmade bed, etc.

Two things that I recommend:

1. De-clutter. Daily housework sucks when you are hanging onto too much stuff. Borrow The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up from your public library. Very fast, motivating read, and it will transform how you view housework and clutter. Wonderful book. All of my library patrons who checked it out loved it. I loved it, too. Changed everything.

2. Cordless vacuum

Get a sweet cordless vacuum like this. It doesn't replace your regular vacuum, but it will make your home so much cleaner. I use mine after dinner to pick up any kitchen mess. It goes under furniture easily and picks up cat litter. I use mine several times a day if I see a mess. 2 minutes of quick clean for a really nice finish. I originally bought it for the stairs, but I use it ALL THE TIME. (I have foster kittens, and this keeps the place from looking like I have foster kittens!)

I agree with the other commenters about deal breakers.

I was reading a book by the really famous marriage researcher John Gottman (https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797) and his research shows that many long-married couples have about ten or so fundamental issues that they disagree about and what they do is instead of arguing about it all the time, they just find ways to live with them. They even joke about it.

When I argue with my SO, it really helps me to think about where he's coming from. Why does he feel and believe this? How does his past shape his beliefs?

I feel like the most important thing when you're discussing something serious and everybody's getting emotional is to keep the argument "clean". John Gottman talks about the "Four Horseman of the Apocalypse" for marriage which he says are: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. It's much better to avoid these behaviors.

Congratulations! If, by bad luck, you can't easily exchange your ring in the short term, maybe some ring resizers would be a good investment? Nicer than cotton!

I usually use dishwashing gloves for most of the cleaning and for the dishes (I have two different pairs). I will use disposable gloves to clean things that can contaminate the gloves (the pets' litter box/cage, the toilet, etc). We buy our disposable gloves at Costco, it's a very reasonable price as well.

So cute! I get so much physical affection in my daily life from friends (hugs, playing with each other's hair, fixing each other's jewelry) that I forget the fact that he can go days without touching another human being. It's amazing when you realize just how powerful your cuddles are for your man!

I also like giving my SO massages. Sometimes I'll just announce to him, "I'm giving you a massage when you come over later." I've yet to be refused :) I actually have a massage book that I reference, light yummy-smelling candles, use massage oil (or a massage candle), put down clean towels, the whole nine. He loves it!

<em>Captivating</em> is another great book! It has Christian themes, but has lots to offer non-Christians, too! It has a male-centered companion book titled <em>Wild at Heart.</em>

My sister uses this one because of the wine glass holder. I put a chair next to my tub and use voice commands on my laptop. I don't read physical books :p Another benefit to that is I can netflix in my tub too.

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I got this one - and now that I check, it doesn't actually start til August 1st. Ahh! They have a ton of really cute designs.

I bought this Bible study journal with it too, interested to see how it goes.

Pretty much no one will ever USE this skill unless they're Neil Caffrey from White Collar, but it's damn fun regardless :)

It's kind of something I picked up naturally starting from age 8 or so...this has always been my nerd jam. But if you wish to walk around proclaiming things in thousand-year-old English and confusing everyone, might I suggest this?

I just heard about Tied Up In Knots tonight - I have not read it yet, but it seems like a really solid read that sheds a lot of light on what feminism has done to women.