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I do a shower enema. And what we have done… we got a dual shower with handheld- this https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0784LQGP2/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_DYG15XD7WZTRH84WBH40
When I want to do an enema, simply screw off the handheld shower head, and screw on the enema. Works great and the enema is a secret that no one else sees
Coconut oil is shelf stable, why keep it in the freezer?
As for suppositories, frozen balls of coconut oil doesnt sound fun to me. Why not melt it in the microwave and use an applicator/injector like this?
If thats more volume than you want, I've found oral syringes and irrigation syringes work well, as they're meant for thinner liquids. something like this
Spare Parts Jocque is excellent. The amazon reviews say more than I ever could about it.
We also found that this Vac-U-Lock Large Suction Cup will fit in the harness making it about as secure as you can get. There are a lot of dildos for it fitting most any need.
I dont have female anatomy, but cant imagine that staying in anymore than a dildo staying in. The woman who introduced me to pegging had one of these feeldoes and liked it: https://www.amazon.com/Silicone-Strapless-Harness-Free-Vibrator-Batteries/dp/B07CBPC3W9
This is what I bought, however it is unavailable now.
PerfectFit ergofló 18” Deep Clean Nozzle for Anal Douche, Designed for Use with ergofló pro Shower System, Made from Rubber, Includes Nozzle/TIP ONLY https://www.amazon.com/dp/B016S13NJ4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apan_glt_fabc_DWGFWESF5Z2Q2FZSXW7S?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
What I like most about it is that the hole is on the side of the tube, which greatly reduces the water pressure and allows me to clean the walls of myself easier.
There are plenty of options available, however I haven't found anything like what I have. Sorry about that.
We use the Big Shot which has a button to make it ejaculate rather than a syringe. It's a rather rigid dildo, but has a nice vibrations feature.
For ideas on how to use it, check out r/hercumhisass
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07ZV3TBWL/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o05_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
This is the link. It is a set of 3 sizes. We usually start with the small, and have used the medium, but haven't used the large yet. He really enjoys them.
> http://www.shevibe.com/vixskin-mustang-silicone-dildo-by-vixen.aspx
Oh, they DO have the flesh color there. I was looking on Amazon. It's a little cheaper there.
Yikes....buy it on Amazon folks. Half the price
https://www.amazon.com/CalExotics-Vibrating-ME2-Probe-Rechargeable/dp/B078T17HFX
This is a super good strap on for the price. It’s so affordable and it’s our favorite so far. I’ve recommended to others, who buy the strap on and also love it.
Strap on Dildo Wearable Sex Harness with Silicone Dildo Realistic Penis for Female Masturbation Adult Sex Toys for Women Couples Lesbian https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01NA9IU4G/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_oTZHFbZE1B5CF
An inch wider?? So at least 3 inches more in girth? That's a judge difference. I've seen it recommended that you get a toy at every inch in girth to practice with. You can do that or you can get a classically shaped butt plug with girthy widest point and you can just slowly use that single one to slowly stretch you out. Pretty much what I did with this one.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002X78EQK/ref=cm_sw_r_apa_i_4v9yFbMRSSW6J
But it seems like you might need an even thicker plug to get all the way stretched.
I found this.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00YHQ2RU4/ref=cm_sw_r_apa_i_RF9yFbWS89RNA
If you spend a really long and slow time warming up with it (like an hour, and spending at least 10 minutes with thickest point stretching your sphincters, not with it all the way in there), you should be able to take the dildo you have bought.
Warming up your butt takes a while, don't rush it, please be careful. And if you decide it's too big and not fun, go with something smaller. That is a really big dildo to be sticking in your butt, the right size is way more important than a large size.
> Rodeoh Black Duo Graphic Logo Harness
My bad ... I see now that I should have read the post more carefully.
Do not know how reputable they are but at least one Amazon seller appears to have to have 9 in stock.
We just got one. We got it because we are both bigger people and wanted something that actually fit and was high quality. We have only used it once but we like it. We have the size B. We also found that the Vac-U-Lock Large Suction Cup will fit in it, I was surprised. It's not needed but still cool. We have only used the harness one time but it is nice. The reviews on Amazon for it are impressive also and can say more than I could.
That’s the same one my wife uses. It looks amazing on her. Amazon has them on prime.
Anything that is comfortable with a flared base honestly. I like the longer ones rather than the bigger circular ones. I use the medium sized Doc Johnson one all of the time. It's my go-to when I want to feel full for a longer term. I can easily go 5-6+ hours and usually only take it out when I'm going to bed or if I uh, "finish."
[the one I use is this one](https://www.amazon.com/Doc-Johnson-Mood-Naughty-Silicone/dp/B006CYZ51M/ref=sr\_1\_40?crid=1XSFOA4YOZ769&keywords=doc+johnson+butt+plug&qid=1671496576&sprefix=doc+johnson+butt+plu%2Caps%2C184&sr=8-40)
They make it:
https://www.amazon.ca/Frisky-Padded-Thigh-Sling-Positioner/dp/B00W89X82S
We've found sex slings to be the best for comfort, but they're spendy. Depends on how much you love your fun.
+1 on this, it's super informative! My only qualm with it is that I would recommend buying a bidet sprayer (this link is not exactly what I bought, but nearly identical) instead of the shower attachment it suggests. It's functionally the same thing except it hooks into your toilet's water supply line (super easy DIY). The obvious advantage is that you're cleaning your ass right into the toilet so you can flush everything away, but as a bonus you now have a bidet on your toilet, which I've grown to appreciate. I give myself a little rinse-out every time I poop now, which helps with those poops where you don't feel like you got everything out, but also means that my ass is pretty much ready to go anytime.
The most useful tidbit I took away from the guide linked in the comment above was the distinction between a quick cleanout vs. a full cleanout, and the importance of not getting water up around your sigmoid if you don't want to devote the time to a full clean.
Our first one, and still a favourite, is the feeldoe.
Doesn’t look realistic, it’s strapless but can be used with a harness and as she also has it held internally there’s a greater feeling of connection between us.
Granted that last one is purely psychological but it’s there all the same.
https://www.amazon.com.au/FEELDOE-Silicone-Strapless-Harness-Free-Vibrator/dp/B07JDC21GM
This harness is often recommended for being comfy and high quality.
https://www.amazon.com.au/SpareParts-Hardwear-Joque-Adjustable-35-65inch/dp/B002Z0WPBK
Not a lot of padding up front though. Just a double layer of fabric with a flap which is handy for double ended toys and access for mounting attachments.
Perhaps this for a bit of cushion for the pushing?
We love this one
Spare parts
https://www.amazon.com/SpareParts-HardWear-Joque-Double-Harness/dp/B002DOJR1O
Really ensures the dildo stays in place. So great range of motion on the dildo, unlike some others in which the harness does not complete keep the dildo in place.
I've had lower back fusion and also full neck, head to shoulders, fusion. To make pegging work for us we typically use a position with me on my back, butt at edge of bed and her standing. To help with my legs I use a thigh strap. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09CL3YJMV?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details
Cowboy, her laying me riding, also works.
it doesn't have compartments but i use a lock box
these helped me open up to accept a butt plug I couldn’t get in me no matter what I tried before. Took a little but can now take the big one reliably after warming up with the first two!
This has been our go to for quite some time, ie, spareparts hardware Joque
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https://www.amazon.com/SpareParts-HardWear-Joque-Double-Harness/dp/B002DOJR1O
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What makes it great, at least for us, is that it stays really tight. This is really important because it allows for ONLY the dildo to move in and out.
For some others we have tried, the harness will move as well, so then when thrusting the dildo does not have nice range of motion...
Reading this, it very much reminded me, of, well, me, including the conflicting recommendations :-)
For example, I had exactly this problem "'Ive done enemas with a bulb and it seems like every time it takes over an hour of filling myself up and emptying out before the water runs clear. " And it is certainly a mood killer, to say the very least. And further, according to some sources, a simple wipe is all that is needed but this would NEVER work for me (perhaps because we go at it pretty hard..not sure).
Anyhow, I tried enemas with bulbs, different positions, holding the water longer, and really nothing seemed to work consistently. And even when it did, I was worried that there would be a mess which, again, is certainly a mood killer. This was unfortunate because I really love getting pegged hard (really hard).
After much searching, and at one point almost calling it quits, I decided to go "all in" and pushed my chips to the center of the table so to speak. By this, I am referring to a shower enema (I have this one: https://www.amazon.com/Cleanstream-LE776-Shower-Enema-System/dp/B002FCN7Y2)
At first, the thought seemed a bit much and quite involved. But let me tell you, it has been an absolute game changer. I quite literally hop in the shower, and am completely cleaned out in about 5 minutes (on average). I have been doing this for about 6 months, and not only has there never been a mess, the pegging itself has felt even better. I think this is mostly psychological, in that I can completely give in to the experience and enjoy.
(I will also take fiber as well, which seemed to help, but the game changer was the shower enema).
My wife's not much into the pegging as I noted in another comment, but one thing we've found some common ground on a couple times is a longer double-ended dildo (specifially this one: https://www.amazon.com/Pipedream-Products-Classix-Double-Whammy/dp/B07NSVRW9B.
Worth mentioning that it's slightly thinner nature has a lot more appeal to her than a thicker one would, and it's smooth so there's not a lot of friction, but it's also very flexible while still having enough firmness to do the job. For me, length is important (the longer the better for the most part, because you can always leave some out but you can't make more when there isn't enough). With this we kind of "scissor" (heh. Yes, I watch South Park). These would be pretty much the only times that stuff in my butt is also sexually gratifying to her. The rest of the time it's usually she's already finished and now it's my turn, or we're messing around a bit and eventually shift gears to focus on her.
My gf loves when she wears this while we are going at it, she will cum and start thrusting harder and harder till she's done which usually sets me off!
UTIMI Anal Vibrator Sex Toy... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B086ST7NCC?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Thank you! We just have to work on getting comfortable angles. That will come with trial and error but she wants to go shopping for a more comfortable harness.
We used this set to begin with and quickly decided the dildo was too short to use so we swapped it with this dildo which we had to make fit in the beginners hwrness
a looot of lubes have glycerin in them - which is one of the main things that makes it slippy! but glycerin is some sort of sweet/sugar compound derived from fats which can hugely affect ph balance and cause itching or burning - try a lube without glycerin in I believe Sliquid is completely glycerin free, although a wee bit more expensive than some others https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B000C5KATO/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_E6G0DZ9M8FZZ92SCS71J_1
This happened to me for the longest time. After trying a half dozen different lubes, this giant bottle of generic anal lube from Amazon proved to be the winner for us. No burning!
Lynk Pleasure Products Anal Lube... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N3SU0GK?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Can't reccomend a shower attached nozzle with flow control enough. - very efficient. I just unscrew my handheld shower head and screw on my nozzle with flow valve.
This is what I use :
Nozzle
https://www.amazon.com/Cleanstream-Silicone-Comfort-Nozzle-Attachment/
Valve
I bought my first harness from a Lover's (formerly Lover's Package). I think they're a regional chain but they may be national. If you have a Castle Megastore near you, try them out.
Ended up buying this harness: https://www.amazon.com/Tomboi-Harness-Red-Nylon-Large/dp/B008TH458Y/ (the pic doesn't really do it justice. It's a lot sexier in person, imo. Kind of a deep, almost blood red).
We've not tried any other harnesses but this one is pretty cool because it can fit any dildo from 1" to 2.5" thick comfortably, and there aren't straps to screw around with and get frustrated, which I could imagine being an issue. The ring isn't adjustable, you just kinda mush the dildo in, you'll figure it out.
Depending whether you're done butt stuff before, you might want a longer or shorter dildo to get started. We started with something like 6.5", and you'd think that would be plenty, but being a woman, my wife isn't as adept at burying it "ball's deep" as I am, so I ended up wishing we had one a bit longer for doggystyle. But with me riding her cowgirl (cowboy, I guess?) the 6.5" is plenty.
If I am using a toy that is bigger than about 6 inches either solo or getting pegged, or if I am having sex with someone who is hung... I use a lube applicator
https://www.amazon.com/Applicator-Rounded-Precision-Mess-Free-Reusable/dp/B07WZFGQH6
I think the reason I was having issues with anything larger in the past, is because there wasn't enough lube to comfortably keep inserting.
Give that a try
Get a harness like this and it will make it so much easier to keep your legs in the air https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09LYF71ZS/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1
i hear a lot of good things about the Spareparts Sasha and the spareparts joque
Strap U Bodice Corset Style Strap... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B015GB1RIQ?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share I keep meeting people and when they put it on, after they've pegged me they want the harness I can't tell you how many I've ordered from Amazon to replace mine. You can tighten it and it doesn't slip or fall down or have to worry about velcro or any other issues like that it just does a great job.
My wife is also on meds that can make orgasms difficult. She has had some of the best orgasms of her life pegging me. You might consider the ME2 Rumbler from Calexotics (https://calexotics.com/her-royal-harness-me2-rumbler/) as it has a vibrator in the base pad to stimulate your clitoris in addition to the one in the head for his pleasure. The one caveat I would add is the metal clips that come with the harness are really a pain to use. We replaced all the buckles on the harness straps with plastic, quick-release buckles that work so much better. You can get them for a few bucks on Amazon (https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B09GK5X6ZM/ref=ppx\_yo\_dt\_b\_asin\_title\_o05\_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1). Other than that, this is a really great pegging rig. One of the best we have found. We tried one of the strapless types with a penetrative insert on her end, but she did not enjoy that at all. Some things to consider.
This has worked great for me. Agree with others use metamucil consistently and don’t use too much water unless your doing more extreme play. Once water gets too far up there your in for a couple hours of cleaning to get it all out. Quick play i do a bm and 1-2 bulbs of this. Squirt and hold for 15-30 seconds and if the water is clear (to your standards) then you’ll be good to go. Enema Bulb Clean Anal Vaginal... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01KZI2IXS?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I never fast, but I also use a dietary fiber supplement known as psyllium husk fiber or Metamucil. It's pretty inexpensive. $20 or less for this from Amazon.
As long as I'm taking the fiber... a good poo, a couple of one-pint bulbs and I'm ready to go.
Yeah I store all my toys in individual bags and then just throw em in a drawer bags
Get a driver pad, this is only an example of the one from Aslan Leather but you can get them from most sex shops or you can make one yourself.
Aslan Leather Driver Pad for Strap On Harnesses https://www.amazon.fr/dp/B01NC3GAQQ/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_6JCW0N0MJBYDNVFJ8RT9
My wife used to get really bad bruising, especially if I was riding her. With the pad that became a thing of the past. I have similar ring harness to the sportsheet ring harness.
-Jay
Great that you guys opened the door to new experiences.
Positions. We both have issues that impact our lower body strength. To compensate we do receiver on back, butt at very edge of the bed, giver standing position. I can touch her and she can touch me. I also use a Go Fit Muscle Stretch Rope to help support my legs. https://www.amazon.com/GoFit-Muscle-Flexibility-Stretch-Rope/dp/B00ANJE4IM/ref=sr_1_2?gclid=CjwKCAjwy_aUBhACEiwA2IHHQFL7_0sKI0zUvAW_eNeVFt63PggIN6TQ_YD1aIwNhuRUXrvanhuNXBoCDtsQAvD_BwE&hvadid=241927279094&hvdev=t&hvlocphy=9012012&hv...
This position gives her the ability to thrust firmly and really gets into it. We are using a vibrating Strap On Me with harness. She really likes the bulb part in her but the clit vibe doesn't hit where it should. Her solution is to jam a Lovense Domi in her harness and she has very strong orgasms when pegging me. When I first mentioned pegging she was a bit reluctant but agreed. Started out with a conventional dong which did nothing for her. Now she is eager to strap it on and my ass gets a real workout.
Again, congratulations, just think, it will only get better!
I highly recommend the Royal Harness which is fully adjustable! You can get some larger rings to use with it from other vendors. We use a 3inch+ ring that fits this well! You can get the bigger rings a bunch of places. :)
https://www.amazon.com/CalExotics-Royal-Harness-Regal-Queen/dp/B07N4GN85Q
Thisharness sorta thing?
Sorry for the amazon link I'm commuting
This:
https://imgur.com/gallery/yjOXz
And this
Vaginal Cleaning Syringe Cleaner Reusable Manual Pressure Cleaning System Portable Kit with 3 Nozzles,600ml Capacity https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0899V2268/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_T1QW5QX2H1W99BNB8EV2?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
See if they make one with longer tubing. It's a little short.
As far as diet basically you want to adjust it either with eating more fiber or less carbs or less spicy food or whatever so when you have a bowel movement there really isn't any or much residue to wipe away with toliet paper. If there is a lot of residue getting clean is harder.
Congratulations! If you set reasonable expectations and take it slow I'm sure you'll have a great time. Getting comfortable with cleaning yourself out beforehand definitely helps set minds at ease and avoids having to stop to clean the dildo off if you want to change positions or such. I don't follow that site's advice exactly, my partner turned me on to bidet sprayers, which are wonderful for this purpose.
This is what we use, you can use it whole (bend over it for doggy) or unzip it and turn it into 2 different sized thinner wedges which makes it perfect for a variety of different positions, or just lifting your ass some for missionary.
Psyllium is fiber, take some every day to keep things moving, some say after every meal. Foods Supplements, Psyllium Husk Powder, Non-GMO https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002RWUNYM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_ER49NG9S96JYCKQVH7MZ
Enema bulb RANEU Enema Bulb Kit with Lube Anal Douche Superior Materials Douche for Men Women Made of Comfortable Material (Black) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07XHGQZX8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_WBARZ5W42SZVZWN3DJPB
It's above average size but it's been mighty fun for me!
As for the harness, you want to find something that fits your wife well and lets the base of the dildo hit her where it feels best for her. For my wife, we tried a few before we found the one that hits her spot just right without being irritating.
This is by far one of the best sets on the market before you get into the really exclusive/expensive toys and harnesses. The dildos feel ridiculously lifelike and if cared for properly will last years until you are ready to really invest.
Only knock is that the toys aren't silicone and the harness isn't leather, but with this harness you can really work out your holes. And you can't beat the price for what you get.
Doc Johnson Vac-u-lock Dual Density Ultraskyn Medium Dildos, Caramel, 1 Count https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B07S3JSBTS/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_0Q6SAAQ1RVHTNRZ5A04T
- Jay
This is the one we just bought, the cage is great, I don't recommend attempting to use the plug, as it came apart in my cock, and was really uncomfortable removing.
Xiangworld Ultrashort Male Penis Cage Stainless Steel Arc Ring Chastity Device A277-1 (Ring 5cm) https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B01MDRBWSN/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_RC8YTK37KFX1T76Y63GR?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
- Jay
You're reaching out to this contact?
If unable to contact this should work.
I started with a simple bulb type enema which I used for many years. But it always seemed to be such a pain, because you have to refill it multiple times to really get cleaned, and refilling it is annoying. Then I discovered this It made cleanout so much quicker and easier- no refilling necessary. I used that for many years. And then ultimately I moved up to a shower enema. And the shower enema is just amazing.
So just take a pick- simple bulb enema (inexpensive, but requires effort), the bottle enema linked (inexpensive, but much easier), or a shower enema (easiest of all if you're going to shower before playing).
I have one of these that I use daily when not using my shower setup. https://www.amazon.com/RANEU-Superior-Materials-Comfortable-Silicone/dp/B07XHGQZX8/ref=sr_1_5?crid=15ZODKCLYHSCI&keywords=enema%2Bbulb&qid=1644525595&sprefix=enema%2Bbulb%2Caps%2C92&sr=8-5&th=1 remember you are not trying to fill your colon up with water just to give it a quick rinse. 2 squirts are usually enough to get me 99% clean.
uxcell Multi-Purpose Metal O Ring Buckle Welded 76mm x 60mm x 8mm for Hardware Bag Ring Hand DIY Accessory https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07HQJGB17/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_A590V10TAGWGVG28KFEN 2.5" one. They work well
uxcell Multi-Purpose Metal O Ring Buckle Welded 66mm x 50mm x 8mm for Hardware Bag Ring Hand DIY Accessory https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07HQJ1WNF/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_D58N3E5HSMVWW7GB66JH That's the 2" one
More fiber in your diet. You can try psyllium husk fiber, metamucil and eating some of what is on this list daily
My gf has had good O's, sometime multiples with this toy while pegging me. The insertable part and the clitoral stimulation part can be turned on and off separately with the remote. It may be exactly what need.
Wiggling Wearable Vibrator Mimic Finger - SEXY SLAVE Sam Quiet Panty Vibrator with Remote, 3 Wiggling & 7 Vibration G Spot Vibrator, Sex Toys for Wome https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08RN3LLLZ/ref=cm_sw_r_em_apap_D5ZEDoyzTkgDP
I've got a prep routine now but honestly even before that my partner pegged me multiple times without me cleaning myself out ahead of time and it didn't seem like a huge problem? Have some baby wipes handy, I guess, but I'm not sure what you're actually afraid of. Yes, if you're fucking someone in the ass there is a possibility that a little poop will show up. It doesn't have to be the end of the world!
If you do want to do a quick clean-out beforehand I can wholeheartedly recommend buying a bidet sprayer. Just squirt the water up your butt a few seconds at a time and squeeze it back out. Repeat until it comes out clean. It takes just a few minutes and works like a charm.
Soap and water. If its silicone i put them in here before using. Anything else might break down in UV-C UV-C
I use one of these for solo anal play: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08SWFRBNR/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o07_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Not overly expensive and doesn't take up that much space when in use. Also you can attach any dildo you want to it to practice taking girth, length or both.
On a budget, the Sport Sheet harness is a good starter. It will hold firm. Dildo- just shop around for a silicone dildo in the size you want.
> Bound by Diamonds
I am seeing a couple different sets called this. Which of these are you talking about
Yes, for pegging and also sometimes just because they’re comfortable. I like Andrew Christian but thesethese on Amazon are awesome took.
It’s mostly for me as she usually wants them off quickly!
Personally use this https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B01MXW9EFP/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o04_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Not available on amazon anymore but its 100% silicone so it can be fully sterilized
Should be around $20 if you can find it
Try this, she wil probably need some sort of boy shorts or tight panties to keep it in though.
Haha! Thanks, I came up with the rhyme myself on the fly! As far as the harness I used is from here, the one I chose is a bit pricey, but well worth the money. Very comfy and it works for multiple dildos. The dildo I got was from amazon, here's the link.
This type works for me great. Maybe there is a better product brand I’m sure but this basic design works great. I use tub water or sink water and flush myself on the toilet at till the water runs clear a couple times. I use it before I’m about to party usually before I shower. Works great I eat what ever I like. Don’t need to empty the entire bulb each use by the way. Too much water can get up in there and cause a temporary case of the runs. Good luck
https://www.amazon.com/RANEU-Enema-Silicone-Douche-Nozzles/dp/B07XCB3Z2H
I started with sliquid but have moved away from it, now I use whatever large sized container of lube amazon has for my lube shooter, and then I use astroglide waterbased gel for the dildo itself since its super thick (although it does leave a residue) Also I'm partial to gun oil but too expensive imo.
https://www.amazon.com/Astroglide-Water-Based-Personal-Lubricant/dp/B00008NFL0
Doc Johnson makes a suction cup Vac-U-Lock adapter that might do what you want.
We’ve used toolboxes, suitcases and briefcases- all lockable and inconspicuous. Lowe’s also sells this which works well for organizing. https://www.lowes.com/pd/Kobalt-Canvas-Tool-Roll-Wrench-Storage/1000250731
But the game changer was this drawer lock. It’s invisible and easy to install. We converted drawer space. Perfect easy access with card-triggered lock. 10/10.
WOOCH RFID Locks for Cabinets Hidden DIY Lock - Electronic Cabinet Lock with USB Cable, RFID Card/Tag/Wristband Entry https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07XJNQ5G7/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_ZEHTT6F8EXF0H88B2GJ1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I like coconut oil, jojoba oil, and cocoa butter. All are safe to use as a lube.
Vixen Creations Mistress, Black, 1 Count https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00L06BDYK/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_7FGKYZWACHJWNA1EQP10?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
This one is smooth as well as a nice softness. It's honestly really comfy feels smaller than it is.
I use a combination vault box kept beside the night stand. See amazon link: https://www.amazon.com/Vaultz-Locking-Personal-Security-VZ00102-2/dp/B004Q86PNI/ref=sr_1_14?dchild=1&keywords=locking%2Bbox%2Bcombination&qid=1634670717&sr=8-14&th=1
Soft Lifelike Double Strap on... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09BHVQDQB?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I know Amazon isn’t the best place for strap ons, but as a couple who was just trying it and not sure if we even would like pegging, this was great. It comes apart easily to clean and has a removable smaller one that goes into the giver of the pegging and a bigger one on the outside of the strap on that comes off the little piece that holds it on the strap on. Sorry if that doesn’t explain it well but there’s basically a finger sized piece that stays attached, a medium piece that comes totally off, and a bigger size piece that’s like penis size of a long penis that also comes totally off.
The main problem with suction cup dildos is the most surface are going to point the toy straight up, or straight out. Both are really not good angles for self use.
Maybe consider one of these https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00A52GCJG/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_5HFV1BD6T0W0Q1WZJRR0 It has other angles so you can find the right angle that works best for your use
For an easy alternative, try a bidet. Just a couple minutes of use and your rectum will be sparkly clean! Don’t bother with the heated water models, they’re not necessary.
Would wholeheartedly recommend this product below. This harness has worked wonders for us. It has a velvety inside and is comfortable to wear and adjust. I always keep three of the straps the same and open and close one side of the waist for removal. It is also very sturdy and holds up to being hand washed regularly.
https://www.amazon.com/CalExotics-Royal-Harness-Regal-Queen/dp/B07N4GN85Q
get a behind the head thigh restraint, something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Access-Portable-Restraint-Fetish-Bondage/dp/B00AT4GRSQ
Helps him keep his legs up and spread in a way that still lets him relax.
The Vixskin Slim is my goto dildo when I'm breaking in someone new to pegging. Has a natural feel to it but still easy to clean. It is long enough to be very functional and thin enough for a beginner. It's also great for teaching someone to deepthoat if you are into that sort of thing.
Yes, you're having a reaction to one of the ingredients of the lube. I've had the same burning reaction to multiple lubes. Took me a while to find one that I didn't have a reaction to.
The one I finally settled on is Lynx Anal Lube And it's inexpensive and comes in a pump bottle
This is the one I have. It took me a while to warm up to the large one. Now it’s the first one I use to get started.
Doc Johnson Mood - Naughty 1 Trainer Set - Small, Medium, Large - Silicone Butt Plugs with Tapered Base for Comfort Between The Cheeks - Pink https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07BHWT1QX/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_QG6T7A6JBSZHWCWC98TN
For anal douching there is no need to penetrate yourself with any specially crafted enema nozzle. You can simply press the sprayer head to your anus, release the water to have some gentle (but not too much) pressure and relax the sphincter to let it in. Count a few seconds, tighten your sphincter, remove the sprayer head and push the water out. Repeat to the desired degree of cleanness.
I recommend to use a different sprayer for this though, the one that doesn't require your to squeeze the lever, which makes it really hard to regulate the water pressure. https://amazon.com/dp/B01CF51ZJ2/
Strapon Dildo 3 Removeable Silicone Dildos with Harness Belt Sohimi SM Sex Toys for Men and Women, Female Massage Masturbation Toys Strap on Harness Dildos for Women & Lesbian Couples https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07RQQ69ZD/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_SQ562EYSV2NWPPABE26P
Here is another option. It’s not double sided but has multiple points of attachment for mix and match
Strapon Dildo 3 Removeable Silicone Dildos with Harness Belt Sohimi SM Sex Toys for Men and Women, Female Massage Masturbation Toys Strap on Harness Dildos for Women & Lesbian Couples https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07RQQ69ZD/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_SQ562EYSV2NWPPABE26P
Here is another option. It’s not double sided but has multiple points of attachment for mix and match
CalExotics Her Royal Harness The Queen – Premium Adjustable BDSM Probe Strap On Thong Harness – Sex Toys for Couples and Women - Black https://www.amazon.com/dp/B078SZKN6Y/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_P3HMW3KSR914YMQ7HH9W
I found this bulb on Amazon and it has been great for cleaning. The check valve on the hose makes it much easier to use than a regular bulb. It is more like pumping then water in then trying to squeeze it all in the one shot. On top of that, you do not have to worry about dirty water back flowing into the bulb.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07FV7D4CS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apap_FRByixwlIN2ye
These water bottle adapters work pretty good in a pinch.
https://www.amazon.com/Cleanstream-Travel-Enema-Bottle-Adapter/dp/B07FK53KBJ
Think of it more as a douche. You don't need an enema per se. You just need to shoot 4-8oz of water up your ass until your rectum is clean. You don't need to clean your colon... yet.
I purchased one of these and I can vouch that it's quiet gentle on the bits. Was skeptical but I'm happy with it. It's kind of hard to use a mirror in the shower and reach the rear end but I'm getting better. Creams sound easier but I am concerned about chemical burns because most of them say don't use on sensitive areas. I have never tried them though tbf.
We thought about the harness you showed us here, but we wanted something a little more adjustable. She felt that the location on the pubic bone was not going to be the best spot 'all the time'. She wanted to be able to adjust the location that was bumped up against to be moveable so not to rub a spot raw with prolonged use. We went with...
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B015GB1RIQ/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s02?ie=UTF8&psc=1
This one was good for us to use.
Please let us know how the spareparts harness works for you.
We bought a step stool for her to stand on besides the bed. Turned out she loved being taller during pegging - it gave her some kind of new power feeling that really turned her on. Here’s the one we use.
This was our first setup. I just googled it and it’s way cheaper now than what we got it for. Not the best quality and we’ve upgraded since but ... she orgasmed 6-8 times our first 3 times pegging using this setup. Was amazingly awesome seeing how hard she came, even squirting while pegging me and is what’s kept me interested in it at all. I’d recommend it for beginners unsure of if pegging will stay in the routine.
CalExoticsDual Harness, Pink (1505-04-3) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002JINOYA/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_fabc_niG2FbJ8DJKVA
My husband I also have around a foot of height difference. One position that works really well for us is having him lie on his back so that his ass is at the side of bed, and I can stand on the floor. Still able to grab and handle him, but it is a lot easier on my legs, so I can last longer without needing a break. It took a little bit of positioning at first, but it is one of our favorites now. My hubbys account on reddit is u/badapple82, there is a video of us doing it on there if you want a visual of what I'm talking about. Another thing that we like to do is find something to bend him over, our pool table is literally the perfect height, I'm 5'3", and just do a reach around, he loves it when I'm inside of him doggystyle and also laying down on his back so he can feel my body against his. Also, I'm not sure how it would compare to what you are already using but we started out with the small and medium size of the tantus collection, and still use the medium to this day, they are super smooth and just glide in and out so easily. We've also recently found an amazing lube, which makes everything more slick than ever and it can last a lot longer as he doesn't get sore as fast. Here is a link for it if you are interested.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07DGM7QBZ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_fabc_6P20FbK5RDHGW
We enjoyed it so much I'm going to try some of the other kinds this brand offers.
We ordered SpareParts Hardwear Joque and Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock - Large Suction Cup. Come to find out that suction cup will fit in the strap on. Then we attach a dildo and it is the most secure strap on I could have imagined. We didn't order these indenting to do this, but it was a nice find.
Ultra-Feminine harness deluxe with garters!
I wear a fancy bra and sheer top over it like this.
That, and some fishnet stockings, and I'm set!
The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners [Paperback] [2013] Ph.D. Charlie Glickman, Aislinn Emirzian, Debby Herbenick, Carol Queen https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00CPSCV3Y/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_oZ1LFbBJWNF8S