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worth noting this is a fertility test, not a sterility test.
A fertility test has a high specificity and low sensitivity - meaning it detects sperm counts over a fairly high threshold
A sterility test has a high sensitivity and low specificity - meaning it detects any and all sperm present (and in some tests this means higher false positive rates)
Edit:
just learned the same company makes a product for post-vasectomy tests. neat!
Pretty sure in the lab they still test for sterility using a microscope, so it's worth having at least one lab test done to be sure, but at least this test is designed for the purpose, I didn't think that was possible. I think it's likely far less sensitive than a microscope test still, but would indicate a total re-canalization.
When that happens, it may not be “sexist expectations” that’s the main problem. The study about which this book was written found that the most egalitarian couples actually had the toughest time after having their first kid, precisely because the women were not prepared for the equality to crumble. They experienced not only a loss of freedom but a severe disillusionment with their partner and relationship.
(Meanwhile, women in unequal relationships, who were already the primary caretakers of the home or were financially dependent on their partners, reported much less unhappiness/difficulty in the transition to parenthood.)
In short, relationships that really are equal before kids rarely stay that way, post kids. Doesn’t even matter if the dude tries hard to be an equal partner in childrearing — the whole world (and ofc biology, in terms of pregnancy and breastfeeding) is working against it.
It’s a good book, but it’s depressing.
Amazon! These are the ones I got, but there are plenty more options available as well. The only thing is they are strips, so you have to pee in a cup and then dip the strips in the cup (I have a designated cup for this under my sink lmao). I got the 25 pack but they offer up to 100! https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B007VT30C8/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&th=1v
I'm so sorry you had to deal with all of that. I completely understand how you feel, a baby would 150% ruin my life.
Faced with being trapped in a physical prison or a societal one (the kid), I would rather choose the societal one where I can still travel and live as I choose, except with the burden of raising a child. I'd prefer freedom of movement since travel is a very important aspect of my enjoyment of life, with child or not. I've seen great examples of parents who just proceeded with their crazy dreams despite their family burdens, and I would take that route. Glad I don't need to make this decision in real life though!
Here's an image I got off Google. It looks something like that. it can't hold many mugs though, so we only hang those frequently used mugs on there and keep the rest hidden away in the cabinet. https://www.shutterstock.com/image-photo/mug-tree-stand-colorful-mugs-isolated-79957648
I can say the best time to go is late Jan early Feb! If you want to save money don't stay on property because it's super expensive! You can get really good deals on hotels in the Disney Springs area or Orlando area in general on sites like hotels.com for 1/2 to 2/3 less than if you stayed at a Disney Resort. The value Disney resorts can be awesome though but they will have the most kids! Get a low cost airline like Allegiant if you can! You can get discount tickets at the orlando area walmarts (not much of a discount but every little bit helps!) and go to all the parks!
Here you go! There are packs with more strips but this should last you a while: AccuMed Pregnancy Test Strips, 25-Count Individually Wrapped Pregnancy Strips https://www.amazon.com/dp/B071YNWRPP/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_81CGK10FB0B1V9NXVDEQ
There is a stick that can help with that, a mobility aid with a long handle
Not at all! I did read more than one, but I'm fairly sure this is the right one.
The Baby Decision: How to Make The Most Important Choice of Your Life by Merle Bombardieri
Not all of the advice in it was great for me, but some parts were really helpful. I think the thing about mourning a different life path is applicable to many things in life, so that really stuck with me.
Hey! We have an instagram with suggestions etc our handle is @ourhobbyistravel .
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We try to stay at different properties each trip! For our Honeymoon we stayed at The Contemporary because it's the only resort on property that is on the monorail AND has a walking path direct to Magic Kingdom! Ours was belated too because my husband was stationed oversea's and he had to go back to Germany 4 days after our weddings! (He's out now, thank God!) We bought Disney Vacation Club not on our honeymoon, but our next trip and that's what we use now. It's definitely worth the money if you like to stay at moderate to deluxe resorts!!! Otherwise the deluxe resorts are crazy expensive. You can actually book most Disney resorts through sites like hotels.com and their rates are sometimes cheaper! We are staying at a Disney Springs resort in October called "B Resort" and we are so stoked because it's only $200/night for a suite and you get theme park views for fireworks every night! We didn't want to use any of our next years points for this trip so it's really economical!
I’m 33 and for snipped this year. Just got the confirmation that I’m shooting blanks. Check out the good luck shirt I wore when I delivered my sample for testing:
It’s a great feeling to take control of your body and life. Congrats on taking the next step!
I've seen many great tips here but wanted to share what helped me the most. These seatbelt hooks are designed for pregnant women but I figured they'd work well for me too. This thing was a life changer! My gyno had originally said no riding in cars at all for 2 weeks but when I showed her the hook she cleared that because the seatbelt was her main concern. She liked it so much she started recommending them to some of her patients who had trouble with the seatbelt extenders and when I was done with mine I gave it to a friend who's wife was pregnant.
I remember reading that one of the only things that reduces wealth inequality long-term, is population decline. In the past, this usually meant plagues or war, which both suck. However, we now have a situation where the population may decline from our (honestly incredible) 8 billion, and leave more (equitable) resources and wealth for future generations, without people dying horribly! It’s not as if people are going to completely stop having kids anyway. If governments deal with this issue intelligently, the fertility crisis won’t be much of a crisis at all. Once we get past the 4-2-1 problem patch, things may actually get better for humanity and the environment.
I just read Beyond the Pill and I really reccomend it. It talks about vitamins and supplements you can use to balance your hormones in combination with diet. I think it's a better approach than going on the pill personally.
If you're having issues it might be worth looking into.
Cinnamon is almost as bad to me - it's always so strong that it overwhelms me.
I've used this stuff for years. It's great. They make a few different flavors too if blue raspberry isn't your jam.
Honestly, I'm not an expert on the subject. Read Happy Ever After by Paul Dolan.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0241284449
He speaks of married women being less happy than single women, people with education past high school being less happy than post-graduates (and doctors are the most miserable group), living child-free makes some people happier, and poly-amorous relationships making some people happier.
The general point of the book is that there isn't a one size fits all model on how to be happy and it's especially true that the narratives that we have been conditioned to believe either embellish reality or are outright false.
My poetry book about the various things I’ve gone through in terms of being childfree (breakups, mother in laws, sterilization, birth control failing, unsupportive therapists, etc., plus 16 poems about fur babies) is less than half price on amazon right now.
Not sure if anyone is interested but here is the link:
https://www.amazon.com/T-Gondii-Nina-Belen-Robins/dp/098322756X
>What if we have a child born with special needs? My wife and I agree that this is not something we would have the skills to manage.
Research. Identify your worst-case scenario and figure out what you'd need to do to deal with it. Then work backwards from there. Either you'll be reassured and emboldened, or you'll be put off taking the risk.
>What if, despite our best efforts, our child grows up to be disobedient or misbehaved? What if our child has some kind of mental disorder?
Study everything you can on discipline and behavior modification techniques. Stick to evidence-based sources. (Though not technically a parenting book, <em>Don't Shoot the Dog</em> is a great - and entertaining - primer on effective and humane training techniques - and includes many examples of applying them to children, roommates, bosses, and oneself.) If you haven't discussed parenting styles - free-range vs. helicopter, strict vs. permissive, etc. - do it now, so you're prepared to deal with disagreements later.
Remember that making a child can be an awesome science project for the right people, but also that a child is a person, along with everything that that implies. If you're not prepared to accept that person for whoever they turn out to be, then you're not ready to be parents.