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Her depression has been instigated by her grieving about the relationship, right in front of your eyes. The silences, emotional distance and lack of intimacy are part of a clinically studied process called Uncoupling.

https://www.amazon.com/Uncoupling-Turning-Points-Intimate-Relationships/dp/0679730028 Uncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate ... - Amazon.com

As others have said, you need to make the decision to yourself and take direction for your life. It's going to hurt like being gut punched. Focus on your well being and work. You can feel like a mess after work hours. Over time the grief and shock you are excited right now, will dissipate. I'm going to be blunt, it's going to take a little over a year. Keep the focus on you and your need. Write to do lists, to keep you focused. Indulge yourself with things that make you feel better. Maybe take a couple of yoga classes to relieve stress and anxiety. No dialing, drunk or otherwise. When you feel that urge, call a friend.

If you feel yourself going into a depression, see a therapist who deals with break ups.

The reason why some people can't be friends with their exes, is because they try to hold onto the relationship too long. So the relationship because more toxic. You become a victim of your hope.

None of this is YOUR fault. Relationships with people should be viewed as our teachers not reflection of our self worth.

i have no idea whether lesbian groups near me are actually for lesbians or if they mean the queer definition of lesbians. it would be my dream if we were able to safely publicize groups (like on meetup.com) for lesbians and specify that we mean female homosexuals.

I'm sorry but I laughed at your title.

I've never used them but don't they sell little pasty things in the underwear aisle? Have you tried those? They might be annoying for daily use, though. Otherwise going for sports bras with inserts.

I wear these from Amazon which have inserts.

I landscape. Short, neat, shave underneath and the grow-out hasn't been as unruly. If you use an exfoliant it'll help minimize the ingrown hairs. Also, they make a specific shaving cream for the vagina you can find online that really does make a difference.

I say ditch the dating apps and do meetup.com. You can meet loads of women in person doing activities you like. If you spark a connection with someone that's great, and if not you're out having a good time anyway.

The editor wrote this back in 2017 in an interview.

>That being said, I think queerness, in the academic, personal, and political sense, is changing the landscape of what it means to be a lesbian. I think younger people are critical, open to the reinterpretation and reconfiguration of lesbianism and lesbian identity, and I really embrace that. Younger lesbians work to be more inclusive of trans women and genderqueer/non binary people. We tend to embrace a wider variety of people who self identify as lesbian and we crave that representation in journals like Sinister Wisdom. I think there is a presumed incompatibility between older and younger lesbians, when really there needs to be intergenerational education and mutual dialogue. Sinister Wisdom and other journals like it have the potential to reconcile this disconnect and really speak to younger lesbians, if it could more faithfully represent the voices of trans, queer, and gender non-conforming women.

So with someone believing that in charge it was only a matter of time before it turned this way.

I think it might help to hang out with some healthy happy lesbians in real life. If you are in the U.S., check out a Meetup (meetup.com) for lesbians in your area that is focused on something healthy and positive like hiking.

I found the article on why that's a bad idea - it can rip up your fingers or do a number of things that would likely hurt you more than the attacker, as well as likely immediately cause you to drop the keys which renders them useless and your injured hand also useless.

It's a good read!

Here are the relevant bits:

> Putting your keys between your fingers may be reminiscent of a wild animal or your favorite Marvel action hero, but the potential for damage to your own hand is high. Matan Gavish, founder of Krav Maga Academy, tells us that holding your keys this way will likely cause more problems for you than your assailant

> “First, the metal jagged area of the key can easily cause damage to the skin between the fingers when being used violently,” he wrote. “Sharp pain like that can lead to opening of the fingers which will immediately reduce the effectiveness of any strike.”

> The base of the key hitting the inside of your hand after impact would also be painful, he added, all of which means you might drops your keys, leaving them vulnerable to a bad guy scooping them up. 

They don't actually recommend holding them sideways as I said (though I do remember reading somewhere that is the safer choice between the two), but the suggestion they do make is to affix something to your keys that you can hold and use the entire key set as a nunchuk, which is both safer to hold, deals more damage, and gives you more range than the keys being directly in your hand.

This article was a great read and gives some awesome suggestions for maximum efficiency - it's a good read for everyone to be a little safer!

I just started a book. It was one of those Amazon recommended books on sale at the beginning of the month. I started reading it with little knowledge of the plot only to find out the main character is a lesbian. She's single, has a mostly grown daughter who is also a lesbian. As far as I can tell, this is not a coming out book or a lesbian smut romance, which is the kind of lesbian book I've been looking for my whole life.

Stay tuned.

Edit: found the link: https://www.amazon.com/Other-Mother-Holly-Sharp-ebook/dp/B01J0V9GJA#nav-subnav

There's so many barbaric countries out there. A lot of them are islamic theocracies or majority muslim countries that have cultures that are extremely oppressive to women. FGM, honor killings, stoning women to death, male guardianship of women, policing their fashion, usage of women as baby factories, no educational or career opportunities, etc...

It's fucked up that the politically correct left condemns any person who criticizes the way islamic culture and islamic theocracies treat women and calls them "islamophobic" or "zenophobic." The reality is that islam, like all abrahamic religions, are inherently misogynistic and oppressive to women. The politically correct left is attempting to take away people's rights to stand up for women's rights.

Check out The Penguin Atlas of Women in the World: Fourth Edition 4th Revised, Updated ed. Edition by Joni Seager

This is the newer version of that book

They're both amazon links

I get the impression that it's an ~all-inclusive~ deal. The EXPO even says it's open to the general public, which makes it sound like men can attend. But, I've heard that Rehoboth Beach is a very gay and lesbian friendly city, so I still want to go check it out. I know that there's a female only lesbian group on meetup.com in my area that's going, so I figure it can't be too awful.

I met my gf of 4 years on OK Cupid, and I had used dating sites since 2003-ish. I actually ended up meeting a handful of women on those sites who I am still friends with today. However, if my gf and I ever break up (and I hope that doesn't happen!) I don't know if I could go back to dating apps. I feel like I'm too old for that now. I would probably do meetup.com instead.

I tried to make a new post with this info but it got removed (not sure why? If you have any idea please enlighten me haha). I’m not an expert redditor by any means so maybe I’m missing something 🤷🏻‍♀️

Since there was some interest, I will be hosting a U.S. & Canada happy hour via Zoom tonight (4/2) at 6pm Mountain Time (if you’re from elsewhere, still feel free to join if this time works for you!)

To join from a computer:
(1) go to https://zoom.us/meeting (2) Click “join a meeting” and enter the following meeting ID: 173-281-052

To join by phone you may need to download the Zoom app (free).

All I ask if you join is that you bring a positive attitude and be kind to everyone else on the call! Grab a drink and don’t worry about looking nice. I’ll think of some ice-breaker questions, and if you have any in mind feel free to share! ☺️

I have no idea how many people will show up, but even if it’s just one or two we will have some good conversation! Cheers, ladies.

My city has many lesbian events organized through meetup.com (and they are attended primarily by actual women). It does skew older but there are enough young women to make it worthwhile for them to attend. So I recommend giving it a try. Even if in your city it gets overrun by male "lesbians," you could still start this way and then spin off a private club whose events are by invitation only.

we're studying a full-stack curriculum that uses ruby/rails on the back-end.

https://www.theodinproject.com/courses/web-development-101/lessons/how-this-course-will-work

all females interested in code are welcome to join. we're focusing on this content right now, but simply having a community of our own is a great thing.

They are Chuck Taylors. They are winter waterproof boots that have a neoprene liner and they are awesome (which is why I own three pair, lol). They don't seem to have them on their site anymore but I was able to find a link on Amazon but not in that color, sorry.

Oh my I really need this now. But spent my budget on pre-order of Saga and Monstress graphic novels. Are you at all into graphic novels? Cause these are both great!

There is also B**** Planet which is a love letter to feminism

https://www.amazon.com/Monstress-1-Awakening-Marjorie-Liu/dp/1632157098 Amazon.com: Monstress Volume 1: Awakening (9781632157096 ...

https://www.amazon.com/Bitch-Planet-Vol-Extraordinary-Machine/dp/1632153661 Amazon.com: Bitch Planet, Vol. 1: Extraordinary Machine ...

I am a firm believer in making your own success. I have a saying that my girlfriend is finally beginning to understand.

It will all work out...it always does.

That simply means if things are in chaos, relax and let it work itself out. It can't stay that way forever. If you need to make a change, make it. If you've done everything you can to improve the situation, let it run its course.

I read The Secret, and Think and Grow Rich, and The Game of Life and How to Play it, and The Go Giver, and plenty others. They all have the same message. So, I don't think they are all wrong.

It is the reader who misunderstands it. They think they can read a book and life will change. They think they can drive into Walmart on Christmas Eve and find princess parking if they wish hard enough for it. They think that someone is coming along to save they day if they focus their thoughts on it long enough.

That's not how it works. That's not how any of this works.

I have one friend who finally got it after years of trying to force it to her will. the transformation of this woman over the past 3 years has been astounding. She is actually happy and content in her life for the first time since I've known her.

The point of those books is to live a life of gratitude. Be thankful for what you have instead of pining for what you want. Stop looking so hard. Stop wishing so hard. Praying isn't going to save you. YOU have to save you.

Good grief, I want to take some of those people who whine and cry "woe is me," and shake the daylights out of them and say, "put on your big girl panties and go take some personal responsibility for your life."