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Dermatologist! It might be a little pricey if it's not covered under your health insurance, but if it were me I'd even call around to find the earliest appointment possible. Explain your situation to the receptionist, and I bet most people would try to squeeze you in. The doctor may inject a corticosteroid into each spot to directly target and reduce swelling.

If it's not covered and you still want to go, the office can probably work out a deal/payment plan with you.

If you don't want to go to the dermatologist, try to leave your skin alone. Keep using the same products you've always used. Drink tons of water and you can even ice your breakouts to reduce redness/swelling.

I'm a big fan of these acne stickers. I've mostly used them on white heads, but they're also good for just preventing you from picking at the spot... which I'm certainly guilty of!

Two weeks is enough time! So sorry this is happening, but remember that breakouts ALWAYS look worse to you than everyone else. Just be gentle with your skin (and yourself!), and try not to obsess. You've got plenty of time to reduce the swelling and your makeup will take care of any extra redness (if there is any!).

Another more egregious example is this one:

95% sure this is the exact same headband

Etsy: $128 Etsy source

Amazon: $15.99 Amazon source

We are getting married Nov 7, 2020 and I have lost about 40 lbs since we got engaged!!!! My ring was getting super loose, but I didn’t want to get it resized quite yet, as I still have a bit of weight to lose to get to my goal. I got this from Amazon for $5.99 with low expectations. But it works PERFECTLY and is so comfortable, I hardly even notice it’s there. Just wanted to recommend to anyone in a similar situation!

It isn't worth going into debt for your wedding. While yes, it is an important day, the important part is marrying each other and starting your lives together. Don't begin that with a bunch of unsecured debt looming over you!

If you want help budgeting and figuring how much you can save each month, /r/personalfinance is a great resource. I also highly recommend both Mint for expense tracking, and You Need A Budget for budgeting.

Start off your marriage on the right foot :)

https://www.amazon.com/Calvin-Klein-Womens-Sleeveless-Eggshell/dp/B07733D1N4?ref_=fsclp_pl_dp_12

Here!
reasonable price, but not cheap looking at all!!!!

Get your hands on some of these!!

Cosrx Acne Pimple Master Patch 24patches10 sheets https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0179IBBEE/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_MpVpDbPJKMFKQ

They suck out the gross stuff and flatten out the spot, and it heals way more quickly. Just put it on overnight while you sleep. My fiance was so impressed by them I overheard him telling hus buddies about them over beers ��

Oh gosh, my bad! Here you go!

Looks like this dress. Love the alterations you did!!

Women's Plunging V-Neck Lace Illusion Bridal Prom Evening Dress (Silver,10) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N8TKW6P/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_TPE9CbTTTCX8W

Did you have an inspiration piece you were trying to mimic that you could post? It definitely looks like you put a lot of work and a lot of love into this piece! Your wedding will surely be one of a kind! The finished piece looks very busy to me.

It could look a little more elegant if you did just leaves. Maybe with smaller, less regularly spaced leaves added in so it looks a little bit natural.

Or you could go with just lace, like this. There's a little of foliage in there and you could definitely incorporate the little bits of leather or burlap you've used for the ties.

I'm not sure the lights add a lot, and they might not come out very well in photographs. If the lights are a must, I would absolutely switch to white rather than blue. I see some backdrops that combine lace with gentler white lights to good effect. To my eyes, Christmas lights and sparse shiny green false foliage just look a little '90s Olive Garden.

They are pendant lamp shades from Ikea! I painted them copper. I will say I think I sprayed them with too much because some of the paint is slightly flaking off but it makes it look kind of rustic and I am just going with it.

Lamp Shades: https://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/10333065/

Spray Paint: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01N15ER98/

what about grey pants and a plum blazer? https://www.bing.com/images/search?view=detailV2&ccid=Jlmr73xR&id=B41AB243578EBE8ED68D27E5F613002A4A485227&q=plum+blazer&simid=607994528173329872&selectedIndex=1&ajaxhist=0

These rompers are all from Amazon prime! ~$20 each, and they are legit, fit well and super cute in (and on) person!!! Here is the link for the rompers if anyone is interested: https://www.amazon.com/Floerns-Womens-Floral-Romper-Jumpsuit/dp/B01HQ23PRY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1485885152&sr=8-1&keywords=floerns+romper

They have 4 different colors (including a white with pink hydrangeas). I gave the moms a choice of wearing robes instead, but they both loved the rompers! Our photographer starts taking photos the minute we start getting ready, and I am SO excited for the cuteness that will ensue while we all wear these! :D

Also- I have one bridesman that I definitely want to include in this- anyone have ideas as to a good coordinating outfit/pajamas that would be a good gift for my bridesman? Thanks guys!!

There's a lot going on here. I'd cut the number of fonts in half.

Also, you could probably learn a lot from this article.

All of your ideas sound great! What about passing out the umbrellas for shade anyway? And getting some fans? There’s battery powered hand held fans on amazon you could splurge on for the most important people, and get some paper fans for the rest of the folks. Maybe in addition to a hydration station, place water at each chair.

Make sure people take it easy and drink up on the water. Also - avoid alcohol at all until you’re in the AC reception area

If you’re really okay with it, you could tell people you’re okay with them missing the ceremony at all if they’re concerned for their health

I don't know if OP did, but I have a few specialty shapes hole punchers from my days of scrapbooking, and you definitely can buy them easily and they're sooo simple to use. I just googled, and this was the first one to pop up. I haven't used this brand, but it looks similar to what I have (idk what brand mine are, I got them at Michael's Crafts and they're smaller, this one is large), and it's nice because you can see exactly what you'll be cutting out, so no guesswork and you can line up the pictures exactly right!

Are you looking for shoes just for the first dance? I would try a pair of ballroom dance shoes similar to this. Obviously they're made for dancing and they're so much easier to wear and move through than regular heels

You can thank me later - amazon has the dress in a select number of colors and I think pool is one of them. It is a knock off.. but for the price worth a shot. you would have it by aug 1

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B011QCHTYA/ref=twister_B019EVCDDC

also available with prime shipping

https://www.amazon.com/Hanxue-shoulder-Bridesmaid-Chiffon-Evening/dp/B0131VQK6M/ref=pd_srecs_cs_193_3?ie=UTF8&dpID=41hHUDDY-GL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL250_SR170%2C250_&refRID=F7V2Z1MMRXT4D96PZ1ES

This bag includes my gigantic BHLDN Octavia AND FH’s suit and should be carry-on acceptable. LEAVING FOR THE AIRPORT IN LIKE 3 HOURS! Ireland here we come!

Amazon for the win!

If you are willing to consider an inexpensive placeholder, Amazon has tons of affordable black rings. We actually bought my husband’s ring for less than $30 bucks when we decided to elope. We intended to buy him a nicer ring later on, but the ring is actually nice enough that he wants to keep it. ����‍♀️

Ring 1

Ring 2

It reminds me a little of this insanely cheap but well reviewed dress. Many people remove the panel in the middle to make it more of a v-neck.

$100 Amazon dress (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01FD5H0HW/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&th=1&psc=1). It fits wonderfully in the torso and shoulders, but is very long. I ordered the champagne color, but it came out more of a peachy-pink. Not sure how I feel about a pink wedding dress, so I ordered ivory to see how that looks. Will update when I get it! Also, you can customize to your measurements, but I was too lazy to go to the tailor's to get them done.

I may or may not have purchased these to wear as a hypothetical surprise and haven't told anyone. So if anyone asks, you didn't see anything

I have a cricut machine that helps you print the letters on vinyl which basically makes it into a sticker! It’s a bit time intensive but simple overall. If you didn’t have a cricut - you could probably print the table numbers onto paper, slot them into the picture holders and use a paint pen to trace it!

Wedding stationer here! Looks cute and definitely not cheap! I actually would recommend the opposite of the other poster and say to keep the zip code on its own line and spaced out, it’s how I traditionally format addresses. If you want to elevate the aesthetics I would write out the full state name instead of using the abbreviation. Again, that’s what I usually do when formatting addresses for the suites I work on.

Edit: if you’re worried about centering things properly, left aligning looks just as good. And one trick of the trade for really straight lines is to use a laser level (this is the one I use: BLACK+DECKER Laser Level (BDL220S) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000B8GBBS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_K9PK7ENBXXM2WFGGNDMD)

I SWEAR by this

https://www.amazon.com/MONISTAT-Complete-Chafing-Relief-Powder/dp/B000FKLKXQ

I have also used the garters, but found that I had to readjust them throughout the day. They work, but I think it would be kind of hard to do in a wedding dress. I literally can't say enough good things about the monostat anti-chafing gel. It goes on like a gel (almost ointment like?) but quickly dries down and feels somewhat powdery. I usually buy mine at Target (in the tampon aisle) but this amazon price seems pretty good! I will definitely be using this on my wedding day (and every time I wear shorts or a dress if the weather is over 60 degrees).

I kind of agree that the plastic ones look cheap. My friend actually had these gold doilies in place of chargers that I thought looked really elegant. Like this - " Occasions" 40 Pieces Pack Pressed Vinyl Metallic Placemats/Wedding Accent Centerpiece Placemat (Round Gold Leaf) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0719LTZ5H/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_tZEZDbGYZNMNB

140 people for 12500 is going to be tough, at least where I live. It's not impossible, but you may have to adjust expectations for what it will include. At that price, you may need to do a backyard wedding, with light food options, and DIY most of the decorations.

Before you start booking things, though, you and your fiancee should iron out what is and isn't important to you. No one thinks they are "wedding crazy," but you'll be surprised at what you think "obviously" has to be a part of your wedding, and how it differs from your partner. A book that helped a lot in that process for us was A Practical Wedding -- it gives you a framework to discuss these things. How important is venue? flowers? attire? What would you sacrifice in order to have 140 guests? What would you sacrifice to ensure that you are under budget?

These conversations are huge, and help you and partner manage each other expectations throughout the process. Things said explicitly are always better than things assumed.

Additionally, it helps to talk to friends and family who have gotten married recently, at weddings you've attended that you've liked. You can ask them about planning strategies, vendors, even costs. People are generally willing to share that stuff. You can then get a better sense of what's possible -- perhaps you can get everything you want at the price you want. Perhaps there are tradeoffs that you realistically have to make, and now you can make them with open eyes.

as someone whose fingers shrink and swell quite a bit due to temperature/weather: don't size it for your smaller size. if you do that, you'll never be able to wear it in warmer weather when your fingers are more swollen.

removable ring sizers are a life saver. these are my favorites; you get a pack of three in different lengths. the longer ones are great for the depths of winter when my rings would literally fly off my fingers. i took one and cut it into even shorter pieces, and those are good for those medium days when my rings aren't in danger of falling off but they spin a lot. here is a photo of the smallest one i've cut, which i'm wearing today because it's a bit chilly. they're all very comfortable to wear and easy to put on/take off as needed.

I hear this so much, but I really don't understand how. We're having food stations and we're going through the line first. I'll be done eating before the last table even gets up.

But just in case, I have bamboo plates like this that will hold my glass so I can walk around and still eat while socializing.

Edit: dropped this (

Could a body tape like this work? https://www.amazon.com/Fearless-Tape-Double-Sided-Fashion/dp/B01K2CMFVM

This type of product is what women doing pageants with a swimwear category use so they don’t end up flashing anyone and keep the suit in place.

I use this for costume with a similar cut as what you’re describing when I was in a play.

Also echoing the other comment, you should leave a bad review / see if you can get any refund on alterations

Yes. It's truly bad and you are likely to sink in and wobble badly! These things help but I would still get a chunky heel.

Oh man, I'm a nervous pee-er too! The best advice I have for you is to remember that, at a certain point, it's just the FEELING that you have to pee. You don't actually have to, and once you get past the nerves, you won't need to pee anymore! So make sure you pee like five times before you put your dress on. XD

For under your dress, I'd look at slip shorts (like this maybe, or you can find some at Jockey/Hanesbrands/most lingerie stores) OR a pair of cooling shorts (like Uniqlo's Airism line or something for athletics, or a summerweight merino wool (lightweigh, wicking, fast drying material).

I have an illusion neckline as well! The dress looks awesome on you! Here’s the strapless I ordered that was recommended by the bridal shop. I have a fairly large chest so I just ordered it in the biggest size they had lol. It’s a little small in the cup on me but the band fits which is good. I would suggest giving it a try!

Dominique Noemi Strapless Longline Bra, 44DD, Ivory https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01G689A50?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf

And since I’m sharing ahapewear haha here’s the bottom shapewear I ordered. I’m normally a 2x but upped to a 3x so I didn’t suffocate and they fit really well.

Women's High Waist Tummy Control Slim Panty Cotton Underwear Plus Size Nude 3XL https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01K6SPGOK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_BJYSAb7DXZAV4

It looks like you don't need a whole lot of support, just nipple coverage? If so, and if the cups are sewn on top of the lining, you could carefully remove them yourself and just use stick on covers like these. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001PU9A9Q/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1 I use them all the time, and they are SO comfortable, you won't even know they're there. I'll be using them on my wedding day (I have a similar neckline to yours, also backless).

I'd just let this go. Neither one of them are a bridal look, and I actually don't think there's anything wrong with the one on the right at all. The biggest issue I see with the one in the middle is that when she's sitting at the table it's going to look like an all-white dress.

If you're worried about the temperature, maybe try suggesting that they wear a shawl or kimono/something to cover their arms? What I'd do, particularly with the middle one is go, "Oh, so pretty! I really like the tropical vibe. But I'm worried you'll get cold since it will only be like 70 on the mountain and potentially windy. What about a gold cardigan like this to keep the chill off?"

Or, hell, just buy it for her. She'll probably get cold. Again, the dress does have a lot of white in it, but it's not a bridal vibe. Particularly if she's wearing a cardigan with it, it's not going to draw an inordinate amount of attention.

Body Glide!

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I feel like it'd be SO much better than vaseline- I think that would make everything goopy and wet. I have pretty sensitive skin, and I always use this with no problems. Plus the tube is deodorant-like and small enough to toss in a bag and reapply if it starts bothering you again! I've used it on places where itchy hems hit me and haven't had to reapply even after a full day though.

I blurred our names as I added in some punch outs of our save the dates. Awesome idea from this sub! I used this hexagon punch and this one for the smaller size. I bought an 18"x24" frame, as I had a small wedding so not toooo many cards. Some particularly beautiful ones are punched a couple of times.

I feel like the major advantage of having a book like this is the streamlining if information. If I tried hard, I’m sure I’d find a lot of what this book says throughout the sub said in different ways, but what I feel is the real strength of this book is that’s its detailed enough to be useful and broad enough to be adaptable. Keene never assumes a lavish wedding, nor does she assume a 100% DIY; rather, each chapter lays out a variety of tips for all different price-points.

Additionally, this book (as well as Budget Savvy Bride mentioned in this thread) provides the reader with helpful charts and activities to do with your partner. (e.g. Helpful budgeting and guest list charts, a guide to creating your wedding “mission statement”, etc.)

I have found this book so SO helpful in planning alongside my partner who has never attended a wedding (whattt?!) because it lays out the nitty gritty logistical things that I would never think to google on my own (e.g. in the “feeding everyone” chapter, she lays out everything from what kind of meal are you thinking to, “and if you’re DIY’ing, who’s responsible for taking out the trash?”)

I’m halfway through but for 1) the conversations it’s prompted between me and my partner, 2) the organizational flow of topics, and 3) the abundance of considerations given to all price points... it is SO worth the money.

(And honestly for $12 on Amazon, why the heck not?)

Tell her you have been doing some research about weddings and and the role of MOH and BM's in particular. "Did you know that there are no real duties for the MOH and BM's any more? Everything they do is entirely optional and within their budgets."

Also bring up the fact that you read that anyone invited to a pre-wedding event, must also be invited to the wedding.

Tell her you are sending her a good wedding planning book, which will cover off the etiquette issues.

https://www.amazon.com/Practical-Wedding-Planner-Step-Step/dp/0738218421/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1543535964&sr=8-3&keywords=a+practical+wedding+planner

If she chooses to ignore etiquette, after reading the book, that is on her. If she still insists on inviting people to the bachelorette who aren't invited to the wedding, tell her you are not comfortable with that.

If anyone does decide to host a shower ( she doesn't get to assign that), the hosts decide the number of guests they can afford to invite, and the bride supplies the guest list in that range.

Tell her that you are happy to plan the bachelorette, but will be consulting her BM's to make sure you plan something within their budgets, so not to be disappointed if Vegas doesn't happen. Tell her to let you know when they have a date and venue confirmed so you can begin to plan the bachelorette.

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I bought this immediately after getting engaged. My intention was to only wear it for work (I am a surgeon, so can't wear jewelry on my hands for obvious reasons), but I wear it pretty much every day. Any time I take my ring off, it goes on my necklace. Doing dishes, putting lotion on, etc. The pendant is hinged, so I don't have to take the necklace off to put my ring on it. Knock on wood, haven't had an issue yet.

This is of course not an alternative to getting your ring insured, but it helps me keep track of it.

Thank you! :)

The powder is Holi Powder (think 5k Color Runs) and I ordered it off of Amazon. This is the listing. It's really just corn starch + food coloring. We were able to snack on the food a little after we finished (though it tasted kind of chalky if it had powder on it).

It really was a lot of fun! How often can you just recklessly get messy, just because? We stopped at a gas station for a drink, after, and got some funny reactions.

For anyone interested: Everything washed right out, too; we only used things we considered expendable, but our clothes/blankets/etc. aren't at all stained. I'd still be cautious if we did it again, though. :)

I've learned that people aren't as good as picking music as they think they are. A good DJ can read the room and adjust which songs they play based off the crowd reactions.

That said, there are some lights that move to the music. Something like this

There's also another thread with the same premise https://www.reddit.com/r/weddingplanning/comments/cb422m/not_having_a_dj_and_were_a_little_nervous/

For about $50 I made nearly 300 of these chocolates for favors, personalized. I used Avery's gold mailer labels and designed a simple label for Hershey Nuggets. The orange-tone wrappers aren't quite perfect, there's a teeny bit of the Hershey writing underneath, but I could have skipped that flavor and still had plenty for my ~100 guests (but the orange tone wrapper was the best flavor so who cares)...

These took me and my FH less than 45 minutes to quickly label while we chatted, and I think they're all so cute!

As a bride whose brother is also in jail/treatment for mental health related shit, I can relate! Court dates in between wedding related stuff kinda put a damper on everything, and it is likely he will not be at our wedding either. No one in the family is being shitty about either. Just focus on what you can control as best you can.

And IDK if your parents are big readers but I gave my mom this book (that is not an affiliate/referral link before anyone asks) and it gave her permission to just let him go. My parents were enabling him for awhile and it was taking a toll on their marriage. It's possible they're freaking out about the religion thing just because it's something they can control.

You're doing such a good job though, get support where you can, but also let people know when they need to back off (coughcoughFMILcoughcough). It can come from good places and people probably think they're being helpful and don't realize when they aren't. You got this!!!

Idk if it's something you're worried about but I personally bought some of these bad boys for peach fuzz and they're amazing!

Shop for them like you would if it was their birthday! In my experience, no one really wants the stuff you find listed as "bridemaid gifts."

I gave them all:

• A personal, handwritten note in a card, thanking them for being a part of our day

• Tote bag (the rest of their gifts were inside)

• Himalayan rock salt candle holders with peach-scented tealights

• Bottle of their favorite wine

• Stemless wine glass that said "Liquid Therapy"

• Gift card to their favorite store

• A fidget spinner that said "Thanks for putting up with us! ~ Love [Our initials] (This was more of a joke gift and because we wanted to "date" the wedding with something silly)

I also gave each one an additional personal gift:

BM 1 (Also FSIL):

• A geode bottle stopper (we have a shared interest in geology and she loves wine)

• A keychain that said "Not sister by blood, but sister by heart"

BM 2 (BFF): She and her husband had told us they were expecting over dinner by asking us "if they could bring someone to the wedding," so we ran with that:

• A personalized onesie that said "I was the 'Something New' at WaitForIttttt and WaitForItttttDH's Wedding"

• A bottle of sparkling cider labeled (Before Baby) for her to enjoy in her wine glass until she gives birth

MOH (Cousin but like a sister):

• A butterfly-shaped jewelry box that said "A Sister is a gift to the heart"

• Two bouquet charms (I put them in the jewelry box) with photos of her Mom and Dad who passed, so they would be with her at our wedding and she could use them again one day when she gets married

They make streamers that stay stuck to the tube! Could you have your bridal party do that for a similar effect?

here’s an example

I would add a belt but probably a different shape than the one you have on - either narrower or one that has some shape to it ie not just a straight line - like this)

The last bachelor party my FH attended where everyone flew, the Groom bought each guy one of those carry on cocktail kits. It definitely set the tone of the party right away and I thought it was a really nice gesture.

Aside from that, he's gotten koozies, cool bottle openers, cigars, airplane bottles of liquor... I don't think you need to get them anything big! Honestly, they'll probably love it if you just take the time to buy a round of drinks and thank everyone for coming :)

edit with a pro tip on the cocktail kits: if you go this route, check what kind of alcohol your airline sells ahead of time so you know you can get what you need for your in-flight cocktails!

This post has officially inspired me to add this sponge bed to my list.

I was similar- felt happy for a week after getting engaged and then anxiety and panic set it. The book Emotionally Engaged: A Bride's Guide to Surviving the "Happiest" Time of her Life helped me SO much. It really helped me with understanding how I was feeling and why, since I couldn't put words to a lot of my emotions. You should check it out. I was even able to get mine from my local library!

Please try to keep in mind that the wedding will be over soon, but the foundations of your relationship will determine both of your happiness for much longer. How you are with each other while planning and executing this huge project is both an indicator of how it's going to be during other stressful events in the future, and an opportunity to develop really good conflict management and communication skills. I highly recommend a book called 'Getting to Yes'--it's a super quick and easy read that describes and walks you through some tools for thinking through these sorts of situations. John Gottman's 'Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work' is also an absolute relationship saver. Good luck!

Did a little amazon digging, there's this one, or maybe this one if you buy two since it's a bit smaller? Not sure on quality, but for <$15 you could always get it as a back up and keep looking?

What size are you looking for? Amazon has many, just search "clear tiered cupcake stand" or some variation.

Bakery supply stores should also carry them.

Hayley Cherie 5-Tier Round Cupcake Stand - Acrylic Tiered Cake Stand - Dessert or Cupcake Tower https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01IVLWMK0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_Or1kDbD8PNM7R

First one I found doing a quick search. 7" top tier, would hold a standard top tier of a wedding cake (6" frosted or smaller).

I think something like this or even this would look great with that dress style and fabric.

I'm personally not a fan of flower crowns so I'm biased.

Not OP but I believe it’s this one or very similar to this one bc she mentioned it was off amazon:

Himoda Women's V Neckline Beaded Evening Gowns Mermaid Lace Prom Dresses Long H074 12 Gold https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N487BD0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_Ac-LBbZDEMPQ7

Not sure if this is important to you, but if you like them for their conflict-free products then be aware they aren't what they claim: https://thenextweb.com/insider/2017/06/17/shady-online-diamond-dealer-proves-conflict-free-is-no-guarantee/

I have plenty of experience sewing clothes/costumes/intricate dresses... and I briefly considered sewing my own dress before a good friend talked me out of it. It will cost you more in materials than it would to buy something that would suit you better off-the-rack, I guarantee it.

That said, I came across almost the exact same dress on amazon yesterday for $100 (USD). I imagine they would ship internationally. The seller has good feedback, so it's worth investigating.

I highly recommend this Amazon dress. I got it for $67 with Prime shipping.

Here's a pic of me wearing it in red: https://imgur.com/a/fJXOS

Women's Plus Size V Neck Sleeveless Evening Party Long Lace Dresses (Burgundy,8) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XCB1VLJ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_UBhVzbC4GP1P2

Not custom made but it does remind me of these Calvin Klein dresses:

white dress

metalic dress

Guess it depends on your view - the plates and silverware were on sale for around $75 and I think the doily and cups were $30 for the whole set. Here’s the plates! https://www.amazon.com/125-Piece-Elegant-Plastic-Dinnerware-Disposable/dp/B077YXJMS7/ref=mp_s_a_1_4?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1538495115&amp;sr=8-4&amp;pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&amp;keywords=gold+plastic+plates&amp;dpPl=1&amp;dpID=41cfowPgWcL&amp;ref=plSrch

This is the one I’m wearing in the picture: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00Q7VNPHG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_QpJxBbECD2794

I just ordered this one, because it is floor length, so we’ll see how that goes: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01EJ5WGS0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_EqJxBb1A5A8D4

There is an LGBTQ podcast on NPR called Nancy. The presenters are both Asian American. In this episode one of the presenters, Kathy, goes back to her home country of Taiwan.

Her experience with her Mom sounds very much like what your partner is going through. It might not be of much help but if her mother listened to it she might connect more hearing an experience from an Asian culture from the daughters point of view

https://podcasts.google.com/?feed=aHR0cDovL2ZlZWRzLndueWMub3JnL25hbmN5LXBvZGNhc3Q%3D&amp;episode=NDRlZWMyMDAtYzIzOC00YWIwLWI4ZTItNzY1MTgwN2UyZWQw

Sure thing! I got 16x20 foam board and some deep blue acrylic paint for the surface. Then I cut covers of the cards off (I wanted to save the insides so we could still read the notes people wrote us). I used this hole punch and just went to work! A lot of the cards I have to cut up to be able to get to the part I wanted. Using the hole punch upside down was easier so that you could see exactly where you were cutting. Then I arranged all of them on the board with the colors and textures as evenly distributed as I could and started gluing! I just used clear gorilla glue. I should have drawn a grid to keep it perfectly even but I thought eyeballing the distance turned out fine :)

I got the poppers from amazon, and I made the labels with a cricut! The cricut essentially drew the design with a black pen and cut them out. My florist provided the dried flower mixture (you can also get some from Etsy!) and that’s it!

I bought “Bandelettes” from Amazon. They are a little odd, but do the trick. I may wear them under my dress, but I’m not sure. I’ve been wearing them under dresses to try them out in the mean time.

. Bandelettes

I am a huge pet person (I have two creatures using me as a pillow as I type this) but I would not register for everyday pet supplies for our wedding.

I think you could go for something "special" like some fancy pet furniture https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/178454712/mid-century-modern-cat-furniture?ref=shop_home_active_3

The way I see if you wouldn't register for paper towels and toothpaste so why would you register for dog biscuits? Most people just wouldn't feel comfortable buying that for you.

My sister did! It was a good time. However these were some of her complaints: she got a LOT of drunk photos. So if you are wanting something super classy and romantic, be wary. The other complaint: one of the drunk bridesmaids took the camera at one point and just ran around taking photos of people so there were guests who wanted to sign the book but couldn't find the camera.

A lot of people also kept their pictures so make sure to have a lot of extra film and either an attendant or very clear instructions on how to change the film.

EDIT: I was just perusing groupon and found this deal you might be interested in if you choose to go this route. They have a ton of deals on additional film too, though I don't know how the prices compare to Amazon.

Whoa, whoa, whoa. I think you need to slow down a bit, and not automatically assume that this person has taken advantage of you. They might just be disorganized. If the seller paid to ship the dress to you UPS express, it will only take a few days; however, if they shipped UPS Ground, it can take 7-10 business days (Monday-Friday) to get to you. It hasn't even been a week yet. Give her a chance to get the tracking number to you, but be firm that you're concerned you haven't heard from her.

Filing a dispute with Paypal is a very complicated process, and one of the first steps is making sure that you (the buyer) has exhausted all possible courses of action with the seller in order to resolve the issue. You have 45 days from the transaction date to file a dispute. Don't wait that long, but I think giving it a few more days is more fair, and if it does turn out that you've been scammed (I hope not), you'll be in a better place to open the dispute.

This pageprovides good information about the dispute process from the Paypal side. If she is unable to get you the tracking number in the next few days, you'll file a claim with Paypal. The seller will then have the chance to respond, and hopefully, that will be the end of it. If the seller doesn't respond, then you have to escalate the claim with Paypal. It's only after you escalate that Paypal actually gets involved.

Honestly, I wouldn't buy jewelry that I wouldn't wear again, and have applied that rule to wedding jewelry. Bad enough I bought an un-rewearable dress!

Your dress is so classy and timeless, have you considered pearls? And, if you want something slightly different, you could go with colored pearls (match your wedding colors?). This set is lovely and can be shipped prime (if you have amazon prime). Or a more simple look would work too.

Hanging picture frame on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01M0CY0RB/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1

How to press flowers: http://www.proflowers.com/blog/how-to-press-flowers

I am so shocked with how well the colors held up, and when the sun shines through the window, this looks amazing! I was a little sad that I forgot to preserve my bouquet, but with some quick thinking, I came up with this pretty (and less expensive) alternative!

Agreeing with everyone else saying that you should call them and ask if they are okay passive aggressively.

Though if you do the voodoo idea Amazon has this. (I may have been waiting a long time to post this)

Oh, I see! I quite like this jacket for your situation. I like that it's solid color and the tail has some good echos of a dress while still being masculine. It's very lion tamer/mad hatter to me, and you could get it in colors that worked with the rest of your party. I'd wear a solid dark color button down underneath it, black skinny pants, and maybe boots.

What about a wedding planner book? https://www.amazon.com/Practical-Wedding-Affordable-Meaningful-Celebration/dp/0738215155 I've heard great things about this one.

Could go a little fun/silly and buy her one of those tumblers or mugs that say things like "Bride to Be" or "Does This Ring Make Me Look Engaged" or something.

Could also do one of those coupon books. "This Coupon is good for One (1) Hour of Wedding Planning Assistance" or "This Coupon is good for Fifty (50) Hand-Addressed Envelopes" or stuff like that?

Ok so here are all the tools I used:

https://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/40338231/

https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B002544NHA/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1

Plus acrylic paint and metallic paint markers. I drew the numbers on a 4x6 in piece of paper and traced it on each side of the frame with the paint markers.

I cut the clear film into 4"x6" pieces and painted the acrylic into the swoopy brushstrokes. I let those dry overnight and inserted the plastic sheets inside the picture frames! Voila.

We got these for our food favors and they were super cheap ($3.97 for 100) and worked well.

I wouldn't want to put unwrapped food, especially chocolate (low melting point), in those cloth bags. Mostly I'd be concerned about particles on the cloth and chemicals used to dye them.

Ugh. Sorry... that’s frustrating.

I don’t think it matters what anyone eats on. No one is going to remember that stuff!! I coordinated a wedding where they had palm leaf plates and wooden forks- those were really cool! They’re a little more unique than white paper plates + they’re eco friendly!

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0714DNCKV/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_issqBb173R7NT

We're going to get a tailgate speaker because we have the same issue. Trust me, you won't be able to talk loud enough for the people in the back to hear, you should have a mic.

I printed directly onto the envelopes with the text at ~60% opacity or so. Then I traced over them with these pens! The tall skinny font I used was kind of difficult but the script font was a breeze!

Jo-Anne and Michaels didn't carry ivory and navy ribbon? That's unbelievable. They're obviously just two normal ribbons, not a single two-tone ribbon. Perhaps that was the problem.

Try any craft store (try online too), Walmart 1/8&quot; 3/8&quot;, and Amazon.

I just bought one this week and we are only using our first names (though partly because of space on the stamp and the way it looks overall). They are only $8USD each so if you wanted to buy two, it's not really a big deal. I got our stamp (we have our names and address instead of the example text shown) from this Etsy shop

I got this Dazzle Stick from Amazon right after we got engaged. Best purchase I've made on Amazon in 2017, and since then have ordered it for each of my friends who have recently gotten engaged. 10/10 would buy again!

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for posting the Amazon listing of this cape! I've been lusting after the same cape for my February Harry Potter wedding, but couldn't justify the price. BEAUTELICATE also has the capes in longer-than-floor-length: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01MREF25R/ref=s9_acsd_hps_bw_c_x_3_w?th=1

I’m not sure how helpful this is because it is unrelated to dying the skirt, but I actually bought this exact thing on amazon for about $30 for my wedding shower. It looks like they have some purple-y colors as well so it may just be easier to buy a whole new skirt if they have it in the color you want, especially since it’s not too expensive. Here’s the skirt . It’s the dusty blue color. I know the skirt in the listing doesn’t look at all like the skirt you’re wearing, but I swear what I received is exactly what your picture looks like!

My shoes (Badgley Mischka Hatch Wedge Evening Sandles) kept catching the edges of my skirt and I was worried about snags in the fabric. I followed the advice of an old post on here and used a jewelry lacquer off of amazon ( https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001B26II4?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share ) to coat the rhinestones and fill in the sharp edges. It took 3 layers, but the end result was very smooth while also still catching the light and sparkling.

I used painter's tape to keep the rest of the shoe safe, and didn't have any problems taking it off. I applied the lacquer all over the tops and around the sides of the rhinestones, to ensure complete coverage, it needs to go on pretty thick to fill in the gaps -- but I also was careful to smooth out bubbles.

The process took me three days because I let them dry overnight, but could probably be done quicker if needed. The end result was shoes that never once caught on my dress and unless someone was like an inch from the shoe no one could tell.

Let me know if you have other questions!

Would one of those scooters work? This is similar to the one I was thinking of, but isn't necessarily for a broken leg: https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B07G85GKLP/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_HdJYCb6TRDZXT

Otherwise, crutch, toss flowers, crutch, toss flowers. As long as she goes slow and concentrates, she should be okay.

i love your dress! it looks SO expensive. idk if it is or not, but the craftsmanship is incredible!

> On eBay no less

you are blessed.

> to be brought in a little around the waist

go to literally the best tailor you can find. don't skimp, because this dress is going to be a bitch to alter. for the record, i don't think it NEEDS pulling in at the waist, so if you're in a pinch know that you can do without, at least from this angle.

> My midsection is my trouble zone

liar!

> what kind of undergarments should I wear

whatever you wear, wear a nude color, ideally as close to your skin color as you can.

I think a bustier or a strapless or even regular nude-colored bra would work. i can't see the front very well, but i don't think the push-up-ness of a bustier will be particularly helpful with this dress so ultimately i would go with whatever shows less underneath the fabric.

For bottoms I love nude, no-line thongs because there's no way in HELL anyone will ever see a line, but if your midsection concerns you the production company i used to work for gave these to the actresses to wear under their bodycon or sheer dresses. i don't know if Spanx makes the Love Your Assets line anymore, but if they don't then I think their Haute Contour line should be equivalent.

If you're going to go the spanx route then...well, this is crude, but make sure it has a pee hole so you don't have to remove them every time you have to go. Finally, practice wearing them: some people find them constricting and that may not be how you want to feel on your wedding day, so you do you.

congrats!!

Here’s the link if looking- https://www.amazon.com/Babyonline-Womens-Appliques-Evening-Cocktail/dp/B01N8PGW1Z

Thank you u/Beatlegirl2 for the update post and all the brides who showed this dress in the comments!! It totally sold me.

I'm using mine as my carry-on when I fly. I bought this garment bag and made sure that my fluffy ass ballgown would fit in it, and I actually paid the $15 for priority boarding just to be sure I wouldn't end up having to deal with a surprise gate check if they run out of space in the overhead bins. Obviously I'm going to have to have my dress steamed once I'm in CA, but I've got that figured out already so I should be golden!

One thing I got my sister for her wedding gift but could easily be a bridal shower gift was a “travel kit.” I bought a cute vintage suitcase from Etsy, and filled it with Turkish bath towels (great for laying on a beach!), an international charger, some face masks, little cocktail kits for the plane a nice candle, some beach reading material, and a couple other little things.

I'm like a DD/E cup, so it was a hilarious fail on my part. In saying that, my MOH tried one when we went BM dress shopping and it worked for her itty bitty's.

I've heard alright stuff about this one and this one, the second one in particular has good reviews so they could be worth a shot, I'm just not convinced they'd ever be amazing for bigger boobs :)

Can your seamstress add underwired cups to your dress? That's the route I'm going down thank goodness, as the back of my dress is all beaded and sheer so no bra for me!

https://www.netflix.com/title/80204929

As for your second point re: bridal vendors selling beautiful, high-quality goods or services specifically aimed at budget brides, I would say David's Bridal, Midnight Tango, and some others are. Maybe those still aren't budget friendly enough? Or "high quality" enough? In the same way, I've never come across any high-end restaurants selling high quality cuts of steak aimed for a dollar menu budget. That's unfortunate, but we can't expect a vendor to bankrupt themselves to provide an equal service at all price points.

Try Costco! My husband got my 1ct diamond and platinum ring from Costco for around 5k and it appraised for 10. Not the same as mine but here's a solitaire example of a 1ct for 5k. http://www.costco.com/1.00-ct-Princess-Cut-VS2-Clarity%2c-I-Color-Diamond-Platinum-Solitaire-Ring.product.11764858.html

Edit: Costco can only charge 20% above wholesale, while jewelry stores sometimes charge over 100% more. Also the diamond quality is really good and they are all natural and "conflict free". Everyone always comments on how sparkly my ring is!

Yeah, it was called Swanluv. Seems like it never got off the ground, probably because most people thought it was an awful idea. It was originally a loan platform, but switched to a crowdfunding platform late in the game, and then it flopped.

I bought this one from amazon and love it. It makes it sooo much easier to walk and it lifts the dress up a bit so I didn't have to get it hemmed. The rings in it are adjustable so if you don't want it quite so full you can lessen it.

Here's how my dress looks with and without it. Sorry I don't have one from the side. Also the one with it from the back looks a little weird where the slip stops but that's because I'm standing up on the pedestal. It looked fine when I was on the floor, I just didn't get a picture.

I've used Rodan and Fields products in the past and find them to be astronomically expensive and quite frankly not worth the money. I use Revitalash which does the exact same thing but I get it off amazon for $55. I've also bought the generic version for a fraction of the price (called careprost) off of a pharmacy.com situation before but it comes from China and or India, so you know, use at your own risk if you go that route. https://www.amazon.com/RevitaLash-Cosmetics-Advanced-Eyelash-Conditioner/dp/B01N4F1FPN/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?s=beauty&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1514556639&amp;sr=1-1-spons&amp;keywords=revitalash&amp;psc=1

Thank you /u/sundaequeen for your tip post! My tracing skills aren't thaaat great, but it was so much fun to do and turned out pretty good.

I used canva to draft the addresses and used Playlist Script and Charlevoix Thin fonts. I bought this inexpensive lightbox and it worked perfectly.

How much you spend really depends on your budget.

I gave them all:

• A personal, handwritten note in a card, thanking them for being a part of our day

• Tote bag personalized with their first initial (the rest of their gifts were inside)

• Himalayan rock salt candle holders with peach-scented tealights

• Bottle of their favorite wine

• Stemless wine glass that said &quot;Liquid Therapy&quot;

• Gift card to their favorite store

• A fidget spinner that said "Thanks for putting up with us! ~ Love [Our initials] (This was more of a joke gift and because we wanted to "date" the wedding with something silly)

I also gave each one an additional personal gift or two:

BM 1 (Also FSIL):

• A geode bottle stopper (we have a shared interest in geology and she loves wine)

• A keychain that said "Not sister by blood, but sister by heart"

BM 2 (BFF): She and her husband had told us they were expecting over dinner by asking us "if they could bring someone to the wedding," so we ran with that:

• A personalized onesie that said "I was the 'Something New' at WaitForIttttt and WaitForItttttDH's Wedding"

• A bottle of sparkling cider labeled (Before Baby) for her to enjoy in her wine glass until she gives birth

MOH (Cousin but like a sister):

• A butterfly-shaped jewelry box that said "A Sister is a gift to the heart"

• Two bouquet charms (I put them in the jewelry box) with photos of her Mom and Dad who passed, so they would be with her at our wedding and she could use them again one day when she gets married

I'd say it came to $100-$120 per girl. I wanted to get a good amount because each girl paid for a dress and put money towards our night out for the bachelorette party.

For the past few years I've helped plan my company's annual gala, and we offer a candy bar. I typically plan for the candy bar to have a color theme based off of the event's total theme - so this year was Great Gatsby and I stuck to all white, black and gold candies. The event has around 300 people that attend and let me tell you... people go CRAZY for gummy bears! The brand I always buy is Albanese - I've linked the grapefruit flavor (it's my mom's favorite flavor), but they offer so many different types! For the amount you can buy, honestly the price is really great. This year, we went through 8 5 pound bags over the course of 5 hours.

Other candy we usually offer: 18 inch Pineapple Twist Pops, 7 inch Vanilla Swirl Suckers, 6 inch Rock Candy Crystal Sticks, White Pineapple Gummi Bears, Black Cherry Gummi Bears, Champagne Bubbles, Champagne Jelly Belly, Black M&M'S, Sixlets Mini Milk Chocolate Balls, Sixlets Mini Milk Chocolate Balls, Hershey Kisses, Reese's Peanut Butter Cups Miniatures, Peanut Brittle.

If you want links and amounts, let me know and I can share the google doc I've created for the event!

THICC girl here so I know a thing or two about thigh rubbing.

I used Glide for Her. I actually first heard about it from this sub! It's usually used by runners and the like since they tend to experience a lot of friction in that area when they do what runners do. Anyways, I dig it. I can wear dresses without bloomers again! I wore it on my wedding day and a single application lasted through all the sweating, dancing, everything.