What are /r/GayMen's favorite Products & Services?

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I don't bottom much but I do have this shower attachment that has never failed me when I was in that type of mood. I think the problem with most guys is they think that more water is better - but it's not. You're only trying to clean the first portion of your rectum. If the water goes up into your intestines, it will trigger more than you've bargained for at that point. A little water a few times until it comes out clear and that's it.

Ancient China was very accepting of gay men. Google: “passion of the cut sleeve.” They even held gay men in special regard. It was not until Christians from Europe sailed to Asia did they become homophobic due to Christianity’s views on sodomy.

I encourage anyone reading this to read this book: https://www.amazon.com/Homosexuality-Civilization-Louis-Crompton/dp/0674022335/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=homosexuality+and+civilization&qid=1621057347&sprefix=homosexuality+and+civili&sr=8-1

I am going to focus on meeting guys in real life. I really have got better things to do with my time than sift through the shit heap that we call online dating lol. Match.com don't make me laugh, more like don'tmatch.com .

I think key is just doing things you enjoy and an added bonus if a nice man comes along.

They are sick not you, I can recommend you this book 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives

Over the decades I've come to notice the more comfortable I get with myself, the more comfortable others are with me. One of the more difficult lessons I daily embrace is a concept offered in don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements. Specifically agreement two: 'Don't take anything personally.' Sounds easy. In practice - can be difficult. Ultimately - helps me learn to live and love - unconditionally.

When someone appears to judge me - I chuckle! Since I'm still learning about myself, who am I to judge myself - let alone others. Right?

Socrates words of wisdom: Know theyself - a lifelong adventure AND a roadmap to feeling at peace with self - ehh?

This book explores London from pre-Roman to recent history. I love Ackroyd's novels, and while this book at times feels like academic research notes, its a fascinating account of the changes in gay life and gay acceptance in one city over a couple thousand years.

https://www.amazon.com/Queer-City-London-Romans-Present/dp/0701188804 although I got it as an e-book on Google Play for I think 3 bucks

Sure thing, I like these ones because they’re vegan. Some will use bovine gelatin for the capsules. If you want a smaller count to start they offer smaller bottles if you want to try it first and see how it helps you before investing more in the gigantic size lol but this is the exact bottle I buy regularly.

NOW Supplements, Psyllium Husk Caps 500 mg, Non-GMO Project Verified, Natural Soluble Fiber, Intestinal Health, 500 Veg Capsules https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0013OW2KS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_MJHNA3FFTGN43MZZEHGX?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

Automatic Electric Enema Bulb with 3 Speeds, Adorime Rechargeable Anti Back-Flow Enema Douche for Men Women Colon Cleansing, Silicone Douche Cleaner Enema Kit Douche Bottles 12oz https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08F7S8VW7/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_ZM5R9T16DAAF083YFS2K?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

Use then immediately go to the bathroom. It will clean everything out.

https://www.amazon.com/Vaginal-Cleaner-Cleansing-Regulator-59-inch/dp/B07S9RX7ZX/ref=mp_s_a_1_10?dchild=1&keywords=shower+enema+kit+for+colon+cleansing&qid=1614016763&sr=8-10#

I have one like this, you can also buy the 3 way connector so you can have this and your shower still connected. Works great, also have the bulb but I never liked that.

Automatic Electric Enema Bulb with 3 Speeds, Adorime Rechargeable Anti Back-Flow Enema Douche for Men Women Colon Cleansing, Silicone Douche Cleaner Enema Kit Douche Bottles 12oz https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08F7S8VW7/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_GRMMHZM5X1V5SE486P3J?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

I just bought this and have only used it a few times. Worked well though.

There is a manual to being gay. ;) There is more than one. Here's a decent one:

https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/1572241314

Since he hasn't come out until now, I would assume that he'll be in need of some introspection and processing.

anything from Ricky Rebel - he's an openly gay glam-rock/pop singer, I bought his latest album The New Alpha and it's got some great songs! https://www.amazon.com/New-Alpha-Explicit-Ricky-Rebel/dp/B076Q53SJY

You could also try tinder or okcupid if you're looking more for romance and less for hookups. Dating can suck though, it's such a roller coaster of emotions.

While it doesn't bother me (so I assume some others will feel the same), if you feel like inexperience is a real problem, you can do a bit of homework. For example I saw this book the joy of gay sex recommended somewhere. I haven't read it so your mileage may vary.

Obviously, this doesn't give you more experience, but it can educate about having sex in ways that porn doesn't.